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The Neurophysiology of Laughter and Our Need for Play and Joy

Mon, 10 Aug 2026 12:54:10 GMT

Generally speaking, most adults consider play as something extra after the to-do list is completed, a reward for accomplishing a task, or a diversion from something serious and heavy. In actuality, it should be considered vital for mental health because, without it, we ignore the child in us who wants to explore, test, and play. Play is inherent in human and animal natures.

Being in the early days of Act III of life and preparing for a good death, I am more serious about things and consciously scheduling play times. I assign play equal weight, if not greater, to other life priorities such as work, worship, friendship, and love. I've enjoyed many hobbies that provide great satisfaction, but with aging, I've pared them down to only a few. If I were to live as long as my centenarian mother, I have time to read only 1000 new books, so I'd better carefully choose what I put into my head. Likewise, protecting play time is essential to my mental health.

Children Play-Deprived Suffer Socially

The notion that women are more subject to persuasion when dependent on others is a generalization that does not apply universally to all individuals. A complex interplay of individual characteristics, situational factors, and Context influences people's susceptibility to persuasion. Gender, while it may play a role in shaping socialization and experiences, is just one of many factors that can affect a person's vulnerability to persuasion.

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

There is substantial variability among individuals, regardless of gender, regarding their susceptibility to persuasion. Personal traits, such as self-confidence, critical thinking skills, and assertiveness, can significantly affect one's resistance to persuasion.

Situational Factors

The context in which persuasion occurs is important. Vulnerability to persuasion may depend on the specific situation, the nature of the persuasive message, and the individual's emotional state at the time.

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

The extent to which an individual is dependent on others is just one factor to consider. People may be dependent in various ways, such as financially, emotionally, or socially, and these dependencies may influence their responses to persuasion differently.

Various factors influence people's responses to persuasion, and individuals can vary significantly in their susceptibility. It is helpful to approach these topics with nuance and avoid making gender-based generalizations.

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

"There may be common learning experiences based on anatomical facts that help create some of the psychological reactions observed more often among women, i.e., their interest in interdependence, their idea that they must give up on something to get another, etc."

While it is true that there are some biological and hormonal differences between men and women, such as differences in their brain structure and function, it is not appropriate to directly link these differences to complex psychological reactions or behaviors.

The development of psychological traits and behaviors is influenced by biology, genetics, upbringing, cultural and societal norms, and individual experiences. Attributing specific psychological reactions solely to anatomical differences overlooks the complexity of human behavior and the interplay of multiple factors. Psychological traits cannot be simplistically attributed to gender or anatomical differences.

Scientific research generally recognizes that behavior and psychology are influenced by a combination of biological, genetic, environmental, and social factors. Researchers in psychology and neuroscience conduct extensive studies to understand these complex interactions better.

To further comprehend, one should refer to peer-reviewed scientific studies and research in psychology, neuroscience, and gender studies. It is important to approach these topics with nuance and respect for the diversity of human experiences and perspectives.

The tendency for women to belong to more organizations and circles than men can vary based on numerous factors, including individual preferences, cultural expectations, and life circumstances. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question, as women's and men's levels of involvement in organizations and social circles can vary widely.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Women may be encouraged or expected to participate in various community, family, or social organizations in some cultures and societies. These cultural norms can influence women's involvement in such groups.

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Life circumstances and lifestyle choices can impact participation in organizations and circles. Women may become more active in community organizations due to their roles as caregivers, including involvement in parent-teacher associations, neighborhood groups, or social clubs.

Work and Career

Career demands and work-related commitments can influence organizational participation. Some men and women may choose to be more or less involved in extracurricular activities based on their career demands and time constraints.

Individual Personality and Interests

Personal preferences and interests play a significant role. Some individuals, regardless of gender, are naturally inclined to be involved in multiple organizations and social circles, while others may prefer more limited involvement.

Availability and Access

The availability of organizations and circles in a particular community can also influence participation. In some areas, more opportunities for involvement in various groups may exist. Personal preferences and a complex interplay of societal, cultural, and individual factors influence the level of involvement in organizations and social circles.

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

Role Definition, Domains, and Performance Expectations

The first thing to do is to acknowledge that growing a business is challenging and demands a special temperament. One of the first things I learned from my entrepreneurial parents was that to deal with many people; i.e., customers, one needs a heart of forgiveness and patience.

Before you even look at your business growth strategic plan, first assess individual strengths and weaknesses and define roles and responsibilities in writing. What is each person’s operational territory and what outcomes are expected?

Based on the over 70 million profiles in the Wiley database, you are just as likely to encounter any of the four styles in society. Some copycat 'DISC' companies report the spread differently based on their database. One organization with only 24,000 profiles claims the majority are high "S's," a prejudicial error.

Despite claims by some DiSC novices, we do not have two personalities. Our primary personality style is observable when we are at emotional equilibrium. However, the "Productive Conflict" DiSC profile may reveal a completely different personality style.

Premarital Counseling

Clerics have extensively used DiSC for premarital counseling. Hence, the participants benefit from getting a glimpse past the rose-colored glasses of romantic love and being forewarned about possible stress behaviors and how we instinctively behave when triggered.

Selected Resources

Power Dynamics Issues

^{Whenever a friend claims that, "I never had a childhood because I had to be the parent," I feel bad for them. I know adversity builds character, but children should be allowed to be children and enjoy spontaneous exploration and play, especially with each other. Studies show that children deprived of normal playtime with others may experience heightened aggression, impulsivity, and antisocial behavior. Childhood play is a behavioral foundation for developing socially healthy adults.}

How will you handle inevitable conflicts? This can be a sticky point unless you have prepared a co-authored problem-solving process that clearly defines the specific problem in writing. Ideal outcomes from successfully solving the problem should be identified and listed. Paths toward resolution should be brainstormed, then tested in theory until optimal results are realized. If there is an impasse and you just cannot resolve the issue, table it for another time. This allows for reflection time and the potential for workable compromise.

“Not even girls want to be girls so long as our feminine archetype lacks force, strength, and power. Not wanting to be girls, they don't want to be tender, submissive, peace-loving as good women are. Women's strong qualities have become despised because of their weaknesses. The obvious remedy is to create a feminine character with all the strength of Superman plus all the allure of a good and beautiful woman." – William Marston

What nights do you protect to nurture your relationship and to specifically avoid discussing anything that has to do with business. Naturally, there are exceptions, as with emergencies or the need to communicate with someone who lives in a distant time zone. Unless coupled business owners remain vigilant, they may forget to prioritize the health of their relationship and suffer negative consequences of neglect later. Protect your fun dates and enjoy several during the week, with strict adherence to the no business talk rule.

Marston said, “She’s as lovely as Aphrodite, as wise as Athena, with the speed of Mercury and the strength of Hercules, but she is known only as Wonder Woman. From a psychological angle, it seemed to me that comics' first offense was their blood-curdling masculinity.”

Marston's Biases

Mental Health Benefits of Play

"According to psychiatrist Stuart Brown, when children are deprived of play, the consequences can be catastrophic. In 2014, he was already sounding the alarm about societal and global play deficits in children. The pandemic has significantly heightened and worsened this growing problem. Dr. Brown states that sustained, moderate to severe play deprivation, particularly during the first 10 years of life, is linked to major emotional dysregulation, i.e., increased prevalence of depression, a tendency to become inflexible in thought, diminished impulse control, less self-regulation, poor management of aggression, and fragility and shallowness of enduring interpersonal relationships.” (Brown S.L. 2014).

Consider how newborn canids such as dogs, wolves, and fox pups spontaneously play-fight long before their moms demonstrate how to fight to shop for dinner. Other play-fighting species include primates and rodents, which develop social bonds and learn motor skills and about their bodies.

Another group that plays is ungulates, a diverse group of mammals characterized by hooves divided into two main groups:

1. Odd-toed Ungulates (Perissodactyla): Horses: Horses, donkeys, zebras; Rhinoceroses, Tapirs

2. Even-toed Ungulates (Artiodactyla): Cattle: Cows, oxen, buffaloes; Sheep; Goats; Pigs; Deer; Giraffes; Camels; Hippopotamuses; Antelopes

Reducing Depression

Given the stigma around the 'invisible disorder' of depression, I find myself hesitant to share a personal example of a chronic depression period or its triggering event, proving that inhibitions are real and ingrained by the mental repetition of bad memories. Some bad things do mentally last forever but can become a source of spiritual strength with the right mindset. Necessary suffering can have its benefits.

I recall a chapter of my life when that smelly old depression monkey would not get off my shoulder, no matter how much I tried to shrug it off by trying to focus on blocking thoughts. Apart from a moody obsession with the depression's origin, I was away from home, missing the comfy environs of home and my pillow. I was so depressed, especially at night, that all I could do was sit alone in my hotel room and descend to new depths of persistent sadness. Amazingly, something wonderful called play broke the spell.

At the company where I was training employees, one of them invited me to his home to meet his sweet little family. After a sumptuous dinner there, they invited inexperienced me to join them for a tennis game. Depressed, I had not been into exercise for a long while and felt bad and embarrassed about my appearance. Nevertheless, I was taught tennis training lessons and soon performed well enough to play with my new, endearing friends.

That one experience magically broke my depression and my exercise regime. When I returned home from that project, I reengaged with my favorite physical activities, and my depression lifted like a stormy cloud evaporating. It was as if a heavy weight had lifted from me. At dawn, instead of dreading another day, I began waking up eager for my day's adventures and fun moments. Weird, but true. Movement cured me. An avid outdoorsman, I've continued being physically active without my old mental roommate: heavy and prolonged depression. I've learned that play boosts emotional resilience.

Let's realign our priorities in our confused, conflicted world that values achievement over authenticity. After all, what is the function of a human? Aristotle answered this question with his concept of 'eudemonia,' a combination of living well and happiness, the end' purpose' of being human. Aristotle declared that a human's function is virtuous actions aligned with reason. We seem to value happiness over other selections on the emotions wheel. It just feels so good biochemically, the favored brain chemistry experience.

In essence, silence is not merely an empty void, but a rich, fertile ground where our soul can meet and commune with God.

Now, I’ll just be silent.

-Frank DeDominicis

"He is happy who lives in accordance with complete virtue and is sufficiently equipped with external goods, not for some chance period but throughout a complete life. " ― Aristotle, The Nicomachean Ethics

Corporate Cultures Embrace Creative Play

Anxiety Relief Play can temporarily give us relief from compulsive ruminations about painful losses and past traumas. Play tends to produce the after-effects of relaxation and calm. This is why it is a good idea, especially if you are a super-achiever, to treat yourself to regular breaks and vacations to recharge and re-approach your challenges clearly. Especially when overwhelmed, a warrior knows when to retreat from battle.

Engaging in playful activities can distract from anxious thoughts and promote feelings of relaxation and calmness. Speaking of the lack of a playful spirit, I've observed many chronically anxious friends brainwashed by modern mass media information addiction. They seem no longer capable of generating original ideas but instead echo the latest dross fed to them by the 'hidden influencers,' social-engineering-savvy mass marketers. My lost friends believe that the day's selected information represents the larger reality of the world, which it does not.

Today's 'news' is merely window dressing, every headline being clickbait. It does not represent all of our shared reality. Some news addicts fail to recognize that bad reports affect how we relate to each other, although there is much more good news happening in the world that is seemingly boring and ignored. For example, the 2023 Nobel Prize for Physics promises to reduce pharmaceutical costs drastically. Are you aware of this, or have you studied about these recent and groundbreaking awards?

Improved Mood

Play that involves movement can help shift moods, especially if you have a sedentary lifestyle and stare at screens for prolonged periods. Dance is an excellent way to boost dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. Just play a tune that moves your body and makes you want to dance. The body is like a tuning fork, so create a collection of favorite songs that motivate or energize you. Corporate baseball teams began a trend that uses play to enhance social bonds.

In the late 19th century Industrial Revolution, factory owners sought ways to boost company morale and invest in uniforms and equipment. Baseball teams provided an ethos conducive to mutually nurturing relationships and a team spirit. Today, many major corporations have baseball teams, including Google, Microsoft, Apple, and, believe it or not, Amazon, which endures a 100% turnover rate because of its Jack Welchian philosophy of keeping employees insecure by pruning the bottom 10% every year. Apologies if you love and idolize Jack.

Enhanced Emotional Regulation

Character.ai is an play site where you can create an avatar who dialogues with you as a caring friend. This versatile site allows you to deal with loneliness by creating conversations with colorful characters. It even has a psychologist who can advise you on your troubles, and you don't have to lie on a couch. Character.ai is where you can share your emotions safely and get reasonable responses. Does this help with emotional regulation? What do you think? Some reviews say it is boring. Others say it's fun.

Increased Self-esteem

Play that involves winning a game can boost self-confidence and self-esteem. As I do, you may play actual or virtual games like chess or Scrabble. I enjoy growing my success numbers. Since I started playing online Scrabble over two years ago, I have played thousands of games, constantly improving my game and earning a high competitive score. With super-long winning streaks against opponents, naturally, I feel victorious. Bob Conklin taught that self-confidence is a carry-over feeling. You get it from one practice, but the feeling continues into other settings.

Improved Social Skills

Play often involves social skills such as dealing with individual style differences, cooperation, empathy, and forgiveness in the case of cruel Monopoly evictions. I've been in the position of demanding Monopoly rental fees. Being a compassionate landlord, I could negotiate a deal, perhaps real estate instead of money. This transaction created a nice flow of feelings for the players; plus, I scored another real estate title. It reminded me of the maxim that most 'everything is negotiable except taxes and death' in real life.

Creativity and Imagination

Play also involves abstract thinking, such as creating a horizontal word in Scrabble that crosses two vertical words and visually creating a ladder rung. The versatility of this fun trick can surprise opponents. Many strategy games require creative thinking, visualizing future 'what-if' scenarios, and understanding unintended consequences, such as providing your opponent with an advantageous leave, something quite relevant to Scrabble, Chess, Go, and other games.

Creativity and Imagination

Stress Reduction

Play positively affects brain chemistry, releasing endorphins, which produce a natural high, reduce the effects of stressors, and relieve pain. Joel Davis, author of Endorphins - New Waves in Brain Chemistry , cites two other reliable sources that affect our brain chemistry positivity: meditation and running. Meditation lowers your brain waves from beta to alpha and beyond, then back again. Numerous brain studies verify this observation on emotional regulation. Upset at work? Find a quiet place and meditate for just five minutes.

Let's look at examples of several forward-thinking companies embracing playfulness in their corporate cultures. Innovative companies, whose management is not influenced by boomers, embrace practices far beyond traditional wellness programs. They value play, stress reduction, and a healthy workforce.

Cross-Functional Collaboration

In the 1980s, 3M Corporation allowed and even encouraged its engineers and other staff to spend free time each day wandering about visiting each other to share ideas and research findings. This practice, called "Imagineering," was utilized to generate fresh thinking.

Google allows employees' 20% Time' to focus on whatever they want to do, including personal stuff and experimental projects. Steve Jobs famously sparked the imagination of his team by asking them to pause whatever project they were working on and shift to something else to foster a new, creative idea. A big thinker, he sponsored a 'Think Different' promotional campaign to emphasize the uniqueness of his company, Apple. He invented products that the public did not even know they wanted…yet.

Curiously, Jobs' company was in extended legal battles with the Beatles' company of the same name, which was formed in 1968. Jobs sprouted his Apple in 1976. Jobs eventually paid the Beatles a significant sum for the business name rights.

Zappos

In 1998, Tony Tsieh, founder of LinkExchange, experienced rapid business growth, a bane of companies that boost the bottom-line at the expense of culture. Rapid hiring of many brilliant people meant time was not dedicated to nurturing the culture, which soon became toxic. At the end of 1998, Tsieh sold his company to Microsoft for two-hundred and sixty-five million dollars which freed him up to design a culture from scratch that was carefully built on shared personal values, which included being 'fun and being weird.'

His philosophy of Delivering Happiness led to a double hiring interview process. Even if an applicant passed their first interview, which assessed talents and aptitudes, a second behavioral interview determined how much the applicant's personal values aligned with corporate values and whether the person was hired. All employees, no matter their title, must spend their first two weeks on the front lines in customer service to shape their attitudes and create a happy work climate.

Managing to Have Fun

In his book Managing to Have Fun, Matt Weinstein references how laughter contributed to Norman Cousins' major medical healing experience. Reminiscent of Forrest Shaklee's organic self-healing practices, Cousins chronicles his self-treatment protocols, Anatomy of an Illness as Perceived by the Patient. He credits his healing from systemic paralytic effects of ankylosing spondylitis, a type of spinal arthritis, with the insights he received from Hans Selye, the father of stress management.

Selye pioneered stress management research, although, in his native Austrian tongue, the translation would have been 'effort management,' a slightly different nuance. To combat cellular inflammation, Cousins took massive doses of vitamin C and hours of laughter from the fun prescription treatment of hours of comedy entertainment films. Yay, Abbot and Costello, and the Three Stooges!

From Taylor and Francis Online

Hans Selye's single-author short letter to Nature (1936, 138(3479):32) inspired a huge and still growing wave of medical research. His experiments with rats led to the recognition of the "general adaptation syndrome," later renamed by Selye the stress response, the triad of enlarged adrenal glands, lymph node and thymic atrophy, and gastric erosions/ulcers.

Because of the significant role of glucocorticoids (named by Selye), he performed extensive structure-activity studies in the 1930s–1940s, resulting in the first rational classification of steroid hormones, e.g., corticoids, steroids/androgens, and folliculitis/estrogens. During those years, he recognized the respective anti- and pro-inflammatory actions of gluco- and mineralocorticoids in animal models several years before the demonstration of anti-rheumatic actions of cortisone and adrenocorticotrophic hormones in patients.

Nevertheless, Selye did not receive a Nobel Prize, which was awarded in 1950 to the clinician Hench and the two chemists who isolated and synthesized some of the glucocorticoids. Nonetheless, Selye was internationally recognized as a world authority in endocrinology, steroid chemistry, experimental surgery, and pathology.

He wrote over 1500 original and review articles, singly authored 32 books and trained 40 PhD students, one of whom (Roger Guillemin) won a Nobel Prize for isolating the hypothalamic releasing factors/hormones. Here, we consider the main implications of his first article, which launched the concept of biological stress, and the key ideas and problems that occupied him. Selye considered 'Stress in health and disease is medically, sociologically, and philosophically the most meaningful subject for humanity that I can think of.'" Clearly, laughter is the best medicine!

Selye benefited Cousins with the references to adrenal fatigue in his books. A treatment recipe for adrenal fatigue is included in the index. Let me know how it fares for you. I take it immediately after stage time.

Working Like a Dog

In their delightful and informative book Work Made Fun Gets Done! , Bob Nelson and Mario Tamayo cite numerous examples of companies that feature dogs as part of fun cultures. Trainers should note that the book contains specific experiential exercises and intriguing success story case studies.

We who have been or are dog owners know about dogs and their sense of time, or at least we have some reasonable arguments for why pet dogs go wacko-crazy with joy when their owners come home from a day of work, especially if they've been left alone. If they're that happy to see you, does that mean they've been depressed about missing you for hours? We don't know for sure, but given Norman Cousin's physiologic healing experience, isn't it reasonable to assume that strong, positive emotions create strong and positive physical reactions down to the cellular level? You are good for your dog's health too.

As much as is practical in the workspace, let's insist that on some casual Fridays, we can bring our dogs to work. With the occasional exception of some easily-triggered, moody ones, as in any group, most dogs are social and get along well in packs. Many innovative companies practice bringing pet dogs to work. Considering that the workforce now contains many more millennials than boomers, it is not surprising that companies have not only doggie days but also accommodate their canine visitors with enclosed patio spaces for play, spaces for water, food, rest or napping, and related services.

Outcome studies show that pet dogs in the work environment have multiplicative benefits beyond just being fun. They also improve the physical and mental health of employees, reduce staff conflict, increase productivity, make employees happier, and reduce sick days.

Between 2013 and 2017, pet insurance as an employee benefit grew 134%. It is an attractive feature to prospective millennial employees. Some companies even allow 'paternity' and fraternity leave time, as well as grief time when a pet dies. Pets are loved as family members.

My Comments on Joy

Joy can result from the emotional effect of internal factors, such as deep feelings of self-compassion, mindfulness, or connection with one's calling or individual purpose in life.

External factors include mutually respectful, nurturing relationships, acts of kindness and generosity, and being spellbound by natural beauty. William Moulton Marston, madman that he was, in his seminal book Emotions of Normal People, said that losing oneself by gazing far off to the horizon, staring at natural beauty is a form of submission of one's will to the hypnotic dominance of nature. According to Marston's psycho-philosophy, willful submission is a form of relaxation that provides joy to the dominant force, as when one submits one's will completely and unconditionally to a lover.

Spiritually minded people cite a personal relationship with God as their source of joy.

Laughter, play, and joy are not just good things. They produce good results in business and life. As you set up your 2025 calendar to schedule your new health regime, remember to protect your fun times and to consider them as meetings with the lead actor in your biography, a very important person: you!

-Frank DeDominicis

REFERENCES

Aristotle's Nicomachaean Ethics

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o0UozygAZUw

Aristotle Quotes

https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2919427

Psychology Today – Reclaim Your Joy

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-well-being-toolkit/202305/how-to-reclaim-your-playful-self-and-find-more-joy

Nurture Joy

Nurture Joy and Play

The Battle for Your Mind – Mass Brainwashing Techniques

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wBDZu8icKrg

Character.ai –Fun and helpful dialogues with a personalized AI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-efK67pWbYk&t=410s

Meditation Rebuilds Grey Matter

Meditation Improves Brain Functioning

Play Deprivation in Children

Play Deprivation in Children is a Serious Matter

Dr. Stuart Brown - the National Institute for Play

https://nifplay.org/about-us/about-dr-stuart-brown/

Understanding Depression

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d7NPnvKFs2Y

Stuart Brown

https://nifplay.org/books/play-how-it-shapes-the-brain-opens-the-imagination-and-invigorates-the-soul/

Millions of Non-Believers Have Dreams about Jesus

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pkW2HibvGZI

INDEX

Adrenal Fatigue Repair Recipe

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1jNowJ8mvEWEu3ZlWaL12Vzow_7CyCIeN/view?usp=drive_link

Just Be Quiet! - The Value of Silence and Dropping Away from the Tyranny of Noise

Mon, 10 Aug 2026 10:49:02 GMT

Lest you mistake this article for a Timothy Learyesque' drop-out' message, I'd like to be clear. While retreat is a common tactic in war, it is intended to help regain posture and consolidate power resources, rather than abandoning the battlefield.

Thanks to the internet, many of us are bombarded daily with cognitive overload from useless information, if we allow such abuse. Unfortunately, constantly staring at screens has become the norm for many humans. It is estimated that approximately 70% of the world's population, or nearly 5.775 billion people as of July 2025, is online. Is this a good thing or a bad thing?

The answer is that it is both. The internet has dramatically shrunk and flattened our world of communication, which is excellent for collaborative ventures, but which also benefits malicious actions by begrudged individuals.

Value of Silence for Youth

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

Role Definition, Domains, and Performance Expectations

Premarital Counseling

Selected Resources

Power Dynamics Issues

^{If you and/or your child want better academic grades, consider the cumulative effect of practicing silent study devoid of all distractions, auditory or visual. Scents may also help anchor a memory, especially if the student has a scent preference. For myself, a brief smudging with frankincense, just after arising, puts me in that perennial, Christmasy, receptive, 'love everybody' mood.}

^{Silence allows the brain to reset to its natural default settings of calmness and focus neurologically. This affects memory consolidation. (Take heed, public speakers!), problem-solving (Take heed, parents!) and creativity (Take heed, artists!). Students, remember this simple formula: "Silence = enhanced focus and concentration."}

^{For myself, as I was growing through my adolescent ‘four years of hell,' I remember my brain feeling like a storm was constantly besieging it. I don't know how exactly to put it into words, but my mental world seemed to be constantly buzzing. With rapid hormonal changes, I dropped old childlike habits, started new social behavior patterns, and began an intense curiosity about girls, especially being driven by my curiosity about why I always felt high after a sweet conversation with a girl, and enjoying a 'good to talk with you' smile.}

^{Although I lived in a row-house concrete jungle, my way of finding peace was to climb up onto the roof to catch the sunrise in relative silence, except for the occasional bird or the drone of vehicle tires below. Silence, as a youth, somehow reinforced my self-confidence and reduced my general anxiety after a prolonged time of silence.}

^{This daily practice made me feel like I was gently easing into my day and the necessary to-do list, peaceably and task-focused. I developed better self-discipline and self-control over my adolescent impulses, rather than seeking external entertainment. I felt the joy of taming my young self. Perhaps you can relate if you start your day with mindful meditation or prayer, rather than caffeine and the latest bad news updates.}

^{Silence is powerful because, after clearing the accumulated noise of the mind, meditation eventually leads to reflection on one's life and the way one lives. In a world largely devoid of listeners, this may satisfy our primal need to feel heard. You can hear yourself think and how you think if you pause self-talk and surrender to a meditative moment. This is what viewing silent art and panoramic natural beauty does for us. It can stop the stream of consciousness.}

^{Youth benefit from others' patient, silent, and pure listening without immediately formulating a response, which fosters empathy and improves social connections. Lastly, silence, especially before sleep, improves sleep quality, which is a total bio-system reset. Youth who practice this habit improve their sleep patterns, which is vital for stress management, as well as physical and mental development. Hot tip: Eliminate all electronic devices in the bedroom, which should be designed primarily for sleeping.}

Marston's Biases

Value of Silence for Elders

To elders, silence is a source of deep inner reflection and inner peace. Elders, who are comfortable with silence, are often effective listeners who make good counselors. They hear what is unspoken, and they understand nuanced inflections and affect. They don't reply immediately after someone else speaks, but allow room for a pensive moment. They value silence.

Many elders self-educate by ruminating on the deeper questions of life. Silence brings wisdom, the deeper truths of life that are hidden in experience. Elders find refuge and strength in silence. Elders who enjoy silent time are self-nurturing and building resistance to stress because silence replenishes emotional dollars spent. Silence can mean loneliness or a gift of truly personal time. Silence serves as a bridge to deeper, more meaningful relationships.

This point reminds me of my visits to my friend Ethan, who was losing his battle with AIDS. Just before he passed away, I visited him, and having come from work, I was tired, so I closed my eyes for a few minutes. When I awoke about forty minutes later, I noticed Ethan had also fallen asleep, so I closed my eyes and fell back to sleep. Later, we both awoke and proceeded with our conversation. Somehow, that shared silence had a profound meaning beyond, "I'm here for you."

Silence can motivate elders to become active in creating something with their hands. Studies indicate that 60–85% of all elders engage in some form of creative activity, such as writing, photography, cooking, painting, or writing poetry, among others. Although social isolation and silence are significant societal issues, those who learn the art of silence can benefit from periods of solitude.

The Cyberbullying Research Center (2023) reports that 26.5% of students stated they had experienced cyberbullying within the 30 days preceding their survey. A majority of teen suicides are sparked by online abuse. About 15% of those surveyed by the Cyberbullying Research Center admitted they had cyberbullied others at some point in their lives.

Roughly 20% of adults claim they've experienced cyberbullying. Recently, I had a similar experience with a distant relative whom I have never met, a mysterious, long-lost cousin named Davide DeDominicis. Initially, he behaved normally via Facebook Messenger, sharing information about himself and his history. Then, without warning or reason, he posted a series of rude and bizarre messages, one of which invited me to a debate, about what I do not know. When I declined to acknowledge his adolescent behavior ('extinguishing negative behavior' in adolescent psychology), he called me a coward. Weird, but a perfect example of how one’s information processing style can influence a person's attitude.

This example is typical of how far we are from the ideal of unconditionally accepting and loving one another, as well as respecting an individual's dignity. We may consider individuals disposable and treat them that way with a simple click of a cursor. Such behavior might never occur if people spoke to each other face-to-face. This applies to the two major U.S. political parties, both of which seem populated by grossly immature adolescents, given their focus on discrediting and hating each other, rather than seeking commonalities that bind us together.

The other side of the coin is that new technological breakthroughs, especially artificial intelligence, dramatically accelerate the work of good actors and positive change agents. Consider how all of society's problems are quietly being addressed and treated by the United Nations' sustainable development committees .

Much good news happens every day and is picked up by such outlets as the Good News Network ( www.goodnewsnetwork.com ), Positive News ( https://www.positive.news/ ), DailyGood.com ( https://www.dailygood.org/ ), and the Happy Newspaper ( https://thehappynewspaper.com/?v=0b3b97fa6688 ).

Aside from online bullying, the internet also overloads us with deceitful information from politicians and unscrupulous marketers. Given the public's naiveté, they are often unaware of how propaganda campaigns are developed over time. In 1934, a brainwashing campaign was carried out by President Eisenhower, the CIA, and the United Fruit Company to overthrow the government of Guatemala. Pause now for 18 minutes and watch this amazing propaganda disgrace:

The Insane Story of How the United Fruit Company Took Over Central America

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G6GjiOu59Ik

Schools with Meditation Offerings

Silence is a Path to Communion with God

Silence isn't merely the absence of noise; it's a profound spiritual discipline and a dynamic space that serves as a powerful path to communion with God. Here's how:

Opening the Channel for Divine Communication:

1. Eliminating Clutter

Our lives are often filled with a constant barrage of sensory input that creates a barrier, making it difficult to perceive the subtle ways God communicates with us. Silence helps clear this internal and external clutter, creating a receptive space.

2. Cultivating Listening

Just as we can't truly hear someone speaking if we're constantly talking, we can't truly hear God if our minds are always busy. Silence shifts us from an active "sending" mode (our prayers, thoughts, desires) to a receptive "receiving" mode, where we can attune ourselves to God's "still, small voice" (1 Kings 19:12). This is the voice of conscience, telling us the right thing to do.

3. Beyond Words

Communion with God isn't solely about spoken words. Silence allows for a deeper, more intuitive connection – a communion of spirits where understanding transcends verbal expression. In the quietness, we might experience peace, a gentle nudge, an insight, or a presence that speaks to the heart without needing language. Is this our imagination or reality?

4. Fostering Introspection and Self-Awareness: Confronting the Inner Self

When we embrace silence, we often become acutely aware of our thoughts, emotions, fears, and anxieties that are typically drowned out by daily activities. This can be uncomfortable, but it's crucial for spiritual growth.

5. Identifying Spiritual Blocks

Silence can highlight areas in our lives where we are resistant to God, harboring unforgiveness, or clinging to vengeance or control. This awareness is the first step towards surrender and allows God to work more deeply within us. Have you found yourself unforgiving of someone or something?

6. Embodying Contemplative Prayer: Hesychasm and Eastern Traditions

Many ancient mystical traditions, such as Hesychasm in Orthodox Christianity, emphasize inner stillness (hesychia) as a direct path to experiencing God. This often involves repetitive prayer (like the Jesus Prayer) to quiet the mind and open the heart to divine presence.

7. The "Prayer of Simple Presence"

This form of prayer, often found in contemplative traditions, is simply about being present to God without words, thoughts, or feelings, resting in His love and presence. Silence is its core.

In essence, silence is not merely an empty void, but a rich, fertile ground where our soul can meet and commune with God.

Now, I’ll just be silent.

-Frank DeDominicis

NB: Matthew 6:6 NIV reads: "But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you."

REFERENCES

Deer Hunting with Jesus - Dispatches from America's Class War by Joe Bageant

https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1542-734x.2008.00674_13.x

Embracing Silence: The Hidden Health Benefits of Daily Quiet Time.

https://www.defiancept.com/post/embracing-silence-the-hidden-health-benefits-of-daily-quiet-time

The Power of Silence in Elderly People: Embracing the Quiet and Peace Within:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCJ9L8bysT4

Cognitive overload: When processing information becomes a problem

https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-of-health/cognitive-overload

United Fruit Company

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_Fruit_Company

Thomas L. Friedman: On How to Survive in the Age of Acceleration:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2isrXHXz9w4

Naropa University (Boulder, Colorado) is a leader in contemplative education, integrating Eastern wisdom traditions, including mindfulness and meditation, directly into its academic curriculum across various disciplines.

Brown University has a prominent "Mindfulness Center" that conducts research and offers various mindfulness programs and training for individuals and professionals.

University of Chicago

Offers "Mindfulness Meditation" courses (basic and advanced) through its Student Wellness department, often held in serene spaces like Bond Chapel. They also provide pre-recorded meditations and resources.

The University of Iowa's Student Wellness Division offers "Intro to Mindfulness" workshops, which are often brief, evidence-based curricula designed for busy college students. They also host retreats and provide guided meditation resources.

The University of Colorado Boulder's Health & Wellness Services , notably the CALM Center, offers weekly meditation sessions, workshops on mindful awareness, and dedicated meditation rooms.

The Solitude Surge: Unveiling the Hidden Epidemic of Loneliness

Mon, 10 Aug 2026 10:31:11 GMT

Given the current state of social devolution (a term used to describe the decline in social interactions and relationships,) I'm fortunate to have been rated on a managerial whole-brain profile as an ambivert. Like most people, I naturally feel a strong and continuing need for social connection; however, I can also be perfectly content with solitude and meditation for extended periods. Socializing is natural for me. I quickly and easily build rapport and trust. Thus, my social world acts as a reservoir of good energy to recharge and remind me of who I am whenever I need a confidence boost, as I likewise edify my friends and allies.

Being cocooned and busy helping e-commerce businesses, I hardly noticed the lockdown. However, as a friend said, "the pandemic revealed the rocks in the bottom of the creek." One study claimed that 64% of the people surveyed said they find it difficult to talk with people of widely different religious or political views. Why is this so? Perhaps we are so invested in our point of view that we cannot, or do not suspend self-interest for a few minutes to assume a sincerely curious, journalistic attitude like Monica Guzman, author of I Never Thought of It That Way.'

She claims, "The friction and heat in a conversation is good. The question is whether it's cooking something or burning something. Standing for what you believe in does not mean attacking people on the other side."

Indeed, the lockdown exacerbated the tone of relationships. Those who were close sought to become even closer. Those who were distant increased their transactional tone of communications, a term used to describe interactions primarily focused on exchanging information or completing tasks rather than building relationships. The report reveals a steady downward trend in social connection and civility over the past four decades.

This slippery slope trend is borne out in a pithy white paper by the U.S. Surgeon General entitled Given the extensive nature of the paper, I will comment on only a few striking excerpts, which I hope encourages you to read the entire report.

From the Report:

Reasons for Suicides by Seniors

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

Role Definition, Domains, and Performance Expectations

Premarital Counseling

Selected Resources

Power Dynamics Issues

^{Chronic Illness and Pain}

^{Many seniors suffer from chronic health conditions such as arthritis, heart disease, and diabetes, which can result in persistent pain and discomfort. These ongoing health issues significantly impact their quality of life, leading to feelings of hopelessness and despair. The constant struggle with pain and the inability to engage in previously enjoyed activities can contribute to a diminished will to live.}

^{Mental Health Issues}

^{Depression and other mental health disorders are prevalent among seniors but are often underdiagnosed and undertreated. Seniors might not recognize their symptoms as those of depression, or they may be reluctant to seek help due to the stigma surrounding mental health. Furthermore, healthcare providers may focus more on physical health issues, overlooking the mental health needs of their older patients.}

^{Isolation and Loneliness}

^{As people age, they may experience increased social isolation due to losing friends and family, retirement, and decreased mobility. This isolation can lead to intense feelings of loneliness and depression. Without regular social interaction, seniors may feel disconnected, contributing to a sense of purposelessness and despair.}

^{Financial Stress}

^{Seniors often face financial difficulties due to retirement, medical expenses, or insufficient savings, which can lead to anxiety and depression. The fear of outliving savings and becoming a financial burden on others can contribute to suicidal thoughts.}

^{Loss of Independence}

^{Losing physical abilities and independence can be a significant psychological burden for seniors. The inability to perform daily tasks without assistance can lead to feelings of helplessness and being a burden on others. This loss of autonomy can severely impact their self-esteem and mental well-being.}

^Bereavement

^{The loss of a spouse, close friend, or family member is a common experience for seniors and can lead to intense grief. Grief can result in feelings of loneliness and a lack of purpose. The cumulative effect of multiple losses over time can exacerbate these feelings, increasing the risk of suicide.}

^{Access to Means}

^{Seniors often have access to medications and other means that are used for suicide. Easy access to drugs increases the risk of suicide attempts being successful.}

^{Stigma Around Mental Health}

^{There is often a stigma associated with seeking help for mental health issues, particularly among our elders. This stigma can prevent seniors from reaching out for support. Older adults are likely to acknowledge mental health struggles.}

^{Cognitive Decline}

^{Conditions like dementia and Alzheimer's disease can cause significant emotional distress and confusion. The frustration and fear associated with cognitive decline can lead to depression and suicidal thoughts. The sense of losing one's identity and abilities can be overwhelming, contributing to a desire to escape the situation.}

^{Addressing these factors requires a comprehensive approach, including better mental health care, social support systems, and community engagement to help seniors feel valued and connected. Enhanced screening for mental health issues, increased social interaction opportunities, and providing accessible mental health services can help mitigate the risk of suicide among seniors.}

Marston's Biases

Young People and Social Media

The advisory report covers interesting statistics regarding young people and their mental health.

"The percentage of teens ages 13 to 17 who say they are online 'almost constantly' has doubled since 2015. The percentage of U.S. adults 18 and over who reported using social media increased from 5% in 2005 to roughly 80% in 2019. Among teens ages 13 to 17, 95% report using social media as of 2022, with more than half reporting it would be hard to give up social media."

"Loneliness and social isolation increase the risk for premature death by 26% and 29%, respectively. More broadly, lacking social connection can increase the risk of premature death as much as smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day. In addition, poor or insufficient social connection is associated with an increased risk of disease, including a 29% increased risk of heart disease and a 32% increased risk of stroke. Furthermore, it is associated with an increased risk for anxiety, depression, and dementia. The lack of social connection may also increase susceptibility to viruses and respiratory illness. There is a correlation between hypertension, high blood pressure, and heart disease and being both socially isolated and lonely.

The lack of social connection can have significant economic costs to individuals, communities, and society. Social isolation among older adults alone accounts for an estimated $6.7 billion in excess Medicare spending annually, largely due to increased hospital and nursing facility spending. Moreover, beyond direct health care spending, loneliness and isolation are associated with lower academic achievement and diminished work performance.

Although all social interaction statistics have steadily declined, the decline is starkest for young people ages 15 to 24. For this age group, time spent in person with friends has reduced by nearly 70% over almost two decades, from roughly 150 minutes per day in 2003 to 40 minutes per day in 2020."

This highlights the urgent need to foster social intergenerational connections and among youth.

Suicide Trends

The highest rates of suicide are for those 85 and older. The next highest suicide rate is for those 75 to 84. Why are our elders dying by suicide?

The Kids Off Social Media Act updates legislation Sen. Schatz introduced would set a minimum age of 13 to use social media platforms and prevent social media companies from feeding algorithmically-based content to users under 17. The Act strives to limit social media use in schools. Some schools are prohibiting cell phones.

The essence of the Act is to…

Prohibit children under the age of 13 from creating or maintaining social media accounts, consistent with the current stated policies of major social media companies;
Prohibit social media companies from pushing targeted content using algorithms to users under the age of 17;
Provide the FTC and state attorneys general authority to enforce the provisions of the bill; and
Follow existing Children's Internet Protection Act (CIPA) framework to require schools to block and filter social media on federally funded networks and devices.

Senator Schatz claims, "Young Americans are facing an unprecedented mental health crisis. A Centers for Disease Control and Prevention survey found that 57% of high school girls and 29% of high school boys felt persistently sad or hopeless in 2021. It also found that 22% of all high school students – and nearly a third of high school girls – reported they had seriously considered attempting suicide in the preceding year. Big Tech knows it's complicit – but refuses to do anything about it. Though most social media platforms have a minimum age of 13, nearly 40% of children ages 8–12 still use them. Social media is a leading driver of poor youth mental health."

This highlights the urgent need to foster intergenerational social connections and among youth.

Social Division Solutions

The Surgeon General's advisory provides a 'National Strategy to Advance Social Connection' with two valuable sections: 'The Six Pillars of Social Connection' and the comprehensive plan, which includes the roles of organizations and individuals.

The Six Pillars of Social Connection

Pillar One

Strengthen Social Infrastructure in Local Communities

Design the built environment to promote social connection. Establish and scale community connection programs. Invest in local institutions that bring people together.

Pillar Two

Enact Pro-Connection Public Policies

Adopt a "Connection-In-All-Policies" approach. Advance policies that minimize harm from disconnection. Establish cross-departmental leadership at all levels of government.

Pillar Three

Mobilize the Health Sector

Train health care providers. Assess and support patients. Expand public health surveillance and intervention.

Pillar Four

Reform Digital Environments

Require data transparency. Establish and implement safety standards. Support the development of pro-connection technologies.

Pillar Five:

Deepen Our Knowledge

Develop and coordinate a national research agenda. Accelerate research funding. Increase public awareness.

Pillar Six

Cultivate a Culture of Connection

Cultivate values of kindness, respect, service, and commitment to one another. Model connection values in positions of leadership and influence. Expand conversations on social connection in schools, workplaces, and communities.

What We Can Do Collectively

In the complete advisory, you can read about what we can do under these headings:

What National, Territory, State, Local, and Tribal Governments Can Do
What Health Workers, Health Care Systems, and Insurers Can Do
What Public Health Professionals and Public Health Departments Can Do
What Researchers and Research Institutions Can Do
What Philanthropy Can Do
What Schools and Education Departments Can Do
What Workplaces Can Do
What Community-Based Organizations Can Do
What Technology Companies Can Do
What Media and Entertainment Industries Can Do
What Parents and Caregivers Can Do
What Individuals Can Do

If this article piqued your curiosity about solutions, read the report, especially Patricia Morgan's ebook, Understanding Loneliness, linked below.

Social Change

Social change starts with awareness, and long-term social connectivity begins with youth education. Let’s not be hypocritical about unnecessary or extensive screen time. Especially while they are young, let's teach our children to value eyeball-to-eyeball and belly-to-belly communication by practicing it with them sans alternate voices presented via social media methodologies.

- Frank DeDominicis

REFERENCES

Monica Guzman – I Never Thought of it That Way

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z04ooRrWhqg&t=2s

Kids Off Social Media Act

https://bit.ly/3W9aLDy

https://www.schatz.senate.gov/kosma

Suicide Rates

https://afsp.org/suicidestatistics/#:~:text=Suicide%20rates%20by%20age%20range,those%20age%2034%20and%20below .

Youth Risk Behavior Survey

https://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/pdf/YRBS_Data-Summary-Trends_Report2023_508.pdf

Count on Mothers

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6EMYHVrmNeA&t=1s

Children's Internet Protection Act (CIPA)

https://www.fcc.gov/consumers/guides/childrens-internet-protection-act

Kids Off Social Media Regulation Update

https://bit.ly/Keep-Kids-Safe-AM-Act-Update-May-24

2023 State of America's Children Report

https://www.childrensdefense.org/tools-and-resources/the-state-of-americas-children/?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw7ZO0BhDYARIsAFttkCiSiIvy-BvedHxFMlHVE_0wlMwFjKCVdgWpNejGNNlWB8stn5Vmo24aAosxEALw_wcB

Patricia Morgan – Understanding Loneliness (PDF)

https://bit.ly/Understanding-Loneliness

Dr. Vivek - Together

https://amzn.to/4cuDicv

Friesen, C. (2023). Friendly lonely Manitoba? Winnipeg Free Press, (), A7

https://www.winnipegfreepress.com/arts-and-life/life/2023/10/02/friends-in-need-2

Our Mission Villagebuilder

https://www.village.builders/the-problem

An Epidemic of Loneliness and Implications for Physical Therapists - PTs on Mission

https://www.ptsonmission.com/blog/an-epidemic-of-loneliness-and-implications-for-physical-therapists

How do we make friends? | Cumorah Academy

https://www.cumorahacademy.org/blog/educational/how-do-we-make-friends/

Suicide Rates are On the Rise (2024)

https://www.colorado.edu/today/2024/02/15/suicide-rates-us-are-rise-new-study-offers-surprising-reasons-why#:~:text=After%20a%20long%2C%20steady%20decline,3%25%20from%20the%20previous%20year .

What Accounts for the Rise in Suicide Rates?

https://www.nber.org/bh/20232/what-accounts-rise-suicide-rates-us

Foundation for Social Connection – Action Guide for Building Socially Connected Communities

https://www.socihttps://www.social-connection.org/al-connection.org/

Dirty Laundry: A Tale of Permissive Management and Missed Money Maximization

Fri, 07 Aug 2026 11:19:09 GMT

The EverythingDiSC™ model reveals that it is natural for individuals to have different levels of various needs. When there is a great disparity in individual needs for dominance and control, interpersonal patterns of pressure and automatic compliance can evolve. This can work wonderfully if the more dominant personality always makes the best decisions, but that is unrealistic.

What if both parties are aggressive drivers who like to win? This can be a serious problem whenever a situation demands that push comes to shove. What do I recommend? Involve a disinterested third party to moderate discussions and to ensure that both parties practice active listening. Agree to effort toward workable compromises, as in peace negotiations.

In Pine Junction, Colorado, a bucolic mountain setting in the foothills just an hour west of Denver, Colorado, the fragrant scent of pine needles accompanied my client, business owner Jeffrey whenever he descended one thousand vertical feet down to our office in the west side of Denver. The pine scent was a stark contrast to our working space’s caffeinated air. He had great sales campaign ideas which we never had time to deploy. He was a visionary behind an innovative startup. His enthusiasm was infectious, and the business concept held immense promise. Yet, as our sessions progressed, my unease crept into our meetings, a shadow cast by the operational realities back in their mountain home office, commandeered by his wife.

Jeff’s business was a partnership in multiplicative ways. He and his wife Sarah were co-owners. While Jeff focused on product development, marketing strategy, and, crucially, our consultations, Sarah was supposed to be managing back-end operations from their mountain home in the woods. Initially, this division of labor seemed logical. Jeff, the more urbane of the two, handled outward-facing aspects of the business, while Sarah, comfortable in her mountain sanctuary, did administrative work.

However, soon the idyllic picture began to fray around the edges. Small inconsistencies surfaced. Invoices went unpaid, leading to late fees and strained vendor relationships. Important client calls were missed, opportunities for follow-up squandered. The digital filing system, which should have been a model of organization, was a jumble of mislabeled documents and lost files.

At first, these were forgiven as minor hiccups, bumps in the road of a burgeoning business. But as I delved deeper into their financial reports and operational workflows, a disturbing pattern emerged. The amount of time Jeff was spending rectifying Sarah’s oversights was extensive. Hours that should have been dedicated to refining our sales campaigns, exploring new market segments, and nurturing important partnerships were instead being consumed by damage control.

The truth was that Sarah’s grip on the operational reins of systems and processes was tenuous. Her affinity for marijuana, a detail Jeff initially downplayed, was the elephant in their virtual office. Missed calls, unpaid bills, and disorganized files weren’t random errors; they were the consequences of a hazy mental landscape by an irresponsible adult.

The irony was too much for me to take. Although the business was positioned for growth, at the heart of things was a serious management issue that Jeff seemed unwilling, or perhaps unable, to address.

I broached the subject, highlighting escalating costs associated with these errors and opportunity cost losses. Jeff would agree and acknowledged the problems. I suggested implementing stricter protocols, clear lines of responsibility, or even a Frank conversation with Sarah about the impact of these mistakes, to which he would say, “I’ll talk with her,” but he never did.

“It’s… complicated,” he’d say, a familiar weariness in his voice. “She gets defensive. And, you know, it’s her house, her space…” The unspoken hung heavy in the air: “she’s my wife.”

His reluctance to hold Sarah accountable, born perhaps out of a desire to avoid conflict or a misguided sense of marital harmony, was killing their business. The permissive management style, was creating a drag on cash flow. The lack of clearly defined roles and expectations, and the absence of accountability was killing of their dream.

Too late I realized that I was bailing water from a leaky ship while the captain refused to plug the holes. The upbeat, innovative startup spirit that had initially drawn me into the project was being killed by unaddressed errors. My expertise in business growth was being relegated to merely clean-up duty and not proactive sales campaigns we’d designed.

After witnessing this unsustainable dynamic, I made a tough decision and informed Jeff that I would quit if the problem was not fixed. While I framed my words professionally, the underlying truth was that I couldn’t, in good conscience, continue to invest time and energy into a venture where fundamental management issues were being ignored. This would not be the first time I chose to fire bad clients.

The experience crystallized my core belief about the intersection of personal relationships and professional endeavors. While the allure of working with a spouse can be strong, the failure to establish clear boundaries, to define roles and domains, and to establish mechanisms for accountability can be a fatal to business success…not to mention impacting their marriage.

To prove a point, I quit them and sold my marketing concept to one of their business rivals. Occasionally, I hear whispers through the grapevine that Jeff and Sarah’s business hasn’t completely collapsed, but that it never really achieved the potential once envisioned. The venture continues to be dimmed by operational fog and an apparent unwillingness to implement necessary self-discipline.

Their story serves as a potent reminder: Before embarking on the journey of building a business together, couples should have the tough conversations upfront. Define your separate domains (in writing!), list and understand personal strengths and weaknesses, identify core profitability functions, and, most critically establish a clear and objective process for navigating disagreements and addressing performance. Permissive management, especially when intertwined with personal relationships, can be a seductive but ultimately a destructive force.

Today, by assessing the pros and cons of couples conjoined at the business bank account, I join the ranks of others who’ve professionally assisted working couples, and share my observation that those who failed to prepare properly for unexpected shifts in dyad power dynamics, and who failed to have preventative ‘what-if’ scenario discussions in structured planning sessions before jumping into the execution stage of their strategy, usually failed totally or in part, sometimes in ways tolerated, as in the example above, or in unobserved, untracked, and invisible losses.

Given my business temperament, I must work on patience whenever I witness what seem to me to be obvious and loud planning errors, chronic inefficiencies, or unethical decisions being made by decision-makers. I’m an old-fashioned, traditional person in many ways and prefer order to chaos, and open communications to intrigue and mystery.

In order to cheer myself up from being down there in dusty, dirty Complaintsville, I must take my mind off the tragic business relationship failures I’ve witnessed; so, I’ll share some on topic good news: the state of romantic relationships currently. Is love still in need of love today?

The Covid lockdown changed everything, some things for the better. The social isolation effect gave us remote work and time to think, for many to decide to revolt against the overall economic system with the Great Resignation. To them, an opportunity to reflect more on family and life and to consider their personal values and other things like resigning or seeking other work opportunities. For a while, it was an employees’ market. (add my video) Once the Earthlings were quarantined, the world became largely inactive and quieter; animals and nature benefitted because the most dangerous and polluting species was caged for a while in their boxes.

Many people appreciated the abundance of social time, albeit it was largely via Zoom and similar platforms. Some realized more time to practice their faith, meditation, or forgotten hobbies or social interests, like cerebral intimacy with other people, and more relaxed time for romance and love. Would you like to hear the good news regarding the current upswing in traditional values like pitching woo? Do you think couples are more distant because of the lockdown or closer?

Love Endures All Things

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

Open Hours

How to Prepare to Work as a Couple

Summary of Kayla’s Key Statistics

Role Definition, Domains, and Performance Expectations

Premarital Counseling

Preventative Conflict Plans

Selected Resources

So as to avoid talking business during family time, determine what times you open and close your business mentally. What time are you open for business? Perhaps you do not want to start your day by immediately jumping into activities, but instead prefer to start slowly with stretching, breath-work, and meditation. Likewise, at what hour do you stop discussing business? Consider that not every task on the list is urgent, so don’t be pushed by the to-do list. Schedule routine tasks.

Power Dynamics Issues

72% of U.S. adults are currently in a romantic relationship. Source
61% of people say their partner is their best friend. Source
The U.S. marriage rate stands at 6.1 per 1,000 people . Source
About 40-50% of marriages end in divorce, though rates have been declining. Source
65% of couples cite poor communication as their biggest challenge. Source
20% of married couples experience infidelity, but 60% of those couples stay together after seeking support.
30% of couples meet online, highlighting the rise of digital matchmaking. Source
6% of U.S. adults are in non-monogamous relationships. Source
50% of couples report that mental health issues affect their relationship, but 80% see improvement after therapy. Source

^“ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” – I Corinthians 13: 4-8

Current U.S. Relationship Trends

Kayla Crane reports in her survey report article, Surprising Statistics About Couples: Insights into Modern Relationships that things are on the upswing with 72% of adults being in a romantic relationship and 61% of individuals regarding their partner as their best friend. Marriage ratio rates remain steady at 6 in 1000 people, with divorce on the decline.

Now that we have an understanding about couple relationships in general, let’s get to the point of this article, that couples who plan to work together first need to plan to plan several compatibility sessions. What needs to be discussed in their pre-action planning sessions?

Leadership and Isolation

One of the problems with a leadership role is that it can be lonely at the top. An amusing phrase is that “It’s lonely at the top but you can eat better.” Instead of being trapped alone in your office with your same old thinking and worrying patterns, visit local small business networking Meetup groups to connect with your peers, other business owners for support and encouragement. Self-esteem can be boosted by serving others, so attend to help others too.

Date Nights

My Feelings about Co-Entrepreneurship

Genesis 2:18 - The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Why didn’t God think about making two humans at the same time? But, then, how does God ‘think?’ being that which is beyond definition, beyond our mortal understanding? Maybe Eve was His afterthought, a companion to share life, that is, if God ‘thinks’ as we do. Maybe a theology historian can elucidate about this for me. The point is, God created a wonderful duality that gave both someone to relate to mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. This first marriage, the “crown of creation” provided a helpmate who complemented man in some ways, a sustainability plan with procreation, and a shared feeling of union and completeness.

So, if God created such a wonderful bond, can they work together peaceably? If I ask a mixed crowd that question, I’ll likely get mixed replies. However, given how beautiful and joyful a healthy, happy bond is, let’s consider some of the good qualities of a super high-trust level, real love relationship.

Often, the best relationships are marked by open communications, mutual support and respect. If your personal relationship is founded on these values, chances are you will be able, all other things considered, to roll over the bumps in the road, to offer evaluation and correction to each other gently. The business arena can be an excitable arena emotionally. Surprises happen. Disappointments and delays occur, also, sometimes defections, as with the United States’ 2025 Trump tariff situation which touches the entire world, even hermit island penguins.

Co-entrepreneurial couples, if you first work on consolidating the foundations of your friendship and love, expect the rest of the business strategic planning process to go better than if you just impulsively jumped into the execution stage with your hot and lucrative concept.

-Frank DeDominicis

Marston's Biases

Resources

The TRUTH About Navigating Marriage & Business Together – a Biblical approach

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVuPrrIywA8&t=1s

How we run a $100,000,000 business together...and STILL STAY MARRIED

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fMLXc5qvzAo

Entrepreneurial Couples

https://www.tonyrobbins.com/blog/entrepreneurial-couples?srsltid=AfmBOopCia7LxKYIs4yOC8tarfKyj7eywbRDlrN8fTE-Bz9MOcZ9X-dk

Surprising Statistics About Couples: Insights Into Modern Relationships

https://www.southdenvertherapy.com/blog/relationship-statistics-insight-for-couples

Surprising Statistics About Couples: Insights into Modern Relationships

https://www.southdenvertherapy.com/

Marston's DiSC Theory Revisited: Exposing the Hidden Assumptions

Fri, 07 Aug 2026 10:45:47 GMT

Education: PhD in Psychology from Harvard University in 1929

Director : Public Service: Universal Studios, 1929

Personal Adviser to Carl Laemmle, founder of Universal Studios

Lecturer : University of Southern California (circa 1929-1930)

Professor : Psychology, Long Island University, 1931-1933

Vice-President of Hampton , Weeks, and Marston advertising agency, 1932.

Lecturer : New School of Social Science (New York, 1933-1934) and Rand School of Social Science (New York, 1933-1934)

Gillette Ads: He appeared in a 1938 Gillette Blade advertisement in nationwide magazines promoting his "lie detector" and Gillette razor blades.

High Validity

The original (EverythingDiSC™) instrument measures precisely what it purports to measure: specific behaviors relative to the pure D, i, S, and C styles.

High Reliability

The instrument is rated as highly reliable. Participants agree with 80%+ of the interpretations.

Global Reputation

EverythingDiSC™ is recognized as the most trusted behavioral instrument in modern education and training. It has been and is utilized by a significant number of major organizations.

Predictability

Most importantly, the DiSC profile is not predictive, although some think so.

Variability

Although the personalities of emotionally mature people tend to be consistent in most settings, with some others, their personalities may shift dramatically based on environmental factors such as the setting, others' presence, and the time of day, as well as the effects of, trauma, alcohol or medications.

SEEs

Significant emotional events shift values, affecting personality expression.

DiSC is not a personality test , and it does not reveal typology, despite the tendency of people, especially those new to DiSC, to label themselves and others, which initially creates separation. It's about interpersonal tendencies, not 'types,' a popular misnomer.

Relative Expression

The D, i, S, and C plotting plots are relative to each other in terms of their magnitude of expression.

Limitation

DiSC describes styles based only on current input data.

Three aberrant profiles , the undershift, tight, and overshift ('unhealthy' profiles'), were eliminated in the 1980s.

Let’s identify biases and flaws in Dr. William Moulton Marston's conclusions about human behavior. First, let's learn a bit about Marston and some little-known salacious details about him, the origins of the DiSC theory, and the EverythingDiSC™ profile.

OSS : He claimed he "shrunk heads" for the Office of Strategic Services, the precursor intelligence agency to the CIA during World War II.

Polygraph invention

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

DiSC Style Definitions

Marston’s Views on the Value of Comics

Comic Books and Film

Classic DiSC Theory

Marston created the EverythingDISC™ theory of personality assessment, which categorizes behavior along two axes - favorable/unfavorable perception and active/passive tendencies. These axes are also referred to as the power and affection axes.

While innovative, DiSC theory originally received little mainstream acceptance. Today, it is recognized as the education and training industry's most trusted behavioral assessment instrument globally. Over 70 million individuals have used it, and another million every year. Rating highly on validity and reliability scores, it is utilized in various settings and applications, including emotional intelligence and productive conflict.

DiSC is actually a 2400-year-old theory of personality based on the observations of the Greek philosopher Empedocles (c. 450 BC), who was the first to propose the four classical elements as a set: fire, earth, air, and water. He called them the four "roots" (ῥιζώματα, rhizōmata).

Premarital Counseling

A comprehensive study of one's profile includes three stages:

Selected Resources

Marston's accomplishments

Dominance - control, authority, rule, supreme influence, the condition of being dominant, or having the authority to influence or control.

Influence - the capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions, etc., of others: the action or process of producing effects on the actions, behavior, opinions, etc., of another or others,.

Submission - an act or instance of submitting or yielding control to a more powerful or authoritative entity: unable to escape a grappling hold; the act or condition of submitting something for consideration, approval, treatment, or action.

Compliance - the act of conforming, acquiescing, or yielding; a tendency to yield readily to others, especially in a weak and subservient way; conformity; accordance: in compliance with orders; cooperation or obedience.

Major DiSC™ Points

In the early 1940s, after publishing an article highlighting comics' educational potential, he consulted for DC Comics (then All-American Publications). Marston believed comic books could have positive educational and psychological value, especially for young people.

His wife, Elizabeth Holloway, who famously said, "Harvard will not grant me a PH.D. because I have a vagina," noticed that whenever she became agitated or angry, her heart beat faster and her blood pressure rose. This observation led to Marston's invention of the systolic blood pressure test, which became a vital component of the modern polygraph (lie detector) machine. One of his tests 'proved' that brunettes are more easily titillated than blondes.

To promote his invention, Marston suggested that the results of his machine testing be included in the famous Frye vs. United States case, the first time an expert witness tried to testify in a court case. In 1923, in Frye v. United States, the District of Columbia Court rejected the scientific validity of the lie detector (polygraph) because the technology did not have significant general acceptance at that time.

Publications

Appealing to the prurient interests of the times, Dr. William Moulton Marston wrote paperback books, including The Hidden Life of Julius Caesar, which is thusly described: "Here is the whole bold panorama of Roman times—the debauchery, the wars, the barbaric revels and cruelties, the old pagan rites on the altar of Venus. Here also is the piquant personal history of the young Julius Caesar, the greatest swordsman and statesman of his day and probably the greatest lover! He came, saw, and conquered from Egypt to England, Greece to Gaul. But slave girl and vestal virgin, courtesan, and queen, each, in turn, conquered Caesar!"

Comics could teach moral lessons and positive ideals through the heroic feats and behavior of characters like Wonder Woman, whom he envisioned as a strong feminist icon.

Comics' combination of words and pictures made the medium effective for conveying ideas and stories in an engaging, easily understandable way for children and adults.

Comics could provide a safe outlet for readers to explore themes of power, submission, and bondage through the adventures of heroes like Wonder Woman using her lasso of truth.

He felt comics had been underestimated and scorned when they could be uplifting entertainment that instilled good values and portrayed strong role models.

In his 1944 book The Wonder Woman, Marston argued that comic books "should be issued by an agency aiming to inculcate the right ideas," promoting love over violence as the driving force. He saw Wonder Woman comics specifically as a way to shape youth culture in a positive direction. His Wonder Woman comics were intended as constructive brainwashing about women and their inducement power versus the dominant power style of Superman and Batman.

Basic interpretation of your style's primary emotions, inhibitions, fears, and value to the team.

Understanding social and work compatibility factors, interpersonal tension points, and conflict behaviors.

Personalized depth research is available via podcasts, real and blind comparison reports, intensity measurements, and other resources, including classic and missing patterns and advice on 'stretch' behaviors on the Catalyst platform.

Free Love

Marston lived in a polyamorous relationship with his wife, Elizabeth Holloway, and their partner, his graduate student Olive Byrne. Both women inspired the creation of Wonder Woman. Olive Byrne was Margaret Sanger's niece and a compatriot of and influenced by Emmeline Pankhurst.

A third woman, Marjorie Hutchings, with whom Marston is said to have had an affair when he was a lieutenant in the Army, is rumored to have lived in the attic of their communal house in Rye, New York, where she hung beads and burnt incense. In Rye, New York, their triad sexual exploits were revealed publicly, causing him and his wife to fall out of respect in academia and to descend into the lowly world of comic books.

The concept of free love originated in the mid-19th century and was originally about the absence of legal ties in romantic and sexual matters, such as marriage, birth control, and adultery. It was a sign of bohemianism until the 1960’s when it became associated with the ‘sexual revolution’ and the hippie movement. However, the idea of free love has roots that go back even further, with influences from the English poet Percy Bysshe Shelley, the suffragettes, and the American Jazz Age.

DC Comics & Film

After the launch of Superman in 1938 and Batman in 1939, Detective Comics published in 1941, 'Wonder Woman,' a superheroine created by the American psychologist and writer William Moulton Marston (pen name: Charles Moulton) and artist Harry G. Peter. Marston's wife, Elizabeth, and their life partner, Olive Byrne, are credited with his inspiration for the character's appearance.

Wonder Woman, originally named Suprema, appears in American Comic Books which was published by DC Comics. She is a founding member of the Justice League, and first appeared in All-Star Comics #8, published October 21, 1941, with her first feature in Sensation Comics #1 in January 1942. The superheroine title has been published by DC Comics almost continuously ever since. In her homeland, the island nation of Themmyscira, her official title is Princess Diana of Themyscira.

When blending into the society outside of her homeland, she sometimes adopts her civilian identity, Diana Prince, originally named Suprema, reflecting Marston's bias that women are exceptional in ways that would make them better politicians. I now see how male and female politicians' behaviors vary greatly and often to extremes. Male politicians tend not to be catty or to make insults about others’ appearances, except for morally immature ones.

Wonder Woman

Marston created the comic book character Wonder Woman in 1941 as an empowered female superhero and feminist icon, as public propaganda about feminine inducement power. He gave her the ‘Lasso of Truth,’ inspired by his work on lie detection.

In the 1940s, second-wave feminism was not about equality, but rather superiority. Marston's personal and obvious obsessions colored his interpretation of dominance/submission tests, which were limited to only a few hundred participants and which he and Miss Olive Byrne conducted with young men and women. One of his generalizations is that young men tended to submit to female teachers but complied with male teachers, submission being pleasurable and compliance being unpleasant. He faced criticism for the bondage undertones and alleged sexual subtext in his depictions of Wonder Woman, as bondage is included in every sixth cartoon panel.

His psychological works promoting female superiority and unconventional views on sexuality were seen as controversial at the time. He believed true love manifested when one totally submitted to a loving authority. In his sexual encounters, roles were reversed between players.

Marston's Biases

He believed that young boys naturally tend to be submissive towards young girls but then become rebellious towards their fathers, suggesting an inherent gender difference in submission tendencies. Often, he described men as dominating brutes lacking the natural sensitivity of the female gender, clearly a sexist prejudice.

In his seminal 1928 book, Emotions of Normal People, he cites the contrasted examples of college-aged men and women during hazing events, suggesting women enjoyed submission to bondage and public spankings with a paddle vigorously applied to their buttocks. In contrast, boys tended to resist forced compliance. Marston observed that troubled teenage boys at a school would act submissive when caught misbehaving by the male principal, "Mr. H.” would try to dominate the female principal instead. They attributed this to societal gender norms rather than any inherent differences.

He claimed that the emotion of submission is "really evident in young boys in relationship to other young girls," implying boys are naturally submissive to girls. However, he also said submission is not based on gender; instead, society forces people to react in specific ways based on gender. He claimed happiness resulted from active submission to a loving authority.

Marston believed that women are more naturally altruistic and benevolent than men. his idea that women are inherently more nurturing contributed to the creation of his Wonder Woman character. While Marston acknowledged societal influences on gender roles, he also expressed some essentialist beliefs about innate gender differences, especially in his ideas that submission and altruism are more natural tendencies for women and girls.

His fascination with pornography and bondage reflects his gynocentric focus. The bias was essentially that men are inherent brutes and women are heavenly, 'active lovers.' I challenged some of the conclusions because his behavioral experiments in schools and facilities were limited to small numbers of participants, some only a few hundred individuals. In his book Emotions of Normal People, he admits that several of his conclusions are based on his subjective 'emotional education.' His biases are obvious.

These views reflected common gender biases of his era. What educated, modern woman today would agree that women are naturally other-centered and submissive and that men are not?

-Frank DeDominicis

REFERENCES

Leadership behaviors with Frank DeDominicis and DiSC™

Leadership and DiSC

Polygraph invention

https://liedetectortest.com/polygraph-examiner/william-moulton-marston-progressing-polygraph-technology

Three Dysfunctional DiSC Styles

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/three-dysfunctional-disc-styles-frank-dedominicis/?trackingId=SrKrLkqjQEKS%2FMUJEjoKfw%3D%3D

How to Deceive a Polygraph Machine

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N3fHkCFxgQQ

Margaret Sanger and Contraceptives as a Constitutional Right

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/three-dysfunctional-disc-styles-frank-dedominicis/?trackingId=SrKrLkqjQEKS%2FMUJEjoKfw%3D%3D

Emmeline Pankhurst - Suffragettes and the Cat and Mouse Syndrome

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NL5s9dk9U4w&t=1s

What Emmeline Pankhurst Really Said About Eugenics, Race, Free Love

https://www.thoughtco.com/free-love-and-womens-history-3530392

Professor Marston and the Wonder Woman (Full Movie 2017) Get your popcorn!

https://www.tokyvideo.com/video/professor-marston-and-the-wonder-women-2017

Worry Wart Nation - Why Americans Can't Relax

Thu, 06 Aug 2026 12:13:15 GMT

Understanding where you stand within the context of public mood cycles may help you consider the background of others' behaviors. Yes, we're worried, and the biggest worry is uncertainty, so here are facts to help ease your fears. We will touch on only some problematic matters. Drop me a line for any issues I've missed and for which you'd like more information.

Global Drug Trafficking

Preface: If you're hiring, managing people, or are a serious sales professional, you have a deep interest in human psychology and what makes people tick. After all, each individual is another surprise package of traits, attitudes, skills, strengths, weaknesses, and temperaments. Although there are many things we worry about, let's explore a few major concerns.

A colorful array of characters dominates the world psychodrama stage and the Internet and hypnotizes many away from real life and responsibilities. Something once misunderstood and feared has been normalized. In the 1990s, we had online privacy concerns, but now we freely advertise our deepest thoughts, feelings, and details about our daily lives on social media. Edgar Bernays, the father of mass-brainwashing propaganda, is laughing in his grave.

Key Safety Concern Factors

Let's start exploring why U.S. citizens seem so wound up and obsessed with their personal safety. Following are some key factors contributing to their safety concerns.

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

Noted this F.B.I. quote:

"The FBI's crime statistics estimates, based on reported data for 2023, show that national violent crime decreased an estimated 3.0% in 2023 compared to 2022 estimates:

Murder and non-negligent manslaughter recorded a 2023 estimated nationwide decrease of 11.6% compared to the previous year.
In 2023, the estimated number of offenses in the revised rape category saw an estimated 9.4% decrease.
Aggravated assault figures decreased an estimated 2.8% in 2023.
Robbery showed an estimated decrease of 0.3% nationally.

In 2023, 16,009 agencies participated in the hate crime collection, with a population coverage of 95.2%. Law enforcement agencies submitted incident reports involving 11,862 criminal incidents and 13,829 related offenses as being motivated by bias toward race, ethnicity, ancestry, religion, sexual orientation, disability, gender, and gender identity."

Personal Safety Worries and Fears

Gun violence has been declining since 2021, when it resulted in 21,068 deaths, although the number of reported suicides is increasing.

Because I want to show you the correlation between the 2004 legalization of AR-15 assault rifles and the number of U.S. mass shootings, I hand-drew a graph paper chart that reveals an alarming spike in gun violence in terms of mass shootings. Excuse the sloppiness, but note the sharp spike.

Mass Shootings

The Resurgence of Cocaine

Changing Market Dynamics

Selected Resources

The US's situation in the final quarter of 2014 is entirely unfunny in terms of overall mental health. Most people in most cultures do not trust their institutions and traditions. By putting things into perspective and providing quality links to recent articles and reports, I hope to calm some of the public's apparent confusion and discontent. After all, despite the seriousness of the crises, there’s much more good in the world in terms of community, support, growth, and repair.

Larger trend wheels are turning, producing significant societal shifts that may not seem immediately apparent to many obsessed with the current daily sensation story. These reports evaporate as quickly as they come, easily replaced by another anger or fear-inducing story with the same impact as Chicken Little announcing, "OMG, the sky is falling!" Do any of us boomers remember baby Jessica McClure?

Increase in Hate Crimes

The data reveals that hate crime incidents increased by 794 in 2022. There were 11,634 cases, compared to 10,840 in 2021.

Race-Based Crimes

Hate crimes rooted in race, ethnicity, or ancestry remain the most common. There were 6,557 reported incidents in 2022. Anti-Black or African American incidents —numbering 3,421 — were more than three times higher than the next highest racial or ethnic category.

Religion-Based Crimes

There were 2,042 reported incidents based on religion. More than half of these (1,122) were driven by anti-Jewish bias. Incidents involving anti-Muslim (158) and anti-Sikh (181) sentiments remained at similar levels compared to 2021.

LGBTQI+ Targeted Crimes

Incidents targeting gay men reached 1,075, while anti-lesbian incidents numbered 622. Both categories recorded their highest totals in the past five years, increasing by more than 10% since 2021. A significant increase of nearly 40% was observed in reported anti-transgender incidents (totaling 338) compared to 2021.

FBI 2022 Report on Hate Crimes – Key Findings and Trends

Seventy percent of Americans are anxious about keeping themselves or their families safe. Recent surveys indicate that this number has increased significantly compared to previous years. This heightened fear stems from various factors, including perceived economic instability, violent crime, and societal unrest.

What comes to mind is the threat to the safety and security of election workers who have previously endured attacks, threats, and doxxing, as well as their families. What is most insidious about our American violence trend is that Americans have become inured and accustomed to multiple mass shootings per week as 'normal.' In contrast, mass shootings were less frequent before the start of the millennium and were then considered by the public as an anomaly, a freak news story.

Gallup reports that 40% of Americans feel afraid to walk alone at night near their homes, marking the highest level of fear in three decades. How about you? Can you comfortably take a casual walk late at night to go stargazing? Or are you scared and carrying pepper spray or a commercial-level taser?

Perceived economic stress often translates into fears about personal safety, as financial instability can lead to increased crime rates.

Gun violence remains a pressing concern, with 67% of adults anxious about it, including 42% who are "very anxious" about this issue. This anxiety has risen sharply since 2020, reflecting ongoing societal issues related to firearms.

Specific concerns include identity theft (72%), car theft (50%), and physical assaults (37%)—all of which have seen increased worry since the pandemic began.

The American Psychological Association highlights that ongoing stress about safety can lead to broader mental health issues, indicating a cycle where fear exacerbates anxiety disorders. Many Americans report that their mental health struggles are intertwined with their concern for personal safety. In June 2022, toward the peak of lockdown fatigue, the Pharmaceutical Journal reported that U.K. sales of antidepressants jumped 35%. The good news is that people can be weaned off drugs, with substitute treatments being psychotherapy and lifestyle adaptations. Reach out and connect.

In the U.K., 45 million selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) were prescribed in 2021/2022, a 35.2% increase from 2015/2016. SSRIs are the most commonly prescribed antidepressants, accounting for about 49% of all prescriptions.

Based on numbers from gunviolencearchives.com , my graph shows the number of mass shootings per year to provide me with a visual sense of the vector curve acceleration. Mass shootings per year from 1996 to 2010 were in the single digits. From 2011 to 2014, the numbers were in the low two digits, never higher than 20. But since 2014, the numbers have grown to over 600+ per year. The human herd is culling itself, usually because of hatred. As Joni Mitchell said in her song Sex Kills, "Everyone hates everyone."

Drug trafficking is a vast and continuing problem. Underground chemists develop opioid synthetics faster than law enforcement can keep up. Unfortunately, a new additive to all illicit drugs is sweeping the nation, producing drug addict zombies. The Drug Enforcement Agency calls it the most dangerous drug because it is available to dealers on the dark web for only six to twenty dollars a kilogram. McPherson Square Library in the Kensington neighborhood of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, is recognized as the epicenter of Xylazine distribution and is an open-air drug market. The city is working to clean up the neighborhood, with some addicts entering treatment while the majority relocate. Officials often conflict with and work to expel local do-gooders who provide basic necessities, a clean needle exchange, and spiritual counseling.

Xylazine is the newest threat. Also known as ‘tranq,’ it is a veterinary tranquilizer that has been found in most Philadelphia illicit drug supplies. People often use Xylazine without knowing it. When it is added to other drugs like fentanyl , Xylazine extends or expands the experience. It slows breathing, heart rate, and blood pressure to dangerous levels. Narcan does not treat Xylazine.

Since opioids are often combined with Xylazine, experts recommend that people give opioid overdose reversal medications to those experiencing symptoms of Xylazine overdose. In addition to the risk of overdose , repeated xylazine use causes skin wounds, open sores (ulcers), and abscesses.

The National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) research explores Xylazine's effects on the body, its impact on communities, and its role in the overdose crisis. NIDA also supports broader research into changes to the drug supply and evolving patterns of drug use across the United States . This includes how and why people use drugs and are exposed to Xylazine and synthetic opioids like fentanyl .

2024 marks a record level for the cocaine industry. Colombia, the primary source of cocaine, has seen record levels of coca cultivation in recent years. This increased production leads to a larger supply of cocaine, driving down prices and making it more accessible. AI contributes hugely to the business efficiency of criminal enterprises and law enforcement.

Shifting Drug Trends : While the opioid crisis has dominated headlines, cocaine has experienced a resurgence in popularity, particularly among younger demographics. Improved chemical processes and technically improved equipment have made cocaine production much more efficient and cost-effective. The expansion of coca cultivation in South America has provided a steady stream of raw materials. Improved production and refining techniques have created higher-quality, more potent cocaine.

Marketing and Branding

Drug cartels have become increasingly sophisticated in marketing their products, often using social media and other platforms to reach a wider audience. Criminals instinctively create their own 'inner jargon' to mask activities and provide emoji codes that may evade detection by law enforcement, algorithms, and those utterly ignorant of the latest street talk and innuendoes. Cartels use data analytics to identify locations known for crime and to target and track their best sales prospects, who are usually young people experimenting with substances. Cartels often use visually appealing videos and images on the dark web to promote products.

I recommend that you don’t go down there, friends. It's a spooky place that provides massive anonymity of individual I.S.P. locations and crypto-currency exchanges. Down there in the underbelly of the Internet, cartels operate online encrypted marketplace platforms to sell drugs directly to end-users, cutting out the middleman.

Economic Fear Factors

Economic Inequality

Economic inequality and social disparities can drive individuals toward drug use as a coping mechanism or a means of escape.

Global Economic Trends

Global economic fluctuations can impact drug markets, leading to increased demand for certain substances, including cocaine.

Weakened Law Enforcement Helps the Bad Guys

Corruption and Incompetence

Corruption and a lack of resources within law enforcement agencies can hinder efforts to combat drug trafficking. Check policedata.com for relevant statistics.

Cross-Border Challenges

The complex nature of international drug trafficking makes it difficult for law enforcement agencies to disrupt supply chains effectively.

Ecuador and Drug Trafficking

Currently, life in Ecuador is being destroyed by drug trafficking, which has been significantly rising in recent years. In the past five years alone, Ecuador has evolved from a transit point to a logistical distribution center from which cocaine is sent to various parts of the globe, primarily to Europe and the United States. The country has become a major transit point for cocaine from Colombia and Peru, destined for markets in Europe and the United States. The recent sharp rise of drug trafficking has had a devastating impact on Ecuador, contributing to increased crime, violence, and instability. The government has supposedly addressed the problem, although it remains a significant challenge.

Factors that have contributed to this rise

Geographical location

Ecuador's strategic location between major cocaine-producing countries makes it an ideal transit point, especially for the expansion of drug distribution networks in Africa. Ships in international waters are loaded with contraband from smaller boats that meet them at specific coordinates. The offloading process works similarly when cargo ships approach the Netherlands and elsewhere.

Weak institutions

Corruption and a weak justice system have allowed drug trafficking organizations to operate with relative impunity. Ecuador's government lacks transparency at all. Ecuadoran officials engage in corruption with impunity. Many officials have been accused of corruption and have never been cleared or have undergone "unconvincing trials," at the end of which they go unpunished.

Economic challenges

Economic difficulties have made many people vulnerable to recruitment by drug trafficking organizations. With a large gap between the rich and the poor, income inequality contributes to the lure of easy money. Additionally, Ecuador has a significant national debt.

Increased violence

The influx of drugs has increased violence, gang warfare, and targeted killings. Ecuador's homicide rate has surged dramatically in recent years, particularly in 2023. According to sources including Statista, Human Rights Watch, and the U.N. Office of Drugs and Crime, the homicide rate in 2023 was approximately 44.5 per 100,000 inhabitants. This represents a significant increase from previous years, placing Ecuador among the most violent countries in Latin America.

Here's a comprehensive look at U.S. drug trafficking statistics:

Drug Trafficking Offenses - Distribution of Drug Types (F.Y. 2023)

Methamphetamine: 47.5%
Powder Cocaine: 18.9%
Fentanyl and Analogues: 17.7%
Heroin: 5.3%
Crack Cocaine: 4.6%
Marijuana: 3.0%
Oxycodone: 1.2%
Other: 1.9%

According to the National Household Survey on Drug Abuse, in 1999, approximately 1.5 million Americans were current cocaine users, representing 0.7% of the total population over 12 years old.

According to the 2023 Global Report on Cocaine by the U.N. Office on Drugs and Crime, an estimated 21.5 million people used cocaine in 2020. While there isn't an exact figure for 2023, the report suggests that the number of cocaine users is increasing globally. Cocaine is now experiencing a resurgence, with South American cartels now expanding their markets in Africa.

Economic Anxiety

A significant portion of the population worries about inflation and a potential recession, with 78% expressing anxiety about inflation and 70% about recession risks.

CatholicAnswers.com reports this clarification on inflation and political expediency:

"According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, average prices in the U.S.A. during September of 2024 were about 23 percent higher than four years earlier in September of 2020.

If you earned $100,000 in 2020, you would need $123,000 in 2024 to buy the same cart of groceries you bought four years earlier. Furthermore, any money you save is now worth less as well, as there is no credit union out there offering savings rates anywhere close to 23 percent.

Most Americans, especially those less affluent and raising families, can feel the decimation of income and savings inflicted by inflation. If this were a natural phenomenon like thunderstorms or earthquakes, we might not like it, but it would be hard to blame it morally."

Telescams

I recently hosted an elder abuse prevention panel in my research work for a webinar. I learned that in addition to all the other forms of abuse, financial abuse is rampant, primarily with elders. Fortunately, it is the easiest to prosecute because of the paper trail. In 2019, my friend Pat told me she was worried about her friend Odie, who had sent large sums of cash to some anonymous African caller (with caller I.D. blocking) who said it was for an obscure but "perfectly understandable reason" that I now forget. I warned her to warn her friend to stop, which sounded like a scam. She did not stop after an initial remittance of $3500.

Recently, I was informed that she had two more exchanges, sending significant amounts of cash before she ran out of money. Blinded by her pride and self-righteousness, self-brainwashed in a sense, she is still stubbornly awaiting a call-back from her Sector 5 Indian scammers. They socially engineered conversations to build a trust that was later broken.

You may ask, "How could people be so naive? Don't talk to strangers!" Before you judge, be aware that tele-scammers have scammed some very intelligent people because they are professional hackers. Criminals can recreate my voice from a sample audio recording that could have been grabbed from what may have sounded like an innocent survey telemarketing call. They use a voice changer in a crisis scam call that announces an urgent need to rescue the caller with a cash transfer.

Perhaps the caller will tell my friend that I was busted in Ensenada, Mexico, for an accident or a petty crime, and they need bail money now. The stories scammers use are creative, but fortunately, an army of scam-baiter agencies is confronting and trapping the criminal, providing surveillance and evidence to law enforcement. Watching some scam-baiter videos, I received a significant dopamine brain rush from witnessing justice served to those who take advantage of others. Links are provided below.

Industry experts estimate that billions of robocalls, many of which are scams, are made in the U.S. annually. The financial impact of these scams is substantial, with billions of dollars lost by Americans each year.

Identity Theft

Identity theft happened this year for several major companies. Here are some notable hacking incidents from 2024:

Ticket master Breach

Over 560 million customer records were exposed in a data breach that occurred in May 2024.

MOVE it Transfer Breach

A vulnerability in the MOVEit file transfer software led to the exposure of sensitive data from numerous organizations, including major corporations and government agencies.

Other Significant Breaches

Several other companies, including AT&T, Dell, and Bank of America, have reported data breaches in 2024, exposing millions of customer records.

Other Resources

For more detailed information and the latest updates on cyberattacks and data breaches in 2024, you can refer to the following resources:

IT Governance USA

https://www.itgovernanceusa.com/blog/data-breaches-and-cyber-attacks-in-2024-in-the-usa

UpGuard

https://www.upguard.com/blog/biggest-data-breaches-us

Bluefin Payment Systems

https://www.bluefin.com/bluefin-news/biggest-data-breaches-year-2024/

Heroes and Villains

Here is a list of nerdy scam-baiters who collectively have created a movement toexpose and trap criminals. They are passionate superheroes eager to teach thepublic about the dark side and how to recognize the 'yellow flag' signals of ascammer. If you are an elder, you may benefit from having a protective friendwho watches over your personal finance management. Here are some tech guys whochase and help to shut down cybercrime:

Kitboga

Known for his comedic approach to scam-baiting. Kitboga often impersonates elderlyindividuals or tech support agents to waste scammers' time and expose theirtactics. In 2026, he recently confused an AI tele-bot by making itobedient to stupid commands.

Jim Browning

Amore serious scam-baiter, Jim Browning focuses on exposing tech support scamsand online fraudsters. He often collaborates with law enforcement to bringscammers to justice.

Scammer Payback

Another serious scam-baiter, Scammer Payback targets a variety of scammers, includingtech support scammers, romance scammers, and cryptocurrency scammers. Pierogi is probably the most inventive regarding network surveillance andproviding enough hard evidence to authorities to help shut down major callcenters and make arrests. He cooperates with an internetwork of similarvigilante hackers to execute some amazing stunts in the name of justice, whichmercilessly hit the criminals hard, those who thrive on perfidy and theft.

Scambaiter

This channel features various scam-baiters, including Ansar Hamed, known for hisaggressive and confrontational style. It is a Patreon-supported site.

Scammer Revolts

This channel focuses on scam-baiting tech support scammers and exposing theirtactics. You may learn some creative ways to waste scammers' time when theycall you with offers.

Avah Outreach

"AVAH Outreach Group is an all-volunteer Victim Outreach Group that providescertified assistance to Victims of Scams. We provide FREE Victim Advocacy toany victim of a Scam. Our Victim Advocates are N.A.C.P. Certified in OnlineScams. We call victims of scams and educate them on how to safeguard theirpersonal info, prevent and remove scammers' access to all devices, and provideeducation on how to recognize a Scam. Our Focus is the interruption of livescams, reporting fraudulent bank accounts, and victim advocacy. We report tolaw enforcement, the F.B.I., adult protective services, victims' families, andvarious other institutions to help protect the vulnerable. We ask for nothingin return but to share the information provided to help raise awareness."

The Pandemic Aftermath

Distribution systems have changed, some permanently or gone. Things have never returned to'normal' since the pandemic's manufacturing, employment, and overall businessdisruption. Americans are adjusting to a 'new normal,' as the pandemic significantlyimpacted the primal emotional needs of people both in a social context and asemployees. Do you remember the Great Resignation? That may be officially over;however, it spawned some interesting mini-trends, such as more boomere-commerce ventures. With time on their hands, many contemplated andreorganized their life priorities regarding what success is to them personally.What is success to you? If you had to choose, would it be an achievement orauthenticity?

Political Climate Worries

Recent polls also show that concerns related to political instability and potentialviolence surrounding elections contributed significantly to overall anxietylevels. About 77% of adults cite worries about the nation's future as amajor stressor, with fears of political violence affecting their sense ofsecurity.

Trump's unsuccessful January 6th Insurrection traumatized a nation and instilled inpeople PTSD triggers that are not merely words but words that ignite strongfeelings.

I have two hot-head male friends, both with anger problems, who discredit theother's preferred political candidate. I've listened to both and understandtheir reasoning and, to a degree, their ignorance of some points. Both welcomeme as their friend and can carry the conversation to other subjects despiteoccasional, sometimes entertaining, 'good guy/bad guy' rants.

What concerns me about both of these men is not their viewpoints but the depth oftheir sincerity. It's as if they cannot objectively observe themselves, theirtemperaments, and their patterns. So, I do not feel 'divided' from my moreexpressive friends but foster a sincere curiosity in them and how they think,how they are influenced, and brainwashed by mass marketing, which strategicallypersuaded us in the 90s to transition from fearing the iniquitousness of theoncoming "Super Information Highway" to broadcasting our lives onlineand for some, to the point of neglecting offline relationships.

Worries about Life on Earth – Hot Climate Conversations

Having some history in the 1970s with energy conservation and phase one of passivesolar, I tread lightly here as I lean on the advice of my mentors, who includea University of Pennsylvania professor, a former NASA Climatologist, and a NOAAscientist.

To help you calm down, let me reassure you that since the 70s, we've known toexpect that the intensity and frequency of impactful, giant weather conditionswould make future climate scenarios predictable, although not comforting. Rapidchange is our new 'normal.' Climate changes such as ice ages happen. Likewise,mass migrations have been happening forever. They will continue as some areasbecome better or worse for agriculture, the foundation of any nation's economy,because of climate change and sea waters warming and rising. But don't despair.Study the advances in vertical farming.

Takeheed if you like Hollywood's Armageddon-style film plots featuring unbelievablyhuge ocean waves wiping out the East and West Coast, the YellowstoneSupervolcano popping, or killer pandemics (a fresh global PTSD event).

Mark Lynas's book Six Degrees describes what will happen as the Earth heatsup in one-degree stages. We are already in that one-degree stage of theAnthropocene era. Lynas is hopeful that we can put the brakes on our carbonfootprint. Now that renewables are cheaper than ever, we can do all the rightthings and hold the warming pace to only 2 degrees Celsius by the end of thiscentury. With continued mismanagement, it may rise to a dangerous 4% or 5%.

Here minds us that the United Nations' International Panel for Climate Control(IPCC) has said that climate change – "Rising greenhouseconcentrations caused by human activity is extremely likely, or has 95% - 100%probability. That means a one in three point five million chance that currentglobal warming is natural or a 0.0003% chance that the Republican party isright. Humanity cannot afford to ignore science's signals." Hereminds us, "We're set to hit one degree Celsius abovepre-industrial times (before 1900) and development of the steam-poweredfactories, trains, and boats."

Most global warming has gone into the heat content of the oceans. Are you ready fora numeral as interesting as 'Google?' Six zetajoules of energy are accumulatingin the upper oceans yearly. A joule is named after English physicist JamesPrescott Joule (1818–1889) and is defined as a unit of energy inthe InternationalSystem of Units (SI) equal to the amount of work donewhen a force of one newton displacesa mass through a distance of one meter inthe direction of that force. It is also the energy dissipated as heat when an electriccurrent of one ampere passesthrough a resistance ofone ohm forone second. It's a big number. A joule = 1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000.

Humans use about ½ joule every year in our consumption. A clearer, perhaps moredramatic way of explaining the degree of heat intensity is to say that animpact of six zetajoules per year is equivalent to the ocean experiencingnuclear explosions the size of three Hiroshima ‘Little Boy’ bombs, every threeseconds, 13 kilotons of force for each one. Count the seconds. One, two, three…Get the picture?

Economic Instability – Inflation and theConsumer Price Index

Rising prices and economic stability concern us. Despite consumer goods rising over23% since 2020, the good news is that wages are on a steady climb. Yes, thingscost more, but we are earning more, too, particularly lower-tier workers. Arecent Bureau of Labor Statistics Recent Wage Report stated that in October2024, average hourly earnings for all employees on private nonfarm payrollsrose by 13 cents, or 0.4 percent, to $35.46. Over the past 12 months, averagehourly earnings have increased by 4.0 percent. In October, average hourlyearnings of private-sector production and nonsupervisory employees rose by 12 cents, or 0.4 percent, to $30.48.

Why People Neither Save Enough or Do Not Understand Economics

Personal Income Rising

Although consumable costs increased by 23% from 2020 to 2024, incomes are rising,primarily for lower-income workers. 2024 spending is growing steadily, and the2024 holiday spending season is expected to be strong.

Low Financial Literacy Rates

Numerous studies consistently show that many Americans lack basic financial knowledge.Several recent studies consistently show that many Americans lack basicfinancial knowledge. Here are a few examples:

The P-Fin Index

This annual survey measures financial literacyin the US. The 2024 index revealed that financial literacy has hovered around50% for eight consecutive years, with a 2% drop in the past two years.

Experian Survey

This survey found that three in fiveadults feel their limited understanding of credit and personal finance has ledthem to make financial mistakes, with 60% of this group stating these mistakeshave cost them $1,000 or more.

Ramsey Solutions' Financial Literacy Crisis in America 2023 Report

This report highlights the lack of personal finance education in America and thelasting effects this lack of knowledge has on Americans, even years after theyleave high school.

These studies consistently point to a significant gap in financial knowledge amongmany Americans, which can lead to costly financial mistakes and long-termfinancial insecurity.

Many people overestimate their financial knowledge and skills, leading to poordecision-making. Several studies show that this phenomenon is often linked tothe Dunning-Kruger effect, where individuals with low ability mistakenly assesstheir ability as much higher than it actually is.

Key Findings from Various Studies

Overconfidence Bias

This cognitive bias makes people overestimatetheir abilities and knowledge, including financial knowledge. Studies haveshown that individuals often believe they are better investors than theyactually are, which can lead to risky investment decisions.

It'simportant to note that this overconfidence is not limited to a specificdemographic or socioeconomic group. People from all walks of life can besusceptible to this bias. To make better financial decisions, it's crucial tobe aware of this tendency and seek reliable information and advice fromqualified professionals.

Lack of Self-Awareness

Many people need moreself-awareness to assess their financial knowledge and skills accurately. Thiscan lead to overconfidence and poor decision-making, such as taking on too muchdebt or investing in risky assets.

Illusion of Control

People often believe they have more control over financial outcomes thanthey actually do. This illusion can lead to overconfidence and risk-takingbehavior, such as trying to time the market or picking individual stocks.

Limited Financial Education -The U.S. education system often needscomprehensive financial education, leaving many individuals unprepared tomanage their finances effectively. While specific studies directly addressingthe comprehensive lack of financial education in the U.S. education system maybe limited, numerous sources and reports highlight this issue.

Council for Economic Education (CEE)

The CEE's annual Survey of the States consistently shows that while financialeducation is gaining traction in many states, there's still significant roomfor improvement.

The2024 survey revealed that 35 states now require students to take a course in personalfinance to graduate, which is a significant increase. However, the depth andbreadth of these courses can vary widely.

National Financial Educators Council (NFEC)

The NFEC advocates for comprehensive financial education in schools and has publishednumerous reports on the importance of early financial literacy.

Theyhighlight the need for age-appropriate financial education, starting fromelementary school and continuing through high school.

OtherSources:

Media Reports

Numerous news articles and blog posts discuss the lack of financialeducation in schools and its impact on young adults.

Personal Finance Experts

Financial experts oftenadvocate for better financial education in schools, citing the challenges facedby young adults who lack basic financial knowledge.

It's important to note that while the U.S. education system is making strides infinancial education, there's still a significant gap between the knowledge andskills needed to manage finances effectively and what is currently being taughtin most US schools.

Recent polls suggest that around one-third of Americans support autocratic forms ofgovernment. This finding has raised global concerns about the health ofAmerican democracy. However, it's important to note that this doesn'tnecessarily mean they want a full-blown dictatorship. Some might supportspecific authoritarian policies or leaders who promise strong and decisiveaction.

It's crucial to analyze these findings in context to consider the nuances of publicopinion. Political polarization, economic anxiety, and distrust in institutionsmay contribute to these sentiments. Further research is needed to fullyunderstand the underlying reasons for this trend and its potential implicationsfor the future of American democracy. No matter what you hear, beware of fearbiasing your perceptions and feelings.

People choose autocracies when they desire the stability and order promised byautocratic leaders, even if it means losing individual freedoms. Peopledisillusioned with democracy, feeling it is basically corrupt or only the'tyranny of the 51% over the 49%,' prefer the decisiveness of an autocraticregime. Autocratic leaders often scapegoat minority groups or personal enemiesto unite people against a common perceived threat.

This can appeal to peoplewho feel anxious or insecure about their place in society, which is the vastnumber of people who do not take time to research, read, and study. They needto realize that the U.S. economy is currently doing better than ever.

However,the economy, say top economists, will crash due to the unanticipatedconsequences of tariffs designed to isolate the United States, provokecounter-tariffs, and limit trade. Unfortunately, many people believe theinformation they receive digitally represents the whole of reality. Itobviously does not.

Weare inextricably tied to China's economy because of the exports of rare earthmaterials necessary for our high-tech industry. China dominates the globalproduction and processing of rare earth elements, particularly heavy rareearths like dysprosium, gallium, and terbium, and light rare earths likeneodymium and praseodymium. This dominance gives China significant leverage inthe global market for these critical materials, essential for many high-techapplications. This should be considered as the U.S. threatens the Chinese andU.K. economies.

The U.K. predicts a loss of 22 billion dollars due to U.S. tariffs. Trump's trade2018 tariffs backfired, hurting U.S. farmers. Trump's anticipated nationaltariff/sales tax increase of 20% is predicted to disrupt American society, notjust financially massively.

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The Health of Democracy and Autocracy Fears

Emerging Technology Anxiety – The Robots AreHere!

Fueled by Hollywood's doomsday scenarios and the tendency for continued worry toamplify worry, some fear 'robot Armageddon' while others welcome AI with openarms. The field is split between countries that have welcomed AI and those abit more cautious, especially with A.I. demagogues like Sam Altman saying AI isstill in its infancy and is imperfect, clunky, and sometimes dishonest, as hasbeen proved by Chat GPT.

AI affects everything we manage. It has significantly impacted the success ofonline solo practitioners who now have executive digital assistants who canadapt to their style and train of thought to some degree and quickly producecontent. However, artificial content needs to be ranked better or may even bede-indexed by Google, especially now that humans review all web pages. The keyto using AI for writing content is only to generate ideas like outlines,titles, reference links, citations, and quotes. It is not a substitute forpersonal genius. AI cannot experience feeling impassioned or inspired tocompose a beautiful song or to write a touching love letter or profound poem.

Think about the shelf life of your content. Use AI wordsmithing for an advertisement,but I think you shouldn't use it for a book you are authoring. Obey the giantgorilla's E.E.A.T. mandate.

E-E-A-T is an acronym created by Google for Experience, Expertise, Authoritativeness,and Trustworthiness. It is not a ranking factor but a component of Google'sSearch Quality Evaluator Guidelines (SQEG). I've read them and understand thatGoogle wants excellent, engaging, original creativity reflected in honest,clear, and verifiable content. After reading the guidelines, I realized thatone could probably deduce these qualifiers if they could consider that mostpeople are NORPs, 'normal, ordinary, responsible persons' whomostly share common values like patriotism, God, family, self-fulfillment, andachievement, despite having oppositional points of view on how to manageresources. As a writer, refrain from cheating with AI Create original, dynamic,informative, engaging, and fun user content experiences that motivate a desirefor more information, involvement, and engagement, if indeed that is yourintent as a writer.

AI Changes Everything

A.I.influences everything from education to freedom and legal rights. A.I. has thepotential to both enhance and erode personal freedoms and legal rights. Hereare some key areas of concern:

Potential Benefits

EnhancedPrivacy: AI-powered tools can help individuals protect their privacy bydetecting and preventing data breaches. Do not skimp on online security.Identity theft hacking is rampant and often undetected. A.I. enablesscam-baiters to develop code in real time to crash criminal enterprises thatare stealing millions of dollars, mainly from the elderly.

ImprovedAccess to Justice

AI can assist in legal research, documentanalysis, and even decision-making, making legal services more accessible andaffordable. With AI assistance, virtual courts will alleviate caseloads byaccelerating the time it takes to move through them. AI scans voluminousevidence that can be difficult to read and absorb. It does so by searching and summarizingdocuments and by interacting with questions about findings.

IncreasedPersonalization

AI-drivencustomization can tailor services and products to individual needs andpreferences, potentially improving quality of life. This is particularly truewith e-commerce and streaming. Have you noticed the seeming serendipity of adspopping up about a product or service you recently reviewed, talked about,shopped for, or wrote about? Streaming algorithms suggest broadcasts similar toyour past online activities and choices.

Customized Healthcare

PersonalizedTreatment Plans

A.I. quickly analyzes patient data to create tailored treatment plans, improvinghealth outcomes and accelerating hospital customer flow.

EarlyDisease Detection

AI-powered tools can identify early signs ofdiseases, enabling timely intervention and prevention.

Image Analysis

AI can quickly as certain details in an X-ray thatmay not be immediately apparent.

Medical Imaging

AI algorithms can analyze medical images suchas X-rays, CT scans, and MRIs to identify abnormalities that may indicateearly-stage diseases.

Pathology

A.I. can analyze microscopic images of tissue samples to detect cancerous cells orother abnormalities.

Data Analysis

Electronic Health Records (EHRs): AI can identify patterns in EHR data to predict the riskof certain diseases.

GenomicData

A.I. can analyze genetic information to identify individuals at risk for specificdiseases. Nutrigenomics, the newest science, derives studies from analyzinghuman DNA.

Potential AI Risks

Mass Surveillance

AI-powered surveillancesystems can track individuals' movements, monitor their online activities, andanalyze their personal data, potentially infringing on privacy rights. Is thisa good thing or a bad thing?

Algorithmic Bias

AI algorithms can perpetuate and amplifyexisting biases, leading to discriminatory outcomes in areas like hiring,lending, and criminal justice.

Job Displacement.

Automation powered by AI could lead to job losses, particularly in routine and repetitivetasks, impacting economic opportunities and social well-being.

Erosion of Autonomy

Over relianceon AI decision-making could diminish individual autonomy and agency, as peoplemay increasingly rely on algorithms to make choices.

Deep fakesand Misinformation

AI can create highly realistic but false content, such as deepfakes,which can spread misinformation and undermine trust in information sources.

Robust ethical guidelines, regulations, and oversight mechanisms must be developed tomitigate these risks and maximize AI's benefits. This includes ensuringtransparency in AI systems, addressing bias, protecting privacy, and promotingaccountability. By proactively addressing these challenges, we can harness AI'spower to create a future that respects human rights and individual freedoms.

Adaptation – Our Species' Strength

A sin a Kung-fu principle, we will 'adapt to circumstances.'My geology instructor reminded me that notwithstanding surprises, ourspecies probably has another 50 million years before extinction, a shortgeologic time, but plenty of time to finish those never-time-to-get-done thingson your to-do list. We have other things to worry about besides extinction,although we contribute to it.

There is much more good in the world than bad. Still, many good things, surprises,and miracles happen every day that are not newsworthy. I remember a newsarticle in the reported that an elderly grandfather who was at a family picnicwas struck by lightning. Bad news, right? No. It restored his eyesight. See thelink below.

Closing Comments

It's important to note that the cybersecurity landscape constantly evolves, whichserves both good and bad hackers. My point is that despite these offenses andthe chaotic state of American politics, the sun will rise tomorrow. Somehow, weendure and survive the things we worry about. The real, and often biggerproblem is not the problem presented but our emotional reactions to stressors.Be self-aware of your emotional body. Self-awareness can help you to approachcalmness amidst a storm of trouble. My mom said, “It’s never darker thanmidnight.”

The combination of economic fears, specific crime concerns, and broader societalissues has led to a significant rise in anxiety regarding personal safety among Americans, and has affected how they relate to each other. This trendunderscores the need for ongoing tete-a-tete dialogue and action regardingmental health support and community safety initiatives. Let's listen to andtalk less about socio-political commentaries and predictions and insteadexplore about the things that are much more important in life. What do youvalue the most?

-Frank DeDominicis

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FBI

https://www.fbi.gov/news/press-releases/fbi-releases-2023-crime-in-the-nation-statistics

Gun Violence Stats

https://www.gunviolencearchive.org/

Mass Shootings

https://everytownresearch.org/mass-shootings-in-america/

Immoral Inflation

https://www.catholic.com/magazine/online-edition/inflation-and-theft

Kit boga: Scammer Loses$5M

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gtFEBY_9J30&t=1s

Hacked Scammers Respond toBeing Totally Destroyed

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yMtRu11kyW0

Jim Browning

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=txUmwD4IcMw

Scam Baiter

https://www.youtube.com/scambaiter

AVAH Outreach

https://avahoutreach.org/

Gallup: Concerns forPersonal Safety at an All-Time High

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Anti depressantprescribing increases by 35% in six years

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Scammer revolts: I DELETED every FILE off HER PC! SHE GOT ANGRY!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n-c0n4B_W3g

The Final Warning: Six Degrees of Climate – Mark Lynas

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Cocaine Surge Fuels Violence as Opium Falls: U.N. Drug Report 2024

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Dark Web Vendor Sentenced for Distributing Narcotics and Ordered to Forfeit $150M

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Offsite SEO Strategies to Boost E-E-A-T Signals.

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Canada invests $1.6 billion in minerals strategy to strengthen electric vehiclebattery supply chain https://evmagz.com/canada-to-invest-1-6-billion-in-minerals-strategy-to-strengthen-electric-vehicle-battery-supply-chain/

US employment and unemployment situation.

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Breaking the Silence: Unnecessary Violence Can Be Stopped

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Chapter I: Understanding Elder Abuse

Myths and Misconceptions

Case Studies and Real-Life Examples

Methods of Financial Abuse

Financial abuse of seniors is a pervasive issue that can take many forms, often leaving victims feeling vulnerable and powerless. One of the most common methods of financial abuse is through coercion or manipulation. In these cases, abusers may use threats or emotional pressure to gain access to a senior's finances. This could include insisting that the elder change their will, transfer assets, or even take out loans they do not fully understand. The emotional toll of such tactics can be profound, as victims might feel obligated to comply due to fear of conflict or concern for their abuser's well-being.

Another prevalent method of financial exploitation involves the misuse of the power of attorney or guardianship arrangements. In these scenarios, a trusted individual may be granted legal authority to manage the elder's finances. However, this trust can be betrayed when the appointed person uses their position to siphon funds for personal gain. This abuse of power often goes unnoticed until significant damage has occurred, making it crucial for families to regularly review financial transactions and maintain open communication with their elderly loved ones about their financial affairs.

Identity theft is an increasingly common method of financial abuse targeting seniors. Many older adults may need to become more familiar with technology, making them susceptible to scams involving stolen identities or fraudulent financial transactions. Scammers often pose as legitimate organizations, tricking seniors into providing personal information such as Social Security numbers or bank account details. This form of exploitation not only results in financial loss but can also lead to emotional distress and a sense of violation for the victim.

Additionally, financial abuse can manifest through neglect when caregivers fail to provide necessary support, leading to financial strain on older people. For instance, a caregiver may neglect to pay bills or manage finances properly, resulting in late fees or loss of services. This neglect can be particularly harmful in assisted living facilities, where residents may rely on caregivers for financial management. Families need to monitor the financial health of their loved ones in these settings to ensure that they receive the proper care and that their financial resources are managed appropriately.

The involvement of technology in financial exploitation cannot be overlooked. AI has increased efficiencies for systems and processes controlled by both good and evil characters. The bad guys mostly hide downstairs in the dank basement of the dark web and only surface to steal.

With the rise of online banking and digital transactions, seniors are more than ever particularly vulnerable to digital scams that exploit their unfamiliarity with technology. Cybercriminals often target older adults with phishing schemes, fake online offers, and fraudulent emails that can lead to identity theft and financial loss. Educating seniors about safe online practices and the signs of potential scams is essential in empowering them to protect their finances and reduce the risk of exploitation. Recently, I've received several SMS messages that use the logo of the US Postal Service, the format of which looks exactly like the USPS, asking me to confirm my address and to pay for some remaining postage. The USPS informed me that this is a popular scam and that they would never make such a request for information or money.

Support for Caregivers

Chapter III: Emotional and Psychological Abuse in Elder Care

Myths and misconceptions surrounding elder abuse significantly hinder efforts to recognize, report, and prevent such injustices. One prevalent myth is that elder abuse is a rare occurrence, often dismissed as something that happens only in isolated incidents or in specific settings. In reality, research indicates that elder abuse is more common than many people realize, affecting millions of older adults each year. This misconception can lead to a lack of awareness and vigilance, allowing abuse to persist unchallenged. It is crucial to acknowledge that elder abuse can happen in various environments, including private homes, assisted living facilities, and nursing homes.

Another common misconception is that only physical abuse constitutes elder abuse, leading to the neglect of other forms, such as emotional and psychological abuse. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as bodily harm, manifesting in verbal insults, intimidation, and isolation. This misconception often results in caregivers and family members overlooking critical signs of distress in elderly individuals. Understanding that elder abuse encompasses a range of harmful behaviors, including financial exploitation and neglect, is essential for correctly identifying and addressing these issues.

The belief that reporting elder abuse will not lead to meaningful change often discourages individuals from taking action. Many fear that reporting abuse will only worsen the situation for the victim or lead to family conflict. However, reporting is a critical step in ensuring the safety and well-being of elderly individuals. Support systems, legal protections, and community resources are in place to help victims navigate these challenges and receive the care they deserve. By debunking these myths and misconceptions, society can better understand the complexities of elder abuse and foster a culture of vigilance and support for vulnerable populations.

Many people also believe that elderly individuals are not capable of recognizing or reporting abuse, which can further perpetuate the cycle of silence. While cognitive decline can affect some seniors, many retain their faculties and can articulate their experiences. This myth can disempower elderly victims, making them feel that their voices do not matter or that their concerns will not be taken seriously. Empowering seniors and validating their experiences is vital in creating an environment where they feel safe to report abuse and seek help.

Additionally, there is a misconception that elder abuse is solely a problem of caregivers or families with a history of dysfunction or violence. While these factors can contribute to abusive situations, elder abuse can occur in any demographic, regardless of socioeconomic status, education, or family background. This belief can lead to a stigma surrounding families who are genuinely caring for their elderly relatives, making it crucial to approach the issue with an understanding that abuse can arise from various circumstances, including caregiver stress and lack of resources.

Elder abuse is defined as any intentional act or failure to act that causes or creates a risk of harm to an older adult. It encompasses a range of abusive behaviors, which can manifest physically, emotionally, financially, or through neglect. The complexity of elder abuse arises from its multifaceted nature, often involving caregivers or family members who exploit their relationship with older people for personal gain or due to stress and burnout. Understanding the various forms of elder abuse is crucial for identification and prevention, as it empowers individuals to recognize signs of abuse and take action when necessary. I hope this article serves you thusly.

Physical abuse is one of the most visible forms of elder abuse, characterized by the use of force that results in bodily injury or pain. This can include hitting, slapping, or other physical aggression directed towards an older adult.

Indicators of physical abuse may manifest as unexplained injuries, frequent bruising, or withdrawal from social interactions. Emotional and psychological abuse, on the other hand, involves inflicting mental distress through verbal assaults, humiliation, or isolation. Victims of this type of abuse may show signs of anxiety, depression, or changes in behavior that signal their suffering.

Financial exploitation is another critical type of elder abuse, where perpetrators illegally or improperly use an older adult's funds or assets. This can occur through theft, fraud, or power of attorney misuse. Victims of financial exploitation may experience sudden changes in their financial situation, such as missing funds or unexplained withdrawals. It is essential to recognize the signs of financial abuse, as it can leave seniors vulnerable and without the necessary resources for their care and well-being. Attorney Paul Greenwood speaks on this matter and the prosecution process.

Neglect, often seen in assisted living facilities, occurs when a caregiver fails to provide the necessary care and support that an elderly individual requires. This form of abuse can manifest as a lack of basic needs being met, such as food, medical care, or hygiene. Signs of neglect may include malnutrition, untreated medical conditions, or unsanitary living conditions. Caregiver stress is a significant factor contributing to neglect; overwhelmed caregivers may struggle to fulfill their duties, leading to lapses in care that can severely impact the health and safety of older people. The pandemic lockdown massively exacerbated caregiver stress.

Recognizing the legal rights of elderly victims is crucial in addressing elder abuse. Many jurisdictions have laws designed to protect seniors and provide avenues for reporting abuse. Search for your state's relevant legislation. Neglect, often seen in assisted living facilities, occurs when a caregiver fails to provide the necessary care and support that an elderly individual requires. This form of abuse can manifest as a lack of basic needs being met, such as food, medical care, or hygiene. Signs of neglect may include malnutrition, untreated medical conditions, or unsanitary living conditions. Caregiver stress is a significant factor contributing to neglect; overwhelmed caregivers may struggle to fulfill their duties, leading to lapses in care that can severely impact the health and safety of older people. The pandemic lockdown massively exacerbated caregiver stress levels.

Understanding these legal protections can empower victims and their advocates to seek justice and support. Additionally, fostering support systems for elder abuse survivors is vital, which is covered in chapter eleven. These systems can include community resources, counseling services, and legal assistance, all aimed at helping survivors heal and rebuild their lives after experiencing abuse. Through education and awareness, we can work toward breaking the silence surrounding elder abuse and creating a safer environment for older adults. Often, compassionate abuse counselors are former victims.

Statistics and Prevalence

Chapter II: Financial Exploitation of Seniors

Case studies and real-life examples provide critical insights into the multifaceted issue of elder abuse, illustrating the complexities involved and the urgent need for awareness and intervention. One poignant case involved an older adult named Margaret, whom her adult son financially exploited. Over several years, he gradually gained control over her finances, convincing her to sign over power of attorney under the guise of helping manage her affairs. Despite her initial trust, Margaret eventually found herself in a precarious financial situation, unable to pay her medical bills and basic living expenses. This example highlights seniors' vulnerabilities, particularly regarding familial relationships, and underscores the importance of recognizing the signs of financial exploitation early on.

In another case, an assisted living facility came under scrutiny after reports emerged of systemic neglect affecting its residents. The whistleblower, a former caregiver, documented instances where residents were left unattended for extended periods, leading to severe health issues such as dehydration and untreated infections. This situation not only exemplifies neglect but also points to the broader systemic issues within elder care facilities, including understaffing and caregiver burnout. The legal ramifications of such neglect are significant, as they can lead to lawsuits and increased regulatory scrutiny, ultimately aiming to protect vulnerable seniors and hold facilities accountable for their actions.

The emotional and psychological aspects of elder abuse are equally alarming, as illustrated by the case of Henry, an 82-year-old man who experienced ongoing verbal abuse from his caregiver. Initially hired to assist with daily living activities, the caregiver's behavior escalated to intimidation and belittlement, severely impacting Henry's mental health. He became withdrawn and anxious, exhibiting signs of depression that went unnoticed by his family. This case underscores the need for families to understand the emotional toll caregiving dynamics can have on seniors and the importance of fostering supportive environments prioritizing mental well-being.

Cultural factors also play a significant role in elder abuse, as evidenced by a case involving an immigrant family where cultural norms discouraged seeking external help. An elderly grandmother was subjected to isolation and emotional abuse within her home, with family members insisting that seeking outside assistance would bring shame to the family. This highlights the challenges faced by culturally diverse populations in recognizing and addressing elder abuse. It stresses the importance of culturally sensitive approaches in prevention and intervention efforts, ensuring that resources are accessible and respectful of different traditions and beliefs.

Technology emerges as a powerful tool in the fight against elder abuse, as demonstrated by a community initiative implementing monitoring systems in assisted living facilities. The initiative successfully reduced neglect and exploitation by integrating surveillance and alert systems. Residents and their families felt more empowered to report abuse, knowing that there was a mechanism in place to track caregiver interactions. This case illustrates the potential of technology to prevent abuse and create a safer, more transparent environment for seniors. It serves as a reminder that innovative solutions, coupled with community support and advocacy, are essential in addressing the pervasive issue of elder abuse.

Prevention Strategies

Prevention strategies for elder abuse are crucial in safeguarding the rights and well-being of older adults. Awareness is the first step in prevention. Adult men and women must be educated on the various forms of elder abuse, including financial exploitation, emotional and psychological abuse, and neglect in assisted living facilities. Recognizing the signs of abuse is paramount. Knowing these indicators can empower individuals to take action, whether directly contacting the older adult or seeking professional help. Signs may include unexplained injuries, withdrawal from social activities, sudden changes in financial status, and neglect of personal care.

Legal rights play a significant role in preventing elder abuse. Elderly individuals have the right to live free from abuse and neglect, and family members and caregivers need to understand these rights.

Familiarizing oneself with local elder abuse laws, reporting mechanisms, and resources available for victims can equip adults with the necessary tools to advocate for older people. Moreover, it is essential to encourage seniors to assert their rights and seek help when necessary. Community education programs can be pivotal in informing caregivers and seniors about these legal protections.

Caregiver stress is an often overlooked factor that can contribute to elder abuse. Adult men and women involved in caregiving may experience immense pressure, leading to frustration and, in some cases, abusive behavior. Implementing support systems for caregivers is vital in preventing elder abuse. These systems can include respite care, support groups, and educational resources. By alleviating some of the burdens faced by caregivers, the likelihood of abuse diminishes. Encouraging open communication among caregivers, family members, and professionals can also help to identify stressors and provide solutions before they escalate.

Cultural factors must also be considered in the prevention of elder abuse. Different cultures may have varying beliefs and practices regarding aging and caregiving. Understanding these cultural nuances is essential for developing effective prevention strategies. Community outreach programs can help bridge the gap between cultures, fostering dialogue about elder care and respect for seniors. By promoting cultural competence among caregivers and service providers, the unique needs of diverse populations can be better addressed, ultimately reducing the risk of abuse.

Technology offers innovative solutions in the realm of elder abuse prevention. Utilizing monitoring systems, emergency response devices, and educational apps can enhance the safety of older adults. These technological tools can empower seniors to seek help and provide families and caregivers with peace of mind. Additionally, online resources and support networks can connect individuals with information and assistance, making reporting and preventing elder abuse easier. As the landscape of elder care continues to evolve, embracing technology will be key in fostering a safer environment for seniors and ensuring their dignity and rights are upheld. AI will amplify this progress.

Identifying Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is a critical yet often overlooked aspect of elder abuse that can have profound and lasting effects on older adults. This form of abuse includes verbal assaults, threats, intimidation, humiliation, isolation, and controlling behavior, which can severely impact an elder's mental and emotional well-being. Identifying emotional abuse can be particularly challenging, as it may not leave visible scars like physical abuse.

Understanding the signs and symptoms is essential for caregivers, family members, and friends who wish to protect and support their loved ones. Understanding may take work, as specific process observation skills that are not immediately apparent need to be developed and practiced.

Recognizing emotional abuse begins with observing changes in an elder's behavior or demeanor. Victims may exhibit signs of anxiety, depression, withdrawal, or fearfulness, particularly around certain individuals. They might become increasingly isolated from friends and family, showing reluctance to engage in social activities they once enjoyed.

Additionally, some elders may lack self-esteem or self-worth, manifesting in submissive behaviors or an inability to make decisions for themselves. These behavioral changes can serve as crucial indicators that an elder may be experiencing emotional abuse, which can be personal or institutional abuse.

Another important aspect of identifying emotional abuse is listening to the elder's verbal expressions. Many victims may downplay their experiences due to fear, shame, or embarrassment. They might use vague language or avoid discussing their feelings altogether. Caregivers and family members should be attuned to phrases that suggest feelings of worthlessness, helplessness, or fear of retribution. Direct, compassionate conversations can help elders feel safe enough to share their experiences, making it essential for loved ones to create an environment of trust and support.

It is also vital to consider the dynamics of power and control that often characterize emotional abuse. Abusers may use manipulation, gaslighting, or coercive tactics to maintain dominance over their victims. For instance, an elder may be told they are forgetful or incapable of making sound decisions, leading them to doubt their judgment and abilities. This manipulation can create a cycle of dependency, wherein the elder feels trapped and unable to seek help. Recognizing these patterns is crucial for identifying emotional abuse and intervening effectively to protect older people.

Understanding the broader context of emotional abuse, including cultural factors and systemic issues, is essential for effective identification and prevention. Cultural norms about aging, respect for authority, and family dynamics can influence how emotional abuse is perceived and addressed. Additionally, the pressures placed on caregivers, such as caregiver stress and financial burdens, can exacerbate abusive behaviors. By fostering awareness and education about emotional abuse, communities can empower individuals to recognize its signs and advocate for the rights and dignity of older adults. This awareness is a crucial step toward breaking the silence surrounding elder abuse and ensuring that vulnerable individuals receive the support they need.

Long-Term Effects on Victims

The long-term effects of elder abuse on victims and bystanders who directly witness abuse can be profound and multifaceted, impacting both physical and psychological well-being. Victims of physical abuse may experience chronic pain, mobility issues, and other health complications that persist long after the abuse has occurred. These physical ailments can lead to a decreased quality of life and increased reliance on healthcare services, often resulting in a cycle of dependency that can be difficult to escape. Additionally, the fear and trauma associated with abuse can exacerbate existing health conditions, further complicating the victims' physical health landscape.

Emotional and psychological abuse can leave lasting scars that are not always visible but are equally damaging. Victims may suffer from depression, anxiety, and debilitating post-traumatic stress disorder, leading to a pervasive sense of hopelessness and isolation. The impact of such mental health issues can hinder a victim's ability to engage with their community and maintain relationships with family and friends.

Over time, emotional repercussions can significantly diminish a victim's social support network, further entrenching them in a cycle of abuse and neglect. Getting distracted by and lost in mental ruminations about past injustices and hurts can take someone away from being fully present in the here and now and being fully attentive of others who are present with them.

Financial exploitation, a form of elder abuse that often goes unreported, can have devastating long-term effects on a victim's economic stability and independence. Seniors who fall victim to scams or theft may face severe financial constraints, which can lead to poverty, loss of housing, and an inability to access necessary medical care. The stress and anxiety resulting from such exploitation can also contribute to a decline in mental health as victims grapple with feelings of shame and vulnerability. Rebuilding financial security after exploitation can be a daunting task, often requiring significant legal intervention and support.

Neglect in assisted living facilities poses additional long-term consequences for elderly victims. Poor living conditions, lack of proper nutrition, and inadequate medical care can lead to serious health complications, including malnutrition, dehydration, and untreated medical conditions. These issues not only affect physical health but can also lead to feelings of abandonment and worthlessness, further exacerbating psychological trauma. Victims of neglect may also face difficulties in regaining autonomy and trust in caregivers, which can hinder their recovery and overall well-being. Trust may not be easily rebuilt after a breach or several defections of trust.

Understanding these long-term effects is crucial for caregivers, healthcare professionals, and society as a whole to prevent and address elder abuse effectively. Awareness of the signs of abuse and the various forms it can take is essential in creating support systems for victims. Legal rights for elderly individuals must be reinforced to empower them to speak out against their abusers and seek justice. By fostering a culture of vigilance, compassion, and advocacy, we can help ensure that the long-lasting effects of elder abuse are recognized and mitigated, paving the way for healing and recovery for those affected.

Interventions and Support

Interventions and support play a crucial role in addressing elder abuse, whether it manifests as financial exploitation, emotional or psychological abuse, or neglect within assisted living facilities. The first step in effective intervention is recognizing the signs of elder abuse. Symptoms can vary widely, including unexplained injuries, sudden changes in financial situations, withdrawal from social activities, and neglect of personal hygiene. Awareness and education are vital for both the general public and those involved in elder care. By understanding these indicators, family members, friends, and caregivers can better identify when an elder might be suffering from abuse and take appropriate action.

Once abuse is suspected, the next step is to provide immediate support to the affected individual. This may involve ensuring their safety and well-being, which could mean removing them from a harmful environment or facilitating access to medical care. Emotional support is equally essential; victims of elder abuse often feel isolated and powerless. Encouraging open communication can help victims express their feelings and experiences, alleviating some of the emotional burden they carry. Support groups, whether in-person or online, can also offer a space for victims to connect with others who have faced similar challenges, fostering a sense of community and understanding.

In cases of financial exploitation, intervention may require legal assistance to protect the victim's assets. Educating elderly individuals about their legal rights is essential; they should know they can report abuse and seek legal recourse. Resources such as legal aid organizations and elder law attorneys can help victims navigate the complexities of the legal system.

Furthermore, empowering seniors with knowledge about their financial affairs can help prevent exploitation before it occurs. This includes understanding banking practices, recognizing common scams, and knowing how to set up protections like power of attorney. Given that many people do not study and practice personal financial management, and many do not practice the habit of saving, some adult children of seniors could benefit from financial education.

Caregiver stress is another critical factor in the prevention of elder abuse. Many caregivers face overwhelming responsibilities that can lead to burnout, frustration, and, in some cases, abusive behavior. Addressing caregiver well-being through support systems that offer respite care, counseling, and training is essential.

By providing caregivers with the resources they need to manage stress, we can reduce the likelihood of abuse and create a healthier environment for both caregivers and elderly individuals in their care. Programs that promote self-care and stress management strategies can significantly improve the quality of care provided to seniors.

The home healthcare aide industry has experienced a steady upward trend for several years, with peak growth coinciding with the COVID-19 pandemic.

Several factors contributed to this surge

Aging population

As the baby boomer generation ages, there is a growing need for in-home care and assistance in nursing homes.

Chronic diseases

The increasing prevalence of chronic diseases such as Alzheimer's, diabetes, and heart disease requires ongoing care, often provided by healthcare aides.

Pandemic-related demand

The COVID-19 pandemic highlighted the critical role of healthcare aides in providing essential care to patients, leading to increased demand for their services.

While the exact peak of the growth trend is difficult to pinpoint, the years leading up to and during the pandemic saw a significant acceleration in the demand for healthcare aides. This trend is expected to continue as the population ages and the healthcare landscape evolves. As of 2024, the national average annual salary for home healthcare aides in the United States is around $25,260.

Cultural factors must be considered in the context of elder abuse interventions. Different cultures have varying beliefs and practices regarding aging and elder care, which can influence how abuse is perceived and reported. Tailoring interventions to respect cultural values while addressing the needs of elderly victims is vital for effective support.

Technology also plays a pivotal role in prevention efforts; innovative solutions like monitoring systems, mobile apps, and companion robots can help families stay connected and alert them of potential signs of abuse. By combining education, legal support, caregiver assistance, and culturally sensitive approaches, we can create a comprehensive framework for preventing and addressing elder abuse, ensuring that our seniors receive the dignity and care they deserve.

Chapter IV: Neglect in Assisted Living Facilities

Types of Neglect

Neglect of older people can manifest in various forms, each with distinct characteristics and implications for each individual affected. One primary type of neglect is physical neglect, which refers to the failure of caregivers to provide essential physical needs such as food, water, shelter, and medical care.

This form of neglect can lead to severe health complications, malnutrition, and deteriorating living conditions. In many cases, elderly individuals may be left in unsanitary environments or deprived of necessary medical attention, which significantly impacts their overall well-being and quality of life.

Another significant type of neglect is emotional or psychological neglect. This occurs when caregivers fail to provide the emotional support and companionship that elderly individuals require. Emotional neglect can manifest as social isolation, lack of communication, or dismissive attitudes towards the elder's feelings and needs, such as wanting prayer time.

The consequences of such neglect can be profound, leading to increased feelings of worthlessness, depression, or anxiety in older adults. Recognizing the signs of emotional neglect is crucial, as it can often be overlooked compared to more visible forms of abuse. If you're untrained to observe these symptoms, get support from experienced professionals.

Financial neglect is also a critical concern, particularly as many elderly individuals may rely on caregivers to manage their finances. This neglect can include failing to pay bills, manage funds appropriately, or protect an elder's assets, often resulting in financial instability for the affected individual. In some cases, caregivers may misuse the elder's funds, leading to exploitation. Recognizing the signs of financial neglect is essential for safeguarding the financial well-being of seniors, as it can compound the suffering caused by other forms of neglect.

Neglect can take on institutional characteristics in assisted living facilities, where staff may be overwhelmed or inadequately trained to provide proper care. This type of neglect can result in insufficient attention to residents, leading to unmet basic needs, a lack of appropriate medical care, and a general decline in the quality of life for the elderly individuals residing there. Families must be vigilant and aware of the standards of care provided in these facilities, advocating for their loved ones to ensure they receive the necessary support and attention.

The turnover rate for executive directors of senior living facilities in the USA can vary significantly. Factors such as company size, location, compensation, and overall industry trends can influence this rate. While specific data can fluctuate, industry sources suggest that turnover rates for executive directors in senior living facilities have been relatively high in recent years.

This is often attributed to the demanding nature of the role, long hours, and the challenges associated with managing complex operations in a rapidly evolving healthcare sector. Some studies indicate that turnover rates for executive directors can exceed 30% annually. However, this figure can vary depending on the data source and methodology. Imagine what this high turnover rate does to morale and service quality.

Cultural factors can also influence neglect, and certain cultural beliefs may contribute to the devaluation of elders and their needs. In some cultures, family members may be expected to provide care without adequate support or resources, leading to caregiver stress and potential neglect. Understanding these cultural dynamics is essential for developing effective prevention strategies.

By addressing the various types of neglect and their underlying causes, society can take significant steps toward protecting vulnerable elderly individuals and ensuring their rights are upheld. To this point, how many senior living facilities do you know of that publish an annual summary review of the customer satisfaction survey completed by their residents?

Impact of Neglect on Seniors

Neglect of seniors is a critical issue that can have devastating consequences on their physical and mental well-being. It often manifests as a failure to provide essential care and support, which can occur in various settings, including homes and assisted living facilities. The lack of attention to basic needs, such as proper nutrition, hygiene, medical care, and emotional support, creates an environment where elderly individuals may suffer from deteriorating health, increased vulnerability to illness, and a decline in overall quality of life. Understanding the nuances of neglect is essential for recognizing its impact on this population and addressing the necessary interventions.

The physical ramifications of neglect can be severe. Seniors may experience malnutrition due to insufficient food or improper dietary care, leading to weight loss, weakness, and increased susceptibility to chronic illnesses. Inadequate medical attention can result in untreated conditions, which not only exacerbate existing health issues but lead to new complications. For instance, a senior not receiving regular medication may experience a resurgence of ailments that may have been managed with better care. The physical effects of neglect are not just immediate; in time, they can lead to long-term health consequences, including increased dependency on caregivers and healthcare systems.

Malnutrition has never been a problem for this senior adult. In the 1920s, the father of Western nutrition, who discovered phytonutrients, pioneer biochemist Carl Rehnborn, postulated that illness and disease were not necessarily due to invasion from foreign bodies but from a deficiency of something vital within. In the 1980s, his son, Dr. Sam Rehborn, taught me the basics of nutrition. With a vibrant, centenarian mom as my first botanical teacher when I was only 12, now at 75, I'm healthy, physically active, dancing, running, hiking, biking, and enjoying the best days of my life, climbing and exploring the Rocky Mountains. The CDC claims that only 12% of adults maintain a daily healthy meals nutrition regime. Are you or someone you care about one of the 88%?

Emotional and psychological neglect can be just as harmful, often resulting in feelings of loneliness, depression, and anxiety. Seniors who are neglected may feel invisible and unvalued, leading to a profound sense of isolation. This emotional toll can erode their self-esteem and exacerbate mental health issues, creating a vicious cycle of neglect and despair. When caregivers fail to engage with seniors on an emotional level, they deny them the companionship and support crucial for maintaining mental wellness. This neglect can hinder their ability to cope with the challenges of aging, further isolating them from the social interactions that are vital for their emotional health.

Recognizing the signs of neglect is essential for prevention and intervention. Family members, friends, and professionals must remain vigilant for indicators such as poor hygiene, unexplained weight loss, untreated health issues, and signs of emotional distress. These warning signs may not always be obvious, particularly in cases where seniors are hesitant to speak out due to fear of repercussions or a lack of understanding of their situation. Therefore, awareness and education on the signs of neglect are crucial for empowering individuals to take action and seek help for those who cannot voice their needs.

Standards and Regulations

Standards and regulations play a crucial role in the effort to prevent and address elder abuse, ensuring that vulnerable populations are protected from harm. Various laws and policies have been established at both state and federal levels to create a framework for safeguarding seniors against different forms of abuse, including financial exploitation, emotional and psychological mistreatment, and neglect in assisted living facilities. These regulations not only set forth the expectations for caregivers and facilities but also outline the rights of elderly individuals, enabling them to understand and assert their protections under the law.

One of the primary regulations governing the treatment of seniors is the Older Americans Act, which provides funding for services to prevent elder abuse and support victims. This legislation mandates establishing protective services programs that investigate reports of abuse and provide necessary interventions. Additionally, the Act emphasizes the importance of training for caregivers and professionals in recognizing the signs of elder abuse, thereby fostering a more informed approach to care and prevention. Compliance with these standards is essential for facilities and caregivers to maintain accreditation and ensure the safety of their residents.

State laws also play a significant role in defining and addressing elder abuse. Each state has its own set of statutes that specify what constitutes abuse, the reporting requirements, and the penalties for violating these laws. For instance, many states require mandatory reporting of suspected elder abuse by healthcare professionals, social workers, and others who interact with seniors. These laws create a safety net for elderly individuals, encouraging timely reporting and intervention. Understanding these regulations is vital for caregivers, family members, and seniors themselves, as they provide a clear pathway for action when abuse is suspected.

In addition to the job of defining abuse and establishing reporting mechanisms, standards, and regulations address the psychological and emotional aspects of elder care. Facilities are often required to implement policies that promote a respectful and dignified environment for residents, which includes training staff to recognize and respond appropriately to emotional abuse. Recognizing the impact of caregiver stress on the quality of care is another critical aspect of these regulations. By fostering a supportive environment for caregivers, facilities can reduce the likelihood of burnout and the subsequent risk of abuse, enhancing the overall well-being of caregivers and seniors.

One quick note in defense of non-empathetic employees: it should be duly noted that people may express and have the capacity for varying degrees of empathy. This is only a style point, not a value judgment. Some people are naturally much more emotional and huggy than those who prefer not to be touched physically or emotionally. Do not marginalize the less expressive folks. They feel empathy, too, but other more hypercritical aspects of their personality may upstage the impression others have of them. This point refers to early DiSC theory by the controversial and provocative William Moulton Marston.

Cultural factors also influence the effectiveness of standards and regulations in preventing elder abuse. Regulations must be sensitive to the diverse backgrounds of elderly individuals, ensuring that services are accessible and appropriate for all cultural groups. This includes recognizing family dynamics, communication styles, and elder care values. By incorporating cultural competence into training and policy development, regulators can create a more inclusive system that better serves the needs of all seniors. Ultimately, a robust understanding of the existing standards and regulations is essential for anyone involved in elder care, as it empowers them to advocate for the rights and safety of elderly individuals.

Chapter V: Recognizing Signs of Elder Abuse

Physical Signs

Physical signs of elder abuse can manifest in various forms, making it essential for caregivers, family members, and community members to remain vigilant. These signs may include unexplained bruises, cuts, or fractures, which often raise red flags about the treatment an elderly individual receives. While some injuries may result from natural causes, such as falls, it is crucial to differentiate between accidental injuries and those that may indicate abuse. Consistent patterns of injury, especially when coupled with a lack of explanation from caregivers, warrant further investigation.

In addition to visible injuries, malnutrition and dehydration are significant physical indicators of neglect in assisted living facilities. When elderly individuals do not receive adequate food or water, it can lead to serious health complications, including weight loss, weakness, and increased susceptibility to infections. Caregivers should be attentive to changes in an older adult's weight and hydration levels, as these can signify a lack of proper care. Regular monitoring of dietary intake and hydration is vital for ensuring the well-being of elderly individuals, particularly those with specific health needs.

For patients who are kept in restraints or cribs, roll them over regularly to check for bedsores, a severe sign of neglect that I personally witnessed in the 70s at infamous Pennhurst State School and Hospital.

Another critical physical sign to watch for is a decline in personal hygiene or a lack of proper medical care. Neglect can result in unkempt appearances, untreated medical conditions, and a general decline in health. If an older adult appears disheveled or shows signs of untreated ailments, it may indicate they are not receiving the necessary care or supervision. Caregivers must be trained to recognize these issues and understand that they are not just personal choices but potentially serious indicators of neglect or abuse.

Moreover, behavioral changes in elderly individuals can also reflect physical abuse or neglect. An elder who suddenly becomes withdrawn, fearful, or agitated may signal distress related to their treatment. The correlation between physical and psychological well-being is significant, and changes in behavior can often accompany physical signs of abuse. Caregivers and family members should communicate openly to encourage elderly individuals to express their feelings and concerns, creating an environment where they feel safe to report mistreatment. Unfortunately, most people are not active listeners but are simply individuals rehearsing what they will say when it is their turn to talk.

Recognizing physical signs of elder abuse is not only about identifying potential harm but also about understanding the legal rights of elderly victims. Victims of abuse have the right to seek help and protection, and understanding these rights empowers them and their advocates to take necessary action. Reporting suspected abuse is crucial, as it not only addresses the immediate situation but also contributes to a broader effort to prevent elder abuse in various settings. Awareness of these signs and their legal framework can help create a more supportive and protective environment for vulnerable elderly individuals. Document your loved one's condition regularly with notes and photographs.

Behavioral Indicators

Behavioral indicators are critical in identifying potential elder abuse, as they often serve as the first signs of distress in vulnerable individuals. Recognizing these behaviors can empower caregivers, family members, and friends to take proactive steps in addressing and preventing further harm. Common indicators include withdrawal from social interactions, sudden changes in mood, or unexplained fear of certain individuals. These behavioral shifts may reflect the emotional and psychological toll that abuse, whether financial, physical, or emotional, has on older people. Those involved in elder care must maintain a vigilant eye for these signs, which can often be subtle yet profound.

Financial exploitation of seniors can manifest through specific behavioral changes as well. Victims may display signs of confusion or an unusual preoccupation with financial matters, such as sudden changes in spending habits or reluctance to discuss financial decisions. They may also be less communicative about their finances or become defensive when questioned about their financial situation. This behavior could indicate that they are experiencing undue influence or coercion from a caregiver or family member, making it crucial for those close to them to engage in open and supportive conversations that encourage disclosure and clarity.

Emotional and psychological abuse often leaves deeper scars that can be more challenging to identify. Victims may exhibit signs of anxiety, depression, or low self-esteem, which can present as a lack of interest in activities they once enjoyed or a pervasive sense of hopelessness. They may also have difficulty making decisions or expressing their needs and feelings. The impact of such abuse can be profound, leading to isolation and a deterioration of mental health, which can further complicate their ability to seek help. Understanding these behavioral indicators can help caregivers and loved ones provide the necessary support and interventions.

Neglect in assisted living facilities can also produce notable behavioral indicators. Residents may appear unkempt, show signs of malnutrition, or have untreated medical conditions. They may express dissatisfaction with their living conditions or report feeling ignored or neglected by staff. Increased agitation or a decline in cognitive function may also be observed. Recognizing these signs is critical for ensuring that elderly individuals receive the care and attention they deserve, highlighting the importance of regular assessments and open lines of communication between residents and their families.

Cultural factors can influence how behavioral indicators are perceived and addressed in the context of elder abuse. Different cultural backgrounds may shape attitudes toward aging, caregiving, and family responsibilities, which can affect how abuse is recognized and reported. It is essential for caregivers and advocates to approach these situations with some measure of cultural competence, understanding the nuances of each individual's background. By fostering an environment of trust and respect, caregivers can better support elderly individuals, encouraging them to express their concerns and experiences. This approach can significantly enhance the reporting and prevention of elder abuse, ultimately leading to safer and more supportive environments for seniors. .

Environmental Clues

Environmental clues play a critical role in identifying and understanding the dynamics of elder abuse. These clues encompass the physical surroundings of older adults, including their living conditions, interactions with caregivers, and community resources. By recognizing the signs in an elder's environment, individuals can better assess potential risks and take appropriate action to prevent or report abuse. Family members, friends, and caregivers need to be vigilant and aware of the subtle indicators that may reveal underlying issues of neglect or exploitation. Unfortunately, some siblings may habitually argue for their opinions instead of seeking consensus.

One significant environmental clue is the condition of an elder's living space. Clutter, uncleanliness, or a lack of basic necessities can indicate neglect, for instance, if an older adult is living in an unsafe or unsanitary environment.

It could suggest that they are not receiving adequate care. Similarly, the presence of unpaid bills, eviction notices, or lack of access to food and medical supplies may point toward financial exploitation or emotional abuse. Observing these conditions can provide crucial insights into the well-being of elderly individuals and the quality of care they receive.

Interactions between elders and their caregivers can also provide valuable environmental clues. A caregiver who is overly controlling, dismissive, or aggressive in their communication may be exhibiting signs of emotional or psychological abuse. Conversely, a caregiver's consistent absence or lack of engagement could indicate neglect, possibly. Family members should observe these interactions closely, noting any changes in behavior or demeanor that may suggest an unhealthy dynamic. Building relationships with older people and their caregivers can help create a supportive atmosphere where such issues can be more readily identified.

Community resources and support systems are another aspect of the environment that can influence elder abuse dynamics. Access to social services, medical care, and community programs can significantly impact an elder's quality of life. When these resources are limited or unavailable, the risk of abuse may increase. For example, isolation from friends and family can leave older adults vulnerable to manipulation and exploitation. Engaging with local organizations focusing on elder care can provide essential support and facilitate connections that help prevent abuse.

Cultural factors must be considered when examining environmental clues related to elder abuse. Different cultural backgrounds may influence the perception of aging, caregiving, and family responsibilities. Understanding these cultural nuances is essential for recognizing and addressing elder abuse effectively. By fostering an inclusive environment that respects all the diverse perspectives on aging, communities can better support their elderly members, ensuring they feel valued and protected. Awareness of these environmental clues can empower individuals to take action, ultimately breaking the silence surrounding elder abuse and promoting a safer, more supportive environment for seniors.

Chapter VI: Legal Rights of Elderly Victims

Elder rights encompass a broad spectrum of protections and entitlements designed to ensure older adults' dignity, respect, and well-being. Central to this framework is the recognition that seniors have the same fundamental human rights as all individuals, including the right to live free from abuse, neglect, and exploitation. Laws and policies at both national and state levels have been established to safeguard these rights, reflecting society's commitment to protecting its most vulnerable members. The complexities of elder rights intersect with various forms of abuse, including physical, emotional, financial, and neglect, highlighting the need for a comprehensive understanding of these critical issues.

One of the most pressing concerns in the realm of elder rights is financial exploitation, where older adults may be manipulated or coerced into relinquishing their assets. This type of abuse often occurs through deceitful practices, such as scams or the undue influence of trusted individuals, including family members or caregivers. Legal frameworks have been developed to address these issues, providing mechanisms for victims to reclaim their rights and financial stability. Awareness of these laws is essential for potential victims and those who serve them, as this knowledge can empower individuals to recognize and combat financial exploitation proactively. If you're in the USA, what are the relevant laws per your State?

Emotional and psychological abuse represents another significant violation of elder rights. This form of abuse can manifest through verbal assaults, intimidation, or isolation, leading to profound psychological harm. Recognizing the signs of such abuse is crucial for caregivers, family members, and friends who interact with older adults. Support systems, including counseling and mental health services, are vital in providing the necessary resources for victims to heal and reclaim their sense of agency. Efforts to raise awareness about the impact of emotional abuse contribute to a broader cultural shift towards respect and understanding of elder rights.

Neglect in assisted living facilities is a troubling aspect of elder rights that requires urgent attention. Many seniors rely on these facilities for care and support, yet neglect can occur when staff members fail to meet their basic needs. This neglect can lead to severe health consequences and a diminished quality of life for residents. Legal protections exist to ensure that facilities adhere to specific standards of care, but enforcement remains a challenge.

Advocacy for stronger regulations and oversight is essential to upholding the rights of older adults in these settings and ensuring they receive the care and respect they deserve. Positive aging advocate Jeff Rubin leads the movement for legislative recognition at https://bit.ly/Stop-Ageism .

Addressing caregiver stress is integral to preventing elder abuse and protecting elder rights. Caregivers often face immense pressure, which can lead to burnout and, in some cases, abusive behavior towards those they care for. By recognizing the signs of caregiver stress and providing adequate support, communities can help mitigate the risk of abuse. Educational programs and resources can equip caregivers with the tools to manage stress effectively, fostering healthier relationships between caregivers and the seniors they serve. Ultimately, a multifaceted approach emphasizing education, legal protections, and support systems is essential in promoting elder rights and preventing abuse. The most enlightened and advanced court-appointed guardians take a holistic approach to taking care of everything for their clients.

Statistics on elder abuse reveal a troubling reality that demands attention. Recent studies estimate that approximately one in ten older adults experience some form of abuse each year. This figure, however, may only scratch the surface, as many cases go unreported due to fear, shame, or lack of awareness. Among the different types of elder abuse, financial exploitation is particularly alarming; research indicates that older adults lose billions of dollars annually to scams and fraudulent schemes, often perpetrated by those they trust the most. Understanding the prevalence of these issues is crucial for effectively addressing and preventing elder abuse. Attorney Paul Greenwood profiles the family thief persona as a male still living at home or there because of a recent release from prison. Then, after all the jewelry and money are gone, fights erupt. Violence occurs, and usually, no one calls the cops.

Emotional and psychological abuse is another significant concern within elder care settings. Studies show that nearly 15% of older adults report experiencing emotional abuse, which can manifest as verbal harassment, intimidation, or isolation. This type of abuse can have profound impacts on an individual's mental health, leading to issues such as depression and anxiety. Caregivers, whether family members or professionals, may inadvertently contribute to this abuse due to their stress or lack of training in managing the emotional needs of seniors. Recognizing the signs of emotional abuse is essential for intervention and support. In 2021, my centenarian mother complained about being left alone late at night, helpless in her hospital bed, while her caretaker would leave "only for twenty minutes to go fetch pizza or go to the store," she said nonchalantly.

Neglect, particularly in assisted living facilities, is often a hidden form of elder abuse that is difficult to quantify. Research indicates that neglect affects approximately 30% of residents in long-term care settings, including failing to provide adequate food, medical care, or companionship. The consequences of neglect can be severe, leading to physical deterioration and emotional distress among older adults. Families must be vigilant in monitoring the care their loved ones receive and advocating for their needs to ensure they are not victims of neglect. Remember that the foods mass-marketed to us are usually the most profitable, not the most nutritious. Diseases can mean a certain botanical lack.

Legal rights for elderly victims of abuse are increasingly being recognized, yet many older adults remain unaware of the protections available to them. Statistically, only a tiny fraction of elder abuse cases results in legal action, primarily due to the complexities involved in proving abuse and the reluctance of victims to come forward. Advocacy groups are working to raise awareness about these rights and the resources available for reporting abuse. By informing elderly individuals and their families about legal avenues for protection, they can empower themselves to seek justice and support.

Cultural factors also play a significant role in the prevalence of elder abuse. In some communities, cultural norms may discourage reporting abuse or viewing it as acceptable behavior. Additionally, the impact of technology is reshaping how elder abuse is perpetrated and prevented.

Online scams targeting seniors have surged, making it imperative for families to educate their elderly loved ones about safe practices in a digital world. Support systems for elder abuse survivors, including counseling and legal assistance, are critical for recovery. By understanding the statistics and prevalence of elder abuse, society can take meaningful steps toward prevention and support for those affected.

Reporting Mechanisms

Effective reporting mechanisms are essential in addressing elder abuse, ensuring that victims receive the protection and support they need. Reporting mechanisms can take various forms, including hotlines, online platforms, local agencies, and independent allies dedicated to elder care. These voluntary allies serve as vital tools for individuals who suspect abuse or have witnessed it. The process is designed to be accessible and user-friendly, encouraging people to come forward without fear of retaliation or shame. Understanding the available resources is the first step towards empowering communities to combat elder abuse.

Hotlines provide immediate assistance to distressed people and serve as a critical lifeline. Many states operate 24-hour hotlines specifically for reporting elder abuse, allowing individuals to report incidents anonymously. These hotlines are staffed by trained professionals who can offer guidance, support, and information about next steps. In addition to state-run hotlines, national organizations like the National Elder Abuse Hotline provide resources to help individuals navigate the complexities of reporting. Awareness of these hotlines can significantly increase the likelihood of abuse being reported and addressed. Do you know these numbers?

In addition to hotlines, many communities have local agencies and organizations specializing in elder care and welfare. These agencies often have social workers and advocates who can investigate claims of abuse, assess the situation, and connect victims with necessary services. Local agencies play a crucial role in responding to reports of elder abuse, as they can provide tailored support based on the unique needs of individuals in their jurisdiction. Understanding how to access and engage with these local resources is vital for those concerned about the welfare of elderly individuals.

Technology has also transformed the landscape of reporting mechanisms. Many organizations now offer online reporting options, allowing individuals to submit concerns through secure websites. This convenience can encourage more people to report abuse, especially those who may feel uncomfortable making a phone call or visiting an agency in person. Moreover, the integration of mobile applications designed for elder abuse reporting is increasing, providing users with an easy way to document and report incidents quickly. Educating the public about these innovations and their potential to facilitate reporting is crucial as technology evolves.

Cultural factors must be considered when discussing reporting mechanisms. Different communities may have varying attitudes towards reporting elder abuse, influenced by cultural norms and values. It is essential to foster an environment that respects these cultural nuances while promoting the importance of reporting abuse. Community education campaigns can help bridge these gaps, emphasizing the legal rights of elderly victims and the societal responsibility to protect vulnerable populations. By creating culturally sensitive reporting frameworks, we can ensure that all individuals feel safe and supported in coming forward when they witness or suspect elder abuse.

Legal Resources and Advocacy

Legal resources and advocacy play a crucial role in addressing and preventing elder abuse, ensuring that vulnerable seniors receive the support and protection they deserve. Understanding the legal rights of elderly victims is essential for both the victims and their advocates. Various laws, such as the Elder Justice Act and state-specific statutes, provide frameworks for legal recourse. These laws empower victims to seek justice and hold perpetrators accountable. Additionally, legal resources include hotlines, legal aid organizations, and elder law attorneys specializing in the unique needs and rights of older adults.

Advocacy groups are instrumental in raising awareness about elder abuse and providing valuable resources for both victims and their families. These organizations often offer educational materials, support services, and legal assistance, making it easier for seniors to navigate the complexities of the legal system.

They also work to influence legislation, advocating for stronger protections and better resources for elderly individuals facing abuse. By connecting victims with these advocacy groups, we can help ensure they are informed about their rights and available support options.

Recognizing the signs of elder abuse is a critical first step in prevention and intervention. Legal resources often include training programs for caregivers, medical professionals, and law enforcement to identify these signs effectively. Reports of abuse can trigger legal action, but the challenge often lies in the initial recognition and reporting. Therefore, it is essential to equip both the community and professionals with the knowledge to recognize emotional, psychological, and physical indicators of abuse. This proactive approach can lead to earlier interventions and a reduction in the prevalence of elder abuse.

Cultural factors also play a significant role in how elder abuse is perceived and addressed. Advocacy efforts must consider the diverse backgrounds of seniors and the varying attitudes toward aging and authority within different cultures. Legal resources that are culturally competent can better serve the needs of elders from diverse backgrounds. This includes offering language support, culturally sensitive legal advice, and community outreach programs that respect and understand cultural differences. By doing so, advocacy groups can build trust with communities and encourage more seniors to report abuse without fear of stigma or misunderstanding.

Technology has emerged as a powerful tool in the fight against elder abuse, providing innovative solutions for prevention and reporting. Legal resources now include online reporting tools, telehealth services, and virtual support groups that offer immediate assistance and advice. These technological advancements can help bridge the gap between seniors and legal advocates, making it easier for victims to access the help they need.

Additionally, technology can monitor seniors' well-being in assisted living facilities, providing families with peace of mind and ensuring signs of neglect or abuse are quickly addressed. Through a combination of legal resources, advocacy efforts, and technological innovations, we can work toward a society where elder abuse is no longer tolerated, and seniors are empowered to live safe and dignified lives.

Chapter VII: Caregiver Stress and Its Impact on Elder Abuse

Understanding Caregiver Burnout

Caregiver burnout is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion that can occur when caregivers become overwhelmed by the demands of caring for elderly individuals. It often manifests as a gradual depletion of energy and motivation, leading to frustration, helplessness, and resentment toward the caregiving role. Understanding caregiver burnout is crucial in the context of elder abuse, as it can contribute to neglect and emotional distress in the individuals receiving care. The pressures faced by caregivers, whether they are family members or professionals, can create an environment where abuse, either intentional or unintentional, becomes more likely.

Several factors contribute to caregiver burnout, including the physical demands of caregiving, emotional stress, and social isolation. Caregivers may find themselves managing complex medical needs, navigating difficult family dynamics, or dealing with the emotional toll of watching a loved one decline. These challenges can lead to losing control and the feeling that their needs are being overlooked. The combination of these stressors can create a cycle where caregivers may lash out or become neglectful, increasing the risk of elder abuse. Recognizing these contributing factors is essential for preventing burnout and, consequently, the potential for abuse.

The signs of caregiver burnout can be subtle but significant. Caregivers may experience changes in mood, such as increased irritability or anxiety, and may withdraw from social interactions and support systems. Physical symptoms such as fatigue, sleep disturbances, and health problems can also arise. Both caregivers and those around them need to be aware of these signs, as early intervention can help mitigate the impact of burnout. Support networks, including friends, family, and professional resources, can provide much-needed assistance, helping caregivers to recharge and refocus on their roles.

Preventing caregiver burnout and its associated risks requires a multifaceted approach. Education and training for caregivers can equip them with essential skills and knowledge, reducing feelings of inadequacy or helplessness. Furthermore, access to respite care can offer temporary relief, allowing caregivers to take breaks and attend to their well-being. Encouraging open communication and fostering supportive relationships can also build a sense of community and shared responsibility, vital for sustaining caregivers in their challenging roles.

Addressing caregiver burnout is beneficial not only for the caregivers themselves but also for the elderly individuals they care for. Caregivers are more likely to provide compassionate, attentive care when supported and equipped to manage their stress. This, in turn, reduces the likelihood of elder abuse, ensuring that seniors receive the dignity and respect they deserve. Understanding and addressing caregiver burnout is essential to creating a safer and more supportive environment for caregivers and the elderly individuals they serve.

Stress plays a significant role in the dynamics of elder abuse, influencing both the perpetrator and the victim. Caregivers often experience high-stress levels due to the demanding nature of their responsibilities, which can lead to emotional and psychological strain. This stress can manifest in various ways, including frustration, anger, and fatigue. When caregivers are overwhelmed, they may resort to abusive behaviors as a misguided coping mechanism. Understanding this relationship is crucial for identifying at-risk caregivers and implementing support systems that can alleviate their burdens and prevent potential abuse.

Emotional and psychological abuse in elder care frequently stems from caregiver stress. As caregivers struggle to meet the physical and emotional needs of their elderly charges, they may unintentionally engage in demeaning or controlling behaviors. This abuse can have profound effects on the mental health of seniors, leading to feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and depression. Recognizing the signs of emotional abuse is essential for family members and professionals alike, as it enables timely intervention. By addressing the underlying stressors faced by caregivers, we can create an environment that promotes healthier interactions and reduces the likelihood of abuse.

Financial exploitation of seniors is another area where stress can play a pivotal role. Caregivers facing financial difficulties may exploit their elderly charges for monetary gain, driven by desperation or a lack of ethical boundaries. The stress of financial instability can cloud judgment and lead to decisions that directly harm vulnerable seniors. Families and communities need to be vigilant in recognizing the signs of financial exploitation, as these situations often go unreported. By fostering open communication and financial literacy among seniors, we can empower them to safeguard their assets and reduce the risk of exploitation.

Neglect in assisted living facilities is also closely tied to caregiver stress. Staff members in these settings often face overwhelming workloads, inadequate training, and insufficient resources, leading to neglectful behaviors that can severely impact the well-being of residents. When caregivers are overburdened, they may overlook essential care tasks, resulting in harmful neglect. To combat this issue, it is important to advocate for better staffing ratios, training programs, and support systems within these facilities. By addressing the systemic issues contributing to caregiver stress, we can significantly improve the quality of care provided to seniors.

Understanding the cultural factors that influence stress and abuse in elder care is crucial for developing effective prevention strategies. Different cultural backgrounds may shape perceptions of caregiving and elder support, affecting how stress is experienced and expressed. By fostering culturally sensitive approaches to elder care, we can better support caregivers from diverse backgrounds and create more inclusive environments. This understanding can also inform policies and practices aimed at preventing elder abuse, ensuring that all seniors receive the respect and care they deserve, free from the harmful effects of stress and abuse.

Support for caregivers is a crucial component in addressing and preventing elder abuse. Caregivers, whether family members or professionals, often face immense pressure and stress while caring for elderly individuals. This stress can lead to burnout, which not only affects the caregivers' well-being but can also increase the risk of elder abuse. Providing adequate support to caregivers is essential in fostering a healthier caregiving environment and ensuring seniors receive the care they deserve without fear of harm.

Education and training are among the most effective ways to support caregivers. Programs that educate caregivers about the signs of elder abuse, the legal rights of elderly individuals, and effective caregiving techniques can empower them to recognize potential issues before they escalate. Such training enhances their skills and builds confidence, allowing caregivers to address challenges proactively. By understanding the complexities of elder abuse, caregivers can become advocates for their loved ones, ensuring they receive the necessary protection and respect.

In addition to education, emotional support systems play a vital role in caregiver well-being. Caregiving can be an isolating experience, often leading to feelings of loneliness and frustration. Support groups, whether in-person or online, provide a platform for caregivers to share their experiences and seek advice from others facing similar challenges. These communities foster a sense of belonging and understanding, reducing the stigma associated with caregiver stress. Encouraging caregivers to engage in these support networks can help mitigate feelings of isolation and empower them to seek help when needed.

Respite care services are another critical resource for caregivers. These services offer temporary relief, allowing caregivers to take a much-needed break from their responsibilities. By utilizing respite care, caregivers can recharge, reduce stress, and return to their duties with renewed energy. This not only improves their quality of life but also enhances the care they provide to seniors. Establishing a reliable system for respite care can significantly decrease the likelihood of caregiver burnout and, consequently, the risk of elder abuse.

Advocating for policy changes and supporting caregivers is essential to creating a sustainable environment for caregivers and seniors. Government initiatives that provide financial assistance, access to mental health services, and comprehensive training programs can alleviate some of the burdens caregivers face. By engaging in advocacy efforts and raising awareness about caregivers' challenges, communities can work towards implementing solutions that benefit caregivers and the elderly population they serve. Supporting caregivers is not just about individual well-being; it is a collective effort to protect vulnerable seniors from the threat of abuse and neglect.

Chapter VIII: Reporting and Preventing Elder Abuse

How to Report Abuse

Reporting abuse is a critical step in safeguarding the well-being of elderly individuals. If you suspect that an elder is being abused, either physically, emotionally, or financially, it is essential to act promptly and responsibly. The first step in this process is to gather as much information as possible about the situation. This includes documenting specific incidents and noting dates, times, locations, and descriptions of the behavior observed.

Observing and recording any physical signs of abuse, such as bruises or unexplained injuries, can also be crucial. Emotional and psychological abuse may not leave visible marks, but the signs can often manifest in changes in behavior, withdrawal, or sudden changes in financial status.

Once you have collected your observations, the next step is identifying the appropriate authorities or organizations to report the abuse. In many jurisdictions, adult protective services (APS) are specifically tasked with investigating reports of elder abuse. You can typically reach them through local government offices or websites. Contacting local law enforcement is essential if the situation involves immediate danger or a crime in progress. Additionally, various non-profit organizations and hotlines offer support and can guide you through the reporting process. These resources can provide valuable information on the legal rights of elderly victims and the steps that can be taken to protect them.

When reporting abuse, it is essential to be clear and concise. Could you provide the authorities with all relevant information without making assumptions or accusations beyond what you have seen or learned? This includes stating the nature of the abuse, the identity of the alleged abuser if known, and any immediate risks to the elder's safety. The more detailed and factual your report, the better-equipped authorities will be to take appropriate action. Remember that confidentiality is often a priority in these cases, and your identity may remain anonymous in many situations.

Understanding caregiver stress is another important factor in addressing elder abuse. Many caregivers face overwhelming responsibilities that can lead to burnout, sometimes resulting in unintentional neglect or harmful behavior. It is vital to consider the context of the situation when reporting abuse. While it is crucial to protect older people, offering support and resources to caregivers can also prevent future incidents.

Encouraging caregivers to seek help can alleviate some of the pressures they face and improve the overall environment for older people.

After reporting abuse, it is imperative to follow up. Inquire about the status of the investigation and remain engaged in the elder's well-being. Support systems for survivors of elder abuse can play a significant role in recovery. Connecting the affected elder with counseling services, support groups, or legal assistance can help them regain their autonomy and rebuild their lives. Community resources, including local advocacy organizations, can provide further assistance in navigating the aftermath of abuse. Remember, breaking the silence around elder abuse is essential to creating a safer environment for vulnerable individuals.

Prevention Techniques for Families and Facilities

Prevention techniques for families and facilities are essential in addressing the multifaceted issue of elder abuse. Families play a crucial role in safeguarding their elderly members by establishing open lines of communication. Regular discussions about the well-being of seniors can help identify potential risks and foster an environment where older adults feel comfortable expressing their concerns. Families should be educated about the signs of elder abuse, including financial exploitation, emotional neglect, and physical signs of maltreatment. By promoting awareness and vigilance, families can create a proactive approach to prevent abuse before it occurs.

Implementing comprehensive staff training programs is vital for facilities. Such programs should focus on recognizing the signs of abuse, understanding the rights of elderly residents, and learning strategies to manage caregiver stress. A well-educated staff is more likely to identify troubling behaviors and intervene before situations escalate. Additionally, facilities should establish clear reporting protocols for suspected abuse, ensuring all staff members know their responsibilities. Creating a culture of accountability protects residents and supports staff in handling the demanding nature of their roles.

Support systems within the community are equally important in preventing elder abuse. Families and facilities should connect with local organizations that provide resources and support for seniors. These organizations often offer educational workshops, advocacy programs, and counseling services that can empower both caregivers and elderly individuals. By fostering partnerships with community resources, families and facilities can enhance their ability to address the challenges associated with elder abuse. This collaborative approach can create a safety net that helps seniors feel secure and supported.

Technological advancements also present innovative solutions for preventing elder abuse. Monitoring devices and alert systems can help families and facilities monitor seniors' well-being. For instance, cameras in common areas of assisted living facilities can deter potential abuse and ensure a safe environment for residents. Additionally, financial management tools can assist seniors in safeguarding their finances from exploitation. By embracing technology, families and facilities can enhance their oversight capabilities and reduce the risk of abuse.

Cultural factors must also be considered when developing prevention techniques. Different cultural backgrounds may influence perceptions of elder care and abuse. Families and facilities should strive to understand these cultural nuances and ensure that their prevention efforts are culturally sensitive and inclusive. Engaging with diverse communities can provide valuable insights into specific vulnerabilities and protective factors. Tailoring prevention strategies to fit the cultural context can significantly enhance their effectiveness, ultimately contributing to a more equitable and safe environment for all elderly individuals.

Community Involvement and Awareness

Community involvement plays a crucial role in preventing and reporting elder abuse. Awareness initiatives that engage community members can create a supportive environment where older people feel safe and valued. Local organizations, senior centers, and healthcare providers can collaborate to host workshops and informational sessions, educating the public on the various forms of elder abuse, including financial exploitation, emotional and psychological abuse, and neglect in assisted living facilities. By fostering an open dialogue, communities can help dispel myths surrounding elder abuse and empower individuals to recognize the signs and take action.

Recognizing the signs of elder abuse is essential for prevention. Community members should be trained to identify red flags such as unexplained injuries, sudden changes in financial situations, withdrawal from social activities, or signs of neglect. Educational programs can equip individuals with the knowledge to discern these indicators, encouraging them to speak up when they suspect abuse. People must understand their role in safeguarding older people, as many cases of abuse go unreported due to a lack of awareness or fear of repercussions.

Legal frameworks also play a significant part in community involvement. Communities must be informed about the legal rights of elderly victims and the resources available to them. This includes information on protective services, reporting mechanisms, and the rights to autonomy and dignity. By ensuring that community members understand these legal protections, they can advocate for vulnerable individuals and support them in navigating the complex systems that often accompany elder abuse cases. This knowledge empowers victims and encourages bystanders to take action when necessary.

Addressing caregiver stress is another critical aspect of community involvement. Many caregivers, often family members, face overwhelming responsibilities that can lead to burnout and, in some cases, abusive behaviors. Communities can support caregivers by providing access to respite services, support groups, and mental health resources. By recognizing the signs of caregiver stress and offering solutions, communities can help mitigate the risk of elder abuse that can arise from these pressures. This support not only aids caregivers but also promotes a healthier, more nurturing environment for older people.

Technology can be a powerful ally in raising awareness and preventing elder abuse. Communities can leverage social media platforms, online forums, and digital resources to spread information about elder abuse and create a support network. Virtual training sessions and webinars can reach a broader audience, making it easier to educate individuals about the signs of abuse and the importance of reporting. Additionally, technology can facilitate communication between seniors and their loved ones, helping to reduce isolation and ensuring that they have a support system in place. By harnessing technology, communities can build a more connected and informed society that actively works to prevent elder abuse.

Chapter IX: Cultural Factors in Elder Abuse

Cultural Sensitivity and Awareness

Cultural sensitivity and awareness are essential components in addressing elder abuse, as the experiences and perceptions of aging individuals can vary significantly across different cultural backgrounds. Understanding the cultural context in which elder abuse occurs allows caregivers, family members, and advocates to recognize the unique challenges faced by elderly individuals in diverse communities. Cultural norms, values, and beliefs shape how aging is perceived and can influence whether elder abuse is acknowledged, reported, or addressed. As society becomes increasingly diverse, it is crucial to adopt a culturally sensitive approach to prevent and respond to elder abuse effectively.

One of the fundamental aspects of cultural sensitivity is recognizing that definitions of respect, care, and family dynamics can differ among various cultures. In some traditions, elders are revered and treated with utmost respect, while in others, there may be a different understanding of familial roles and responsibilities. Such differences can affect how elder abuse is manifested and perceived. For instance, behaviors that might be viewed as neglect in one culture could be interpreted as acceptable within another, complicating the identification of abuse. Therefore, training programs for caregivers and professionals should include education on cultural norms and practices, equipping them with the skills necessary to navigate these complexities.

Furthermore, cultural awareness can enhance communication between caregivers and elderly individuals. Language barriers and differing communication styles can create misunderstandings that may result in unintentional emotional or psychological abuse. Culturally competent caregivers can better engage with their clients, fostering trust and openness. This facilitates a more supportive environment where seniors feel safe to express their concerns and experiences. By promoting effective communication, caregivers can help alleviate feelings of isolation and fear, which are often prevalent among victims of elder abuse.

The legal rights of elderly victims also intersect with cultural considerations. Many elderly individuals may be unaware of their rights due to cultural stigmas, fear of retaliation, or lack of access to information. This gap can prevent victims from seeking help or reporting abuse. Advocacy efforts must include outreach to diverse communities to ensure all seniors understand their legal protections and the available resources. Culturally tailored educational materials and community programs can empower seniors to recognize their rights and speak out against abuse, contributing to a more informed and proactive approach to prevention.

Addressing caregiver stress through a culturally sensitive lens is vital in preventing elder abuse. Caregivers from different cultural backgrounds may experience stressors unique to their circumstances, impacting their ability to provide adequate care. Support systems must consider these cultural factors to effectively address caregiver burnout and its potential link to elder abuse. Programs that offer culturally relevant resources, counseling, and respite care can help alleviate caregiver stress, ultimately benefiting caregivers and the elderly individuals they serve. By fostering cultural sensitivity and awareness, we can create a more compassionate and effective framework for preventing and addressing elder abuse.

Impact of Culture on Reporting

Cultural factors play a significant role in shaping the perceptions and attitudes toward elder abuse, influencing both the reporting mechanisms and the responses of individuals and institutions. Different cultures may have varying beliefs about aging, familial responsibility, and authority, which can affect how elder abuse is recognized and addressed. In some cultures, there may be a strong emphasis on familial loyalty, leading individuals to remain silent about abuse occurring within the family unit. This cultural lens can create barriers to reporting, as victims may feel a sense of shame or fear that speaking out could bring dishonor to their families.

Moreover, the stigma associated with elder abuse can be exacerbated by cultural norms that discourage open discussions about family matters. In communities where elders are traditionally revered, acknowledging abuse may be seen as a betrayal of cultural values. This perception can lead to underreporting, with victims and witnesses reluctant to come forward. Understanding these cultural dynamics is crucial for professionals working with elderly populations, as they must navigate these sensitivities while encouraging reporting and intervention when necessary.

Language barriers can further complicate the reporting of elder abuse. In multicultural societies, seniors who speak languages other than the dominant one may face significant challenges accessing support services. This can result in isolation, making it difficult for them to seek help or for caregivers and advocates to identify signs of abuse. Clear communication is essential for effective reporting and intervention, and organizations must strive to provide resources in multiple languages to ensure that all seniors can access the help they need without fear or confusion.

Cultural perceptions also influence the legal rights of elderly victims. Different cultures may have distinct views regarding the role of law enforcement and the legal system, impacting how victims perceive their ability to seek justice. In some instances, there may be a belief that the legal system is not a viable option or that it could exacerbate the situation. This creates a critical gap in support, where victims remain unaware of their rights and the protections available to them under the law. Educating older people and their caregivers about these rights is vital in empowering victims to act.

Addressing caregiver stress through culturally sensitive support systems can mitigate the risk of elder abuse while fostering healthier environments for both seniors and their caregivers. Comprehensive training and resources that acknowledge and respect cultural differences are necessary to create effective prevention strategies and support networks for all involved. This perception can lead to underreporting, with victims and witnesses reluctant to come forward. Understanding these cultural dynamics is crucial for professionals working with elderly populations, as they must navigate these sensitivities while encouraging reporting and intervention when necessary.

It is essential to consider how cultural factors intersect with caregiver stress, which can contribute to instances of elder abuse. Caregivers from diverse backgrounds may experience unique pressures, including financial strain, lack of support, and cultural expectations regarding caregiving roles. These stressors can lead to emotional and psychological challenges that may manifest as neglect or abuse. Addressing caregiver stress through culturally sensitive support systems can mitigate the risk of elder abuse while fostering healthier environments for both seniors and their caregivers.

Comprehensive training and resources that acknowledge and respect cultural differences are necessary to create effective prevention strategies and support networks for all involved.

Strategies for Culturally Competent Care

Culturally competent care is essential in addressing elder abuse, as it acknowledges and respects the diverse backgrounds of elderly individuals. To effectively support seniors, caregivers must first recognize the cultural differences, including language, beliefs, and values, that influence their experience and understanding of care. Training programs should emphasize cultural awareness and sensitivity, equipping caregivers with the skills to communicate effectively with seniors from various backgrounds. This training enhances the quality of care and fosters trust between caregivers and seniors, making it easier to identify and address potential abuse.

One critical strategy involves family members and community leaders who understand the cultural context of the elderly individuals receiving care. These stakeholders can provide valuable insights into seniors' specific needs and preferences, which can guide the development of culturally appropriate and respectful care plans. Collaborating with local organizations serving diverse populations can facilitate access to resources and support systems for caregivers and elderly individuals. Encouraging open dialogue about cultural practices and beliefs can empower seniors to express their needs and concerns, reducing the risk of neglect or abuse.

Another important aspect of culturally competent care is the use of language services. Providing translation and interpretation services ensures that seniors with limited English proficiency can communicate effectively with their caregivers. This reduces the likelihood of misunderstandings and enables seniors to participate fully in their care decisions. Additionally, caregivers should be trained in nonverbal communication techniques, as body language and gestures vary significantly across cultures. By being attentive to these differences, caregivers can better understand and respond to the emotional and psychological needs of their elderly clients.

Incorporating technology into culturally competent care can enhance communication and support for elderly individuals. Digital tools, such as telehealth services and online resources, can bridge gaps in care, especially for seniors living in remote or underserved areas. Technology can also facilitate access to culturally relevant information and support networks. Caregivers should be encouraged to use these tools to connect seniors with their communities, allowing them to maintain cultural ties and support systems crucial to their well-being.

Ongoing assessment and feedback mechanisms are vital for ensuring effective culturally competent care practices. Caregivers should regularly evaluate their approach and seek input from seniors and their families regarding their experiences. This continuous improvement process helps identify areas for growth and reinforces the importance of culturally sensitive practices in preventing elder abuse. By prioritizing culturally competent care, caregivers can create an environment where seniors feel safe, respected, and empowered, ultimately contributing to the prevention of elder abuse and promoting healthier, more supportive living conditions for all elderly individuals.

Chapter X: Technology and Elder Abuse Prevention

Digital Tools for Monitoring and Safety

Digital tools have emerged as vital resources in the ongoing effort to monitor the safety of elderly individuals and prevent various forms of abuse. These tools range from mobile applications that allow for real-time reporting of concerns to sophisticated surveillance systems that can detect unusual behavior or emergencies in assisted living facilities. By leveraging technology, caregivers, family members, and professionals can create a safer environment for seniors, ensuring that any signs of abuse or neglect are addressed promptly.

Mobile applications dedicated to elder safety have become increasingly popular. These apps can facilitate quick reporting of suspected abuse, connect users to local support resources, and provide educational materials about recognizing and responding to elder abuse. For instance, some applications allow caregivers to document daily observations and interactions, which can later be used to identify patterns of neglect or emotional abuse. Moreover, these tools often include features that enable users to reach emergency contacts or authorities with just a few taps, promoting a swift response in critical situations.

Another significant advancement in this realm is surveillance technology in assisted living facilities. Cameras and sensors can monitor the well-being of residents, alerting staff to any unusual activities that may indicate abuse or neglect. While privacy considerations must be carefully managed, such systems provide additional protection for vulnerable seniors. Facilities can implement these technologies to enhance transparency and accountability among caregivers, fostering an environment where abuse is less likely to occur.

Telehealth services also transform how elderly individuals receive care, enabling them to engage with healthcare providers remotely. This accessibility can help identify signs of emotional and psychological abuse that may otherwise go unnoticed in physical visits. Regular check-ins via video calls allow professionals to assess the mental health of seniors, ensuring they are not being isolated or manipulated by caregivers. Furthermore, these interactions can empower seniors by giving them a voice in their care, making it more difficult for abusers to exert control over them.

In conclusion, integrating digital tools into the monitoring and safety of elderly individuals holds promise for combating elder abuse. As technology continues to evolve, it offers innovative solutions to recognize, report, and prevent various forms of abuse, from financial exploitation to neglect in assisted living facilities. By embracing these tools, caregivers and family members can better protect seniors, enabling a safer and more supportive environment that honors their rights and dignity.

Role of Technology in Reporting

The role of technology in reporting elder abuse is increasingly significant, as it provides innovative tools and resources that enhance the ability to identify and address these critical issues. With the rise of digital platforms, individuals can access vital information about elder abuse, including the signs and symptoms that may indicate a loved one is at risk. Technology also facilitates communication between concerned family members, caregivers, and professionals, fostering a collaborative environment to share knowledge and resources. This interconnectedness is crucial in recognizing and responding to potential cases of abuse and neglect in various settings, including assisted living facilities and in-home care situations.

Mobile applications and online reporting systems are transforming how reports of elder abuse are filed and managed. Many jurisdictions now offer user-friendly platforms that allow individuals to report suspected cases of abuse anonymously and securely. This ease of access encourages more people to come forward without fear of retaliation or social stigma. Additionally, these technologies often provide resources and guidance on handling suspicions of abuse, including legal rights and available support systems for victims. As a result, technology empowers individuals to take action and seek help for the vulnerable elderly population.

Social media also plays a crucial role in raising awareness about elder abuse. Campaigns disseminated through various platforms can educate the public on recognizing signs of abuse and understanding the complex dynamics involved, such as financial exploitation and emotional manipulation. These campaigns often highlight personal stories that resonate with audiences, prompting discussions that can lead to increased vigilance and community involvement in preventing abuse. Furthermore, social media can help connect victims and their families to support networks that provide essential resources and guidance in navigating the aftermath of abuse.

In addition to reporting and raising awareness, technology monitors elder care facilities and services. Surveillance systems, for example, can deter potential abusers and provide evidence in cases where abuse is suspected. Telehealth services have also emerged as a vital tool, allowing healthcare professionals to conduct remote assessments and consultations, expanding their reach and improving the quality of care for seniors. These technological advancements not only enhance the safety of elderly individuals but also foster a culture of accountability within caregiving environments.

While technology presents numerous advantages in reporting and preventing elder abuse, it is essential to recognize its challenges, including privacy concerns and the digital divide that affects access to these tools. Not all seniors or their families may have the necessary skills or resources to utilize technology effectively. Therefore, communities and organizations must provide education and support to ensure that all individuals, regardless of technological proficiency, can benefit from available resources. By addressing these challenges, society can more effectively harness the power of technology to protect and empower elderly individuals, ensuring their voices are heard and their rights are upheld.

Future Innovations in Prevention

As the landscape of elder abuse evolves, innovative approaches are being developed to prevent and address the various forms of abuse that seniors may face. One area of focus is the integration of technology into elder care settings. Smart home devices with monitoring systems can provide real-time alerts to caregivers and family members if unusual behavior patterns are detected. For instance, motion sensors can notify loved ones if an elder has not moved from a specific area for an extended period, indicating potential neglect or health issues. These technological advancements not only enhance the safety of seniors but also empower families to remain vigilant and responsive to their loved ones' needs.

Another promising innovation lies in developing specialized training programs for caregivers and healthcare professionals. These programs aim to increase awareness of the signs of elder abuse and the psychological factors that contribute to it, such as caregiver stress. By equipping caregivers with skills to manage stress and recognize their limits, the risk of emotional and psychological abuse can be significantly reduced. Furthermore, training can foster a culture of respect and dignity in elder care facilities, encouraging staff to prioritize the well-being of seniors.

Collaboration among various stakeholders is also essential for preventing elder abuse. Future initiatives include the establishment of community coalitions that bring together social services, law enforcement, healthcare providers, and advocacy groups. These coalitions can create a comprehensive support network for elderly victims. By sharing resources and information, they can more effectively identify at-risk individuals and implement targeted interventions. This collective approach not only strengthens the response to elder abuse cases but also raises community awareness about the issue.

Legislation plays a crucial role in safeguarding the rights of elderly individuals. Future innovations in prevention may involve advocacy for stronger legal protections against elder abuse, including stricter penalties for offenders and enhanced reporting mechanisms.

Additionally, policymakers could explore implementing mandatory reporting laws that require certain professionals to report suspected abuse, ensuring that cases are addressed promptly. This legal framework can deter potential abusers and provide a safety net for vulnerable seniors.

The importance of community support systems cannot be overstated. Future prevention strategies should emphasize the role of social networks and peer support groups in combating isolation and loneliness among seniors, which are significant risk factors for abuse. Initiatives that promote social engagement can foster resilience among older adults, making them less susceptible to exploitation. By creating environments where seniors feel valued and connected, the likelihood of abuse diminishes, and survivors can find the necessary support to heal and reclaim their autonomy.

Chapter XI: Support Systems for Elder Abuse Survivors

Counseling and Therapy Options

Counseling and therapy options play a crucial role in addressing the complex emotional and psychological ramifications of elder abuse. Victims of such abuse often experience deep-seated trauma, which can manifest as anxiety, depression, and feelings of isolation. Professional counseling can provide a safe space for seniors to express their feelings and begin the healing process. Therapists trained in gerontology and trauma-informed care are particularly well-suited to understand the unique challenges faced by older adults, including the impact of ageism and societal perceptions of vulnerability.

Emotional and psychological abuse can leave lasting scars that are not always visible. Therapy can help individuals recognize and validate their experiences, fostering resilience and self-esteem. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is one effective approach that can assist victims in challenging negative thought patterns and developing coping strategies. Additionally, support groups can offer a communal aspect to healing, allowing seniors to share their stories and experiences with others who have faced similar challenges. This shared understanding can be instrumental in breaking the isolation that many victims feel.

Financial exploitation, another critical aspect of elder abuse, often carries its own set of emotional burdens. Individuals who have been financially exploited may struggle with feelings of shame, anger, and helplessness. Counseling can assist victims in processing these emotions while also providing practical guidance on financial recovery and planning for the future. Financial therapists, who specialize in the intersection of emotional well-being and economic health, can be particularly beneficial for seniors navigating the aftermath of exploitation.

Neglect in assisted living facilities often goes unnoticed. Victims of neglect may require specialized therapeutic interventions to address the physical and emotional effects of inadequate care. Therapists can work with individuals to develop strategies for advocating for their needs within these facilities, empowering them to seek the care and support they deserve. Additionally, therapy can help individuals rebuild trust in caregivers, essential for their overall well-being and recovery.

It is essential to consider the role of caregiver stress and its impact on elder abuse. Caregivers often face immense pressure, which can lead to burnout and, in some cases, abusive behaviors. Counseling for caregivers can provide them with tools and strategies to manage their stress, improve their emotional health, and ultimately foster healthier relationships with the seniors in their care. By addressing the needs of both the elderly victims and their caregivers, counseling and therapy can play a pivotal role in breaking the cycle of elder abuse and promoting a culture of respect and dignity for older adults.

Community and Peer Support

Community and peer support play a vital role in addressing and preventing elder abuse. A strong community network can provide not only a safety net for elderly individuals but also a collective voice against abuse and exploitation. When adults unite to share their experiences and resources, they foster an environment that discourages abusive behaviors and encourages accountability among caregivers and family members. By establishing community awareness programs, individuals can educate themselves and others about the signs of elder abuse and the importance of reporting it. This collective effort can significantly improve the chances of identifying vulnerable seniors and protecting them from harm.

Peer support groups are particularly beneficial for elderly individuals who feel isolated or powerless. These groups offer a safe space for seniors to share their experiences, learn from one another, and gain emotional support. Participation in peer support can help reduce feelings of loneliness and depression, which are often exacerbated by abuse or neglect. Moreover, these groups can empower seniors to reclaim their voices and advocate for their rights, fostering resilience and a sense of community that can be crucial when facing challenges related to abuse. Some groups are hybrid, so consider the practicality of using video conferencing systems like Zoom to meet with others.

In addition to emotional support, community organizations can provide practical resources for elderly individuals and their caregivers. This includes access to legal advice, financial education, and counseling services. Understanding their legal rights is essential for elderly victims, as many may not realize they have protections against financial exploitation and emotional abuse. Community programs can also offer workshops on recognizing the signs of elder abuse, equipping both seniors and caregivers with the knowledge necessary to identify and address potential issues before they escalate.

Cultural factors can influence how elder abuse manifests and is perceived within different communities. Community and peer support initiatives must be culturally sensitive to address diverse populations' unique challenges. By incorporating cultural competence into their programs, organizations can effectively engage with various communities, ensuring that all seniors have access to support. This approach fosters inclusivity and allows for tailored interventions that resonate with specific cultural values and practices, ultimately enhancing the effectiveness of prevention efforts.

Technology can be a powerful tool in strengthening community and peer support networks. Online platforms can facilitate virtual support groups, allowing seniors to connect with others regardless of geographic limitations. Additionally, technology can provide resources for reporting elder abuse anonymously, ensuring that victims feel safe and empowered to reach out for help. By leveraging technology alongside traditional community support, we can create robust systems that address and prevent elder abuse, ensuring seniors receive the care and respect they deserve.

Building a Strong Support Network

Building a strong support network is essential for addressing elder abuse effectively and ensuring that seniors receive the care and protection they deserve. A support network consists of individuals and organizations that provide emotional, practical, and legal assistance to elderly individuals and their families. This network can include family members, friends, neighbors, social workers, legal advisors, and community organizations dedicated to elder care. By fostering connections within this network, individuals can create a robust system that offers guidance, resources, and advocacy, ultimately playing a crucial role in preventing and reporting elder abuse.

One of the first steps in building a support network is identifying potential community allies. Family members often serve as the first line of defense against elder abuse, providing emotional support and monitoring the well-being of their loved ones. In addition, neighbors and friends can play an integral role by staying vigilant and recognizing any unusual behavior or signs of distress. Community organizations specializing in elder care can offer additional resources, such as counseling services, legal advice, and educational programs about recognizing and reporting elder abuse. Establishing relationships with these groups can empower individuals to take action when they suspect abuse or neglect.

Education is a vital component of a strong support network. Members of the network should be informed about the various forms of elder abuse, including financial exploitation, emotional and psychological abuse, and neglect in assisted living facilities. By understanding the signs and symptoms of abuse, individuals can be better equipped to recognize troubling behavior and intervene when necessary. Community workshops and seminars can provide valuable information and foster a collaborative environment where participants can share experiences, concerns, and strategies for prevention. This collective knowledge strengthens the network and enhances its effectiveness in addressing elder abuse. Consider the value of making an invite-only group online.

Moreover, legal rights play a significant role in the support network for elderly individuals. Understanding the legal protections available to seniors is crucial for victims and their advocates. Individuals within the network should be aware of the laws governing elder abuse and the resources available for legal recourse. This includes knowing how to report suspected abuse and the legal rights of elderly victims in various situations. Engaging legal professionals specializing in elder law can further enrich the support network, providing expert advice and assistance in navigating complex legal processes.

Caregiver stress is an important factor that must be addressed within the support network. Caregivers often face immense pressure, which can lead to burnout and inadvertently contribute to elder abuse. Providing caregivers access to respite care, support groups, and mental health resources can alleviate some of this stress. By prioritizing the well-being of caregivers, the overall health of the elderly individuals they care for can improve. A strong support network protects vulnerable seniors and fosters an environment of care and compassion that benefits everyone involved.

Working with Idiots & Imbeciles: my Pennhurst State School Abuse Case

In 1972, I worked as a Commonwealth of Pennsylvania Child Care Worker in a newly constructed building that housed 'Level Nine' patients at Pennhurst State School and Hospital in Spring City, Pennsylvania. 'Level Nine' was the bottom of the barrel, the most severely disabled, retarded, and regressed patients, some of whom were 'feeders' unable to feed themselves. We blended all parts of their meals into a goopy brown slurry and patiently spoon-fed catatonic patients. They were bound to their chairs in restraint camisoles with extra-long sleeves that could be tied behind the patients' backs. Dinnertime was always a sloppy mess. I worked with an older, white-haired worker, Mrs. Webb, who always wore starched white outfits as if she were a nurse, but she wasn't. She seemed like your typical sweet old granny. Who would ever suspect she was an abuser?

Living the good, quiet, and fun country life on Grist Mill Road near Harley Drive in Pine Forge, Pennsylvania, I created a custom candle business called 'Pine Forge Reproductions' that was profitable, having been created before the infamous OPEC oil crisis. Happily, I accessed a wholesale 'slack wax' tablet sheet source and loved the fragrant odors and creativity of blending colors, scents, and styles. From a cardboard box, I hawked my wares in local shopping malls and quickly realized good income. I made every type of candle you could imagine and especially enjoyed making hurricane and sand candles.

Torn twixt my entrepreneurial adventure and the 'security' of a paycheck, I decided to release the job and go full-time with my small business. My rent was only $50 a month, so naturally, I was riding high. At my Pennhurst exit interview, I asked about a complaint I had filed against a coworker, Mrs. Webb. Unbeknownst to her, I witnessed her brutally beating a crippled deaf mute patient with her ruler, leaving deep, reddened welts on the child's body. My report, I learned, had resulted in Mrs. Webb being moved to another 'low grade' ward, i.e., low-mobility, low-maintenance patients. There, she could hide out in the nursing station, munching on KFC and reading dime-store novels most of the time. This is why I hate abuse.

Rules for Reducing Defensiveness in Personal Encounters

Wed, 05 Aug 2026 11:44:35 GMT

How to Reduce Defensiveness

Frank DeDominicis - Culture Wizard, People Tamer, Business Innovator

www.frankdedominicis.com

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In today's digitally complex social landscape, interpersonal interactions often lead to defensiveness, hindering effective communication and cooperation. Even telephone communications are not total communications. There is no substitute for full-body communication, actually being with someone.

This issue explores eight essential rules for reducing defensiveness in personal encounters, drawing from my professional experience and psychological insights. These rules offer valuable guidance for individuals seeking to navigate delicate conversations and improve their relationships.

Numerous recent studies report that most people are stressed out much of the time, not just in the workplace but in life.

1. Identify what makes you defensive.

We tend to become defensive when we feel attacked, marginalized, or devalued. Such defensiveness is often rooted in what we believe validates who we are. For example, I experience much joy from winning hero points, which is not unusual for people in the professions. In contrast, I become defensive when and if the suggestion is made that my actions may have caused harm. So, when providing me with corrective feedback, please just give the facts and outcomes. Do not suggest that I am deficient or a lousy worker. Understanding our triggers is crucial to managing our defensiveness.

We can benefit from reflecting on what validates our feelings of self-worth. We experience joy from our achievements, but we are likely to become defensive when confronted with suggestions that we have caused harm to another or made a wrong decision. In mitigating defensive reactions to our words, constructive feedback is better focused on facts and outcomes rather than implying personal deficiencies. What makes us defensive? The answer varies depending on our deepest-held values. We defend what we hold sacred.

Dr. William Moulton Marston, in his book Emotions of Normal People, cites our defense responses as significant fears, which may include a combination of the following:

1) Fear of being taken advantage of

This is typical of hostile-explosive personalities.

2) Fear of loss of love, affection, or connection

Napoleon Hill, in Think and Grow Rich, identified this as one of the six major fears of all people. We need to be needed and will do crazy things for love. Have you?

3) Fear of loss of stability

This can mean loss of security, loss of stable systems and processes, and even fear of 'losing one's mind.' We can become so traumatized that we fear losing our mental faculties of being able to think and focus clearly or use reason.

4) Fear of loss of control

Closely related to the fear of loss of security, this is the fear that others may try to control our decisions and actions as if our voice doesn't count. No wonder calm people usually explode when this fear is triggered.

Reviewing these four primal fears helps ameliorate tensions before they occur and prepares us for a 'bridging' type of conversation. Mentally rehearsing 'what-if' scenarios before any potential confrontation can be helpful toward putting the other person at ease, even if they are angry.

2. Be sensitive to what makes others defensive.

This is more challenging to do than it may seem. We need to know the other person well to understand what makes them defensive. Most people tend to value and protect that information. Like most young people, I was particularly sensitive about my appearance when I was a schoolboy. I was teased by a classmate who referred to me as Mad magazine's mascot, Alfred E. Neuman. I did not mind the teasing much because I'd always considered Alfred a world-famous comedy magazine celebrity. He was way too cool despite his missing tooth. Empathy plays a pivotal role in reducing defensiveness. People often guard their sensitive spots, making it challenging to discern their triggers.

Consider how a friend's macho insult about your appearance, intelligence, or social value affects you viscerally, although you may know their words are only a tease and not factual. Still, the insult triggers your adrenalin fight-or-flight response. You can feel it in your body, especially in your belly, where you experience your 'gut feelings.’ "The gut-brain connection makes it possible for emotional experiences to register as gastrointestinal distress. When you feel anxious, fearful, or certain that something's wrong, you might experience stomach twinges, pain, or nausea. That's where the name "gut feeling" comes from." – from Jan 27, 2021 - https://www.healthline.com/ .

Now for a comment on the dark side of human nature. That young person who teased me in school, although triggering my synapses and brain chemistry synapses, may have enjoyed an opposite biochemical brain chemistry reaction that can be pleasurable and addictive and reinforces brusque behavior. If, even subconsciously, the bully was enjoying my pain from the insult, perhaps he wanted a sadistic "dopamine lollipop," a brain chemistry natural high. This phrase is from Monica Guzman, author of I Never Thought of It That Way. Guzman highlights how unconsciously we contribute to interpersonal tension and conflict, especially with political or religious arguments that are a mental tug-of-war and not a mutual exchange of ideas intended to help understand each other better.

Too often, we dismiss others because we assume their intentions and motivations without directly asking questions to know the reasons why they behave as they do. To reduce defensiveness in others, we need to sincerely be curious about what makes them tick when asking questions and to listen attentively. A respectful tone may be helpful to others in revealing their reasons and rationale. This helps them to relax, feel respected, and fully disclose, building trust.

In his famous book, The Hidden Persuaders, author Vance Packard stated decades ago what he knew about mass brainwashing, mainly that effective brainwashing is not obvious. It is rooted in deep and primal emotions, particularly fears of loss. As any terrorist negotiator knows, the communications process starts with small verbal concessions that slowly shift your role from the meanie interrogator to the reasonably polite interrogator. Hence, in 1934, the father of the public relations industry, Edward Bernays, in collaboration with the CIA, United Fruit Company and President Eisenhower, issued a series of gradually scarier and scarier press releases, playing on the national fears of 'commies' creeping up from South America. This mass brainwashing plan was put in place to justify overthrowing a democratically elected leader and instead to install a puppet regime. Edward Bernays knew effective brainwashing is not obvious but is rooted in deep and primal emotions, particularly fears. Bernays rationalized, "You're not really lying if the lies you tell are to counter other lies."

If you're a boomer, do you remember pre-internet days in the early 90s when the tech world announced the coming of something called "The Super Information Highway?" In 1984, my friend Toby shocked me by saying that someday, mailing letters would be obsolete thanks to email. That was news to me. Online shopping was considered suspicious and dangerous when the internet was a digital infant with few websites. The mantra of the hoi polloi was, "I'm not gonna put my credit card number on the Internet." Now look at us with our Amazon purchasing addiction. We have been converted from resistant to a new idea to true believers through propaganda techniques.

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

6. Realize that it is not the emotional content of communication that affects the attitudes of others as much as the intent in delivery.

We've all said things in the heat of the moment that we've regretted later. That is common. In a conflict situation, if your attitude is to be helpful, you will naturally choose the right words instead of letting your spontaneous emotions express themselves. Effective communication hinges on the intention behind our words. Focus on being helpful rather than allowing emotions to dictate your responses. Benjamin Franklin said, "Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself." This underscores the importance of intention in communication. Emphasizing helpfulness can lead to more productive interactions.

7. Don't try to change people.

People resist change, especially when it feels imposed. Instead, highlight the importance of creating a safe, supportive environment where individuals feel heard and valued. Encouraging voluntary change in a nurturing atmosphere can yield more positive outcomes.

People especially resist change when it is being imposed on them by others. Imagine working for a company like Twitter or Amazon, where management expects absolute compliance with company protocols and policies, although workers are not involved in shaping the culture. Elon Musk's "hardcore ultimatum" for workers has produced mass quit-rage and likely 'quiet quitting' by remaining workers. People are more apt to change for the better if provided a safe, supportive environment where they feel heard, not based on the carrot and stick.

8. Know thyself.

This is probably the hardest one of these suggestions. Self-awareness is a cornerstone of reducing defensiveness. Anyone who has jumped through their Jo-Hari window realizes that we all have a personality 'blind spot,' a part of ourselves that others observe but we cannot see. That is why it is good to have a strong support system and create what Napoleon Hill referred to as your imaginary board of advisors. Those who observe you well can give valuable information about your blind spot. Just ask them.

Ways to practice being nonjudgmental

Online media professionals know they feed us 'dopamine lollipops' whenever they post a headline that champions our preferred politician or features headlines that show our adversaries are harmed. All of the 'news' headlines are not simply stated reports of something new but are written in language to make us curious, angry, sad, frustrated, excited, or eager to spend money on yet another fabulous offer.

This constant flood of digitized white noise is a form of political conditioning, as explored in the book The Rape of the Mind by Joost Merloo. The masses are being lured into being well-tamed consumers of whatever beliefs are saleable without even knowing about it but actually enjoying the ride. This is true universally, despite claims of 'agenda-free reporting.'

Our limbic brain is wired for our self-centered self-preservation with a sensitive fight or flight trigger that can dramatically shift with just one word or image. Some media viewers/listeners who know what to expect can consciously create a 'perceptual defense' bubble around them that insulates them from being influenced. Instead, they can create a mentally calm and spiritually centered state of being.

Joost says, "The more familiar people are with the concepts of thought control and menticide, the more they understand the nature of the propaganda barrage directed against them." By his word 'menticide,' he means the devolution of and ultimate control of the collective mind of the masses. It is used to kill free thinkers' right to create a mind free from worldly distractions. Menticide ends the right and ability of individuals to think and reason for themselves.

As Carol Tavris reminds us in her seminal book Anger – The Misunderstood Emotion, every time we get angry, we have the opportunity to repeat and reinforce historical behavior and thought patterns, to be stuck in that reflexive anger pattern. Or we can pause and choose a different, more satisfying way of responding. We can manage ourselves and our feelings by controlling our thoughts.

Awareness of others' vulnerabilities and treating them with sensitivity and respect is vital to fostering open dialogue, especially in conflicted situations where two screamers send messages and neither receives them. In heated arguments, we often misinterpret the hidden messages beneath the words. Virginia Satir, the mother of family therapy, eloquently stated, "93% of the effect of all communications is through meta-messages attached beneath the surface to spoken words."

Hostage negotiators, lawyers skilled at cross-examination, military and political brainwashers, and interrogators of wartime enemies and captive terrorists, through sheer repetition, all sharpen their process observation aptitudes through the execution of their usual work tasks. They learn how to reduce defensiveness and to motivate by inferential listening. This was demonstrated when Johnny Depp's calm lawyer listened carefully and merely echoed Amber Heard's testimony down to specific words, thus allowing her to self-incriminate.

3. Never be judgmental in thought, speech, or action.

This is practically impossible without conscious effort and awareness of our biases and prejudices, which may be hidden 'under the hood' beneath an opaque layer of denial. When reacting to others, we must pause and check our first spontaneous thought and then carefully choose another thought and attitude that may improve the relationship. This is the essence of cognitive-behavioral therapy. If you listen to your first reactive thought, your self-talk reveals your inner attitude. Cognitive behavioral therapy has effectively treated anger management, PTSD, depression, anxiety, smoking cessation, and addiction.

Eliminating judgment requires conscious effort and awareness of personal biases. Cognitive-behavioral therapy principles can guide us in managing our thoughts and attitudes. We can improve relationships and reduce defensiveness by pausing to evaluate our initial 'first thought' reactions and choosing more constructive thoughts.

Marston's DiSC™ model’s predominant fears of the four styles

Dominance/Power Their biggest concern is fear of being taken advantage of (ego-loss). To reduce interpersonal tension, think and speak in terms of "we," not "us versus them." D styles have more anger issues than the other styles. To reduce interpersonal tension with a D style, ask what they need and want, and if possible and practical, give it to them.

Influence/Empathy

Fear of loss of approval (or affection) is common for all people, but especially for those whose world is defined in terms of relationships and their quality and attributes. The "i" style can be effusive and emotional, so in conflict, remind them that you are fighting to resolve the problem and not attacking them personally, or worse, withdrawing love and affection.

Submission/Obedience

Fear of loss of security (or predictability) reveals a need for order and established systems and processes. Hating conflict, this style usually caves in, retreats, or withdraws requests, only to avoid the person causing the conflict in the future. Because they are good at concealing their true feelings, dominance styles in conflict with them often are deceived into thinking the problem is solved when, in fact, the S style buries their resentment deeper.

Compliance/Acceptance

Fear of loss of control (or accuracy) is why this style works well with the S style but not so much with the D style. Because they can be highly observant and intuitive, they can retain much 'hidden' information about you that can be revealed if they explode in anger, often causing deep wounds because of the accuracy of their observations about your weaknesses and faults.

References

Marston’s Book reviewed

https://internalchange.com/emotions-of-normal-people-book-summary/ - Adam Stamm

Human Trafficking

https://humantraffickinghotline.org/

Healthline

https://www.healthline.com/

Beck, A. T. (1993). Cognitive therapy: Past, Present, and Future. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 61(2), 194-198.

Think and Grow Rich - The Landmark Bestseller Now Revised and Updated for the 21st Century (Think and Grow Rich Series): Napoleon Hill, Arthur R. Pell: 9781585424337: Amazon.com : Books

The Hidden Persuaders - Packard, Vance, Miller, Mark Crispin: 9780978843106: Amazon.com : Books

Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion - Tavris, Carol: 9780671675233: Amazon.com : Books

Propaganda - Edward Bernays, Mark Crispin Miller: 9780970312594: Amazon.com : Books - a book that influenced Goebbels and Hitler.

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The Johari Window: A Simple Explanation You Can Apply To Your Team - YouTube

Selected Resources

Given the heightened state of conflict in all levels of society, as well as soaring statistics regarding many negative trends affecting quality-of-life factors, I'm motivated to teach peace to a seemingly crazy world, or at least an understanding of how to insulate yourself from all the white noise. More than ever, information about defensiveness can be invaluable.

The numbers reported today regarding negative news are staggering. For example, the average rate of mass shootings is two per day in the USA. The Xylazine crisis is killing 200+ people daily. Elder abuse, homelessness and suicide rates are at an all-time high. As of the date of this article, 09/10/23, the US has experienced more mass shootings than all of 2022, over 400 and climbing. Likewise, homelessness, drug addiction, and related deaths are rising, particularly as concerns about fentanyl and the new Xylazine crisis.

Human trafficking, modern-day slavery, is an elusive crime, with over fifty-one thousand signal calls reported by the Human Trafficking Hotline in 2021. With so many stressors on our minds, including natural catastrophes and the threat of nuclear annihilation, no wonder we can be short-tempered with those close to us.

When criminal offenses occur, many are injured. The perpetrator has been psychologically and emotionally damaged long before getting to a breaking point that results in crime. Of course, the victim suffers in the attack moment but also from traumatic triggers related to the crime long after the incident is history. Observers are also affected by witnessing man's inhumanity to fellow man. Rarely does anyone get through life without shock and trauma from observing reports of bad news, some from incidences such as losing a loved one. Hearing the machine scream, “Breaking News!” several times a day triggers my anxiety levels. Do you respond likewise?

To my readers, I promise that practicing these eight points will make your life journey much easier to traverse. I welcome hearing about your successes with these practical ideas. Now, let's move on to understanding and dealing with resistance..

The rules for reducing defensiveness in personal encounters presented in this paper provide valuable insights and practical strategies for fostering better communication and healthier relationships. By applying these rules with empathy, self-awareness, and intention, individuals can navigate interpersonal encounters more easily and effectively.

Remember, when confronted with a tense interpersonal situation, to think twice, then speak once.

Conclusion

Reflect on a recent situation when you made a snap judgment about someone else. Consider how you felt and what were your thoughts at the time. Do you even remember? Imagine, if you were coming from a place of equanimity, how you might have handled that situation.

Imagine a fictitious character struggling to overcome being judgmental in thought. Write about your character's journey towards becoming less aloof. What challenges do they face during that process? What beliefs and assumptions might they have to release?

Write a supportive letter to your adolescent self, offering guidance relationships. Share personal experiences, especially the ones that make you slightly nervous about disclosing. Note particularly valuable insights that you've garnered along your way.

Explore the benefits of being nonjudgmental. Write about how practicing nonjudgmental thoughts can improve relationships and overall health, reduce stress, and support personal growth and feelings of well-being.

Write one scene of an imaginary play, a dialogue between two friends who differ on controversial topics. Describe how they can engage in a nonjudgmental conversation, actively listening to each other without judgment.

Reflect about a time when someone was nonjudgmental towards you during a difficult or crazy situation. How did it impact you, and how did it make you feel? Think how you can pay that kindness forward to others, creating a ripple effect of good energy exchange.

Write a story about someone who goes to an idealistic, dreamy world known for its nonjudgmental and accepting community. Explore the character's experiences and gradual transformation as they interact with the people.

Journal your efforts to practice nonjudgmental thinking for only one week. Note the time of day and your moods then. Reflect on challenges you encounter and progress steps you make.

Explore the role of prayer, mindfulness, and meditation in cultivating nonjudgmental awareness. Write about your experiences with these practices and how they have helped you become less judgmental, at least some.

Write a dialogue between a wizard and his mentee, where the wizard imparts secret, ancient wisdom about the true nature of magic and miracles, and gives guidance on the importance of nonjudgmental thinking and how to incorporate it into daily life.

4. If you sense resistance, ask why.

Reduce resistance through understanding responses. Send understanding and clarifying messages.

In close relationships, addressing underlying issues is crucial. I remember a workplace situation in which a coworker was constantly sarcastic. I tried to resolve workplace conflict by directly asking the employee about their concerns. They vented, and I attentively listened. This empathetic approach led to open communication and improved relations. Identifying resistance signals and seeking clarification can foster mutual understanding.

Especially in close, caring relationships, it's good to check in and talk about what lies beneath surface communications, especially if you intuitively feel distanced emotionally. Once, while managing line workers, I sensed a coworker's disapproval of me and asked that employee, "What is it that you don't like about me or how I work with you?" After the upset person emptied their complaints, they were grateful to be heard. My empathetic listening and gratitude for their feedback shifted the relationship in a positive direction. Empathy plays a pivotal role in reducing defensiveness. People often guard their sensitive spots, making it challenging to discern their self-protection triggers.

As an adolescent, I remember how super-sensitive I was when teased by my peers about my appearance. That type of sensitivity varies among all individuals, not just young people. Consider how a friend's macho insult about your appearance, intelligence, or social value affects you viscerally. Although you may know their words are only a tease and not factual, the abuse still triggers your adrenalin fight-or-flight response.

5. Learn the natural tendencies toward defensiveness

of the twelve 'hidden' DiSC personality styles and how to identify specific resistance signals. Understanding personality styles and their defense triggers can enhance communication. Dr. Marston's DiSC model identifies associated fears related to different styles. By recognizing these tendencies, individuals can adapt their communication to reduce defensiveness. Taking the Everything DiSC™ assessment can provide valuable insights into one's style. The 12 different 'hidden' DiSC personality styles tend to have specific defense triggers.

It is important to note that DiSC is not a typology but describes interpersonal behavioral tendencies when the instrument is used. It is merely a real-time snapshot. Your profile may look completely different in the boardroom than in the bedroom, where it can appear quite the opposite.

Paws and Productivity — Working with a Bunch of Animals

Wed, 05 Aug 2026 11:21:18 GMT

The Human-Animal Bond

Animals who work for a living include mining canaries, homing pigeons, mine-hunting dolphins, and rescue dogs of war.

Does bringing a dog to work lift everyone’s spirits, or just spark a flurry of playful distractions? While we’ve tackled workplace conflicts before, today’s focus is on our furry, scaly, and feathered colleagues—dogs, yes, but also cats, lizards, guinea pigs, birds, and even fish.

Offices with pets report less conflict and improved working relationships, perhaps because pets remind us of our innate primal nature, or because of the psychological and emotional rewards of the human-animal bond. Pets can provide us with unconditional positive regard.

Speaking of which…recently, I encountered a wild animal while hiking in Colorado’s La Garita volcanic area, in the San Juan Mountain Range, which features absolutely hypnotic, beauteous panoramas spanning millions of acres. Gazing off to the horizon, for a few moments I was frozen in space and time, captivated by the fabulous view. Joyfully, I appreciated my being part of the larger scheme of nature, of the wheel of life, like just another ant, just another carbon-based lifeform munching on a protein bar.

Being still, quiet, and distracted by the scenery, I did not notice a beautiful coyote with a full grey tail that was right in front of me. It was about ten yards away, lapping water in the stream that I was following. My hikers’ companion handbook warned me about exploring where black bears go, down to the creek where wild berries grow. Still, like my saintly namesake, I’ve always felt a kinship with beasts, as if we shared a common mind, like lovers who are cerebrally connected through long-trained intuition. Noticing me, the wolf glanced up from the water as we shared our unspoken body language messages.

Dialogue with a Coyote.

Dr. William Moulton Marston, who (obsessively) interpreted every behavior through his DiSC filter, claimed that becoming ‘distracted and thoughtless’ while viewing a panoramic natural beauty horizon was a form of compliance, of allowing the environment to dominate us. Simultaneously, whenever something goes down in the traditional DiSC graph model, something else must go up numerically within the six vertical segments. Hence, relaxing and surrendering our attention to beauty, becoming lost in the moment, lowers cortisol and elevates oxytocin, the famous ‘natural high’ experienced by outdoor enthusiasts.

In researching this subject, I learned that overwhelmingly, dogs in the workplace are favored over other animals. Clearly, there are workspaces inappropriate for animals other than the human animal. The benefits are multiplicative for the pets, workers, and the bottom line.

A major resource on the subject is the Human Animal Bond Research Institute (HABRI), which has partnered with Mental Health America (MHA) to create an online hub featuring resources, information, and tools that emphasize the positive role of companion animals in overall health and well-being. Outcomes are uniformly positive, enhancing mental health and reducing stress for workers and their pets, who are not left home alone to miss their favored feeders.

A survey of 4,000 MHA constituents found that pet owners overwhelmingly report positive health benefits from their pets and have a significant interest in resources related to pets and mental health. The resource center provides expert information on the science behind the human-animal bond, animal-assisted interventions, mental health resources for pet owners, and guidance on choosing and caring for pets. Pets help those suffering from social isolation, PTSD, and depression. In fact, automaton pets are marketed to lonely elders, a hot market niche.

Rather than my restating obvious benefits of the human-animal bond, below you will find references to help you explore how to bring the idea to your team, how to win buy-in with peers for a dog-friendly work day, and what liability and protection terms may need to be added to your lease and to the company policy regarding pets in the workspace. Workers need to provide vaccination documents and sign off regarding reasonable care terms.

Pandemic Survey Research: Pet Health Study Outcomes

The study revealed that the human-animal bond is stronger than ever, with bond strength correlating to increased vet visits and greater adoption of pet care technologies. During COVID-19, there was a massive surge in dog adoptions. A 2021 ASPCA survey reported that approximately 23 million American households acquired a pet (dog or cat) during the COVID-19 pandemic. This accounts for nearly one in five U.S. households. .

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

Younger pet owners, especially Gen Z, report high levels of care-related stress and are turning to technology for support, including tools such as symptom checkers, smart feeders, robotic litter boxes, and wearables. The emotional toll of leaving pets behind is a universal challenge, highlighting the need for solutions that help pet owners feel connected and reassured when away from their pets. To them, cost is no object when caring for a furry family member.

Gen Z and Pets

Given the many positive benefits and minimal downsides of pets in the office, consider introducing a pet policy if your workplace does not already have one. Refer to the HABRI resources below for sample agreements and practical steps to get started.

If the peaceful, centered feeling I gained from my encounter with a coyote in the wilderness is any indication of the physiological and psychological benefits of the human-animal bond, imagine the positive impact this could have if we embraced such effects—where practical—in our offices and workspaces. Let's welcome workspace companions who are apolitical, always hungry to give and receive affection, and potential defenders for if and when revenooers come a'calling.

Research: Pets and Mental Health

HABRI-funded research has demonstrated the mental health benefits of pets, including:

Service dogs reducing stress, depression, and social isolation for military veterans with PTSD. Adopting a shelter cat improves empathy; reduces separation anxiety in children with autism. Fostering shelter cats alleviates loneliness; improves mental health for older adults living independently. Therapy dog visitations reduce anxiety for children and parents in pediatric emergency departments.

Health Benefits of Office Pets

A comprehensive study of 101 children aged 7 to 12 examined the effect of the presence of a pet dog on children’s perceived stress levels. Compared with children alone or with a parent present, the presence of a pet dog significantly buffered increases in perceived stress.

The study highlights that the common reason dog companionship is valued is that dogs are non-judgmental and accepting of everyone. This is important, as the feeling of evaluation or judgment in social settings is one of the major triggers for socially related anxiety issues. During middle childhood, children engage in more social comparison and incorporate others’ feedback more into their sense of self, including how pets respond to them. The study suggests that because dog companions are by nature not evaluative in the same way as human companions, they may buffer perceived stress more effectively under certain conditions.

In Tucson, Arizona is a TRAK ranch that helps troubled (or not) children to develop social skills, empathy, and personal responsibility by caring for animals. In 'reform school' settings, this is a common therapeutic modality, giving a child a pet to love.

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Saint Roch (San Rocco): The Patron Saint of Dogs

Lastly, I discovered several interesting cases of divine canine miracles. Saint Roch is a saint usually depicted with a dog because of his Black Plague miracle. While caring for plague victims, because he had contracted the disease, he socially isolated himself in the woods. Oddly enough, a local nobleman’s dog began stealing morsels of bread from his master’s table and daily conveying it to Roch. Eventually, Roch fully recovered and returned to his good works, unimpaired by disease.

References

8 benefits of dogs in the workplace

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aFfgnZZij34

HABRI Impact Report

https://habri.org/assets/uploads/habri_impact_report_2025.pdf

Pets in the Workplace

https://habri.org/assets/uploads/tpe-the_woofice-handbook.pdf

How Taking Your Dog to Work Benefits Your Company's Bottom Line

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wrO_nS1evdk

Harley’s Hope

https://www.harleys-hopefoundation.org/

Dogs in the Office - Pros, Cons and Tips for Behavior Training

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WB83Bcgj5MY

No Kill Colorado

https://www.nokillcolorado.org/

Love Changes Lives

https://petcolove.org/

American Pet Products Association

https://americanpetproducts.org/about

14 Animals with Jobs | Animals who work for a living!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCjQL9sBSQA

Pet loss grief; the pain explained | Sarah Hoggan DVM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TkJGhQANjZo

New ASPCA Survey Shows Overwhelming Majority of Dogs and Cats Acquired During the Pandemic Are Still in Their Homes

https://www.aspca.org/about-us/press-releases/new-aspca-survey-shows-overwhelming-majority-dogs-and-cats-acquired-during

Pets at Work

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s40359-024-01854-y

Dogs in the Office - Pros, Cons and Tips for Behavior Training

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WB83Bcgj5MY

Did Christ Die for Dogs? – Speculative canine theology

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=crnkne1v-kk

Prayer to Saint Roch for Sick Dogs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VKGPHxt2bW4

Saint Roch

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saint_Roch

Selected Resources

What I imagined we mentally communicated:

Wolf: “Oh! Who are you? Are you a threat?”

Me: (standing still, but grinning hello) “Wow! You’re beautiful and graceful, shy dog.” Wolf: “Nice to meet you. I was just leaving.”

Then he proceeded to casually saunter away from me, following the natural footpath on the bank that long ago created by smaller creatures. I waited until he was about twenty yards away, then started following the stream path behind him, cracking a dried twig under my boot.

Me: noticing he stopped to check me out again, “Oops. Sorry. Carry on, friend.”

We both walked on for a while, with him several times glancing back at me. I followed him cautiously and quietly, being careful where I stepped.

Wolf: looking back at me as he walked into thicker brush, “Thanks for not scaring me. I’ve got to go.” …and he slowly disappeared into riparian camouflage.

Afterward, I felt that natural high, feeling complimented by the coyote’s calmness and accepting me for a few minutes into her space. For several minutes, I could not stop smiling.

Being a birder, I knew that by sitting still and staying quiet in the thick of the wilderness, I’d experience sounds and sights I might not if being noisy on the trail, sending out bear warning ‘Whoop, whoops!” Somehow, that encounter with the coyote lifted my spirits, a feeling that stayed with me long after I returned to civilization. Oddly, I feel like I have a friend out there.

In both Western and non-Western cultures, pet ownership has been found to offer psychological support for children and young adults. This effect helps improve self-esteem and enables them to create more positive images of themselves. Pet horses and dogs have been found to expand children's social circles and increase the number of human contacts, which can improve emotional health outcomes such as self-esteem.

A study examining the level of childhood attachment to pets identified links between pet attachment and empathy, positive attitudes toward animals, and prosocial orientation and behavior. The study suggests that greater direct involvement and responsibility in a pet's care can facilitate childhood attachment to that pet. While children reported the highest level of attachment to dogs, they also demonstrated strong attachment to cats, followed by small animals.

Child-dog interactions may prevent the evolution of emotional problems into full-fledged mental, emotional, or behavioral disorders during adolescence or during adulthood. In a cross-sectional study of over 600 children in a primary care setting, having a pet dog in the home was associated with a lower probability of childhood anxiety.

Children's Social & Emotional Development

Pets in the Workplace

Canine Miracles (alleged)

One of the most famous accounts is that of Saint John Bosco (Don Bosco) and a mysterious, large gray dog he named Grigio ("The Gray One").

The Protection In the mid-1800s, Don Bosco often traveled through dangerous parts of Turin, Italy. On numerous occasions, he was ambushed by thugs or assassins. Grigio would suddenly appear from nowhere to fight off the attackers and then escort the saint home safely.

The Miracle

Grigio required no food or shelter and would vanish as mysteriously as he appeared. He once prevented Don Bosco from leaving his home by lying across the doorway and growling—only for the saint to learn later that an ambush had been waiting for him that very night. Many believe Grigio was an angel in canine form.

In salutation to all my canine friends out there, “Arrrf! Arf! Aowww. Ruff, ruff, ruff, ruff! Woof!”

-Frank DeDominicis

Saint John Bosco and "Grigio"

App-solutely Addicted to Digital Dependency: Resolving Internet and Phone Addiction

Tue, 04 Aug 2026 12:49:51 GMT

Choking on Hypocrisy

How Big Is the Problem?

Now let’s examine the scope of internet and phone addiction, its distinct effects on young people and seniors, and the treatments currently showing the most promise.

Treatment and Paths to Healthier Use

Before I launch into an exposé on the dangers and costs of cognitive overload, allow me to share one of my favorite hobbies: confronting my own hypocrisy. Although we live in a world of instant critiques of others’ behavior, both online and within our families, how often do you look in the mirror and ask how to deal with your own shortcomings, bad habits, and character defects? I’ll bet that the answer is ‘never’ for most people.

Long ago, I learned how taking inventory of the sins of others is merely a distraction from my own path of self-improvement and growth, thanks to the wise counsel of my mother, who reminded me that, at any one time, our field of ignorance is immeasurably and infinitely larger than our finite body of knowledge.

So, with a bit of humility and an attitude of community service, I now share with you how modern, wonderful electronic communications inventions have dramatically impacted public moods, attitudes, and beliefs. Please argue against me if you strongly disagree.

I firmly believe that it is hard to find others who, rather than surfing the internet, prefer to rely on high-quality offline research to uncover reliable facts and develop a more objective point of view. That is hardly possible amid all the highly biased online noise that the hoi polloi have accepted as ‘normal.’ By offline research, I mean books, journals, educational courses and seminars, and actual conversations with intelligent experts.

In 1977, I first learned about cellular communications because a Motorola agent contacted me when I was working as part of the Governor’s Office of Emergency Preparedness for the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania, my crews and I dealing with the aftermath of a natural disaster: the notorious, second Johnston flood, caused by a dam break.

Motorola donated several satellite communication devices to me to help the Red Cross and other relief agencies communicate and coordinate in Johnstown, Pennsylvania, where the major damage occurred. My work teams were tasked with digging mud out of basements to recover corpses. As traumatic as that recovery work was, the cellular devices helped to coordinate the various agencies’ action strategies, making things a bit easier and less chaotic, despite the deep pathos.

During the heavy rainfall of July 19–20, 1977, six dams failed in the Conemaugh Valley. The Laurel Run Dam on Laurel Run was an old earthen dam originally owned by The Bethlehem Steel Company and later sold to the Johnstown Water Company. This dam had a 42+1⁄2-foot-high (13.0 m) spillway, and when it failed, about 101 million US gallons (380,000 m3) of water were released. The water then proceeded downstream, overflowing six more dams. As with the 2026 Washington, D.C., monument reflection pool project, the full story is an exposé of bad contracting.

Laurel Run Dam – The Deadliest U.S. Dam Failure

Who has time to meet people, connect, and relate tete-a-tete when we are addicted to the ‘smartphone’? That sounds like so much work, when we can just connect virtually with a click, and just as easily block and delete others from our lives, for some of us, after having the last self-righteous word.

Oddly, the smartphone has become the most intimate object in modern life — closer to one’s hand than our keys or wallets, and checked before one’s eyes are fully open, and often (for phone sleepers) the last thing touched before sleep.

What began as a communication tool has evolved into a constant companion woven into work, relationships, entertainment, and even our own self-image. For most people, this connectivity is convenient. For a growing number, it has become compulsive. Researchers, clinicians, and public health bodies now describe ‘problematic internet use,’ ‘smartphone addiction,’ and ‘internet gaming disorder’ as behavioral patterns that mirror substance addictions: loss of control, preoccupation, withdrawal-like distress, and continued use despite harm, just like fentanyl - xylazine addicts.

Estimates vary by methodology and country, but the overall picture is consistent: dependency on digital devices is widespread and rising. Global surveys suggest that roughly a third of internet users exhibit problematic use ranging from moderate to severe, and smartphone-specific studies estimate that over a billion people worldwide may exhibit some form of behavioral dependence on their phones. In the United States, self-report surveys commonly find that around half of adults consider themselves at least somewhat addicted to their smartphones, with average daily use now several hours per person.

Adolescents show even higher rates. Cross-sectional studies using validated screening tools such as the Smartphone Addiction Scale have found that 38.1% of Austrian adolescents and young adults surveyed scored above the clinical cut-off for problematic smartphone use, and a large Brazilian study of high schoolers found smartphone addiction prevalence near 55%, using the Smartphone Addiction Inventory. Regional and national variation is significant, but the direction of the trend — upward — is not in dispute.

It's worth noting that many of the most frequently cited ‘addiction statistics’ circulating online come from marketing or advocacy sites rather than peer-reviewed sources, and figures should be read with appropriate caution. The more rigorous, peer-reviewed literature converges on a narrower but still concerning conclusion: problematic use affects a meaningful minority to near-majority of users, depending on age group and measurement tool, and it correlates consistently with poorer mental health outcomes .

What Addiction to a Screen Actually Looks Like

Behavioral addiction to the internet or phone is not simply ‘using it a lot.’ Clinically oriented definitions focus on a cluster of features: an inability to control use despite intending to cut back; anxiety or irritability when separated from the device; use that displaces sleep, work, or relationships, and continued engagement despite awareness of the harm it causes.

Neuroscience research points to the same reward circuitry implicated in substance and gambling addictions — variable, unpredictable rewards (a like, a notification, a new post) trigger dopamine release in ways that are strikingly similar to a slot machine. App design itself plays a role: infinite scroll, auto-play, and push notifications are engineered specifically to maximize engagement, a fact increasingly acknowledged by former technology executives and documented by researchers studying ‘persuasive design.’ Notice how AI apps won't let you have the last word, even if you say goodbye. Can you guess why? Think.

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

Older adults are a relatively new and understudied population in this research, but a growing body of work shows they are not immune — and, in some ways, face distinct risks. Smartphone ownership among adults aged 65 and older has climbed dramatically over the past decade, and with it, rates of problematic use have risen.

Unlike teens, older adults' compulsive use is less often driven by peer pressure or social comparison and more often tied to loneliness, boredom, and a search for connection. Research from China found that subjective cognitive decline and family relationship conflict increase smartphone addiction in older adults through a heightened sense of alienation.

Paradoxically, heavier device use meant to combat loneliness is often associated with worse outcomes: higher smartphone dependence in seniors correlates with increased depressive and anxiety symptoms, poorer sleep quality, and, in some cases, greater loneliness, as virtual interaction fails to substitute for face-to-face contact. How paradoxical! Just remember that social media is not social but is antisocial.

Physical consequences matter too — one 2025 study found smartphone addiction was associated with reduced physical activity and lower functioning in daily living activities among elderly participants, though not with balance specifically. (Link in References below.)

Seniors also face a layered vulnerability: many entered the smartphone era later in life with less digital literacy, which some research suggests actually heightens susceptibility to problematic use, since lower familiarity with settings, social boundaries, and platform mechanics can make disengagement harder rather than easier. Again, remember that all social media is basically antisocial.

Effects on Seniors

The good news is that problematic digital use responds to intervention, and the evidence base of treatment has matured considerably in the past few years.

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is the most extensively studied and consistently effective approach. A 2025 umbrella review of meta-analyses evaluating interventions for digital addiction found CBT among the interventions with strong supporting evidence, alongside group counseling and structured self-control training. Structured CBT programs delivered over 8 to 12 weeks have shown measurable reductions in addiction severity, along with decreases in accompanying depression and anxiety symptoms.

German randomized clinical trials of 143 men (Jäger et al., published in JAMA Psychiatry, 2019) found strong remission rates for internet and computer game addiction using CBT, with a subset that maintained improvement at six-month follow-up. Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6624826/

Physical activity and behavioral substitution

Exercise-based interventions appear repeatedly in systematic reviews as an effective adjunct, likely because they provide an alternative source of dopaminergic reward and directly counteract the sedentary patterns associated with heavy screen use. If I’m chained to my desk all day, I set a timer to get up every hour to stretch, walk, do breath work exercises, and sometimes grab a nutritious snack.

Family and relational interventions , particularly for adolescents, focus on communication and reducing household conflict, since family tension has been identified as a contributing driver of compulsive use in both teens and older adults. The internet becomes an escape from family tensions.

Digital detox and structural changes

Scheduled device-free periods, grayscale screens, app timers, and notification reduction are widely recommended, though systematic reviews caution that digital detox alone, without an accompanying behavioral or therapeutic framework, tends to produce only short-term benefit. Perhaps, as in the highly successful 12-step programs, you need an internet-sober ally to encourage and support you on your path of personal growth sans electronic devices.

Pharmacological treatment remains secondary and is generally reserved for cases with significant co-occurring psychiatric conditions, such as major depression or ADHD, where medications like SSRIs or bupropion may be used alongside therapy rather than in place of it.

Seniors

For seniors specifically, interventions that pair digital literacy education with structured opportunities for in-person social contact appear promising, since much of their compulsive use is compensatory rather than reward-driven, as adolescent use often is.

For teens , combining individual or group CBT with family-based communication strategies and school-level policy (such as phone-free class time) shows the strongest combined evidence.

For elders and those who support and advocate for the positive aging movement, an example of quality online social connection is the monthly ‘Wisdom of Age Presents’ virtual collaboration sessions hosted by Jeff Rubin. ( https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffrubin1/ )

Effects on Young People

Adolescents and young adults are considered the highest-risk group for developmental reasons. The adolescent brain has heightened sensitivity to social reward and reduced impulse control relative to adults, making the intermittent-reward structure of social media especially compelling.

Consequences across Several Domains

Sleep

Nighttime phone use delays melatonin release and shortens sleep duration, and poor sleep in turn worsens mood regulation and academic performance, creating a feedback loop.

Mental health

Multiple studies link problematic smartphone use in teens to elevated depression, anxiety, and disordered eating. One Austrian study found problematic use was associated with substantially higher odds of depressive symptoms, anxiety symptoms, and disordered eating even after adjusting for other factors.

A large South Korean study of over 54,000 adolescents found that those with high-risk smartphone use had meaningfully elevated odds of both suicidal ideation and suicide attempts compared with general users.

Social comparison and self-image

Constant exposure to curated, idealized content contributes to appearance-related anxiety and pressure to maintain a polished online persona, a dynamic that professional psychological bodies have flagged as a specific risk for adolescent identity development.

Academic and physical effects

Excessive use is associated with reduced physical activity, disrupted attention and study habits, and, in some studies, poorer diet quality linked to sedentary screen time.

Conclusion

Internet and phone addiction is not a moral failing or a simple matter of willpower — it is a predictable outcome of powerful reward-driven technology interacting with vulnerable developmental stages and life circumstances, whether that's an adolescent brain still building impulse control or an older adult coping with loneliness and cognitive change.

The research is increasingly detailed that this pattern of use carries real costs to sleep, mental health, relationships, and, in the most severe cases, safety. But it is also treatable. Cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness training, physical activity, family-based support, and thoughtfully structured digital detox all have evidence behind them, and outcomes improve substantially when these approaches are combined rather than used in isolation. As digital life becomes more, not less, embedded in daily routines, building these skills — for teenagers, seniors, and everyone in between — is likely to matter more, not less, in the years ahead.

In closing, let me say that I hope that you have not had the same experience as I have, that of literally losing friends to the internet, although it may be highly likely. For some strange reason, some acquaintances feel compelled to echo the news to me, even before a warm greeting. It’s as if they don’t have an original, creative idea. (You know who you are.) I have a relation like that, an angerholic who is never at peace, so the ‘news’ serves as continuous fuel for their hate, fear, and vengeance. Seeing them is like seeing a drug addict who went over the line into psychosis.

So, carefully and thoughtfully shape your plans for future internet and phone use accordingly. I do. Master your environment, friend. Don’t be enslaved by it. Turn off, tune in to yourself, and drop slightly away for a while.

- Frank DeDominicis

References

What is Technology Addiction? | APA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k2QFvjiZoCU

Internet addiction is changing teen brains: Study

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7aGJBlEY8UM

Smartphone Addiction Scale – Short Form

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ymaJEBdUNjjNCyav_vCf91EqNVO6eeRo/view?usp=drive_link

Smartphone addiction among elderly individuals: its relationship with physical activity, activities of daily living, and balance levels https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Nx4PjATDy5c6lxrDFfR7KNmBo0odXYWw/view?usp=sharing

Efficacy of Short-term Treatment of Internet and Computer Game Addiction

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6624826/

Note: Some widely circulated "phone addiction statistics" online originate from marketing or advocacy websites rather than peer-reviewed research; figures in this essay prioritize peer-reviewed and institutional sources where possible, with appropriate caveats where estimates vary widely across studies.

Selected Resources

Radtke, T., Apel, T., Schenkel, K., Keller, J., & von Lindern, E. (2021). Digital detox: An effective solution in the smartphone era? A systematic review. Mobile Media & Communication

Winkler, A., Dorsing, B., Rief, W., Shen, Y., & Glombiewski, J. A. (2013). Treatment of internet addiction: A meta-analysis. Clinical Psychology Review, 33(2), 317–329. Lu, P., Qiu, J., Huang, S., et al. (2025). Interventions for Digital Addiction: Umbrella Review of Meta-Analyses. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 27, e59656

Kil, N., Kim, J., McDaniel, J. T., Kim, J., & Kensinger, K. (2021). Examining associations between smartphone use, smartphone addiction, and mental health outcomes. Health Promotion Perspectives, 11(1), 36–44

Han, D. H., et al. — cited in Patel et al. (2025). A Narrative Review of Digital Addiction and Health: A New Challenge for Modern Medicine. Cureus, 17(12), e100491

Study on Austrian adolescents and young adults: The Association between Problematic Smartphone Use and Mental Health. International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health (PMC10970667).

Association between Smartphone Addiction and Suicide among Korean adolescents (PMC9517102).

Understanding older adults' smartphone addiction in the digital age: empirical evidence from China. Frontiers in Public Health (2023)

Smartphone addiction among elderly individuals: its relationship with physical activity, activities of daily living, and balance levels. BMC Public Health (2025)

Lopes, L. A., et al. (2025). Smartphone addiction among adolescents: associations with mental health, physical inactivity, daytime sleepiness, and consumption of ultra-processed foods.

HR Ageist Hiring Policies Exposed - How Ageism is Self-Defeating Economically

Tue, 04 Aug 2026 12:10:24 GMT

When I began my research for this article, I reached out to thought-leaders in the ageism field for their input on how ageism is not only a globally rampant prejudice but it is also negatively affecting commerce, particularly in human resource hiring and retention practices. Ageism affects job applicants who are over forty years of age. Some companies have even developed prejudicial job applicant screening and hiring practices as showcased in their controversial ‘rebranding programs.’

To begin, let’s expand our thinking about what ‘age’ is for the majority of us who usually refer to it as a number, our chronological age. In fact, there are four other types of age to consider as author Helen Hirsh Spencer explains in her March 5th, 2026 LinkedIn newsletter article, How Do You Define Old Age?

She says, “When you’re asked about your age, where is the first place you go? I bet it’s to the number of years since your birth. In other words, you consider your Chronological age. But there are so many other types of age to consider, such as:

Biological age refers to your physical well-being and how your body compares to the average person of the same chronological age as you.

Functional age is based on your ability to perform a task, job, or activity determined by an assessment. Examples include hearing, seeing, and memory.

Psychological age involves learning and memory.

Social age refers to your emotional maturity, ability to self-regulate and depends significantly on societal expectations.

The US hit an age cliff in 2025 with the number of 18-year-old youths now in decline Fertility rates, and immigration are also on the decline which means there is a need to retain, retrain or engage older workers. Unfortunately, ageism clouds reason.”

Something else to consider about intersecting socio-dynamic trends and their combined impact is that although the future is not predictable, the current hiring trends' trajectory path of hiring youth and firing elders, will become a catalyst for change in a shrinking labor market.

An Innovative Solution to the Problem of Ageist Hiring Practices

Colorado HB26-1010 would modify the state’s workforce policy to ensure older Coloradans have a seat at the table regarding workforce support and resources. This bill prioritizes representation by placing a worker aged 55 or older on several commissions to ensure their perspectives and needs are considered in the workforce.

HB26-1010 also requires the Colorado Workforce Development Council, Commission on Aging, and others to work collaboratively to support workforce development and examine issues related to employment access, training, support, and services for older adults.

CORPORATE AGEISM SHAME LIST

Key Statistics (2024–2026)

Companies Busted for Ageism

Now, let’s shame those organizations who work against their own best bottom-line interests in instituting age-prejudicial job applicant screening and hiring protocols, in addition to other ageist injustices. Here’s a list of some of ageist culture companies:

IBM

Ongoing/Settled (2024-25): Systemic effort to replace with millennials.

Workday

Ongoing (March 2026): Federal collective action over AI screening that rejects 40+ applicants.

Google

Settled ($11M): Systematic rejection of older software engineering applicants.

Eli Lilly

Settled ($2.4M): "Early Career" hiring program that excluded older sales reps.

Mastercard

Settled ($26M, Jan 2025): Discrimination and wrongful termination involving older professionals.

PriceWaterhouseCoopers

Settled ($11.6M): Recruitment restricted to campus-only, barring older "Associate" hires.

Texas Roadhouse

Settled ($12M): Refused to hire 40+ applicants for customer-facing roles to stay "young."

General Motors

Charged (2025): EEOC suit alleging disability/age bias in short-term benefit caps.

Raytheon

Ongoing (2024-26): Class action for favoring younger workers in aerospace engineering roles.

Twitter (X)

Ongoing (2024-26): Allegations that 2022 layoffs and new policies targeted older workers.

Starbucks

Ongoing (2025): Class action alleging race/age goals displaced experienced staff.

Amazon

Charged (2024-25): Lawsuits regarding warehouse and management hiring age bias.

Meta (Facebook)

Settled: Previously sued for allowing age-targeted job ads to hide listings from 40+.

Boeing - Settled ($36M)

Workforce reduction plans that disproportionately affected older employees.

Hewlett-Packard (HP)

Ongoing: Multiple suits over "Workforce Reduction Plans" targeting older ages.

Intel

Investigation/Suits: Repeated claims that "Project Midpoint" was used to thin older ranks.

iTutorGroup

Settled ($365k): First EEOC AI suit; software auto-rejected women 55+ and men 60+.

Enterprise Leasing

Settled ($1.8M, 2025): Management trainee program biased against older applicants.

Meathead Movers

Settled ($2M, 2025): Recruitment marketing and hiring excluded individuals over 40.

Henry Ford Health

Ongoing (2024-26): Mandatory cognition screening for 70+ staff regardless of performance.

Recent studies from AARP and Diversity.com highlight a significant gap between corporate policy and job-seeker reality. Ageism in hiring is not just a social concern—it is a significant economic liability impeding productivity and growth. This is the main thrust of author, activist, and positive aging speaker Jeff Rubin 's mission.

Productivity Gap

By 2050, the cost of age discrimination is projected to rise to $4 trillion if participation rates for older workers do not improve.

The "Experience Paradox"

While 99% of legal and tech leaders report difficulty finding "skilled talent," 59% of workers over 50 say their age hinders their ability to be hired for those same roles ( National Association of Legal Assistants , 2025).

Tech Sector Specifics

Of the total economic loss, roughly $44 billion is attributed specifically to the tech sector's preference for ‘younger, cheaper’ talent over experienced architects.

We are living longer but commerce does not value elder workers. What is the best way to handle this lifespan problem?

If we are facing an inevitable labor shortage (currently accelerated by Trump's deportation campaign) and ageist hiring practices, with boomers dying off, and fewer college graduates, what will become the long-term solution? Is it to extend retirement age? Hiring 20 year olds and firing 50 year olds is the current pattern, particularly in government jobs. Is this the labor ratio we really want? Let's check our labor blend numbers.

As the problem of prejudicial hiring practices is exacerbated by resume-scanning technology, perhaps the solution lies in the ethical, right use of technology. Perhaps we should ask ourselves, “what are the new age KPIs that human resource AI could monitor?” If such a system was installed, AI could notify human resources when the labor pool needed to hire more elders with advanced cognitive abilities.

Yes, this could be an effective solution, but mark my words and the date of this article to see how long it takes for commerce to really wake up to this solution. Prejudice is not easily dissolved, but a significant unexpected consequence of our inaction will impact the US economy on an ongoing basis much more than the hopefully temporary, global economic destabilization that has been created by Trump's new, illicit Iran war.

-Frank DeDominicis

Quotes

"Addressing talent shortages without addressing ageism is a losing strategy. Rethinking hiring, advancement, and retention practices to build age-diverse teams that strengthen productivity and resilience is necessary for a strong economy."

– Helen Hirsch Spence

"Older workers face age discrimination and are often overlooked for jobs they are qualified for, even though they bring expertise, maturity, and perspective. This should not be the case. Employers need talent, and it makes great business sense to hire experienced workers." — Carly Roszkowski, VP of Financial Resilience, AARP (2025)

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

Colorado’s Workforce Progress via Legislation

Words & Images Frame the Aging Conversation - Helen Hirsh Spence / Top 60 Over 60 Newsletter – Please subscribe and share.

https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/age-sense-7377782746225582080/

The Age Cliff

https://www.npr.org/2025/01/08/nx-s1-5246200/demographic-cliff-fewer-college-students-mean-fewer-graduates

The IBM ‘Dinobabies’ Scandal

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e681QNbHloE

How IBM quietly pushed out 20,000 older workers

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e681QNbHloE

IBM Sued for Discrimination. Again. (March 2026)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GiBeFB_JndU

Business Unusual: The hidden age bias inside AI hiring systems

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lh988inoUnY

House Passes Bill to Support Older Coloradans in the Workforce

https://www.cohousedems.com/news/house-passes-bill-to-support-older-coloradans-in-the-workforce-

Job Applicant Sues Aerospace Company Raytheon over Alleged Age Discrimination

https://www.classaction.org/news/job-applicant-sues-aerospace-company-raytheon-over-alleged-age-discrimination

IBM exec, 60, sues for age discrimination claims board fired him because he isn’t a millennial https://www.thisismoney.co.uk/money/markets/article-5922511/IBM-exec-60-sues-age-discrimination-claiming-board-fired-not-millennial.html

IBM Accused of Ageism: Older Workers Are ‘Dinobabies’ Who Should Be Made An ‘Extinct Species’ https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2022/02/12/ibm-accused-of-ageism-older-workers-are-dinobabies-who-should-be-made-an-extinct-species/

Lilly to Pay $2.4 Million to Settle Nationwide EEOC Age Discrimination Lawsuit

https://www.eeoc.gov/newsroom/lilly-pay-24-million-settle-nationwide-eeoc-age-discrimination-lawsuit

US economy unexpectedly loses 92,000 jobs; unemployment rate rises - M

https:// www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJ2FQ27cFH8

Samantha Dzabic (TEDxBurleigh Heads, 2024): "How Workplace Ageism Hurts Everyone—and the Bottom Line." This talk breaks down the "Silicon Valley myth" and how dismissing older ideas hinders innovation.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s5HabROvzyk

Piyachart Phiromswad (TED, 2023/24): "The Tech We Need to Fight Workplace Ageism." Explores how AI and robotics can empower an aging workforce rather than replace it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B8dBA3klR0o

MARCH 2026 - US economy unexpectedly loses 92,000 jobs; unemployment rate rises

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJ2FQ27cFH

Colorado bill seeks to boost job opportunities for older adults

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mAB0len80LQ

REFERENCES

The IBM Rebranding Strategy- How IBM quietly pushed out 20,000 older workers:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e681QNbHloE

IBM Accused of Labor Discrimination in HR Filings of Dino-babies:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gn3QEQJDJZA

IBM Sued for Age Discrimination After Thousands Fired

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sNxb78cTxA

IBM fired me because I'm not a millennial, says axed cloud sales star in age discrimination court row. Ex-Bluemix global program director, 60, sues Big Blue

https://www.theregister.com/2018/07/03/ibm_langley_age_discrimination/

IBM Ageism: Older Workers Are ‘Dinobabies’ Who Should Be Made An ‘Extinct Species’ https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2022/02/12/ibm-accused-of-ageism-older-workers-are-dinobabies-who-should-be-made-an-extinct-species/

Lilly Pays $2.4 Million: National EEOC “Early Career” Age Discrimination Lawsuit

https://www.eeoc.gov/newsroom/lilly-pay-24-million-settle-nationwide-eeoc-age-discrimination-lawsuit

Twitter ‘Forced Out’ Female, Older Employees after Musk’s 2022 Acquisition

https://www.classaction.org/news/twitter-forced-out-female-older-employees-after-musks-2022-acquisition-class-action-alleges

$3M Washington Nationals Settlement Class Action Lawsuit over Alleged Age

Discrimination in Ticket Sales

https://www.classaction.org/news/3m-washington-nationals-settlement-resolves-class-action-lawsuit-over-alleged-age-discrimination-in-ticket-sales

Eli Lilly Facing Another Class Action over Age Discrimination

https://www.classaction.org/news/eli-lilly-facing-another-class-action-over-alleged-age-discrimination

Job Applicant Sues Aerospace Company Raytheon over Age Discrimination

https://www.classaction.org/news/job-applicant-sues-aerospace-company-raytheon-over-alleged-age-discrimination

Meathead Movers

Settled ($2M, 2025): Recruitment marketing and hiring excluded individuals over 40.

https://www.eeoc.gov/newsroom/meathead-movers-settles-eeoc-discrimination-case

Power Needs of Women & Men: Exploring Gender Disparity Yesterday and Today

Wed, 15 Jul 2026 14:35:40 GMT

Are Dr. David McClelland's seminal 80's women and power research findings valid today? I will attempt to determine this, given that sexism has been and is being addressed in the workplace. He is the author of Power - The Inner Experience.

Many of his process observations exist today but to a much lesser degree. You may or may not concur with McClelland's maxims, but either way, I hope to provoke your thinking about how far we've come in just a few decades, to offer a small but significant learning event here.

Small events can have an expansive and even global impact. For example, consider the bold investigative journalism of two courageous reporters who persuaded victimized women to come forward regarding the criminal misbehavior of Harvey Weinstein, now serving 16 years for sexual assault. A month after his conviction, eighty-two other women made similar claims of sexual abuse and rape by Mr. Weinstein. If you are a thought leader, remember that small, local events can significantly impact society overall.

Chromosomes

Primacy of Motherhood

The concept of primacy of motherhood can create challenges for women who seek to balance their roles as mothers and career professionals.

"Men are more assertive than women."

Although this statement may have been commonly accepted as true in the 80s, the claim that men are more assertive than women is a generalization and oversimplification of a complex topic. It's important to understand that behaviors and personality traits, including assertiveness, can vary widely among individuals and are influenced by many factors, including upbringing, culture, societal expectations, and traumatic events. A shift in personal values can motivate different behaviors.

While some studies have suggested that, on average, men may exhibit higher levels of assertiveness in specific contexts, it is crucial to emphasize that these are population-level trends and do not apply universally. All studies must be questioned because context, timing, and other factors may have influenced their data.

An exceptional example of demure, nonassertive women becoming super aggressive involves ancient military strategist Sun Tzu, a Chinese general in the Warring States period around 400 BC. At that time, Chinese local warlords waged war against one another, fighting for their shares of the remnants of the collapsed Chou Empire. A warlord challenged political science theorist Sun Tzu to apply his famous combat principles to train 180 women from the warlord's palace and to transform them into an orderly company of highly skilled fighters. Among the women, two were the warlord's most favored concubines.

Sun Tzu divided the women into two cohorts and then assigned each concubine in command of each. Sun Tzu then asked the women to do a simple drill and ensured they understood what to do. However, the women laughed when he ordered them to perform the drill. He tried again with the same result. Sun Tzu claimed that this failure of the troops to obey was the fault of the commanders. So, despite the warlord's pleas, he ordered his two favored concubines beheaded as an example for the rest of the company. After that lesson, the women did not utter a single sound. They performed the drill precisely as commanded and became competent at lethal combat.

Reuben's Adam and Eve

"The Catholic view is that men and women are equal in the sight of God. In marriage, each is to sacrifice himself or herself for the other. They are to build a family together through cooperation with each other and mutual respect. There are differences in the roles they naturally play. Women are more natural caregivers for children, and men work outside the home more naturally. Yet women can and do work outside the home, and men do act as caregivers for children (changing diapers, feeding babies their bottles, burping them, walking with them when they are crying at night–men do all these things, just as women do)."

REFERENCES

Women and Power – Frank DeDominicis

Denver Ignite 16: Myths of Women and Power video

National Institute of Health - National Library of Medicine

Sex Differences in Energy Metabolism Need to Be Considered with Lifestyle Modifications in Humans - PMC ( nih.gov )

National Institute of Health - National Library of Medicine:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4129348/

Catholic view of women

https://www.catholic.com/qa/what-is-the-catholic-view-of-women%20as%20of%20november%2014

Gender and disease propensity

https://www.pharmacytimes.com/view/genetics-may-influence-disease-prevalence-by-gender

Harvard Business Review

https://hbr.org/2019/06/research-women-score-higher-than-men-in-most-leadership-skills

Women lead better in a crisis

https://hbr.org/2020/12/research-women-are-better-leaders-during-a-crisis

Women and fatality rates

https:// business.wisc.edu/news/leadership-during-the-pandemic-states-with-women-governors-had-fewer-covid-19-deaths/

"Women care more about relationships and are more highly trained in nurturance."

Genitalia

Infants are typically classified as male or female at birth based on their external genitalia. However, there can be variations in genital development, leading to intersex conditions.

Sexual Dimorphism

Men and women exhibit differences in skeletal structure, such as bone density, and in certain anatomical features, like the size of the pelvis and the presence of an Adam's apple in men.

Genetic Differences

There are subtle genetic differences, with some genes found more frequently in one gender than another. These genetic variations can influence susceptibility to certain diseases or conditions.

"New findings suggest that genetics may influence the reason more men or women develop certain diseases, including multiple sclerosis (M.S.), autism, type 1 diabetes. It is well known that more women than men develop M.S., while more men than women develop autism. Other diseases, such as heart disease, can present differently among the sexes, and patients are known to respond differently to treatments based on their gender. This has raised questions about how genetics influence the prevalence of diseases among the sexes. However, despite the importance of genetic differences between the sexes, there is still little understanding of how biology drives the differences." - https://www.pharmacytimes.com

Psychological Differences

Cognitive Differences

While there is considerable overlap, studies suggest that men and women may, on average, exhibit differences in cognitive abilities. For example, some research has indicated variations in spatial reasoning, verbal communication, and mathematical skills. The National Library of Medicine reports, "Cognitive attributes are different in males and females. Generally, females show advantages in verbal fluency, perceptual speed, accuracy, and fine motor skills, while males outperform females in spatial, working memory and mathematical abilities."

Personality and Behavior

Cultural and societal factors play significant roles in shaping personality and behavior, but some studies have reported differences in areas like risk-taking behavior, aggression, and empathy. These differences are averages and don't apply to everyone.

Gender Identity

Gender identity is an individual's internal sense of gender, which may or may not align with their biological sex. Some people identify with the gender they were assigned by nature at birth (cisgender). In contrast, others identify with a different gender (transgender), although their actual gender is biologically determined at birth. This is the underlying reason for disagreement about biological males' participation in competitive female sports.

Individual variations and the influence of culture and society should be considered when discussing the differences between men and women.

Traits, Motivations, Expectations, and Needs – Observations

"Yes, there are some distinct differences physiologically, biologically, and psychologically."

The differences between men and women are categorized into three broad domains: physiological, biological, and psychological. It's important to note that these differences are not absolute and that there is considerable variation within each gender, determined by genitalia at birth.

Physiological Differences

Reproductive System

Men and women have distinct reproductive organs. Men typically have testes, which produce sperm, while women have ovaries, which produce eggs. Women also have a uterus for pregnancy.

Secondary Sexual Characteristics

These physical traits develop during puberty, differentiating males from females. This includes facial and body hair growth, a deeper voice, and increased muscle mass in males. In females, it involves the development of breasts, wider hips, and the onset of menstruation.

Hormones

Men and women have different hormone profiles. Men produce more testosterone, which influences the development of male characteristics, whereas women produce more estrogen and progesterone, which influence female characteristics and regulate the menstrual cycle.

Metabolism

Usually, men tend to have a higher basal metabolic rate and, on average, more lean muscle mass, while women may have a higher percentage of body fat. Although some say metabolism is not directly linked to a propensity for specific ailments and disorders, some say metabolism can result in differences in energy expenditure and body composition.

Biological Differences

Chromosomes

Most men have an X.Y. chromosome pattern, while most women have an XX chromosome pattern. However, some individuals may have other chromosomal variations, such as XXY or XYY.

"Traditionally, women have been defined in terms of Adam's rib, Adam's temptress, Adam's helpmate, Adam's wife and mother of his children."

Points to consider:

Variability

There is substantial variability in assertiveness among both men and women. Many assertive individuals of all genders exist. Some individuals are just passive and low verbal.

That describes me before 1981 when I was 30. Due to my reaction to a defection by my closest friend back then, my style now is mildly assertive/aggressive. That singular significant emotional event permanently shifted my personality. I was less trusting at first but later more discerning about the trust-building process. The point is that friendship defection motivated me to change from being a quiet, even shy person to becoming a good defensive fighter who also stands up for the rights of others.

Cultural and Social Factors

Cultural and societal norms significantly shape human behaviors. Different societies may have varying expectations and definitions of assertiveness for men and women. In some cultures, assertiveness may be encouraged in men but discouraged in women, while in others, these roles may be reversed.

Examples of Matriarchal or Matrilineal Cultures

Minangkabau (Indonesia): The Minangkabau people, who predominantly live in West Sumatra, Indonesia, follow a matrilineal system. Property and land are traditionally passed down through female lineage, and women often have a say in important family and community matters.

Mosuo (China): The Mosuo people, primarily residing around Lugu Lake in Yunnan and Sichuan provinces of China, are known for their matriarchal family structure. Women hold significant authority and property rights, and children are raised within their mother's extended family.

Khasi (India): The Khasi people, who live in the northeastern Indian state of Meghalaya, practice a matrilineal system. Lineage and property are passed down through the mother's side of the family, and women often hold key societal positions.

Akan (Ghana and Ivory Coast): In Akan societies in West Africa, women play an essential role in decision-making and the matrilineal inheritance of property. The queen mother, or Asantehemaa, is a prominent figure in Akan culture.

Nagovisi (Papua New Guinea): The Nagovisi people of Bougainville Island have a matrilineal system where inheritance is passed down through the female line, and women hold significant power and influence in the community.

Tuareg (North Africa): The Tuareg people, a Berber ethnic group in North and West Africa, have a matrilineal kinship system. Women traditionally have a degree of autonomy, and men may migrate to their wives' communities after marriage.

Hopi (USA) : The Hopi Native American tribe in the southwestern United States has matrilineal cultural elements. Clan membership and property are often passed down through the mother's line.

Aka and Ngandu (Central Africa) : Among the Aka and Ngandu peoples in Central Africa, women play important roles in decision-making, and the societies have matrilineal aspects in their kinship systems.

Context Matters

The level of assertiveness can vary based on the specific context or situation. For example, someone may be assertive in their professional life but less so in their personal life. The perceived appropriateness of assertiveness can also vary by context.

At a Leadership Institute where I taught DiSC™ theory, I was asked to profile Donald Trump, something I hate to do because DiSC is not based on definitive typology but on interpersonal relationship dynamics. Although hesitant to use DiSC like a crystal ball, I said that from what can be discerned on social media, he appears to have a consistently highly dominant style with only a few slight fluctuations, in which his S factor (Submission and Security) jumps in emotional reaction to criticism or any negative feedback. However, his style may be completely different in his bedroom with his wife at night. He may become totally passive, submissive, and even nonassertive based on Melania's interactions with him.

Socialization

Traditional gender roles and expectations can influence how individuals express assertiveness. Men may be socialized to be more dominant and self-assured, while women may be socialized to be more accommodating and nurturing. However, these norms are evolving and vary across different cultures.

Individual Differences

Personality, temperament, and life experiences substantially shape an individual's level of assertiveness. Not all men or women conform to traditional gender stereotypes. The variations can be quite significant.

Self-Perception

One's perception of assertiveness may also be influenced by self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-concept rather than just gender. Self-esteem is the feeling one gets from having a positive self-concept. A positive self-concept is holding a positive image of oneself.

While there may be statistical differences in assertiveness between men and women in specific contexts, these differences are not fixed or deterministic. It is essential to recognize that gender is only one factor influencing assertiveness.

People of any gender can develop assertiveness skills. It is more productive to encourage and support individuals in developing the traits and behaviors that align with their goals and values rather than making assumptions based on gender.

It's inaccurate to make a general statement that American women are more assertive than American men, as assertiveness varies widely among individuals and is influenced by various factors, including personality, culture, Context, and personal experiences. The level of assertiveness can differ from person to person, and it's not tied solely to one's gender.

In the United States, as in many other countries, gender roles and expectations have evolved. While traditional gender stereotypes often associate assertiveness with men and passivity with women, these stereotypes are increasingly being challenged, and individuals are encouraged to express themselves and pursue their goals in ways that align with their personalities and values rather than their gender.

Generalizations about assertiveness based on gender can be misleading and unfair. Men and women in the United States and elsewhere exhibit a wide range of assertiveness levels. These levels are more accurately attributed to each person's unique attributes and experiences, independent of gender.

In recent years, there has been a shift in many societies toward more inclusive and flexible views of motherhood, recognizing that women have a range of choices and can define their roles and priorities for themselves. It's essential and honorable to respect and support the choices and lifestyles of individuals and not impose rigid expectations based on traditional gender roles. Before the 80s, the primacy of motherhood argument played a role in divorce and custody hearings and decisions. It has since been downplayed; instead, we recognize men's equal and natural ability to love, nurture, and raise their children as single fathers.

In specific situations or fields, such as business or politics, assertiveness may be perceived differently. Cultural and societal factors play a role. However, even within these contexts, there is significant variation in assertiveness among individuals. Evaluating assertiveness individually rather than making broad gender-based comparisons is more meaningful.

"Women are more perceptive and adaptive to their environment."

In contrast to McClelland's studies, no definitive evidence supports the assertion that women are universally more perceptive and adaptive to their environment than men. Perceptiveness and adaptability to the environment are complex traits influenced by individual differences, genetics, upbringing, education, cultural expectations, and personal experiences.

To avoid making sweeping generalizations about gender differences in perceptiveness and adaptability, consider the following points:

Individual Variability

There is significant individual variability within both men and women. Some men may be highly perceptive and adaptive, while some women may have different strengths and weaknesses in these areas. These traits are distributed along a spectrum and can't be attributed solely to a specific gender. This is a long stretch from McClelland's predominantly sexist 80s when women still fought for equal pay.

Cultural and Social Factors

Cultural and societal expectations and norms can shape behaviors and perceptions that may vary across cultures and over time, influencing how people of different genders perceive and adapt to their environments.

Context Matters

Perceptiveness and adaptability can vary depending on the specific context. Some individuals may excel in one environment but struggle in another. Personality, education, and life experiences also play a significant role.

Socialization

Traditional gender roles and socialization can influence how individuals perceive and adapt to their environments. For example, women have historically been encouraged to be nurturing and empathetic, which may contribute to their ability to perceive and adapt to social and interpersonal dynamics. Men have been encouraged to be tough-minded, not to weep, to inhibit certain feelings from expression. For example, it is easier and more socially acceptable for a man to say he is angry than feeling hurt.

Biological Differences

There are subtle differences in brain structure and function between men and women. These differences are complex and not directly tied to perceptiveness and adaptability. Additionally, potential biological differences should be more concise and used to generalize broadly.

The relatively new concept of a "male brain" and a "female brain" has been a scientific inquiry and debate topic. Neuroscience research has shown structural and functional differences between the brains of individuals assigned male (AMAB) and those assigned female (AFAB). However, it is essential to understand these differences within a broader context.

Neuro-Plasticity

The human brain is highly adaptable and exhibits significant plasticity. It can change and adapt based on learning, experiences, and environmental factors. As a result, any differences observed in brain structure or function are not static and can be influenced by various factors. Nutrigenomics, the newest science has opened doors about personalized nutrition needs.

Individual Variation

Brain differences within and between genders are highly variable. There is considerable overlap in brain characteristics between individuals of different genders, and the range of brain variation is greater within each gender group than between them.

Social and Cultural Factors

Social and cultural factors influence brain development and cognitive functions. Gender roles and expectations can shape behaviors and cognitive patterns, potentially contributing to differences observed in brain imaging studies.

Hormonal and Genetic Influences

Hormonal and genetic factors play a role in brain development. Hormonal differences between sexes during fetal development and throughout life can contribute to some brain differences.

Complexity of Gender

Gender identity is a complex, multifaceted construct. It is not solely determined by biological sex, and there is a growing recognition of non-binary and gender-diverse identities despite the physical reality.

While there may be some differences in the brains of AMAB (assigned male at birth) and AFAB (assigned female at birth) individuals on average, these differences are not deterministic and do not determine one's capabilities, personality, or interests.

The "male brain" and "female brain" concept oversimplifies the complexity of human identity, behavior, and cognition. The study of gender and the brain remains an active area of research, and ongoing work is exploring the nuances and limitations of this research.

Rather than assuming gender-based differences in perceptiveness and adaptability, it is more accurate and fair to consider these traits as individual characteristics that many factors can influence. Encouraging and supporting individuals to develop their unique strengths and adaptability is more constructive than making gender-based assumptions.

It is prejudicial and inaccurate to make a blanket statement that women universally care more about relationships or are more highly trained in nurturance. Like many personality traits and behaviors, individuals' capacity and inclination to care about relationships and exhibit nurturance are highly variable. Various factors, including culture, upbringing, personal experiences, and individual personality, can influence them. I have met some super-sensitive men and have known some cold-hearted women.

Important Considerations

Individual Variability

People of all genders vary in their degree of interest in and capacity for nurturing relationships. Some men may place a high value on relationships and demonstrate strong nurturing qualities, while some women may not prioritize these traits to the same degree.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal expectations and other norms play a significant role in shaping behaviors related to relationships and nurturance. These expectations may vary widely across cultures and can change over time.

Personal Experiences

Personal experiences and upbringing can shape an individual's approach to relationships and nurturing. Childhood experiences, family dynamics, and personal values influence an individual's attitudes and behaviors.

Personality and Temperament

Individual differences in personality and temperament, such as empathy, compassion, and social orientation, play a significant role in shaping one's capacity for nurturance and caring about relationships. These traits can be found in people of all genders.

Brain Size and Structure

Research suggests that there may be slight differences in brain size and structure between males and females. For example, some studies have reported that, on average, males tend to have slightly larger brain volumes, while females might have slightly more gray matter in certain regions. However, these differences are subtle and do not imply differences in cognitive abilities.

Connectivity

Research has shown that there may be differences in brain connectivity patterns between males and females. Some studies suggest that women may have stronger connections within the brain's hemispheres, while men may have stronger connections between hemispheres. Again, the functional significance of these differences is still a subject of ongoing research.

Hormonal Influences

Hormonal differences, such as the presence of estrogen and testosterone, may have some impact on brain development and function. These hormones can affect various aspects of cognition and behavior, but the relationship is complex and needs to be fully understood.

It's important to emphasize that the observed differences in brain structure and function do not imply any inherent superiority or inferiority of one gender over the other. These differences result from a complex interplay of genetics, hormones, and environmental factors. Moreover, individual differences within each gender far outweigh any average differences between the genders.

Societal and cultural factors shape behaviors and preferences, and they can be more influential than any potential neurological differences. Gender is a social construct, and biological and environmental factors influence behavior and cognitive abilities.

Because the scientific community continually researches this brain-differentiation topic, our understanding of the male and female brain may evolve as more studies are conducted. Therefore, staying informed on the latest research is good, and being cautious about drawing broad conclusions or generalizations based on limited findings is good.

Biological Factors

While some research suggests that there may be subtle differences in brain structure and function between men and women related to empathy and social cognition, these differences are complex and not deterministic. Potential biological differences should not be used to generalize individuals broadly.

"Women's organism seems more finely tuned to adjusting to stimulus changes in their environment."

The idea that women's organisms are more finely tuned to adjusting to environmental stimulus changes is a complex and much-debated topic. No universally accepted scientific consensus supports this notion. Individual responses to environmental stimuli can vary widely and depend on many factors.

Key Points to Consider

Individual Variability
Responses to environmental stimuli, adaptability, and sensitivity to changes can vary significantly among individuals, regardless of gender. People have diverse experiences and may respond differently to environmental changes based on their unique characteristics, including genetics, personality, and life experiences.

Cultural and Social Factors

Cultural and societal expectations and norms can influence how people perceive and respond to environmental stimuli. These factors can vary across cultures and change over time.

Biological and Hormonal Influences

While some evidence suggests that hormonal fluctuations (such as during the menstrual cycle) may influence some aspects of women's emotional and cognitive responses, the relationship between hormones and adaptability is complex and not fully understood.

Evolutionary Perspectives

Some evolutionary theories propose that women, as primary caregivers in many societies, may have developed particular sensitivities to environmental changes related to their offspring's safety and well-being. However, this does not imply that women are universally more finely tuned to all environmental changes.

Psychological Factors

Stress, psychological resilience, and cognitive strategies also affect how individuals respond to environmental changes. These factors can vary widely among both men and women. The assertion that women are inherently more finely tuned to making adjustments to stimulus changes is not supported by a clear and consistent body of scientific evidence.

"Women are more concerned than men with both sides of an interdependence."

In contrast to McClelland's findings, the idea that women are more concerned than men with both sides of an interdependence or more focused on maintaining harmonious relationships and connections is a generalization that doesn't hold true for everyone.

Human behavior and concerns in interdependent relationships are complex and can vary significantly based on many factors, including individual personality, cultural context, and personal experiences.

Points to Consider

Individual Variability

There is considerable individual variability in the degree to which people, regardless of gender, are concerned about both sides of interdependence. Some men may prioritize maintaining harmonious relationships, just as some women may strongly emphasize this aspect.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can significantly impact how individuals approach interdependent relationships. Different cultures may place varying levels of emphasis on maintaining harmony and balance in relationships, and these norms can change over time.

Personal Experiences

Personal experiences, including family upbringing and past relationships, can vary widely and shape a person's approach to interdependence and their level of concern for both sides of the relationship.

Personality and Communication Styles

Individual differences in personality traits, communication and attachment styles significantly shape one's approach to interdependent relationships. Some people are naturally more concerned with harmony and balance, while others may prioritize other relationship aspects, such as autonomy or problem-solving.

Biological Factors While there is some research suggesting that women may, on average, exhibit greater empathy and social cognition, these differences are not deterministic and do not imply that all women are more concerned with maintaining interdependence.

Avoiding broad, gender-based assumptions about concerns in interdependent relationships is essential. While gender may play a role in shaping socialization and expectations, it is only one of many factors influencing an individual's approach to interdependence. People's concerns and behaviors in relationships are highly individual and influenced by many things. Encouraging open communication and understanding in relationships while respecting individual differences is a more constructive and respectful approach.

"Dependent on others, women are more subject to persuasion."

Key Considerations

Individual Differences

Situational Factors

Psychological Factors

Psychological factors, such as cognitive biases, prior beliefs, and social influence, can all play a role in susceptibility to persuasion. These factors can affect people of any gender.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can influence how individuals respond to persuasion. Norms vary widely across different cultures and communities.

Dependence and Interdependence

"Women are more apt to hermitage, solitary sadhu, or to take sannyasa."

The idea that women are more inclined to adopt a hermitage lifestyle, become solitary ascetics (Saddhu), or take sannyasa (renunciation) is not universally true. The choice to pursue a life of solitude, asceticism, or renunciation is highly individual. It can vary significantly based on personal beliefs, cultural and societal norms, and particular circumstances. It is not inherently tied to one's gender.

Points to Ponder

Individual Choice Whether someone chooses a life of solitude, asceticism, or renunciation is a profoundly personal decision. Men and women alike make this choice based on their spiritual or philosophical beliefs and individual circumstances.

Cultural and Religious Variability

The inclination toward solitary or ascetic lifestyles can vary by culture and religion. In some cultures, or religious traditions, such choices may be more common among men, while in others, women may equally participate.

Societal Norms

Societal norms and expectations can influence people's life choices. In some societies, traditional gender roles may limit women's access to specific paths of renunciation, while in others, women may have equal opportunities.

Historical context

Historical and traditional practices often shape the roles and opportunities available to individuals. Over time, these roles can evolve and change.

Spiritual and Philosophical Beliefs

The decision to adopt a life of renunciation is often driven by deep-seated spiritual or philosophical beliefs, which are not restricted by gender.

The inclination to pursue a hermitage, solitary asceticism, or sannyasa is a profoundly individual choice influenced by personal beliefs, cultural norms, societal expectations, and historical Context. It is not an inclination that can be attributed to one's gender but instead to one's convictions and circumstances. Women, like men, can and do make these choices based on their journeys and beliefs.

The idea that women disclose more of their secrets to others than men is a generalization and not universally true. The tendency to disclose personal secrets or information to others can vary widely among individuals and is influenced by personality, trust, socialization, and cultural norms.

Key Points to Consider

Individual Variability People, regardless of gender, exhibit various disclosure behaviors. Some men may be very open about sharing personal secrets and information, just as some women may be more reserved.

Personality and Communication Style

Personal traits and communication styles play a significant role in disclosure behavior. Introverted individuals, for example, may be less likely to disclose personal secrets to others, while extroverted individuals may be more open.

Trust and Relationship Dynamics

The level of trust and the quality of the relationship with the person being disclosed to, strongly influences what is shared. People are often more willing to share personal secrets with those they trust and feel close to.

Cultural and Societal Norms

Cultural and societal norms can shape expectations around disclosure. In some cultures, there may be an expectation of openness and sharing, while in others, privacy and discretion may be valued more.

Situational Factors

The context in which disclosure occurs is essential. People may be more likely to disclose personal secrets in intimate and private settings while being more guarded in public or formal situations.

Historical and Generational Differences

Norms around disclosure may evolve over time. Younger generations, for example, may have different attitudes toward sharing personal information compared to older generations. Generally speaking, the younger someone is, the more likely they are to share their life story on Facebook, including what they had for lunch. Elders are less prone to advertising their lives to the world. The tendency to disclose personal secrets is a highly individual behavior influenced by many factors.

"Women disclose more of their secrets to others."

"Men are more interested in things; women, in people."

While there are trends or tendencies in this direction in certain contexts, it is crucial to understand that interests, preferences, and motivations are highly variable and influenced by individual differences, culture, upbringing, and personal experiences.

Important Considerations

Individual Variability

People, regardless of their gender, exhibit a wide range of interests and motivations. Some men are strongly interested in people-oriented fields, such as social sciences, psychology, or healthcare. In contrast, some women are strongly interested in things-oriented fields, such as engineering, technology, or mechanics.

Cultural and Societal Influences

Cultural and societal norms and expectations can shape interests and preferences. These expectations may vary across cultures and evolve over time.

Education and Career Choices

Personal interests, opportunities, and societal encouragement influence individuals' choices regarding education and careers. Stereotypes and biases may play a role in shaping these choices.

Psychological Factors

Individual differences in personality traits can also influence interests. Someone strongly inclined toward empathy and social interaction may gravitate toward people-oriented fields. In contrast, someone with a strong interest in problem-solving and analytical thinking may be drawn to things-oriented fields.

Biological Factors

There is ongoing research into the potential influence of physical factors, such as hormonal differences, on interests and preferences. These factors are complex and not deterministic. Individuals have diverse interests shaped by personal choice, societal influences, and individual differences.

"Male style is analytical and manipulative."

It is inaccurate to generalize that the "American male style" is analytical and manipulative. People's styles, behaviors, and characteristics vary widely, and it is essential to avoid making broad, sweeping statements about any group based on gender, nationality, or other factors. Analytical and manipulative traits are not inherent to a particular gender or nationality. Analytical thinking can be a cognitive style that individuals of all genders and backgrounds may possess. It involves breaking down complex problems and making logical and systematic evaluations.

The phrase "manipulative" typically carries a negative connotation and refers to behaviors that seek to control or deceive others for personal gain. Such behavior is not exclusive to any gender or nationality and is influenced by individual personality traits, values, and experiences. People's behaviors and characteristics are shaped by their unique experiences, education, personality, and cultural background.

"Women are 'field-dependent' or 'passive acceptant' because their style is contextual, rather than analytical."

Cognitive and communication styles are highly personalized. They can vary widely among individuals, regardless of their gender or nationality.

The terms "field-dependent" and "passive acceptant" are descriptors often used in psychological and cognitive research to describe certain cognitive or learning styles. These terms refer to an individual's tendency to rely on Context or external cues when processing information. People of all genders exhibit a range of cognitive styles, including analytical, contextual, or a combination of both, depending on their unique characteristics, experiences, and preferences.

Cognitive styles are not fixed and can change in different contexts or situations. Individual differences, cultural and societal factors, and personal experiences influence them. Making sweeping generalizations can perpetuate stereotypes and oversimplify the complex and diverse ways people think, learn, and communicate.

"White American women tend to fear success. The reasons: Women suffer the

double-bind of needing to act like men in order to succeed. Society does not expect them to be assertive; it punishes them if they are; men avoid them; they're told they go crazy if they have no social life; ways are found to justify not promoting or

paying them the same as a man. Small wonder that, on average,

they learn to avoid being assertive!"

Such statements are oversimplified and do not accurately capture White American women's diverse experiences and perspectives in the 21st century. While some women may face challenges related to societal expectations, gender stereotypes, and workplace biases, these challenges are diminishing and are not universal. Progress has been made in addressing gender-based disparities and biases in many societies, including the United States. Various organizations and initiatives focus on promoting gender equality, diversity, and inclusion in the workplace.

A recent study published in the Harvard Business Review found that ladies in leadership positions are perceived as equal to gentlemen. The analysis of thousands of 360-degree assessments showed that women excelled in taking initiative, acting resiliently, practicing self-care, self-development, driving for results, and displaying high integrity and honesty.

Another study published in the Harvard Business Review found that women are better leaders during a crisis.6 One study discovered that outcomes related to COVID-19, such as the number of cases and deaths, were systematically better in countries led by women. An example is Dame Jacinda Kate Laurell Ardern (born 26 July 1980), a New Zealand former politician who served as the 40th prime minister of New Zealand and leader of the Labour Party from 2017 to 2023. She was a Labor member of Parliament (M.P.) as a list MP from 2008 to 2017 and for Mount Albert from 2017 to 2023. Under her leadership, COVID-19 was successfully contained and treated.

COVID-19

Another study of U.S. governors found that states with female leaders had lower fatality rates.

"Women tend to belong to more organizations and circles than men."

Factors to Consider

Cultural and Societal Norms

Lifestyle and Life Stage

Work and Career

Individual Personality and Interests

Availability and Access

"Women who exhibit high level III (inhibited) power styles like to travel alone in new places; in contrast to most women in general."

The assertion that women who exhibit high levels of ‘inhibited’ power styles prefer to travel alone in new places is a highly specific claim. Various factors influence people's travel preferences and behaviors, including personality traits, individual experiences, cultural norms, and personal interests.

Power styles, including ‘inhibited’ styles, may influence how individuals approach power dynamics and social interactions, but they do not necessarily dictate travel preferences. People, regardless of their gender, have diverse preferences when it comes to travel, including solo travel, group travel, or travel with a partner. These preferences are influenced by a sense of adventure, personal interests, safety considerations, and cultural norms.

Making assumptions or generalizations based on personality traits or power styles can oversimplify the complex and diverse ways people approach travel, which is a highly personal experience. People's choices are shaped by numerous factors beyond a single personality trait.

"Two ancient Greek mythology-inspired psychological themes about women:

Women are the source of life. Going without brings increase."

Women as the Source of Life

This theme is closely associated with the myth of Pandora from Greek mythology. In the story, the first woman, Pandora, is created by the gods and given a box (often called Pandora's Box) containing all the world's evils. She opens the box, releasing these evils, but at the bottom of the box is hope, symbolizing the idea that women, as the source of life, also bring hope into the world.

Venus de Milo statute by Alexandros of Antioch

The phrase "Going without brings increase" is less specific to one particular Greek myth but may reflect broader ideas in Greek mythology. The concept of sacrifice, often seen in Greek myths, could be related to this theme. In many myths, individuals, including women, make sacrifices to the gods in hopes of receiving divine blessings or favors in return.

These quoted themes from Greek mythology illustrate specific psychological ideas about women, their roles, and their significance in the Context of life and hope. However, it's essential to recognize that Greek mythology is a wonderful body of sometimes salacious stories. These themes are just a few examples of the many concepts and ideas in Greek mythological narratives.

"Women will give their will in submission in exchange for feeling secure and loved."

Once again, this statement is based on McClelland's study and does not accurately reflect today's reality. Women, like men, are diverse individuals with a wide range of desires, values, and life experiences. Personal choices and relationship dynamics vary widely and are not determined solely by gender.

Healthy relationships feature mutual respect, trust, and honest, open 'straight talk' communication. While some people may value security and love in their relationships, it is essential to recognize that submission or giving up one's will is not a healthy or necessary component of a loving and secure partnership. Healthy relationships typically emphasize equality, compromise, and the autonomy and agency of both partners.

"As giving is a major power modality for women, love becomes for the woman a belief in the other person's potential, a belief that people who love each other have and which helps each bring the other out."

To explore and understand perspectives on love, giving, and relationships, consult writings or research from psychology, sociology, or relationship studies. These fields provide various theories and insights into the dynamics of love and relationships. Personal experiences and beliefs about love and giving are highly subjective and can differ from person to person; hence, individuals all experience life differently.

Conclusion

We've come a long way since the 1980's. Women are reexamining their roles to take on more socially impactful work and assuming more powerful leadership positions. Men are more involved in traditionally female industries, such as nursing. Men are becoming accustomed to female bosses.

Everyone experiences a uniquely different subjective world. We're all on this learning and growing journey alone together.

-Frank DeDominicis

Respect and Reconciliation – Exploring EverythingDiSC™ Work Compatibility Factors, Stress Limitations, & Destructive Behaviors

Wed, 15 Jul 2026 13:30:24 GMT

This article serves a therapeutic function for me and perhaps for my colleague and fellow leadership coach, Gregg Ward, as well. Both of us have, and as of this publication, are enduring difficult conflicts related to our D-D personality style. That's when two Dominant styles clash, as with the most powerful man in the world and the wealthiest man in the world, who have been embroiled in a vitriolic social media discourse.

I am a mid-level D who instinctively adjusts intensity levels to fit the environment. Working with DiSC for over four decades, I have, unconsciously, become a human behavior chameleon, naturally and spontaneously adapting to the styles of other NORPS (normal, ordinary, responsible persons). This perceptual advantage has profoundly enriched my personal life and significantly sharpened my interpersonal discernment, far more than the average distracted person who misses nonverbal cues and the quality of breaks and shared silences. As Disraeli said, "There is no index of character so sure as the voice."

Recently, I have been happily completing work for my current caseload of clients and timing the simultaneous conclusion of concurrent projects to create a break from clients, and to dedicate more time to other opportunities to serve. My final client for the season before my big break was what became a charity case for an impossible-to-please person. Embarrassedly, I’m learning as I go, so my dealing with an out-of-control high D includes my mistakes and clumsy dealing with a dysfunctional personality.

Okay, here goes. A few months ago, a friend referred their acquaintance, Charlie X. Leonard, to me, a small business prospect who initially seemed somewhat normal, despite eccentric quirks like upfront admitting that he was not a very good money manager, that he had a hair-trigger temper that instantly exploded, going instantly from irritated to volcanic, and was generally disorganized and undisciplined. He looked the part, too. I should've known better.

When we first met, Charlie said that he expected people to take advantage of him because that had been his history (a bright yellow caution light). Stupidly, I missed that obvious cue. Having worked as a psychiatric aide in state mental hospitals with dangerous, hostile-explosive psychotics, I believed I could easily handle irregular or socially awkward people. Boy, was I wrong!

Because Charlie would be my last client for a while and because he was experiencing cash-flow problems, I generously offered him a significant cash discount, confident that as his lead-generation process gained momentum, he'd appreciate it later and we’d feel proud of having fulfilled our success expectations…plus he’d refer, as most do.

However, from 'hello,' the relationship quickly went downhill, as the client constantly created imaginary, future 'what-if' problems. He sent rude, insulting texts and long, unpunctuated emails containing nonsensical and unreasonable demands for tactics that would harm his business. In our initial meeting, this high D would not commit to a fixed work schedule but insisted that we'd 'do text and emails,' although he did not know that I never checked emails unless someone promised they'd send something important. Generally speaking, I don't read long SMS texts from friends because they're often irrelevant noise about the news and better handled verbally, preferably in person. I never engage in text or email battles, although such crazy-making behavior has become accepted by the hoi polloi as normal.

For example, recently I located and connected online with a long-lost DeDominicis cousin whom I'd never met. For whatever reason, his DMs were initially friendly and disclosing, but he quickly switched to attacking and insulting, inviting me to debate his “superior intellect.” Madness. Such behavior is an inappropriate use of technology and is ultimately self-defeating. Real, total person communication is belly-to-belly, eyeball-to-eyeball, not digital.

Charlie emitted smoke signals about his potential for misbehavior, but I thought that I could forgive such adolescent behaviors. Foolishly, I believed we could have a clearing session to discuss the terms under which we could work together. Because his behavior in a recent Zoom meeting was so rude and argumentative, I abruptly closed that session.

Then, I emailed him, suggesting that we could meet only if he agreed to ground rules of appropriate behavior: a planned and timed agenda, no interruptions, no distractions, no third parties, no disrespectful behavior, patient listening, dialogue not dominance, no oppositional conduct, and at the end, clear decisions and expectations.

Because he had become such a time-waster, the plan was to give this unteachable client, even when he disagreed with the experts, whatever he wanted, and even at considerable losses for all, to be able to discharge him and end association with an irreconcilable situation involving a nutcase. (I think that's the clinical designation.)

Some enjoy experiencing anger as a feeling of power

Evaluations make people feel vulnerable. Be kind.

A Conscientious Personality Style with Secondary i/D Traits

My 'Slight Edge' in Battle

What has equipped me to make good decisions in this challenging scenario is my knowledge of how to turn madness and immature acting out into productive conflict, a concept from the Wiley EverythingDiSC™ framework. How do we corral angry energy into a space where the root problem can be clearly and mutually defined by one simple sentence? Typically, when ad hominem is present, the perceived secondary benefits of anger are more important to the complainants than resolving the problem. Have you ever dealt with a similar situation? Let's compare notes.

My point is that disrespect has become the norm, not just in highway traffic or political debate, but everywhere in society. Clearly, as things become more chaotic and worse for everybody, this pattern will become even more ingrained as acceptable behavior.

How can we ever move from disrespect to reconciliation, at least in part? Forgiveness serves me because I know my antagonist is undisciplined, not intellectually bright, nor socially skilled. I can forgive Charlie X. because he is a victim of ignorance. Hate the sin and not the sinner, right? Could you respect the individual despite your emotions? Is that always possible?

REFERENCES

Gregg Ward & Frank DeDominicis - DiSC Compatibility Factors & Pressure Limitations https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiPb8Uj0edI

Dysfunctional DiSC Patterns

https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:ugcPost:6992219077360451584/

Forget the Bat, Choose the Knee – Employee Conflict

https://www.barrywehmiller.com/post/blog/2020/03/05/forget-the-bat-choose-the-knee

The Impact of Well-Being in the Workplace

https://ekgpower.com/the-impact-of-well-being-in-the-workplace/

The ROI of Employee Engagement

https://www.successbusiness101.com/the-roi-of-employee-engagement/

Disrespect is the New Norm - Gregg Ward

https://www.forbes.com/councils/forbescoachescouncil/2021/09/14/is-disrespect-the-new-norm-three-ways-to-combat-negative-behavior/

The Overall Cost of Workplace Conflict (including style conflicts)

Hundreds of Billions Annually in the U.S.: Recent research (e.g., a study by Stephan Lendi in May 2025 and earlier studies by CPP Inc., now The Myers-Briggs Company) indicates that unresolved workplace conflict costs U.S. organizations over $350 billion annually . Some estimates even reach as high as $1.2 trillion annually , considering all aspects of poor communication.

Time Lost: Employees spend a significant amount of time resolving conflicts rather than focusing on their core tasks.

U.S. employees spend an average of 2.8 hours per week resolving conflicts. When scaled across the workforce, this lost time equates to approximately $359 billion in paid hours wasted annually in the U.S.

· Managers are also heavily impacted, dedicating 20-40% of their time to handling conflicts.

How Style Conflicts Contribute to These Costs

1. Personality Clashes as a Major Cause: Studies consistently show that personality clashes and ‘warring egos’ are among the top causes of workplace conflict. For example, some research indicates that 49% to 72% of workplace disputes arise from personality clashes. These ‘personality clashes’ are often direct manifestations of differing communication and work styles (like those described by DiSC), a problem that can be resolved.

2. Lost Productivity

When individuals with different styles clash, it can lead to...

Misunderstandings and Rework: Different communication styles can lead to misinterpreted messages, resulting in errors and the need for rework.

Hindered Collaboration: If styles are not understood and respected, teamwork breaks down, impacting project timelines and innovation.

Distraction and Reduced Focus: Employees involved in conflicts are often distracted and struggle to concentrate fully on their tasks.

Increased Turnover: Unresolved style conflicts are a significant driver of employees leaving their jobs. Up to 50% of employee departures are linked to workplace disputes. The cost of replacing an employee can range from 50% to 200% of their annual salary , totaling a staggering $1 trillion annually in conflict-related turnover for U.S. businesses.

Disengagement and Low Morale: Persistent style clashes lead to disengaged employees who are less motivated and productive. Gallup estimates that disengagement due to conflict costs U.S. organizations between $450 billion and $550 billion each year . Poor morale can spread, creating a "us vs. them" mentality and resistance to leadership.

Absenteeism and Presentism: Stress and anxiety from unresolved style conflicts contribute to increased absenteeism (employees taking time off) and presentism (employees being present but not fully productive). This can cost thousands of dollars per employee annually…and does!

Legal and Health Costs: In extreme cases, style conflicts can escalate to harassment, discrimination claims, and even workplace violence, leading to substantial legal fees and increased healthcare costs due to stress-related illnesses.

Damaged Reputation and Customer Dissatisfaction: Internal conflicts can spill over and affect customer interactions and a company's external reputation.

In essence, while "style conflicts" are a subset of overall workplace conflict, they represent a substantial portion of the financial drain on organizations. Investing in understanding and managing these style differences, as DiSC-based models aim to do, can lead to significant cost savings and a more productive, harmonious work environment.

This video, linked below, 'Respect and Reconciliation,' features a dialogue with leadership coach Gregg Ward as we explore DiSC work compatibility factors and our stress limitations. You may develop helpful insights that immediately illuminate what has been previously mysterious about your interpersonal relationships.

Harmony and peace to you, dear reader. Enjoy the video.

-Frank DeDominicis

Conflict Resolution versus Productive Conflict

So, how has this aggressive D-D conflict resolved itself? It has not. Charlie has not responded to my request to first agree to practice professional courtesy in our meetings and to refrain from further extreme misbehaviors. (There are other examples of his inappropriate behaviors, but I won’t discredit him further.) He ignored that request and has not replied with a clear and distinct yes or no to my call for courtesy.

Instead, he sent yet another lengthy, unpunctuated list of demands, some of which were quite unreasonable. As you read this, I have sent him an ultimatum email, threatening not to schedule a meeting to make progress on and complete his project unless he first agrees to cooperate. His ignoring my request is a power play, so I remain stoic and stand firm in extinguishing the misbehavior typical of a disturbed adolescent. "I do not disturb disrespect or abuse from anyone" is my self-protection mantra, and it should be yours too.

My ultimate consolation about this tough D-D relationship is that it will eventually end somehow. Time is on my side. Henceforth, I will never again mistrust my healthy instincts when considering the potential onboarding of a questionable character. In the future, I'll include good behavior terms in my onboarding form for individuals with questionable character, which will probably be seen as a joke by NORPs (normal, ordinary, responsible persons).

Playing to Win: Scrabble's Strategic Secrets for Business Leaders

Wed, 15 Jul 2026 13:11:32 GMT

Having achieved a modicum of success in Scrabble™, I realize that many of my Scrabble tricks are the same ones I use in business. For example, what is the first thing you should do when you receive your initial seven letter tiles? What is the first thing you should do when starting a new business project? Think.

For me, it is the assessment of current resources. What resources and limitations do we have to work with? In the 90s, I learned this from Paul J. Meyer, the founder of Success Motivation Institute and creator of the famous ‘wheel of life’ personal goals pie diagram. His teaching guided me in helping business owners to pause and consider the five or six main resources of any business and to make efficiency improvement decisions for each.

For many years, I played Scrabble™ thinking it was just about finding the right word, preferably one with seven letters to earn extra points. Like a chess or Scrabble™ board, placement options and positioning opportunities change with every move. Likewise, as with business investment trends and consumer behavior shifts, things are constantly in a state of flux. There are several Scrabble™ tactics that I can share with you, but for the sake of brevity let’s choose a few brain ticklers to get your wheels turning. My first check-in is on my mood, in both games. Am I calm and centered?

Centeredness

When entering into a competitive game, what is your pre-approach attitude? Is it ‘let’s see what happens?’ Are you calm, relaxed, focused, and ready for battle? Or are you a bit over-confident or intimidated by your opponent?

As in business and chess, anticipating future moves and the ability to adjust to changing circumstances is vital. Kung Fu, for example, emphasizes the concept of being centered, both physically and mentally. This involves maintaining a strong, grounded posture and a focused, and calm mind. When you walk into the board room for a challenging conversation, what is your demeanor and mental state? Do you have a relaxed attitude and are you focused on opportunities? Scanning the entire Scrabble™ board applies also to the boardroom. A calm mind will affect your game.

The strategy is to win in business and in Scrabble™, but what are the specific tactics for both? Winning in Scrabble™ is the same as in business: better performance and measurement statistics than the opponent or competitors, which means more points in Scrabble™, and more money in business.

Adaptability and Flexibility

In Scrabble™, particularly in Act II, stay loose and relaxed, knowing that your possible opportunities are created once your opponent moves. In some cases, carefully playing just two tiles can make three words and score really high. I did this recently by adding to the horizontal word ‘he’ the letter X which fell onto a triple letter tile. Then I added the letter U under the X, triple scoring it again for a total of 51 points.

The same applies in business. If you practice self-discipline, then when you are describing your sales prospect’s ideal persona, you probably niche down, down, down with multiple filters. Likewise, if you’re an MD, you’ve niched down to a specialty, perhaps sports medicine, then you’ve niched down to being expert at a particular treatment or surgery.

A basic principle of Kung Fu is “adapt to changing circumstances.” Kung Fu values adaptability and flexibility. Practitioners are taught to adjust their techniques according to the situation, opponent, and environment. So, know this fact: change is constant. Expect disruptions. How flexible are you in adapting to tough situations? Do you have a backup plan, or is it all or nothing? If you are a leader, testing assumptions is the fodder of great brainstorming and problem-solving.

Didi Chuxing Transportation Technology Company

Thinking Ahead

In Scrabble™, while your opponent thinks about their next word, be busy planning different word placements and setups. When your turn arrives, being able to place your pre-selected word quickly will save you time. This may upset your opponent’s composure, especially if you are using an hourglass timer. ‘Setups’ are when you leave a placement so that it creates a possible future opportunity, notwithstanding your opponent’s next move.

For example, Scrabble has only four S’s. If you notice that three of the four S’s are already played, and you have the fourth one, you can use it to score a triple word. You get the idea.

Business is nothing more than promises fulfilled, so a conversation at the Chamber of Commerce After Hours event may be a setup for a presentation later, a transparent and obvious selling technique, scheduling a ‘let’s meet later’ appointment.

Scrabble's Three Acts

Stages of Play

In Scrabble™ there are any one of a number of moves a player can make. Usually moves are divided into sets of three which I refer to as Acts. In Act I you naturally want to score as high as possible but not at the cost of providing your enemy a great leave, as in billiards. You may initially sacrifice points by clinging tightly to the center of the board and let your opponent expand the territory outwards to reach double and triple letter and word tiles.

Are you gifting your opponent by creating an easy shot at that delicious cherry red triple word tile? In business are you inadvertently affecting your competitive advantage by making it too easy for your competitors to copy you, your innovative inventions, or any of the unique features of your offering?

In Act I, when the Scrabble™ board is relatively open, there are multiple potential placement options. In business this situation is similar. Don’t waste all your moves in an initial conversation or a negotiation. Waiting for the right time to share may have more impact, especially if you save a valuable gem for a special conversation and time. People learn better being spoon fed information rather than dealing with information overload. In business as in Scrabble™ timing is equally important. Don’t waste those high scoring tiles until the game has evolved into Act II or Act III when there are many more opportunities.

Resource Allocation

When you begin your Scrabble™ game, position your tiles on your tray with the highest scoring tile on the left, and then place the next highest tile, and the next highest tile, etc. If you practice this layout over time you will discover high scoring words. Most Scrabble™ players, except for professional players, do not know this cute little trick that will revolutionize your game if you were previously staring at tiles praying a word would magically reveal itself to you. If this tactic improves your game, please let me know.

In business, routinely consider all your resources such as people, time, money, vehicles, banks, space, equipment, collaborative allies, etc. Plan how to address making each of these items more efficient, but remember that ‘strategic planning’ is an oxymoron. Roger Martin explains why in this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iuYlGRnC7J8

If you apply these principles, I believe you’ll find Scrabble™ to be more than a just a game. It involves strategy and tactics that directly apply to your business success.

- Frank DeDominicis,

Power and Energy Conservation

If you have a driver style personality beware of dominating the conversation. The driver personality style is impatient with conversation silence and may not appreciate that pensive silences and time to absorb what is just said suits many other styles perfectly. Likewise, if you’re playing an untimed Scrabble™ game, let your opponent take as much time as they like as you plan words and placements. Letting them expand the field of play affords you the opportunity to take advantage of possibilities they present with each move. As in martial arts training which is focused on space, time, and repetition, sometimes going more slowly now may mean going faster later.

One perfect example of observing and responding to competition is how China’s Didi Chuxing ride service blew Uber out of its country. In China alone it dominates in over a hundred cities, each with a more than a million citizens. DiDi copied the core Uber concept and massively improved on it, as with rideshare bicycles too. Didi is now the leading transportation platform in the world. Don’t bemoan your opponent making a great move. Each move provides more choices for you. As in competitive sports, congratulate others on their wins.

Failing Forward: Why Mistakes Are Your Greatest Assets

Wed, 15 Jul 2026 12:59:34 GMT

Failure is a vast subject; however, I will condense our exploration into a manageable number of aspects for the sake of simplicity. We'll look at the Failure Response Modality Continuum, a model that categorizes different responses to failure, from avoidance to acceptance and learning. We'll also explore inventors who embraced testing failures, the psychology of failure, and the benefits of ‘failing forward.’

Having been involved in the process observation of groups and individuals within groups for over almost five decades, I will address the four distinct individuals in my audience. In viewing a continuum of emotional responses to perceived failures, I identify four responses to failure.

Sir James Dyson: "Inexperience is an advantage."

The second quadrant person is brave but cautious. She takes reasonable risks. She confronts failure as an opportunity to learn, grow, and go again. 2's and 3's can approach the middle of the continuum, where there are equal measures of courage and fear, which might feel like an anxious, conflicted place to be. Courage pushes you to act, whilst fear says, "apply brakes gently as we go around this blind bend. Watch out."

Abraham Lincoln

When I think of someone typical of quadrant 2, Abraham Lincoln comes to mind. He had a good measure of both reasonable fear and courage in trying to keep the union together. His career is a perfect example of 'failing forward.' Note Lincoln's notable personal and political failures:

1831: Failed in business. His general store went bankrupt, and he spent years paying off the debt.
1832: Lost his first election for the Illinois State Legislature.
1833: Failed in another business venture.
1835: His sweetheart, Ann Rutledge, died, causing him to suffer a nervous breakdown.
1838: Was defeated for Speaker of the Illinois House.
1843: Was defeated for the nomination for Congress.
1848: Lost his bid for renomination to Congress.
1849: Was rejected for a land officer position.
1854: Was defeated in his run for the U.S. Senate.
1856: Was defeated for the nomination for Vice President.
1858: Was defeated again in his run for the U.S. Senate.
1860: Elected POTUS

A quadrant four person might be Frank Whittle, who had to anticipate successive failures for each of his progressively more advanced scientific experiments. He invented the jet engine, a radical departure from piston-driven engines that rotated aircraft propellers. Expecting testing failures for each of the design’s specifications, such as component temperatures and pressures, he patiently experienced fear at each stage of experimentation. At any point a prototype engine might self-destruct, given the first experiment's dismal failure, a huge explosion.

Frank Whittle realized that for the UK to win World War II, it would need a plane that did not have the limitations of a propeller-driven airplane. As a synergizer, he envisioned an aircraft that could fly higher and faster than any current model, and then began rethinking the airplane engine. Piston-driven combustion engines and propellers would not operate in thin air at high altitudes. Whittle imagined aircraft flying at 500 mph and altitudes of 40,000 feet, in much thinner air. A propeller of the size and weight needed to absorb the power of a gas turbine at these extreme speeds and altitudes would be impractical and inefficient. He deduced that the most efficient way to fly at high altitude was with a jet of hot exhaust gases for thrust.

Whittle thought the internal combustion engine had too many parts. Instead, he envisioned only one part, a rotary shaft, driven by a totally new design. Several renditions of his concept had to be developed to achieve the final ideal operational temperatures and optimal pressures for maximum speed. A stream of prototypes failed until all the specifications were adjusted for the best performance.

Actually, Hans von Ohain of Germany was the designer of the first operational jet engine. However, credit for the invention of the jet engine is often attributed to Frank Whittle of Great Britain. Whittle, who registered a patent for the turbojet engine in 1930, received that recognition but did not perform a flight test until 1941. Curiously, they were science friends.

Thanks to all the multiplicative testing failures, jet technology eventually enabled the Airbus A380 to cross the Atlantic in just seven hours. Even faster, the NASA X-43 is the fastest aircraft in the world. This experimental unmanned scramjet vehicle achieved a top speed of Mach 9.6 (about 7,366 mph or 11,854 km/h) in 2004. If only those two bicycle mechanics famous for their Kitty Hawk, North Carolina experiments could now see how far aviation has come.

Pygmalion and Galatea by Auguste Rodin

"A plurality of Americans believe that life was better 50 years ago. A recent international study revealed that only 10% thought the world was getting better." - Faye Hu

John C. Maxwell

Peter Drucker

The Benefits of Failures: A Catalyst for Growth

So, what have my failures taught me? My failures taught me that I have nothing to lose by experiencing them, for they are a most valuable teacher. My most tragic experiences, in the end, have produced a more resilient person who values emotional intelligence and self-awareness. My failures have mainly taught me humility, a significant lesson for an ego that has been unavoidably inflated over the years by recognition ceremonies, online accolades, and various awards, and trophies. Having been blessed with personal failures and having changed at depth because of them, my persona is hardly recognizable from who I was years ago, or even last year.

Another advantage of failing is that I've learned to roll with the punches, the second thing my father taught me as a boxer. The first thing he taught me was to learn how to fall without hurting myself, falling forward.

My most significant lesson has been not to fear experimentation and the testing of assumptions. I've learned to not be bound by my comfort zone, and to adopt new attitudes, and behave in new, more productive ways. Using a post-mortem analysis process to analyze my failures has done three important things: 1) removed my fear of failure; 2) encouraged an atmosphere of experimentation and innovation; 3) improved my relationships, even those once distant.

To me, the greatest failure is being unteachable by failure, and doomed to repeat failure attitudes and patterns. How has failure benefitted you? Think.

-Frank DeDominicis

Gene Kranz, NASA Flight Controller

The first quadrant person is courageous, as exemplified by Gene Kranz, an early NASA flight controller, who on February 24, 1997, exhibited calm and poise as he problem-solved how to extinguish a fire that had ignited in the oxygen-generating system with the crew of the Mir space station. The flames lasted several minutes, cutting access to one of the two Soyuz escape vehicles, and filling the station's modules with smoke. With a team attitude of "Failure is not an option," his team resolved a problem that could have been disastrous if emotions had taken over rather than reason.

Frank Whittle

A quadrant three person is more often motivated by fear instead of courage. As war prisoners, they may have more fear than enough courage to confront their captors, and thus confound their captors with disinformation. I imagine Sir James Dyson as a quadrant three person because he had to endure others trying to rip off his brilliant ideas.

Naturally, he feared losing control of his patented concepts to competitive inventors, especially after having experienced 5,126 failed prototypes and taking 15 years to perfect the bagless vacuum cleaner that would eventually make him a billionaire. Curiously, every single investor he approached with the cyclonic circulation vacuum cleaner concept rejected him. They thought it would threaten the paper bag business.

In 2017, Dyson invested £7 million a week in the research and development of new products for his company, which is now the UK's largest investor in robotics and artificial intelligence research. The company employs over 3,500 engineers and scientists and engages in more than 40 university research programs. Sir James Dyson's tolerance for mistakes was admirable. He hired young, inexperienced workers because they were easier to train, and because they would bring fresh thinking, new ideas, and errors during their learning curve that would help them improve. He said, "Failure is not catastrophe." He embraced failure as a stepping stone.

Psychology of Failure and the Pygmalion Effect

The Pygmalion Effect is the power of expectations. According to Greek myth, Pygmalion was a legendary sculptor in Cyprus who, dissatisfied by physically imperfect women, created a statue of his ideal woman. He fell in love with the statue and treated his beauty as a confidante, bringing gifts, dressing it, and even caressing and kissing it, according to the Centre of Excellence. He wanted a woman exactly like his perfectly sculpted girl. The goddess Venus fulfilled his dream expectations and granted his wish, transforming his statue into a living woman named Galatea. Pygmalion married Galatea.

In 1912 George Bernard Shaw wrote a play called Pygmalion in which two gentlemen bet on whether a teacher's attention and expectations can affect the outcomes of a student's learning. The story centers on Henry Higgins, a brilliant but arrogant phonetician, who makes a bet with his fellow linguist, Colonel Pickering. Higgins boasts that he can transform a poor, uneducated Cockney flower girl, Eliza Doolittle, into a refined lady who can pass for a duchess simply by teaching her to speak and act appropriately. This play was transformed into a 1964 Hollywood musical starring Audrey Hepburn and Rex Harrison, titled "My Fair Lady."

Numerous research studies cite examples of experiments in which teachers were informed that some of the students in their classroom would be bright and others slower. These identified subsets of students in the classroom performed exactly as the teacher was led to believe they should, despite all the students being at the same academic level, based on how much attention she gave to the differently labeled groups. The point is that generally, people tend to live up to the expectations of others. This is why it's so important to have a mentor, coach, or friend who believes in you when your confidence wanes, and why it’s important to positively expect better when adolescents misbehave. Negative thinkers tend to live down to their expectations.

Faye Hu Shines a Light of Hope

I know an acquaintance who is a paranoid conspiracy theorist whose faith in the basic goodness of life itself is weak. Joy and mirth are tragically absent from their daily life. Instead, they live bound to their negative expectations, and thus suffer 'quiet days of desperation.' They surrender to an attitude of learned helplessness and fatalism, the coward's way out, says Faye Hu. Do you know anyone with this mindset?

Fatalism as a Pygmalion Motivator for Failure

Columbia University student Faye Hu makes a good point that complaining about things and mentally arguing with the perceived enemy is non-productive, although bitching is a commonly accepted gossip habit. In a time when real existential threats linger like a sword of Damocles above our collective heads, doing nothing is not an option, she asserts. We face simultaneous crises with climate’s increasingly larger, more impactful environmental changes, drugs destroying lives, global trade in freefall, and democracies falling to dictatorial despots. Faye Hu's ideas are simple. With a virtually impossible to alleviate debt list, the USA now faces a credit crisis, needing to pay off massive debt that has provided Americans with the good life for so long. Now it's time to pay the piper.

The world is in a state of economic insecurity. Territorial wars and the threat of wars saturate our attention and distract us from their origins. The Gaza conflict has deep historical roots in which both parties are victims. It is an example of the concept that 'whenever a fight has continued for too long, it is a sign that both parties are at fault.' To understand the objective reality regarding Israel and Palestine, read Daniel Sokatch's book, Can We Talk about Israel? A Guide for the Curious, Confused, and Conflicted. It offers a clear and balanced overview of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict and it may give you hope for peace. "Fatalism is the coward's way out," reminds Faye Hu, who encourages us to maintain hope.

John Maxwell and Failing Forward

John C. Maxwell, renowned leadership speaker and author of Failing Forward, elucidates his understanding of failure as a valuable learning and growth experience with easily digestible, simple concepts. His main point is this: "The major difference between winners and losers is their perception of and response to failure."

Maxwell reminds us that failure is not final and that success is not a destination but a process, just like failure. Using a scientific learning process, Maxwell’s success cycle involves five steps. First, you test assumptions. All good leaders test assumptions. Secondly, you fail. Thirdly, you learn from mistakes. Fourthly, you make adjustments for new improvements. Fifthly, you re-enter or reengage.

Maxwell loves acronyms and provides this one for dealing with failure and success: "R.E.A.L." The R stands for relationships because success or failure almost always involves others.

The E stands for equipping, a classic Maxwell tactic, equipping others. This means providing others with what they need to succeed. For example, whenever I visit the local diner, I make a point of introducing myself and remembering my server's name. Consequently, they are equipped with my name, and whenever I arrive, they greet me and provide excellent service.

The third letter A stands for attitude. Of course, attitudes are motivators of behavior. So, if you want to change your results, change your attitude and behavior, and outcomes will follow. How to actually change attitudes is another discussion for another time. Lastly, the L stands for leadership. Personal effectiveness is about how we lead our lives, so, in that respect, all persons ought to develop their leadership skills; otherwise, they will follow behind someone who did.

Ponder Maxwell Maxims:

Failure is not final.
Achievers reject rejection.
Failure does not equal catastrophe.
Failure is not a character statement.
You've failed, but you're not a failure.
There are no mistakes, only lessons to be learned.
Failure is not a single event. It is a process, like success.
Train for failure. The bottom could fall out. How will you fail forward?
The ability to see failure positively is an acquired attitude. Don't fear failure.
Failure is not the opposite of success. Failure and success are friends.
Failure is necessary for success.
Failure is the price we pay to achieve success.

Peter Drucker's Take on Failure

In his seminal work, Innovation and Entrepreneurship, Peter Drucker identifies sources of innovative opportunity, the first being unexpected successes and failures. His core concept: “Systemic innovation requires failures.” Consider the United States’ space program failures.

Key Points on Failure and Systemic Innovation

· Failure as a Symptom of Change : Like me, Drucker valued a well-planned, well-executed failure more than a success because of the educational opportunity afforded by learning from mistakes. He suggested a constructive attitude when facing failure is, "What can we learn from this?"

· The Importance of Analysis : Failures, according to Drucker, offer undiscovered opportunities for fresh perspectives. Self-analysis is second nature to professional salespersons.

· ‘Fast-Failing:’ Hurry up and get all the necessary iteration mistakes out of the way. Drucker encouraged ‘fast-failing,’ especially at the start of a project, making many micro-mistakes and adjustments. Such timely data is then called feedback. His big question about failures was, "Why did this fail despite being carefully planned and executed?"

In summary, Peter Drucker saw failure not as an end but as a crucial starting point for inquiry and innovation. For him, a disciplined approach to analyzing and learning from failure is a core component of any organization's strategy for systemic and purposeful innovation.

REFERENCES:

James Dyson Net Worth 2025 Forbes Richest in UK Glusea.com.

https://www.glusea.com/james-dyson-net-worth/

Pygmalion Effect

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pygmalion_effect

Pygmalion Effect example:

https://www.supersummary.com/pygmalion/book-brief/

Pygmalion in Greek Mythology

https://www.centreofexcellence.com/pygmalion-greek-mythology/

Give me 8 minutes and I'll DELETE your fear of failure

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cw5bEL9rxXw

Failure Is Not an Option: Mission Control from Mercury to Apollo 13 and Beyond

https://www.amazon.com/Failure-Not-Option-Mission-Control/dp/1439148813 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v =2uY8-7E05rE

The Tara Westover Story – How an uneducated redneck kid discovered the real world https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q9S7tdz80wo

Tara Westover, author of Educated

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2d9I18Wdsuc

Author Tara Westover’s Incredible Story About Leaving Her Strict Survivalist Family

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=is635n6RNR0

Dyson Founder Breaks Down His Biggest Inventions and His 'Life of Failure' | WSJ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R21A84A-NLk&t=1s

Dyson: The Future of Farming

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FA6BCIWPJ30

Are We Doomed? How Fatalism Presupposes Failure | Faye Hu | TEDxYouth@WAB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjYP2Wj0Wqc

Genius of the Jet | The Invention of the Jet Engine: Frank Whittle | PART 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=crRbwtWquvw&t=1s

25 Years Ago: Fire Aboard Space Station Mir

https://www.nasa.gov/history/25-years-ago-fire-aboard-space-station-mir/

Are We Doomed? How Fatalism Presupposes Failure | Faye Hu | TEDxYouth@WAB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjYP2Wj0Wqc&t=2s

Mass Malaise, Brainwashing, and Self-Sacrifice

Wed, 08 Jul 2026 10:41:43 GMT

Mass hypnosis is, by definition, ubiquitous, seemingly everywhere, affecting everyone. Am I unwittingly the victim of mass brainwashing? Can I discern the difference between social media's portrayal of reality and actual 'on the street' life? Is my worldview being shaped by the Machine that selectively shows me only a few minutes or hours of activity from the billions of daily interactions of eight billion people and organizations?

I am striving to unearth and survey my own buried, perhaps invisible biases and hidden thoughts through a process of relentless 'but maybe' cross-examination questions to myself. I find it easy to follow me around for a month to observe my natural behavior rather than get lost in my head in a unique, subjective world of swirling thoughts and feelings. To that point, I feel a fire burning in my heart to focus on helping others remember that we are all of the same species.

We can all do much better collectively through peace and cooperation. Alas, my message may sound like the words of a hopeful idealist, but I am a realist. Liking tangible proof of claims and reports, I dug into deep research about 'man's inhumanity to man' and was dismayed to learn the unfathomable depths of depravity. To repair my mood, I chose instead to study the biographies of persons that made me feel proud of people in this Anthropocene period. I refocused on the best of what it means to be human.

To me, the best is universally shared bonds of trust, compassion, and love, an appreciation of all creation, especially our neighbors. Sadly, our collective mind is young in terms of geologic time. Our brainstem’s reticular system is wired with many 'fight or flight' self-preservation synaptic triggers. And thank goodness for that!

Let's become more self-aware. Let’s not get lost in the bad news, which constantly bombards our senses. Monica Guzman refers to these neurochemical synaptic spikes as 'dopamine lollipops.’

To heal my media-infected blue attitude, I've researched the honorable side of human nature to restore my faith in humankind. Now, I feel better and can see things from a dispassionate, elevated point of view. Who's driving my brain anyway, external stimuli or my own consciously chosen second thoughts?

Unconscious Bias Pre-programming Affects Group Moods

I am striving to unearth and survey my own buried, perhaps invisible biases and hidden thoughts through a process of relentless 'but maybe' cross-examination questions to myself. It is easy to follow me around for a month to observe my natural behavior rather than get lost in my head in a unique, subjective world of swirling thoughts and feelings.

To that point, I feel a fire burning in my heart to focus on helping others remember that we are all of the same species. We can all do much better collectively through peace and cooperation. Alas, my message may sound like the words of a hopeful idealist, but I am a realist. Liking tangible proof of claims and reports, I dug into deep research about 'man's inhumanity to man' and was dismayed to learn the unfathomable depths of depravity. To repair my mood, I chose instead to study the biographies of persons that made me feel proud of people in this Anthropocene period. I refocused on the best of what it means to be human.

Let's become more self-aware. Let’s not get lost in the bad news that constantly bombards our senses. Monica Guzman refers to these neurochemical synaptic spikes as 'dopamine lollipops.’

Daily, we are cognitively and emotionally overloaded with information about natural disasters, genocide campaigns in Africa and elsewhere, an average of two U.S. mass shootings per day, crazed killers on the run, killer bees, asteroids, floods, earthquakes, tsunamis, the U.S. January 6 Insurrection, a virus that has killed over a million people, worldwide mass migrations of displaced persons, a disrupted supply chain, economic fluctuations, U.S. Congress at odds with itself, privacy hacks, identity theft, energy and climate crises, wildfires, cybersecurity issues, and smash and grab robberies. The pain list goes on and on ad nauseam. These stimuli trigger our deepest, primal biases and behaviors.

Our selective reading and listening shape and reinforce our biases. These habits support separation rather than people coming together for intelligent arguments about their differences. My revelation concerning the benefits of bias, especially in terms of interpersonal conflict, is that "you can see my faults, and I can see yours." Such is the nature of bias.

Our challenge is to learn to speak about those faults in a way that the other person can hear. If I practiced tough listening long enough, I’d receive helpful feedback on my behavior. After all, people are most honest when they are angry. We can mentally practice impulse control reflexes before and when conflict sparks.

The fentanyl epidemic has grown so huge that the Sinaloa Cartel has recently threatened its people with death if they manufacture, distribute, or sell fentanyl because it is killing off customers. The CDC reports that fentanyl overdose death rates more than tripled between 2016 to 2021.

"Drug overdose death rates involving fentanyl increased by 279% from 5.7 per 100,000 in 2016 to 21.6 in 2021, according to new data from the CDC's National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS). Drug overdose death rates involving methamphetamine more than quadrupled during the same period." – U.S. Center for Disease Control

I’ve begun presenting an informative Zoom series on Xylazine and Fentanyl Public Awareness. At my September session, Representative Marc Snyder (D., El Paso County, CO) said that "most politicians have their head in the sand" when it comes to the ever-expanding drug problem. He submitted a bill to the Colorado legislature that would hold drug dealers accountable for harm done by their merchandise, especially deaths. It failed to pass. The movement I've initiated, with help from positive aging advocate Jeff Rubin, is moving towards creating a leadership opportunity for a federal legislator to win hero points for bringing a similar bill to Congress.

A Boulder friend of mine recently went shopping at a local supermarket. She liked to go just before closing time to avoid crowds. While she was in the back of the store talking with the store manager, a gang rushed in the front doors, armed with shopping bags, loaded up, and after a few minutes, as if on cue, all ran out simultaneously. The manager received a radio report from one of his cashiers about the theft. He nonchalantly mumbled that "it happens so often" that he “no longer cares.”

The cops arrived, filed a report, got copies of CCT tapes, and left. The manager claimed that the store theft losses amount to over $6,300,000.00 monthly. I'd expect this kind of criminal behavior in wild Philadelphia, but I was discouraged that the smash-and-grab trend is now copied in my cute little college town and elsewhere.

The Cartels' U.S. Customer Attrition Drug Problem

Meanwhile, the global drug distribution cartels, financed by the Italian mafia cult 'Ndrangheta, are increasingly flooding the world with tons of hard drugs. Except for occasional sensational stories of significant drug busts, unless you tour the tent villages of homeless people in our cities, you probably have not even heard about Xylazine. This animal tranquilizer is changing the face of drug dealing. An estimated 200+ U.S. citizens a day are dying because of Xylazine, not to mention the grievous side effects, which are much too graphic to share here. The U.K. experienced its first Xylazine death in May 2023. It's spreading, but the news is slow to cover it.

With cryptocurrency, anybody can purchase drugs (and almost anything else, including 'hits') on the Dark Web, where law enforcement is hunting for perpetrators in the underbelly of the internet. Interpol provides valuable research to law enforcement; however, this information is also accessible to drug traffickers. Matters are further complicated by corruption. As a Boulder cop told me in 2012 about the legalization of marijuana, "Wherever there's big money, there's big corruption."

The epicenter of the Xylazine crisis is the infamous Kensington neighborhood of Philadelphia. A once thriving community, it has been on a downhill spiral since the 1970s, when manufacturing was curtailed, and factories closed. Home to McPherson Park, a beautiful little park with a colonial-designed library building. It is now known as “Needle Park,” and its patrons are called ‘zombies.’

How big is this problem? "Over the last two years (2019 – 2021), preventable drug overdose deaths increased 58.0%, from 62,172 in 2019. In 2021, 98,268 people died from preventable drug overdoses – an increase of 781% since 1999. These deaths represent 92% of the total 106,699 drug overdose deaths in the United States, which also include suicide, homicide, and undetermined intents."

- https://injuryfacts.nsc.org/

Okay, dear reader, thanks for letting me bring you down with the backdrop of a world in constant crisis. Let’s put some helium into our balloon to lift us upward. Now, we'll recall the lives of heroic individuals and generous communities who exemplify the better part of human nature. Let's switch from the constantly breaking bad news to a calm, peaceful place. Following are stories about the admirable, honorable, and courageous acts of those who gave comfort, safety, and solace to others and, in some cases, risked their freedom, health, and even lives for the sake of others.

Irena Sendler was a radical underground Catholic woman who, during Hitler's reign, posed as a social worker to enter the Warsaw ghetto. Over two years, she extracted over 2500 of the smallest and most vulnerable people, primarily children, drugging them asleep to hide and transport them in laundry carts and toolboxes. On strips of paper, Irena kept the encoded names of the captives in glass jars that were buried and spread about in various locations. Exposed by her friend who could not endure Nazi torture, Irena was captured, tortured, and her legs were broken. Still, she never revealed the location of the missing children.

Canadian Town Hosts Americans in Flight

When the 9/11 attacks occurred, 167 flights were suddenly diverted to other airports. Thirty-eight of those flights landed in Gander, Newfoundland, once 'the refueling station of international flights.' Now, Gander is famous for its over 11,000 citizens warmly and quickly making their first order of business to receive and comfort flight passengers.

Alison Tretter, journalist and Exhibition Developer, 9/11 Memorial & Museum, reported on September 13th, when the United States airspace reopened and planes began to leave Gander, comments by the passengers. "We didn't want to leave," one passenger recounted her tearful goodbye. "We were having a really great time with those Newfoundlanders."

The ‘plane people’ remembered their time in Canada after reaching their final destinations. Passengers kept in touch with one another and their Newfoundland hosts by phone, made websites dedicated to their flights, and even returned to Gander for anniversaries of the attacks. The passengers and crew of one flight created a scholarship fund for students in the Gander area. The initial donation of $15,000 has, since 2001, grown to more than $1 million and provided scholarships to more than 200 local students.

Newfoundlanders, too, remember this extraordinary moment in their history. In Appleton, residents built a Peace Park from $5,000 donated by stranded passengers. The park features a section of World Trade Center steel and a monument dedicated to first responders. Every year on 9/11, Appleton holds a ceremony to remember those killed in the attacks and to honor those who cared for the stranded passengers. "There is goodness in the world," Appleton's Mayor Flynn said in a 2017 interview, "that floats to the top in times of disaster."

Marine Corporal Kyle Carpenter

On November 21, 2010, in Helmand province, Afghanistan, then-Lance Cpl. Kyle Carpenter and a fellow Marine were on a rooftop security position on the perimeter of Patrol Base Dakota when enemy combatants raided. When an enemy grenade landed near Carpenter, he dove on the grenade and absorbed the blast with his body, saving the life of the other Marine on the rooftop that day. Carpenter survived the explosion and was awarded the Medal of Honor for his actions. He is now an author and motivational speaker with an Instagram bio.

Robert Maxwell – Army Corporal

As German forces approached their defensive position in Besançon, France, on September 7th, 1944, Army Corporal Robert Maxwell and three other soldiers were outnumbered and outgunned. Germans had infiltrated rifle posts and had surrounded their camp. At about 2 AM, several grenades hit his tent, bounced off, and exploded harmlessly, but one grenade fell into his tent. He knew that time was short for throwing the grenade back; he grabbed his blanket, put it up against his chest, and fell onto the grenade. When he came to, bleeding from multiple wounds, the camp had been evacuated. He was rescued after saving the lives of three others.

Arland D. Williams, Jr.

On January 13, 1982, Air Florida Flight 90 crashed on take-off into the icy Potomac River in Washington, D.C., killing 74 people. Arland D. Williams Jr. was a passenger on that flight. One of six people to initially survive the crash, he helped the other five escape the sinking plane and freezing water by passing them a helicopter lifeline, even as he struggled, ultimately losing his life. The 14th Street Bridge over the Potomac River at the crash site was renamed in his honor. (Video link below)

Maxmillion Kolbe – Auschwitz Martyr

"Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends."

After the outbreak of World War II, Kolbe was one of the few friars who remained in his monastery, where he organized a temporary hospital. He also was publically outspoken, refusing to sign the 'Deutsche Volksliste,’ which would have given him rights similar to those of German citizens, in exchange for recognizing his ethnic German ancestry. He even broadcast radio warnings about the Third Reich. Maxmillion Kolbe was only 27 at the time. After the Germans captured the town on September 19, 1939, they arrested him. He was released on December 8th.

Upon his release, he continued work at his friary, where he and other friars provided shelter to refugees from Greater Poland, including 2,000 Jews whom he hid from German persecution in the Niepokalanów friary. Kolbe received permission to continue publishing religious works, though significantly reduced in scope. The monastery continued to act as a publishing house, issuing several anti-Nazi German publications.

Auschwitz

On February 17, 1941, the monastery was shut down by the German authorities. That day, Kolbe and four others were arrested by the Gestapo and imprisoned in the Pawiak prison. On May 28, he was transferred to Auschwitz as prisoner #16670.

At the end of July 1941, a prisoner escaped from the camp, prompting the deputy camp commander, SS-Hauptsurmfuhrer Karl Fritzsch, to pick ten men to be starved to death in an underground bunker to deter further escape attempts. When one of the selected men, Franciszek Gajowniczek, cried out, "My wife! My children!" Kolbe volunteered to take his place. Kolbe and others would be locked in a starvation barrack with others dead or dying.

Maximilian Kolbe's Block 11 prison cell in Auschwitz concentration camp

He died on August 14, 1941. His remains were cremated on August 15, the feast day of the Assumption of Mary.

Not Forrest Gump, but William Pitsenbarger

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Franciszek Gajowniczek

According to an eyewitness, an assistant janitor at that time, Kolbe led the prisoners in prayer in his prison cell. After they had been starved and deprived of water for two weeks, only Kolbe and three others remained alive. Because the guards wanted the bunker emptied, they gave the four remaining prisoners lethal injections of carbolic acid. Kolbe is said to have raised his left arm and calmly waited for the deadly injection.

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Irena Sendler

Airman First Class William H. Pitsenbarger was 21 years old when he was awarded the Air Force Cross for saving fellow soldiers wounded in Vietnam. His parents watched as he earned the distinction on September 22, 1966, only for him to be killed in action six months later — while rescuing anywhere between 40 to 60 men near Saigon.

When troops were ambushed and stuck in a losing battle, a bloody massacre, it was too dangerous for the Air Force to go in, but ‘Pitts,’ volunteered, on his day off, to rescue the surrounded allies with a helicopter. He overloaded the rescue helicopter with the wounded but stayed behind to assist the injured and dying.

Under the cover of darkness, he helped the wounded and gathered weapons. On the battlefield, he covered a wounded soldier with two dead ones and told him to stay still. That man saw him take the first of three bullets and continue to help the wounded, holding their hands as they died.

Alfred Wetzler & Rudolf Vrba

Report on the Auschwitz Protocols

In late April 1944, Rudolf Vrba and Alfred Wetzler, two courageous Slovakian Jewish prisoners of Auschwitz-Birkenau concentration camp, co-wrote a report describing details of their experience. They drew illustrations of barracks' layouts, local geography, daily lives of prisoners, numbers, origin, categories of prisoners, and who were selected for "work" or death. They are the first escapees of Auschwitz.

From 1940 to 1943, prisoners' shot or starved bodies were incinerated in mass pits, their remains scattered in nearby creeks, used as farming fertilizer, and used to fill in the uneven landscape. That process was labor-intensive, and the ovens burned constantly, filling the sky with ash and the smell of death.

Then the Nazis conceived an idea on how to transition from the tediously slow extermination process of gassing captives locked inside trucks with exhaust carbon monoxide. The solution to the Jewish problem was as simple as pest control. Just cage and poison them.

In 1943, skeptical Third Reich leaders inspected the new Auschwitz-Birkenau project. They went away impressed by the overall efficiency of the metal box that was initially stuffed with over 8,000 Kracow Jews, who were then gassed with Zyklon-B, a cyanide-based insecticide.

For the twenty minutes required to kill all the emaciated captives, the high command inspectors constantly viewed through the gas chamber peephole, pleased at the success of their investment in an extermination method to eliminate 'naturally inferior' Jews from the Aryan gene pool. Other prisoners then carted their remains to the crematorium that constantly burned.

“After Swiss press coverage of the report, some details began appearing in American and British newspapers in June 1944, catalyzing international pressure (including from FDR) on the Hungarian government to halt deportations of Jews to Auschwitz. The deportations were temporarily stopped in July but resumed in October. That month, Roswell McClelland, an assistant to the American Minister in Switzerland, sent his own English translations of the full reports to John Pehle, Director of the US government’s War Refugee Board (WRB), an executive agency FDR had established to aid the civilian victims of Axis powers in January 1944. The WRB sent dozens of copies of the reports on November 18 under the title “German Extermination Camps - Auschwitz and Birkenau” to American journalists and to the House Appropriations Committee. Scholars debate how effectively they were used to influence American and Allied response to the Holocaust, but they were published nationwide on November 26, 1944, and later used as evidence in the Nuremberg trials.”

After their escape and informing the media, the entire wired world knew the horrific truth for the first time.

Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Dietrich Bonhoeffer was a German Lutheran pastor, theologian, anti-Nazi dissident, and a key founding member of the radical Confessing Church. His writings on Christianity's role in the secular world have become widely influential. His 1937 book 'The Cost of Discipleship' is a modern classic. He was deeply involved in the underground resistance to the Third Reich, including supporting underground ministries' funding and operations.

On February 1, 1933, at the age of 27, he gave a radio talk titled "The Younger Generation's Altered View of the Concept of the Fuhrer," in which he warned that if a leader does not submit to an ultimate authority, the leader will ultimately become an idol. The broadcast that was cut short was in response to Hitler's claim that Divine Providence was on his side. Bonhoeffer resisted the Nazi dictatorship, including opposition to Adolf Hitler’s euthanasia program and genocidal persecution of the Jews.

In April 1943, he was arrested by the Gestapo and imprisoned for one-and-a-half years at Tegel Prison, then he was transferred to Flossenbürg concentration camp .

Bonhoeffer was a co-conspirator in the Valkyrie plot to assassinate Hitler, which happened on Thursday, July 20, 1944. A bomb was placed in a bag in front of a sturdy leg table, which served to blunt the explosion's impact on Hitler, who suffered minor scrapes, burns, and damage to his eardrums.

Ironically, Bonhoeffer worked in the German Military Intelligence Office, where he became a double agent, helping Lutheran pastors avoid military service and hide Jews.

Bonhoeffer was sentenced to death on April 8, 1945, at a drumhead court-martial without witnesses, without any evidence against him, with no records of the proceedings or a defense. On April 9, 1945, Bonhoeffer was stripped naked and executed along with six others by hanging at Flossenburg concentration camp at dawn.

Eberhard Bethge , a student and close friend of Bonhoeffer, writes of a man who saw the execution: "I saw Pastor Bonhoeffer... kneeling on the floor praying fervently to God. I was most deeply moved by how this lovable man prayed, so devout and certain that God heard his prayer. At the place of execution, he again said a short prayer and then climbed the few steps to the gallows, brave and composed. His death ensued after a few seconds. In the almost fifty years that I worked as a doctor, I have hardly ever seen a man die so entirely submissive to the will of God."

Dear reader, I hope these mini-bios were inspirational and reminded you of the more heroic side of human nature, especially during these dangerously divided times. My revelation from observing the territorial violence happening worldwide is distilled into this simple formula: Hatred = Fear x Ignorance.

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ADDENDUM: The source of the phrase 'man's inhumanity to man' is a Robert Burns poem.

Man Was Made to Mourn: A Dirge

When chill November's surly blast

Made fields and forests bare,

One ev'ning, as I wander'd forth

Along the banks of Ayr,

I spied a man, whose aged step

Seem'd weary, worn with care;

His face furrow'd o'er with years,

And hoary was his hair.

"Young stranger, whither wand'rest thou?"

Began the rev'rend sage;

"Does thirst of wealth thy step constrain,

Or youthful pleasure's rage?

Or haply, prest with cares and woes,

Too soon thou hast began

To wander forth, with me to mourn

The miseries of man.

"The sun that overhangs yon moors,

Out-spreading far and wide,

Where hundreds labour to support

A haughty lordling's pride;-

I've seen yon weary winter-sun

Twice forty times return;

And ev'ry time has added proofs,

That man was made to mourn.

"O man! while in thy early years,

How prodigal of time!

Mis-spending all thy precious hours-

Thy glorious, youthful prime!

Alternate follies take the sway;

Licentious passions burn;

Which tenfold force gives Nature's law.

That man was made to mourn.

"Look not alone on youthful prime,

Or manhood's active might;

Man then is useful to his kind,

Supported in his right:

But see him on the edge of life,

With cares and sorrows worn;

Then Age and Want-oh! ill-match'd pair-

Shew man was made to mourn.

"A few seem favourites of fate,

In pleasure's lap carest;

Yet, think not all the rich and great

Are likewise truly blest:

But oh! what crowds in ev'ry land,

All wretched and forlorn,

Thro' weary life this lesson learn,

That man was made to mourn.

"Many and sharp the num'rous ills

Inwoven with our frame!

More pointed still we make ourselves,

Regret, remorse, and shame!

And man, whose heav'n-erected face

The smiles of love adorn, -

Man's inhumanity to man

Makes countless thousands mourn!

"See yonder poor, o'erlabour'd wight,

So abject, mean, and vile,

Who begs a brother of the earth

To give him leave to toil;

And see his lordly fellow-worm

The poor petition spurn,

Unmindful, tho' a weeping wife

And helpless offspring mourn.

"If I'm design'd yon lordling's slave,

By Nature's law design'd,

Why was an independent wish

E'er planted in my mind?

If not, why am I subject to His cruelty, or scorn?

Or why has man the will and pow'r

To make his fellow mourn?

"Yet, let not this too much, my son,

Disturb thy youthful breast:

This partial view of human-kind

Is surely not the last!

he poor, oppressed, honest man

Had never, sure, been born,

Had there not been some recompense

To comfort those that mourn!

"O Death! the poor man's dearest friend,

The kindest and the best!

Welcome the hour my aged limbs

Are laid with thee at rest!

The great, the wealthy fear thy blow

From pomp and pleasure torn;

But, oh! a blest relief for those

That weary-laden mourn!"

-Robert Burns, 1784

Creating a Culture of Safety: Combating Workplace Violence

Tue, 07 Jul 2026 11:34:41 GMT

This article in this series will be concise for two reasons: 1) It's a nasty subject that is already amply covered by many other researchers and writers; 2) My preference is to move beyond statistical reports and societal trends to defining root causes of violence, and to suggest some proactive strategies for mitigating workplace violence. As case studies abound, instead, I will share observations about the core reasons for workplace violence and some ideas for how to prepare for and prevent violence.

AI suggested providing statistics and case studies, which will be listed below in the reference area. I do not want to flood your mind here with evidence of man's inhumanity to man. You already know that mass shootings have transitioned decades ago from a rare occurrence to hundreds every year, so I won't bore you with bloody references. Overall, during the past few years, there has been a downward trend in violence in our cities' streets. To me, the real tragedy is that we have been conditioned to accept violence as commonplace and usual, when we should be outraged at the continual loss of lives and sanity. Alas, many seem too mesmerized by the latest bad news event to stop and focus on preventive measures. Enlightened leaders install workplace violence policies and protocols.

Violence in the Workplace

Violence in the workplace is common. In fact, some CEOs have discouraged workers from reporting harassment, fearing it would tarnish the corporate brand. Violence occurs on various levels, as well. Often, serious workplace violence is preceded by intimidation and bullying. It is important to confront and stop such behaviors before they escalate into more severe consequences. Managers spend about fourteen hours per month dealing with subordinate conflicts. hence, they are in a position to teach peace.

But they…

A Long-Term Decline, Followed by a Recent Uptick:

Homicides:

Workplace homicides in the US saw a significant decline from a peak in the mid-1990s through the 2010s. However, recent data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS) shows an increase. For example, workplace homicides in 2022 were the highest in more than a decade.

Nonfatal Violence:

The overall rate of nonfatal workplace violence also decreased substantially from the 1990s to the 2010s. However, data from sources like the National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS) indicate an increase in nonfatal workplace violence from 2015 to 2019.

Professions Most likely to Experience violence

1. Healthcare and Social Assistance:

Workers in this sector account for a vast majority of nonfatal workplace injuries resulting from violence. They are five times more likely to experience violence-related injuries than workers in other industries. The risk is particularly high for nurses, psychiatric aides, and other healthcare support staff who have direct contact with patients. Violence from patients and clients is the most common type.

When I worked as a psychiatric aide on the adolescent ward of a state mental hospital, I remember being attacked by patient Larry Marinarro, a short, fifteen-year-old boy who the other kids were constantly harassing. When no one else was around, he asked me to join him in his bedroom to talk privately about a problem, so I obliged him. I sat on the edge of his bed and asked, "What's up?" to which he screamed, "Die!" as he attempted to stab me in the chest with a Bic pen. Fortunately, my reflexes were fast, so I grabbed his wrist, spun him into a restraint position, and escorted him to the isolation room where he could reflect on his behavior for a day. The head nurse asked if he needed sedation, and I suggested not, because the staff psychiatrist and I believed that drugs should be used only as a last resort to deal with violent behavior. Sobriety might assist his period of self-reflection.

Why did this boy, who was ordinarily relatively well-behaved although incarcerated in a pressure-cooker environment, turn on me, his counselor? This is a common observation about patients who attack caretakers.

Shock Reactions to Violence

Often, people react to mass violence with shock and disbelief. They say things like, "I just can't believe it", or "I would have never, ever thought..." Incongruity between a person's public image and their actions is common. Realize that anybody can crack. As cops learn, the least suspect may actually be the most suspect. It's helpful to mistrust your first impressions and dig deeper into getting to know others.

"He/she was so quiet." "They kept to themselves", or "I never saw it coming," meaning people interpreted others' quiet nature as harmless, not sinister. Beware. Still water runs deep.

Many studies and psychological profiles of killers, especially those who commit mass violence or serial murders, show a strong correlation with social isolation. It is a recurring pattern observed by criminologists and psychologists. This connection is found because socially-isolated individuals may lack social skills, empathy, and the ability to connect with others. Isolation can also be a breeding ground for nursing deep-seated, long-held resentments. This is evidenced in the manifestos of many killers who explain in writing the reasons for their behavior, often citing perceived injustices.

Profile of Attackers: "He Seemed So Nice."

Often, we hear, "He/she seemed like such a nice person," which speaks to the killer's ability to blend in as a 'normal' person. Several killers noted as reserved and unassuming were the following:

1) Jeffrey Dahmer: One neighbor said, "He seemed very shy... I didn't see him socializing with anybody." A high school acquaintance said, "He was a very quiet, shy kid."

2) The Unabomber, Ted Kaczynski: Instrumental in his capture was his brother, David Kaczynski, who said Ted was "very private and had little to no social life." Those who lived near him in his remote cabin described him as a quiet loner who kept to himself.

3) The Columbine Shooters, Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold: While the media focused on their anger and aggression, many who knew them casually described them as quiet and even shy. A fellow student said, "They were really just kind of quiet kids."

4) The Virginia Tech Shooter, Seung-Hui Cho: He rarely spoke. His former professor, Lucinda Roy, said, "He was the student that you don't notice. He was a very quiet person."

5) Stephen Paddock, the Las Vegas Shooter: After the mass shooting, a neighbor said, "He was a very quiet man. We would see him at the store sometimes, but we never saw him with anyone else." His brother said, "He was a quiet guy, kept to himself, didn't drink, didn't smoke."

2. Protective Services and Law Enforcement:

This group, which includes police officers, correctional officers, and security guards, has high rates of violence. Consider that they often must deal with mentally and/or morally broken people who objectify others, whose relationships are usually just transactional, not mutually respectful. Well-adjusted individuals develop coping skills for managing anger and frustration, such as seeking the counsel of others or distancing themselves from a dangerous person or environment.

William Obanhein (1924 - 1994)

Chief of Stockbridge, Massachusetts Police Department

3. Retail and Transportation:

Workers who handle money or valuables and have direct contact with the public are at a greater risk of violence, particularly homicide, often from robbery.

This includes taxi and rideshare drivers. Ironically, there are news stories of drivers misbehaving as much as they are abused. Former Uber driver Justin Dalton got a life sentence in a 2016 Michigan killing spree. In a surprise move and against the advice of his attorney, Dalton pleaded guilty to six counts of murder and two counts of attempted murder.

When he was arrested, he told police that an "evil figure" on his Uber app took control of his mind and body the day he committed the killings, while picking up passengers. Do you recall the son of Sam?

Those most likely to be attacked:

1.) Convenience store clerks – In 2022 in the US, there were approximately 30,850 convenience store robberies, about 13.8% of 233,511 total robberies for the year.

2.) Bartenders - A study from 2005-2009 by the Bureau of Justice Statistics found that bartenders had an extremely high average annual rate of workplace violence. This includes not just physical assault, but also threats and sexual harassment. The environment of alcohol, late hours, and direct public interaction creates a perfect storm for conflict.

Sexual Violence and Harassment: Several studies highlight an exceptionally high rate of sexual harassment and assault against bartenders, especially women. A 2016 study by the restaurant industry group ROC found that customers had harassed 78% of servers and bartenders surveyed. Women bartenders, consider practicing the martial arts. Martial arts training, particularly in disciplines like Krav Maga or Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, emphasizes situational awareness and de-escalation. A person who is confident in their ability to defend themselves is often less likely to be a victim. That confidence is expressed in their body language and voice, which can deter a potential aggressor.

3.) Gas station attendants – While there are no exact figures for the number of assaults on gas station attendants, they are at a higher level of threat for assault because they are usually alone at night. They are the third largest group, after law enforcement and security guards, who deal with workplace violence.

According to data from the Bureau of Justice Statistics, violent crimes at gas stations are a serious issue. While specific numbers for assaults on attendants are not always separated from crimes against customers, a 2021 report from the FBI showed that there were nearly 12,000 violent crimes at gas stations in 2020. Another report from the FBI stated that in 2021, there were 22,000 robberies at gas stations and convenience stores, making them the third most common location for robberies. Newer statistics are not available at this time.

Education:

Teachers and other school staff, especially in technical or industrial schools, also face a significant risk of workplace violence. Teachers are vulnerable to attacks from students because they are usually alone in the classroom. The National Center for Education Statistics (NCES) reported that in the 2020-2021 school year, 4% of public school teachers were physically attacked by a student. This translates to a substantial number, although the exact total can be challenging to calculate due to variations in teacher employment numbers. The percentage was higher for elementary school teachers (7%) than for secondary school teachers (1%). Other studies have reported similar rates, with one from the American Psychological Association (APA) in 2017 finding that 6% of teachers had been physically attacked in the past year.

Factors Contributing to the Risk:

Handling Money: Professions that involve exchanging money with the public (e.g., retail, transportation) are at increased risk of criminal-intent violence, such as robbery.
Working with Volatile People: Workers in healthcare, social assistance, and protective services frequently interact with people who may be in distress, under the influence of substances, or have mental health issues, increasing the potential for violence.
Working Alone or in Isolated Areas: This is a significant risk factor for professions such as taxi drivers, delivery drivers, and store clerks, who often work in isolated environments.
Serving Alcohol: Bartenders and other workers in establishments where alcohol is served have a higher risk of violence from intoxicated patrons.

A Proactive Approach: Prevention and Intervention

Does your organization have a strategy for dealing with workplace violence? If not, consider reviewing the role of government agencies, such as the Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA) and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), in developing guidelines and prevention programs.

Effective prevention methods may include the following:

Developing a comprehensive workplace violence prevention program.
Providing de-escalation training and other relevant training.
Improving security measures.
Creating a culture of safety where employees feel empowered to report incidents.

E xplore how technology (e.g., motion detector sensors, panic buttons, and advanced surveillance) can assist in prevention and response.

Securing Our Workspaces

Creating effective strategies to deal with workplace violence is not just a practical business decision to prevent interference with usual business activities. It is a moral and ethical imperative to protect and preserve life. The current Pope of the only apostolic Christian church, Leo XIV, said, "If you want peace, preserve life."

-Frank DeDominicis

Current and Relevant Valid References

Statistical Resources

Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS). The BLS is an invaluable source for data on workplace injuries, illnesses, and fatalities. Look for the "Census of Fatal Occupational Injuries (CFOI)" and "Survey of Occupational Injuries and Illnesses (SOII)."

Citation Example: US Bureau of Labor Statistics. (2024). Census of Fatal Occupational Injuries, 2023. Retrieved from [Official BLS link for the report]

National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH). A division of the CDC, NIOSH provides extensive research and resources on occupational safety and health, including workplace violence.

Citation Example: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), National Institute for Occupational Safety and Health (NIOSH). (2023). Workplace Violence Prevention Programs.

Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA). OSHA provides guidance, regulations, and fact sheets on workplace violence, particularly for high-risk industries like healthcare.

Citation Example: Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA). (2024). Guidelines for Preventing Workplace Violence for Healthcare and Social Service Workers. Retrieved from [Official OSHA link]

Scholarly Articles & Journals (2023-2024)

Jones, C. B., Sousane, Z., & Mossburg, S. (2023). "Addressing Workplace Violence and Creating a Safer Workplace." PSNet, Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality.

Why it's relevant: This article provides a recent overview of the issue, particularly in healthcare, and discusses the importance of a systems approach to prevention.

Chen, T., Xiao, Y., & Wu, X. (2023). "It's time to protect nursing students from workplace violence." International Journal for Quality in Health Care, 35(4), mzad099.

Why it's relevant: This article highlights a specific and often overlooked high-risk group (nursing students) and uses a qualitative systematic review to show unique risk factors.

Kim, S., Kitzmiller, R., Baernholdt, M., Lynn, M. R., & Jones, C. B. (2023). "Patient safety culture: the impact on workplace violence and health worker burnout." Workplace Health & Safety, 71(2), 78–88.

Why it's relevant: This paper connects workplace violence to a broader organizational context, exploring its relationship with patient safety and employee burnout.

Reputable Organizations

The Joint Commission: This organization accredits healthcare organizations and has a set of standards that address workplace violence prevention.

Citation Example: The Joint Commission. (2024). Workforce Safety and Well-being: Workplace Violence Prevention. Retrieved from [Official Joint Commission link]

American Nurses Association (ANA): The ANA has a strong position on workplace violence and provides state-by-state information on laws and policies.

Citation Example: American Nurses Association (ANA). (2024). Workplace Violence Prevention. Retrieved from [Official ANA link]

2025 Videos

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2024 Videos

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Student beats Teacher's Aide over Nitendo switch https://www.cnn.com/videos/us/2023/02/26/florida-school-attack-nintendo-switch-nr-rosales-vpx.cnn

One of the Deadliest Shootings:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0A66yqP3ydk

South Bay judge keeps death sentence in place for mass shooter Richard Farley

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lg_apZxzk6g&t=1s

Man suffering from mental illness turns to mass murder at former workplace

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kZuPdpu4bas&t=1s

Postal Worker with Imaginary Friend Murders Seven People | Jennifer San Marco Case

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SfKHpVRVkbE

The Fort Hood Shooter: Nidal Hasan

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bP1Z_i6qI7g&t=1s

Healthcare workers speak out after hospital shooting – April 2025 News

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=de_7sd13u0Y

Not Just Physical: The Quiet Ways Workplace Violence Shows Up and Why It Matters https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tDikW758d1Y

Former Uber driver Justin Dalton gets life sentence in 2016 Michigan killing spree https://abcnews.go.com/US/uber-driver-justin-dalton-life-sentence-2016-michigan/story?id=60851761.

Protecting Gas Station and Convenience Store Workers from Violence https://archive.cdc.gov/www_cdc_gov/niosh/newsroom/feature/protect-from-violence.html#:~:text=Learn%20what%20steps%20employers%20and,and%20workers%20may%20be%20alone.

Reducing Workplace Violence in Gasoline Stations and Convenience Stores https://www.cdc.gov/niosh/docs/wp-solutions/2023-121/

Gun Deaths in the US 2023: Key Statistics and Trends. https://www.lawyer-monthly.com/2025/03/gun-deaths-in-the-u-s-a-deep-dive-into-the-2023-data/

Workplace deaths decline – Etzler Lawhead Legal Group, PC. https://www.etzlerlawheadlegalgroup.com/workplace-deaths-decline/

Workplace fatalities fell in 2017

https://www.lpgasmagazine.com/workplace-fatalities-fall-in-2017/

Gun Violence by the Numbers in 2024. https://www.thetrace.org/2024/12/data-gun-violence-shooting-stats-america/

Former Uber driver went on 2016 killing spree sentenced to life in prison

https://sirgo.com/former-uber-driver-who-went-on-2016-killing-spree-sentenced-to-life-in-prison/

Building a Culture of Safety: Key Principles for Workplace Wellness - Littlegate Publishing. https://www.littlegatepublishing.com/2024/04/building-a-culture-of-safety-key-principles-for-workplace-wellness/

Ten Worst Workplace Homicides in U.S. History

https://www.thehigginsfirm.com/ten-worst-workplace-homicides-in-u-s-history.html

The Number of Mass Shootings Fell Significantly in 2024

We endure a constant flood of news about mass shootings. In 2024, there were 400 mass shootings, a decrease from 2023 of 24%. The Gun Violence Archive tracked fewer mass shootings in 2024 than in any year since 2019, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics - National Census of Fatal Occupational Injuries in 2023 report. There were 5,283 fatal work injuries recorded in the United States in 2023, a 3.7 percent decrease from 5,486.

Despite the decrease, the numbers are still staggering. This year's mass shootings — defined as incidents in which at least four people were shot, excluding the shooter — killed 507 people and injured at least 2,169 others.

Underreporting: Many incidents go undocumented, including fear of retaliation or the perception that violence is "part of the job."

Broken Bonds: The Anatomy of Failures in Professional and Personal Spheres

Mon, 06 Jul 2026 13:57:04 GMT

Given the popularity and propensity of quick-fix recipes, systems, solution processes, or courses, including everything from the Tyranny of Noisehow to cut a mango to how to live the perfect life, I've decided to venture where cynics go to share ideas on how to screw up everything in your personal and business life. This is intended as tongue-in-cheek discourse and a public confession (albeit craftily embedded within) about my bad and sometimes embarrassingly inappropriate decisions. 'Negative assertion,' a concept taught in the 80s in Assertiveness 101, always delights.

“It’s not supposed to be easy. Anyone who finds it easy is stupid.”

-Charlie Munger, Vice-Chairman of Berkshires/Hathaway

I. Misunderstanding the Other Person

With self-sabotage in mind, let's begin our journey into ignorance. Oh, where to start? Let's start with you, the one who may have been or is a problem for others. Are you ready for an honest discussion with the person in the mirror or to receive blunt, direct feedback from a caring friend?

"Studies show that evaluation recipients must be receptive and accurately understand the meaning and veracity of the feedback (i.e., discern the truth in feedback). Honesty is critically important for both receptivity and discerning the truth in the feedback."

From: Honest Feedback: Barriers to Receptivity and Discerning the Truth in Feedback

Feedback benefits us if we are willing to sometimes practice tough listening, receive new information, and manage our emotional reactions regarding automatic first thoughts and how we choose to behave. Core anchors to our surface, easily triggered behaviors can be traced to our most deeply buried, primal fears. I'll expand on that subject in another newsletter, pending the results of the survey linked below.

Leadership is inherently uncomfortable, particularly if you sit on the hot seat in a 360 critical feedback circle. Leadership starts with a mindset of inspirational dissatisfaction and a drive to fix or improve something. We achievers are harder on ourselves than anyone else could be, and if that is so, can we get vulnerable and venture below our shield of denial with 'what-if' questions to confront Freud's most devastating defense mechanism, denial?

Let's simplify interpersonal conflict and classify it into four main areas. This is an excellent way to start drilling down on a specific problem point if you're engaged in the early steps of conflict definition.

Reasons for Interpersonal Conflict

1. Different Perspectives

People have unique backgrounds, experiences, and perspectives, which can lead to varying interpretations of the same information. Often, this is overlooked, but it is so common. Can you remember an experience in which you were misunderstood because of the other person's embedded biases? You can likely remember more than one instance.

2. Communication Styles

Varied communication styles, such as being direct or indirect, can lead to confusion. Some individuals express themselves more explicitly, while others use implicit cues. What complicates things is the fact that none of us is a perfect listener all the time. Sarcasm is particularly confusing because its real message is indirect and implied.

3. Assumptions and Stereotypes:

Pre-existing assumptions and stereotypes can influence how we interpret information. These biases may cause us to misinterpret someone's intentions or meaning. Some biases may be ones we'd be embarrassed to say we own or even admit to ourselves. How the heart deceives the mind!

"The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?"

- Jeremiah 17:9

We make assumptions about gender, race, age, education, politics, and intentions, but are often unaware of these assumptions. Notice how the U.S. news media refers collectively to "(all) Republicans" or "(all) Democrats," discounting the broad and mixed spectrum of beliefs held by many people in the middle. Various influences constantly affect opinions and positions. Clearly, we do not live in a polarized world of 'us and them' but with a substantial gray zone of people near the center of the opinion/decision fulcrum. Most people want the same things but differ on the how-to part. The 2024 presidential race is a close race between the two contenders. Those close to the opinion/decision fulcrum may shift their point of view as political promises, indictments, and other significant events influence voters.

4. Language Barriers

Differences in language proficiency or jargon can lead to misunderstandings, especially in multicultural or multilingual environments. Language is an expression of culture. If neither person speaks the other's native language, communication between speakers from various countries can be challenging. Things that contribute to language problems are different dialects, jargon, slang, literacy levels, and vocabulary.

5. Nonverbal Cues

93% of the effect of communication is nonverbal, including body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. Misreading these cues can result in misinterpretations. Misreading facial expressions is common. Studies show that we often misinterpret facial expressions, which leads to a tendency to misinterpret the meaning of the verbal message.

I read about a woman who, although held hostage in a home invasion, was able to call 911 on a muted cell phone. When the police arrived at the door, and with the armed perp nearby, she told the police that 'everything was okay,' but her facial expression, especially her eyes, definitely expressed alarm. The policeman nodded to let her know he got the message. Then, the cops went away to plan a strategy to rescue the woman, which eventually worked. .

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6. Incomplete Information

Lack of complete information or context can lead to misinterpretations. When we don't have the whole picture, we may make assumptions that lead to misunderstandings. This is common because we seldom have complete information, especially when it comes to the complexity of trying to understand another person. For example, the 'breaking news' stories about conflict currently focus mainly on South Sudan, Ukraine, and Gaza. However, conflicts rage in other countries that are less newsworthy, except in their locales.

To gain a broader understanding of global conflicts and violence, refer to the Armed Conflict Location & Event Data Project. "The ACLED Conflict Index assesses every country and territory in the world according to four indicators – deadliness, danger to civilians, geographic diffusion, and armed group fragmentation – based on analysis of political violence event data collected for the past year. The top 50 ranked countries and territories are experiencing extreme, high, or turbulent levels of conflict." – ACLED https://acleddata.com/

From ACLED - see link below

We never have the complete information when we read what passes for the 'news' of the day, information that data marketers carefully choose to provoke primal reactions in readers. Daily reading of only the online news produces a psychological scotoma, a blind spot that blocks one from seeing or accepting anything that contradicts or challenges what we already know. Consider balancing your negative reading by surfing goodnewsnetwork.org. or checking out the transformational work of Global Goodwill Ambassadors.

7. Emotional States

Emotions can impact how we perceive and interpret information. You may be more prone to misunderstanding others when stressed, upset, or anxious. To better understand another person's words, actions, and intentions, calm yourself and then ask "what-if" questions to gain a broader view of the issue. Do you have daily meditation times to relax and clear your head so that your emotions reach a state of homeostasis, and you feel centered?

Cognitive biases, such as confirmation bias or the fundamental attribution error, can influence how we interpret information, leading to misunderstandings. Also referred to as 'self-serving biases,' cognitive bias is our tendency to believe whatever reinforces our existing beliefs and to reject any information that conflicts with those beliefs.

Types of Cognitive Bias

(from TechTarget)

Over six decades of research on human judgment and decision-making in cognitive psychology, social psychology, and behavioral economics, a continually evolving list of cognitive biases has been identified, including the following:

Prejudice binds the mind, and blocks new information and influences

Signs and Effects of Bias

from: https://www.techtarget.com

Because cognitive bias is often an unconscious process, it's easier for individuals to recognize a bias in someone other than themselves. Some ways to recognize bias include the following:

· If an individual attributes success to themselves while attributing other's successes to luck,
· If an individual assumes they have more knowledge than they actually have on a topic,
· If an individual insists on blaming outside factors instead of themselves,
· If an individual is only paying attention to what confirms their opinions and
· If an individual assumes everyone shares their own opinions.

Poor Listening Skills

Ineffective listening can contribute to misunderstandings. Failing to pay attention, making assumptions, or interrupting can prevent accurate comprehension. Listening is more than silently waiting until you get your turn to speak your well-rehearsed words. Next time someone tells you a story, memorize the details as if there would be a pop quiz afterward. Give them your undistracted, full attention. This will help to pause your tangential self-talk or at least quiet it.

Cultural Differences

Cultural norms and values can affect communication styles. What may be considered appropriate or suitable in one culture might be perceived differently in another.

II. Feeling Misunderstood

Lack of Concentration of Effort

This is a shout-out to whoever has the attention span of a mayfly. But no matter the age, concentrating on something for an extended period of time is hard; it just is. We're back to discipline again. Concentration is a carry-over habit. If you concentrate and focus intensely on the details of your hobby, that ability to concentrate will carry over to other situations. Meditation helps improve one’s ability to focus.

Let's begin an idea from Keith J. Cunningham's book The Road Less Stupid and discuss how to mess things up in a grand way. He reminds us that we have all paid a 'dumb tax' and lost financially because of erroneous assumptions. A problem is that often, we don't ask ourselves, "What erroneous decisions might I be making now?" Have I been less impulsive in some of my early business decisions, a victim of self-sabotage? As Cunningham suggests, "All my problems started out as a good idea that was emotionally justifiable at the time." Pause and reflect on this for a moment…or pay the dumb tax by default.

Actor-observer bias

Individuals credit their situation to external causes while ascribing other people's behaviors to internal causes. "I'm the victim" versus "They knew what they were doing."

Anchoring bias

There is a tendency for the brain to rely too much on the first information it receives when making decisions. This is why gossip can be so insidious. Whoever speaks first tends to be taken seriously by others.

Attentional bias

The tendency for an individual to pay attention to a single object or idea while deviating from others.

Availability bias

The tendency for the brain to conclude that a known instance is more representative of the whole than is the case.

Availability heuristic

The tendency to use information that comes to the mind quickly when making decisions based on the future. Heuristics is a mental shorthand for making quick decisions based on previous knowledge. It explains product loyalty.

Bandwagon effect

The tendency for the brain to conclude that something must be desirable because other people desire it. "Everybody's doing it! Come on, jump in!"

Bias is a blind spot

The tendency for the brain to recognize another's bias but not its own. The late Lou Tice of the Pacific Institute referred to this as a mental scotoma. We can't see or repress seeing our faults.

Clustering illusion

The brain wants to see a pattern in a random sequence of numbers or events.

Confirmation bias

The tendency for the brain to value new information that supports existing ideas.

The Dunning-Kruger effect

There is a tendency for an individual with limited knowledge or competence in a given field to overestimate their skills in that field.

False consensus effect

An individual tends to overestimate how much other people agree with them.

Framing effect The tendency for the brain to arrive at different conclusions when reviewing the same information depends on how the information is presented.

Functional fixedness The tendency to see objects as only being used in one specific way.

Groupthink The tendency for the brain to place value on consensus.

Halo effect The tendency for a person's impression in one area to influence an opinion in another area.

Hindsight bias There is a tendency to interpret past events as more predictable than they actually were.

Misinformation effect The tendency for information that appears after an event to interfere with the memory of an original event.

Negativity bias The tendency for the brain to subconsciously place more significance on negative events than positive ones. Our brain has vastly more dopamine receptors for negative memories than positive ones. No wonder it is so easy to remember an insult or offense, but recalling exact words during a tender moment with a loved one is difficult.

Proximity bias

…heightened during the pandemic. People preferred the warmth, fun, and closeness of physically being with someone. They felt less connected to those who were only virtually present. Proximity bias refers to the subconscious tendency to give preferential treatment to individuals who are physically close. A physical worker may be considered for a raise over a remote worker because they are nearer their superior. This is an example of proximity bias.

Recency bias

The brain tends to subconsciously place more value on the last information it receives about a topic. Example: Previously, fans liked a celebrity who epitomized good fatherhood, but after learning of his alleged crimes, they now despise him based on new information.

Self-serving bias

The tendency is for an individual to blame external forces when bad events happen but give themselves credit when good events happen.

Sunk cost effect ,

…also called the sunk cost fallacy, is a tendency for the brain to continue investing in something that isn't working in order to avoid failure. We're victims of habits of thought, as Hill suggested.

Survivorship bias

The tendency for the brain to focus on positive outcomes in favor of negative ones. A related phenomenon is the ostrich effect, in which people metaphorically bury their heads in the sand to avoid bad news.

An example of this is the raging Xylazine epidemic, which is barely covered by news media even though it is globally redefining drug dealing, rapidly spreading across the U.S. killing two hundred people per day. Recently, I invited all my State legislators to a Zoom session to develop public awareness about Xylazine. Only one showed. He said legislators "have their heads in the sand" regarding Xylazine. She attended because the horse tranquilizer affected an addicted family member.

III. Conflict over Values and Goals

Feeling misunderstood can be a complex and emotional experience. Several factors contribute to this yukky feeling:

1. Lack of Communication

When individuals are not expressing themselves clearly or are not communicating openly, others may struggle to understand their thoughts, feelings, or intentions.

2. Unmet Expectations

If people have certain expectations about how others should perceive or understand them, and these expectations are not met, they may feel misunderstood.

3. Different Communication Styles

Variances in communication styles can lead to misunderstandings. Some people may be blunt, while others may use subtlety or nuance, causing confusion.

4. Unrecognized Emotions

Individuals may feel misunderstood if others fail to recognize or acknowledge their emotions. Emotional expressions can be subtle, and some people may not pick up on them.

5. Cultural or Generational Differences Cultural or generational gaps can contribute to misunderstandings. Different backgrounds may lead to varied interpretations of behavior, language, or social cues.

6. Assumptions and Stereotypes

Pre-existing assumptions and stereotypes can lead others to misinterpret intentions, leading to a sense of being misunderstood.

7. Lack of Empathy

When others fail to empathize or try to understand someone's perspective, it can contribute to feeling misunderstood.

8. Invisibility or Marginalization

People who feel overlooked, ignored, or marginalized may also feel misunderstood. This can happen in various contexts, such as work, relationships, or social settings, especially regarding the ultimate –ism, ageism.

9. Complex Emotions or Experiences

If individuals are dealing with complex emotions or have had unique life experiences, others may struggle to comprehend the depth and nuances of those feelings. Traumatic experiences such as rape, murder, extortion, apparitions, and miracles may be challenging to share with others.

10. Fear of Vulnerability

Some individuals may avoid being vulnerable or expressing their true selves due to fear of judgment or rejection. This fear can lead to a sense of being misunderstood if they are not fully authentic.

11. Communication Barriers

Literary or metaphorical language barriers can contribute to misunderstandings. Different communication media, such as written words versus spoken communication, may also play a role. Let's face it. Authentic communication happens when we are eyeball to eyeball, belly to belly. Any other way of connecting lacks total personal communication because we assume a different voice when writing an email or text and speaking on the phone. The medium affects our attitude and delivery.

Addressing feelings of being misunderstood often involves open and honest communication, active listening, and a willingness to understand each other's perspectives. It may also require building empathy and fostering an environment that encourages authentic expression.

Cultural Differences

Value conflicts arise when individuals or groups hold different beliefs, principles, or priorities that are in opposition to each other. These conflicts can occur at various levels, including personal, interpersonal, societal, and global. Several reasons contribute to the emergence of value conflicts:

Cultural Differences

Cultural diversity often leads to varying values and beliefs. When individuals from different cultural backgrounds interact, conflicts may arise due to differences in perspectives, norms, and moral frameworks.

Religious Beliefs

Religious values play a significant role in shaping individuals' ethical principles. Conflicts may arise when people from different religious backgrounds have contrasting beliefs or interpretations of moral issues. Abortion is a hotly contested issue because of religious beliefs about terminating an unborn person's life, and more so because it is no longer a personal and private moral decision but a politicized issue.

Ethical Dilemmas

Ethical considerations can be subjective, and individuals may face conflicting moral principles when making decisions. What one person views as morally right, another may see as morally wrong, leading to value conflicts. Capital punishment is an ethical issue. Is it right to kill someone who is a threat to the species? Is capital punishment a deterrent?

Political Ideologies

Differences in political ideologies often reflect conflicting values. People may have opposing views on governance, social justice, and individual rights, leading to political and value-based conflicts.

Generational Gaps

Different generations may hold distinct values shaped by their time's socio-political climate and cultural changes. These generational gaps can lead to conflicts as older and younger individuals may have conflicting perspectives on various issues.

Personal Experiences

Individuals' life experiences shape their values. Two people with vastly different life experiences may hold conflicting values based on their unique perspectives, leading to interpersonal conflicts.

Economic Disparities

Economic differences can contribute to value conflicts, especially when individuals or groups have opposing views on wealth distribution, social justice, and economic policies. AI technology may positively impact the problem of wealth inequity.

Educational Backgrounds

Varied educational experiences can lead individuals to develop different worldviews and values. Conflicts may arise when people with diverse educational backgrounds engage in discussions or decision-making processes.

Media Influence

Media shapes public opinion and values. Conflicts may arise when individuals consume different types of media that reinforce contrasting narratives and perspectives. With so much online misinformation, such as AI deep fakes, people can be and are easily confused and tricked.

Personal Priorities

Individuals may prioritize specific values over others based on personal goals, aspirations, or needs. Conflicts can arise when these priorities clash with those of others.

Lack of Understanding Misunderstandings and lack of awareness about each other's values can contribute to conflicts. Communication gaps and assumptions about others' values may lead to unnecessary disagreements.

Addressing value conflicts requires open communication, empathy, and a willingness to understand different perspectives. Finding common ground, focusing on shared values, and seeking compromise are essential to resolving conflicts arising from differing values. This is essential for productive conflict resolution.

IV. Failure to Accept or Act upon Pre-existing Agreements

Religious Beliefs

Ethical Dilemmas

Political Ideologies

Generational Gaps

Personal Experiences

Individuals' life experiences shape their values. Two people with vastly different life experiences may hold conflicting values based on their unique perspectives, leading to interpersonal conflicts.

Economic Disparities

Educational Backgrounds

Media Influence

Personal Priorities

Individuals may prioritize specific values over others based on personal goals, aspirations, or needs. Conflicts can arise when these priorities clash with those of others.

Lack of Understanding

Misunderstandings and lack of awareness about each other's values can contribute to conflicts. Communication gaps and assumptions about others' values may lead to unnecessary disagreements.

Addressing value conflicts requires open communication on shared values, and seeking compromise are essential to resolving conflicts arising from differing values. This is essential for productive conflict resolution.

"All problems are people's problems. And most people problems are people refusing to act like people."

- Solomon

People break promises and fail to honor agreements for various reasons that can be a complex interplay of individual, situational, and interpersonal factors. Here are some common reasons:

Lack of Commitment

Sometimes, individuals may not have a genuine commitment to keeping their promises or honoring agreements. They might make commitments without fully understanding the implications or without a sincere intention to follow through. Regarding the great American breakfast invented by Edward Bernays, it is said that the chicken promises, but the pig is committed.

Changing Circumstances

Life is dynamic, and circumstances can change unexpectedly. Unforeseen events, such as personal crises, health issues, or unexpected work demands, can disrupt one's ability to fulfill promises.

Over-commitment

Some people tend to overcommit themselves due to a desire to please others or a fear of saying no. Over-commitment can lead to individuals failing to fulfill all their promises due to time constraints or resource limitations.

Miscommunication

Misunderstandings and miscommunication can contribute to broken promises. If there are different expectations or interpretations regarding the terms of an agreement, it can lead to disappointment and unmet expectations.

Prioritization Issues

People may face conflicting priorities, and in some cases, they prioritize other commitments over the promises they made. This happens when individuals feel overwhelmed or pressured to address more urgent matters.

Fear of Confrontation

Some individuals may be hesitant to communicate their inability to fulfill a promise due to fear of confrontation or disappointing others. As a result, they may only address the issue once it becomes unavoidable.

Unrealistic Expectations

Sometimes, promises are made with unrealistic expectations about one's capabilities or the feasibility of the task. When individuals realize they cannot meet these expectations, they may fail to fulfill the promise.

Lack of Accountability

Sometimes, individuals may need a sense of accountability or responsibility for their commitments. They may not fully understand the impact of their actions on others or may not feel a strong obligation to honor their agreements.

External Factors

External factors, such as economic changes, legal issues, or unforeseen events, can influence one's ability to fulfill promises. These factors may be beyond an individual's control.

It's important to note that the reasons for breaking promises can vary widely from person to person and from situation to situation. Building trust, effective communication, and setting realistic expectations can contribute to a more reliable and accountable interpersonal environment.

Napoleon Hills' Reasons for Business Failure

Unfavorable Hereditary Background

This was put first on the list because Hill says it's one of the toughest issues for people to overcome. Hill's choosing this reason as his first reason hints at racism. Hill advises participating in a Mastermind Group to increase brain power by surrounding yourself with more intelligent people.

Lack of a Well Defined Purpose in Life

If you don't have a definitive purpose you're setting out to fulfill and related goals you're trying to achieve, you won't succeed. Usually, this is not given consideration until the later stages of life as we approach death and wonder, "What is my purpose, God?" Having a purpose gives life meaning, rather than just existing and consuming.

Lack of Ambition to Aim Above Mediocrity

There is little hope for people who have zero ambition to improve. Any individual who wants to be successful must put in the effort to rise above mediocrity. Settling for being average seems easy, but the cost is higher in the long run. The easy way becomes hard, and the hard way becomes easy with self-discipline.

Insufficient Education

Hill suggests that the most successful among us are those who self-educate. A lack of education can be overcome with ambition and passion. Hill said, "Men are paid, not merely for what they know, but more particularly for what they do with that which they know." Never before has education been so broadly available via libraries and online courses and instructors.

Given many high school and college graduates abandon reading books after graduation, if you study your subject for at least thirty minutes to an hour, even a day for six months, you will soon be at the top of your industry in terms of being up to date on current knowledge and innovations in your field.

How many people stop reading after college? Here are two statistics: 33% of high school graduates never read another book for the rest of their lives. 42% of college graduates never read another book after college.

Lack of Self-Discipline

Napoleon Hill, “Self-discipline starts with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do.” Self-discipline pertains to delayed gratification. Putting off the instant reward may seem harder in our culture conditioned by the availability of fast downloads and uber-fast product deliveries.

Ill Health

This is self-explanatory. I'd draw some parallels here with self-discipline. Eat right and exercise daily. Practice a smart sleep regime.

Unfavorable Environmental Influences During Childhood

"As the twig is bent, so shall the tree grow." Most people who have criminal tendencies acquire them as the result of a bad environment and improper associates during childhood.

Procrastination is the most common cause of failure. Timing will never be right, so start where you stand.

Lack of Persistence

The history of business people and entrepreneurs is littered with stories of how persistence was the cause of success, about their getting up and going again after every upset or obstacle.

Negative Personality describes not so much an unlikeable person but more so someone who thinks negatively. Their behavior repels others. Without a positive mindset change, there is little hope of their success.

Lack of Controlled Sexual Urge

Hill goes into great detail on how sex energy is the most potent stimulus of all for moving people into action. He says, “Lack of sexual impulse control can be self-destructive.” He stops short of making direct recommendations regarding sexual impulses. During his time, sex was a repressed, taboo subject. Freud contributed to the theory that sex is a prime motivator.

Uncontrolled Desire for "Something for Nothing"

Hill said, "Business is an exchange of values. I believe you become successful when you are able to help other people or other businesses. There's no such thing as a free lunch." This is the consciousness of scammers' victims who will temporarily suspend judgment to invest belief in someone highly persuasive or something that their friends would probably tell them is 'too good to be true,' the trademark description of bad deals.

Lack of a Well Defined Power of Decision

Hill said that Henry Ford could make decisions quickly and change them very slowly. Tony Robbins says decisiveness is the product of deep inner confidence in oneself and one's abilities, especially in change management. Are you decisive, especially when necessary?

One or More of The Six Basic Fears:

1. Fear of poverty

2. Fear of criticism

3. Fear of ill-health

4. Fear of loss of love

5. Fear of getting old

6. Fear of death

Wrong Selection of Mate in Marriage

Have you ever met someone who was so devastated by divorce that the entire trajectory of their life was altered, their depression projecting them onto a course of self-destruction under a permanent black cloud of despair? Once I knew a man who was so emotionally destroyed by a traumatic divorce that he wallowed in the depths of chronic depression, all the way down to suicidal ideation until a serendipitous miracle of hope turned his life around.

Over Caution is probably as dangerous as under caution. But, with over caution, you will never take risks. No risk, no reward.

Wrong Selection of Associates in Business Often, business problems involve a breach of trust. Intelligent trusting is a skill that can be learned.

Superstition and Prejudice

This comes back to fear. “Successful people fear nothing,” said Hill.

Wrong Selection of a Vocation

You'll never succeed in a role you hate. Even if you reached the top of your totem pole, can you deem yourself successful while being miserable in your job? 85% of people hate their jobs. "A global poll conducted by Gallup has uncovered that out of the world's one billion full-time workers, only 15% of people are engaged at work. That means that an astronomical 85% of people are unhappy in their jobs." – Gallup 'Broken Workplace'

The Habit of Indiscriminate Spending

Do you clarify what your actual needs and wants are? Some get a shoppers' high by spending money. A solution to indiscriminate, impulsive spending may be to commit 1% of your monthly income to yourself. Reinvest some of your money in yourself. Regarding spending time, it is said that poor people spend their time on entertainment. The middle class manages their estates. The wealthy invest time in building networks.

Lack of Enthusiasm

This is where those chasing money will start to fall off unless they are passionate and enthusiastic about how they earn money. Enthusiasm is contagious; people naturally want to work with and for you if you are upbeat. The word enthusiasm is derived from the Greek root "entheos" which translates to "God within." You'll discover your deepest connection to God by doing more of whatever generates the most enthusiasm for you.

Intolerance

The person with a closed mind on any subject seldom gets ahead. The mind is like a parachute. It works best when open. Intolerance means that one has stopped acquiring knowledge.

Intemperance

Says Hill, "Excess of anything usually is bad. The three worst kinds of intemperance that one should remember are connecting with overeating, drinking (alcoholism), and sexual activities." Interesting. I would add ingesting too much news media fluff. If this is you, try a news fast for a week or longer.

Inability to Cooperate with Others

The only way to get what you want is to help other people get what they want, and that won't happen for anybody who refuses to cooperate with others. Cooperation is a game that is well-taught in Robert Axelrod’s book The Evolution of Cooperation. If you've had problems with trusting, read his book.

Possession of Power Not Acquired Through Self-effort

Power seems to be a very delicate thing to master, a difficult thing to attain, and something that takes a great deal to keep. If you've acquired power without having worked for it, you most likely need to gain the skills, habits, experience, and knowledge to know what to do with it.

Intentional Dishonesty – You’ve read in the Decalogue, “Thou shall not bear false witness.” Hammurabi’s Code (1754 BCE) starts with, “If anyone accuses another of murder but cannot prove it, then the accuser shall be put to death.”

Empathy Crisis in America

An Empathy Crisis In America | Psychology Today

The Decline of Empathy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UaZeDKwnvg8&t=2she

Psychology Today

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-art-living-free/202207/the-role-social-media-in-our-empathy-crisis

The Decline of Empathy and the Rise in Narcissism with Sara Konrath, PhD - YouTube

Empathy decline and its reasons: a systematic review of studies with medical students and residents - PubMed ( nih.gov )

Text to Connect

https://www.ipearlab.org/text-to-connect

The U-Bend of Life - The U-bend of life ( economist.com )

Psychology Today:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-art-living-free/202207/the-role-social-media-in-our-empathy-crisis

Giving trends: Affluent Charitable Giving Trends and Statistics in 2022 ( bankofamerica.com )

Rhoda Wise story

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-EHPd-b_35U&t=1s

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Egotism & Vanity

People can spot these two traits in others quite fast, which will warn them to keep away. What have we learned so far? We need people to be successful.

Guessing Instead of Thinking

There will be times when gut feeling wins out, but here Hill speaks about those who are too indifferent or lazy to go and find the facts and information needed to make a well-informed decision.

Lack of Capital

You must spend money to make money, but spend wisely, not impulsively! Usually, this is a significant cause of failure for new businesses. You'll inevitably make mistakes, and mistakes cost money. Also, you need some capital to carry you through the reputation-building stages.

Poor Management

Ineffective leadership, lack of strategic vision, and poor decision-making can lead to a business's downfall. Management plays a crucial role in steering a company in the right direction.

Insufficient Capital

Many businesses need more funding to succeed. Inadequate capital can hinder operations, limit growth opportunities, and make it challenging to weather economic downturns.

Market Conditions

External factors, such as economic changes, consumer behavior shifts, or increased competition, impact a business's performance. Failing to adapt to market conditions and disruptions can lead to decline. Study trends.

Ineffective Marketing

A business must effectively reach its target audience and differentiate itself from competitors to attract customers and generate revenue. This is especially true for look-alike practitioners.

Poor Financial Management

Inaccurate financial planning, mismanagement of cash flow, and failure to control expenses can lead to economic instability and, ultimately, business failure. If you must, hire a professional for guidance.

Lack of Innovation

Businesses that fail to innovate and adapt to technological advancements or changing customer preferences may become obsolete. This has been the death knell for big businesses such as Sears, Nokia, and Best Buy. Systemic innovation, a Peter Drucker concept, helped many businesses that were forced to suddenly adapt to the 2020 – 2022 pandemic crisis. The book Remoteability – 12 Tactics to Manage the Culture of Your Suddenly Remote Team is helpful.

Inadequate Planning

Lack of a solid business plan, including a clear vision, goals, and strategies, can leave a business without a roadmap for success. Usually, a startup has the luxury of time in the early stages of business development that will not be available later when the business has grown. Yet, entrepreneurs spend less than 5% of their time on strategic planning and refining plans.

"The average entrepreneur spends 68.1% of the time working 'in' their business—tackling day-to-day tasks, putting out fires, etc. — and only 31.9% of the time working 'on' their business — i.e., long-term goals, strategic planning."— The Alternative Board - Feb 26, 2016

Failure to Manage Risks

Businesses face various risks, including operational, financial, and market risks. Failure to identify, assess, and manage these risks can lead to significant problems. When was the last time you did a SWOT analysis?

Poor Customer Relations

Ignoring customer feedback, providing poor customer service, or failing to meet customer expectations can result in loss of customers and damage to a business's reputation.

Legal and Regulatory Issues

Businesses must comply with various laws and regulations. Failure to do so can lead to legal troubles, fines, and damage to a company's reputation.

Supply Chain Disruptions

Dependence on a single supplier or a poorly managed supply chain can expose a business to disruptions, affecting the production and delivery of goods or services.

Overexpansion or Rapid Growth

Growing too quickly without proper infrastructure, resources, or market demand can strain a business and lead to financial instability.

In summary, relationships in business and the personal realm can face challenges for various reasons. Issues like miscommunication, conflicting interests, and external pressures can strain connections. But by openly addressing problems, communicating well, and understanding each other, businesses and individuals can fix broken bonds. Just try. Learning from these challenges can help build stronger and longer-lasting partnerships in the ever-changing world of business.

-Frank DeDominicis

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The Interconnectedness of Love, Empathy, and Social Media

Mon, 06 Jul 2026 13:06:26 GMT

December 25th commemorates the birth of the most influential, controversial life, that of Jesus Christ, whose teachings centered on the phrase "Love one another." This universal ideal is a vision of a utopian society resonating with peace and harmony.

However, despite this lovely aspiration, we confront a sobering reality of a world of persistent "wars and rumors of wars," casting doubts for many about the possibility of society ever attaining an enduring peace and power equilibrium worldwide. Often, particularly from young people, I hear discouragement and negative expectations about the future.

The contemporary state of our global affairs is a disheartening landscape. Societal discord, aggravated by wealth inequality, ethnocentric prejudices, mismanagement of natural resources, and ingrained biases, paints a bleak picture of our collective future. Today's youth grow up in a world where negativity, although not representative of the larger reality, dominates daily news noise, including distressing reports of an average of two mass shootings per day.

The mass migration from personal tete-a-tete conversations in actual rooms to virtual communications has accelerated narcissism. Our self-interest drives us to draw the attention of Facebook contacts by posting pictures from our personal lives, environs, and even our meals.

Instead of dwelling solely on negative trends, let’s probe deeper into the underlying societal shifts and their root causes. Toward the end of this article, we'll explore the multifaceted nature of love as defined by the ancient Greeks. Even in conflict, such as war, an underlying motivation emerges, love for one's country, a form of self-love. Numerous surveys conducted in the United States indicate a decline in empathy over the past four decades, with the recent acceleration attributed to factors like the prolonged lockdown, increased social media dependence, and online addiction.

Compassion connects hearts

The Empathy Crisis

God is Love

An eye-opening meta-analysis spanning several decades revealed a staggering 40% drop in empathy among American college students. Scholars primarily attribute this decline to the pervasive rise of social media. Moreover, the COVID-19 pandemic further exacerbated this trend, particularly affecting millennials, among whom empathy ratings decreased by nearly 20%. Women experienced a more pronounced decline, with their empathy ratings dropping by 19%, compared to an 8% decrease among men.

In 2020, a Scientific American article highlighted America's empathy deficit, pinpointing its adverse impact on various medical, economic, political, and societal spheres. Reduced social interaction due to the pandemic, reliance on online communication, and masked conversations have inadvertently stifled opportunities for genuine empathy. Amid personal struggles, many individuals find themselves less attuned to the problems of others, further exacerbated by the indifference displayed by some leaders more interested in reputational infighting than legislative work. Fellow citizens, for the most part, have gotten more indifferent to the needs of others. Some citizens showed their indifference to others by resisting social distancing and masking. This indifference affects philanthropy. Ask anyone working in cause-based non-profit fund-raising about the anticipated 2024 gifting trends.

Charitable Giving Trends

The empirical evidence is clear. Empathy levels are on a downward trajectory in the U.S., especially among millennials, with women bearing a disproportionate impact. Social media's rise and decreased face-to-face interaction during the pandemic are pivotal factors driving this decline.

The phrase "God is love" evokes contemplation. If God is that which is ultimately indefinable and completely indiscernible, it reasons that love is only partially understood based on our experience. We must examine love through the lens of our observations and limited human understanding, and not only in terms of romantic expression. Inherent in our nature, love propels our desire to connect with others at various levels and frequencies.

My most profound lesson regarding our loving human nature was on March 11th, 1976 during the U.S. bicentennial year, which coincided with the birth of my twins, Jesse James and Billy DeDominicis. Their premature birth, each weighing merely four pounds and six ounces, and how they first met each other revealed to me an astonishing aspect of human connection.

Jesse James & Billy the kid

As they lay side by side in a shared incubator, their tiny frames were small enough for me to cradle each in a hand. I witnessed an incredible display of affection. They tried to roll toward each other, reaching for each other. I saw them shortly after their vital signs stabilized, in a common incubator, trying to roll over to hug each other. My eyes leaked with joy. What a precious father moment and a lesson about the inborn, spontaneously loving side of human nature!

My poignant peak experience underscores the desire for connection present in infants. Studies indicate that babies weep in response to other infants' cries, a form of empathetic response. Bright lights, despite gauze eye coverings, and noise made my infants cry, but they consoled one another. This is one of my favorite memory videos to replay in my head, to feel that deep, deep love again.

Empathy Research Findings

Social Psychologist Dr. Sara Konrath presented her research findings to the American Psychological Association yield critical insights into empathy. Her findings highlight various facets of empathy:

Diverse individuals exhibit varying levels of empathy. Some possess cognitive empathy, an intellectual understanding of another's situation, while lacking emotional empathy. They are apathetic and just don't care. It's not meanness, just a preferential style.

Empathy enriches interpersonal relationships and contributes to better health outcomes. Prosocial behavior elevates oxytocin levels and lowers cortisol levels, correlating with lower mortality rates. Givers physically benefit from having a positive self-image because a mental view of oneself affects oxytocin and cortisol levels. Empathy motivates non-profit giving. Philanthropy often stems from genuine care rather than solely seeking tax deductions.

Empathy is a learnable trait yet remains elusive for individuals with narcissistic, sociopathic, or psychopathic tendencies. Studies among incarcerated individuals reflect lower levels of cognitive and emotional empathy.

Cultural engagement through arts like reading fiction or emotionally moving music cultivates empathy, which has the potential to nurture a compassionate inclination between individuals.

Deep-seated empathy often matures into compassion, evident among volunteers and givers. Volunteers who give of their time, not necessarily money, with positive self-perceptions, exhibit elevated oxytocin levels and reduced cortisol.

Geographical factors influence emotional warmth. Warmer climates often correlate with warmer personalities, so relationships have less emotional distance.

While social media attracts attention-seekers who want to draw the attention of many others, a positive correlation exists among those who are instead motivated by leaving a legacy. These individuals harness social media to address communal issues, fostering goodwill and support within online communities.

Dr. Konrath's innovative Text to Connect© program employs daily text reminders that encourage caring behaviors. Implementing Interpersonal Activity Index™ tests among college-level and younger students, her program significantly increased participants' prosocial motivations and behaviors, exerting enduring effects for up to six months.

The U-bend of Life

Prof. John Gladman claims that happiness seems to increase starting at age 53, and then slowly climb up, a big jump up from age 61-69. This is called the ‘U-bend of Life.’ The 30s and 40s are tough times in life.

Empathy may have a medicinal quality in mitigating alienation. However, the reality persists that some individuals are entrenched in the midlife ‘U-Bend,’ balancing responsibilities between caring for children and elders while maintaining work and familial commitments. This ‘sandwich generation’ finds itself ensnared in a vortex of urgencies. Because of the need to manage multiple demands, focusing on things beyond immediate priorities becomes difficult.

Those entrenched in the U-bend trough stage of life grapple with the constant pressures of achievement. Middle-aged individuals find themselves unavoidably preoccupied with self-survival and self-interest pursuits. The U-bend theory posits that our early years often seem comparatively simple, whereas middle age means a constant quest for status, financial stability, power, and expanding one's options. Survival instincts and the pursuit of achievements leave little emotional bandwidth or time for others.

Eros stringing his bow

Greek Flavors of Love

Love, a profound and mysterious sentiment, transcends mere romantic emotions. The ancient Greeks identified several types of love:

Eros

The Greek god of fertility symbolizes lust and sexual passion. Shakespeare, in Othello, portrayed the sexual intimacy of a couple as a "beast with two backs." Eros encompasses life-preserving instincts and impulses to satisfy primal needs to preserve the body and mind.

Philia

Deep friendship. People often forge strong bonds through mutual suffering or shared adversity. I recall the courageous alliance formed between two young prisoners, the first to escape the Auschwitz-Birkenau 'work' camp before it had fencing and walls. Alfred Wetzler & Rudolf Vrba escaped and were the first to expose Nazi atrocities in a paper about life in the camp and the extermination process. They exemplify this deep philia bond.

Ludus

Playful Love - The best example of ludus love is in the typical flirtatious exchanges intoxicated men and women enjoy after a bit of alcohol relaxes inhibitions at the local watering hole. Such communication flatters with obvious intent, showing appreciation for the other person and their attributes, joking, playfully teasing, and assuming a sense of closeness. Fair warning: Dr. David McClelland reported that one drink of alcohol lubricates social connections by reducing inhibition levels and lessening friction. However, excessive alcohol consumption can make a person more self-interested and self-conscious, contributing to interpersonal tension and emotional distance.

Storge

Familiarity and fondness characterize this love, stemming from intimate knowledge of and essential interactions with another person. "Storge ["store-jay"], or familial love, is a kind of philia pertaining to the love between parents and their children. It differs from most philia in that it tends to be unilateral or asymmetrical, especially with younger children. More broadly, storge is the fondness born out of familiarity or dependency. Compared to eros and philia, it is much less contingent on our personal qualities." - These Are the 7 Types of Love | Psychology Today

Agape:

Universal love - This is the love of life, of all creation, and all experiences. It is the feeling of love described by those who feel they are in touch with the source of joy in living. They appreciate all life experiences as sources of insight and growth. "Agape, in the New Testament is the fatherly love of God for humans, as well as the human reciprocal love for God. In Scripture, the transcendent agape love is the highest form of love and is contrasted with eros, or erotic love, and philia, or brotherly love." - Agape | Definition, Scripture, & Uses | Britannica

In a religious sense, agape love represents God's fatherly love for humans and humans' reciprocal love of God. In a secular sense, it means to love others unconditionally.

Pragma

Longstanding love - On March 7th, 1965, Elwin Williams, an Alabama Klansman, viscously beat John Lewis. Years later, he met John as a Congressman in Washington, D.C., and befriended him. He asked for forgiveness, fearing God would condemn him to hell for his brutal Ku Klux Klan activities. The two became fast friends, speaking on the power of real forgiveness on talk shows like Oprah's. They remained close friends until John died in 2020. Shared forgiveness often marks the foundation of this kind of love.

Philautia

Self-love - The Greeks recognized two types of Philautia: a positive one, with high esteem and self-compassion, and a negative one, which is narcissistic, arrogant, and selfish.

Expectations are Self-fulfilling

Self-love Challenges

Poor Self-image / Low Self-esteem

Negative Self-Talk

Comparing Oneself to Others

Perfectionism

Past Experiences

External Validation

Self-Care Neglect

Fear of Vulnerability

Lack of Boundaries

Difficulty Forgiving Oneself

My revelation about the subject of a higher love came after seeing a video of Rhoda Wise of Canton, Ohio who was allegedly visited in 1930 by Jesus Christ. It made me think about the mystery X factor, that anything can happen anytime, anywhere, to anybody. Miracles happen.

Considering that fact, and while I love friendship and love, like everyone else, for a long while I've been out of touch with old friends and now find that some are no longer with us, have suffered losses, or have changed not for the better. Having only recently learned of several old friends afflicted with strokes and cancer, more than ever, I realize a new appreciation of the sanctity of life. In my heart of hearts, I feel the fire of my empathy for all others. Now, especially during this season of family and love, my motivation is to reach out and touch the hearts of others, especially those who need love the most.

-Frank DeDominicis

REFERENCES

Vicarious Trauma as an Operational Hazard: How Death Changes Work Culture

Mon, 06 Jul 2026 12:44:27 GMT

The January 2026 Minneapolis tragedies—especially the ICE murders of Renée Nicole Good and ICU nurse Alex Jeffrey Pretti—have evolved from ‘breaking news’ to what psychologists term a ‘cascade of collective traumas.’ The relentless flow of disturbing reports significantly impacts people, both positively and negatively, creating fertile ground for those who profit from chaos and confusion.

The Minnesota failures of our safety system are ‘critical error’ messages in our social contract. ICE criminal abuse events, captured on high-resolution video and distributed via 24/7 news cycles, are a profound psychological ‘distraction engine’ that directly impacts the modern workforce, everybody from the custodial engineer down to the lowly and humble CEO.

Worker Stress Losses – Relative to Current Events

Shifts in Worker Attitudes

Cognitive Load & Presenteeism

Here is the current 2026 status of US workers’ mental health and well-being:

Anxiety/Hypervigilance: Absenteeism & Missed Deadlines; Cost: $322 Billion; (Burnout related)

Numbing/Detachment: Loss of Motivation & Innovation; 2% Drop in Global Engagement

Cognitive Dissonance: High Turnover & "No Confidence; 34% Increase in Intent to Leave

Cost of Living: Consumer buying power is 50% of what it was in the 2000s, as reflected in the

BLI.gov image below. In other words, average household consumables cost twice as much. From December 2020 to December 2025, the increase is over 125%. Working-class people feel it.

The primary shift is a transition from automatic conformity to institutional cynicism.
Erosion of the Safety Imprint. Recently, I conducted an informal survey on current events and their impact on commerce, in reference to claims made by Dr. Mark Scullard in his blog, The Invisible Drain on Your Company’s Culture. His article cites that the core feeling of insecurity that we all have is now greatly magnified for many workers, resulting in aberrant behaviors such as increased gossip, tension, and outright argument. Dr. Mark Scullard reports that insecurity affects everyone, especially those with high ‘S’ DiSC profiles, regardless of position or status. Trust, communication, and efficiency erode when insecurity is high. Insecurity significantly impacts the bottom line, affecting decision-making and innovation.

Carefully monitoring trends, I believe US workers are in the middle of a transformation of their collective spirit. Workers are forced to become more mentally disciplined, consciously making an effort to maintain focus and concentration on work tasks and everyday chores, despite the constant media noise about a country in turmoil blaring in the background. Even when tech is off, neighbors or friends eagerly inform us of breaking news, often tragic, especially regarding human rights crimes.

Compared to global cultures, this adolescent country called the United States of America, ‘discovered’ by Europeans a mere 250 years ago, is growing through an ideological synaptic pruning. Our organizational values are shifting. In commerce, this adjustment is seen in the ever-present balance between executive decisions about what is best for the bottom line and what is best for the humans who produce it.

On religious foreign relief channels and on ‘good news’ networks, we daily witness the moral development of shared public consciousness and what appears to be a growing heart of communal compassion. Yes, America is enduring adolescent growing pains. If you doubt that observation, then consider the adolescent behavior modeled by politicians, who often display incorrigible teenage behavior, including slander, foul language, and worse.

For many workers, the lens through which they view the state as a protective entity has been shattered. The fact that both Minnesota victims were U.S. citizens (and in Pretti’s case, a VA nurse and union member) creates a ‘proximity of fear’ for white-collar and healthcare professionals who previously felt insulated from such violence.

The “No Confidence” Internal Vote: According to SHRM’s 2026 research, a massive chasm has emerged between supportive and unsupportive employers. Employees are increasingly casting an ‘internal vote of no confidence’ against companies that remain silent or offer “toxic positivity” (e.g., management’s suggesting mindfulness apps) in response to state-sanctioned violence.

Vicarious Trauma Workers are experiencing symptoms of ‘secondhand trauma.’ Mind Share Partners (2025/2026) reports that 42% of U.S. workers cite global/national events as their primary mental health stressor, leading to a state of “languishing” (a sense of stagnation and emptiness).
Trauma isn’t just an emotional state; it is a cognitive tax. The January 2026 Minneapolis ICE murders affect three gears of productivity in measurable ways:

Employees are ‘present’ but mentally highly distracted. The brain’s executive function is hijacked by the ‘algorithm of anxiety.’ A 2026 University of Illinois study found that 61% of workers are currently “languishing,” resulting in a significant drop in focus and creativity.

The Cerebralization Defense: According to Erich Fromm’s theory, many workers cope with the shock by ‘numbing out’ or becoming purely logical (cerebral). While this might look efficient, it leads to long-term burnout and a total lack of innovation, as the worker is essentially ‘acting like a robot’ just to survive the day.

Increased Error Rates: The hypervigilance triggered by footage of agents clapping batons against shields or counting bullet wounds (as reported in the MN Oversight Report) triggers a physiological stress response. High cortisol levels are scientifically linked to poor concentration, irritability, and a spike in workplace accidents or errors.

Behavioral and Organizational Outcomes

Have you found yourself becoming distracted by external news media noise? This can result in your mentally checking out at work, but more so by a psychological decline into a state of passive apathy. Coupled with the US’s slow economic recovery from COVID, and a workforce that is not hiring humans nearly as fast as AI is replacing jobs and creating many more AI-based or influenced jobs.
In fact, 2025 was a record-breaking year for job terminations, with over 1.2 million in the first 10 months and over 165,000 in a single month. 57 major corporations accounted for all of these terminations.

The only jobs that are really AI-secure, and are likely to remain secure, even on an intergalactic space station, are jobs which specifically require conscious use of the world’s greatest quasi-tool, the human hand, coupled with human intellect, problem-solving ability, and creativity. Temple Grandin, who humanized the US beef slaughter industry and thus has dramatically changed our thinking about autism as a disadvantage and disabilities in general, supports this belief.

With increased US manufacturing materials costs due to Trump tariff increases, small businesses cannot compete with big businesses, which can survive and provide positive numbers for stockholders by cutting labor expenses with large layoffs, a classic tactic from Jack Welch, The Man Who Broke Capitalism.

A new phenomenon is referred to as the ‘glass door,’ a source of constant job insecurity as many companies avoid bad publicity by quietly and routinely laying off small batches of employees: ten, twenty, or fifty at a time, without public service announcements. This is called ‘the forever layoff.’

As of February 2026, corporate layoffs have reached their highest levels since the 2008 Great Recession, with over 108,000 job cuts announced in January 2026 alone.

Major Layoffs: Early 2026 (Jan–Feb)

What does all this add up to? It adds up to a worker mood similar to those described by Erich Fromm in his landmark works Escape from Freedom (1941) and The Sane Society (1955), which argued modern workers handle the psychological shock of industrial life through what he called ‘automation conformity,’ a process by which people just ‘numb out’ their authentic selves to survive in a crazy-making environment.

‘Numbing out’ is Erich Fromm’s creation of a psychological defense against existential anxiety. This anxiety is heightened by workers increasingly feeling disposable, as if they must suppress their real passions and feelings, as they are now perceived as a commodity whose value is determined by the labor market. These results, Fromm declares, are a loss of a sense of Self and a movement toward a numb emotional state. Have you ever felt this way? Do you know?

If you watch a slew of violent cops versus bad guy movies, you will become conditioned to non-reaction to the seriousness of bloodshed on the screen, when in fact, witnessing it live would be traumatic. Yes, movies make us numb, so does feeling like the corporation doesn’t really acknowledge or value you. Feelings of dehumanization are too much for some people to take, and they may break or ‘quietly quit’ in their head.
The good news is that some of the more successful companies that have survived Covid and the AI bombshell are those whose executive decision-making is always carefully guided by the principle of human first, not money first.

Failure Results of Trump Tariff Economy

In addition to corporate layoffs, the federal government went on a firing spree, with the total number of US federal employees who exited in 2025, due largely to Elon Musk’s DOGE cuts, reaching approximately 317,000 to 352,000.

With massive and growing job insecurity, consumers are cutting back on all expenses, delaying health and automobile maintenance appointments and payments, contributing to their own inflation. This savings habit is good for Westerners who are notoriously poor at saving for a rainy day. Workers are anxious about a world in constant bellicose turmoil, at a time when public mistrust of institutions is at an all-time high.

Even the world of tech is slowing down with hiring, a concerning observation, considering we were warned several years ago, when Chat GPT launched, to start upskilling and cross-skilling, in light of AI predictably replacing members of work teams with online dashboards. Some workers and employers have flexed and thrived. Some have not and now struggle to adapt to a new, more efficient world, or they no longer exist. Contrasted against the number of new business filings, the current trend towards business bankruptcies is shown in the image below:

Data shows that workforce well-being is no longer an optional perk; it is a strategic necessity. If an organization does not acknowledge the ‘shattered lens’ of its 2026 employees, it faces a major retention crisis. Flourishing employees are 13% more productive, but they only flourish in environments with high ethical clarity and psychological safety.

Continuing business investments in worker personal development training and support services that are specifically preferred by workers does pay off. Does your HR department first conduct a needs survey before providing employees with training resources? Survey your workers, and you’ll likely find consistency with some of the disengaged attitudes described herewith.

Conclusion

REFERENCES

The Tragic Shootings of Renee Good and Alex Pretti

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JdZIPhdDUiE

Quiet Quitting Accelerated by Covid and Chaos - 66% Workers Disengaged

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5B4s_rybqKY

An increasing number of Americans feel ‘stuck’ at work

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Kk1kIYWKlo

The Glass Door – Parsing Corporate Layoffs

https://abcnews.go.com/Business/video/office-anxiety-americans-feel-facing-forever-layoff-work-127560021

Job Security IS OVER: Millions of Americans Facing Uncertainty

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nrHcedxrK9Q

The Invisible Drain on Your Company’s Culture - Dr. Mark Scullard

https://bit.ly/4quOkV3

Workplace MH Trends: MindShare Partners

https://www.mindsharepartners.org/blog/workplace-mental-health-trends-that-defined-2025

In 2026, Most Workers Are Still Languishing

https://www.fastcompany.com/91484396/in-2026-most-workers-are-still-languishing

MN Oversight Report

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1LShOniu4SkWFlwaVhyixmoRHhz86WGOO/view?usp=sharing

Globalization in Question – Trade as Economic Warfare

Mon, 06 Jul 2026 12:24:44 GMT

Like you, I am always trying to make sense of things, especially the deepest, most perplexing, confusing, or foreign things. As a much younger man, one of the most foreign things I’ve never really completely understood was how global trade magically and smoothly emeshes the distribution of natural resources and manufactured components for goods for the 166 World Trade Organization members.

Recently, I’ve re-learned that global trade is anything but smooth and simple. In fact, the experts taught me how to properly perceive the reality of the current world trade situation and its inevitable trajectory towards increasing chaos and uncertainty. So, here’s a curious outsider’s insights into a complex and politicized arena: international trade.

But, First, an Ancient History Lesson…

The Obsidian Trade Networks (c. 12,000 – 6,000 BCE)

The Lapis Lazuli Route (c. 7,000 – 3,000 BCE)

The earliest documented international commercial trade—thousands of years before modern nation-states—was driven by the unequal geographic distribution of critical geological raw materials, luxury commodities, and metal alloys. Hence, the business concept of comparative advantages.

Before the development of metallurgy, volcanic glass (obsidian) was the most valuable technological commodity in the world due to its ability to be fractured into razor-sharp tools, scalpels, and weapons. Because obsidian forms only in specific volcanic regions, its presence at distant archeological sites provides the earliest definitive proof of long-distance, cross-border trade. Obsidian’s metaphysical attributes include psychic protection, which shields one from negative energy, and, when tied to the root chakra, emotional stability and reduced scattered thoughts.

The Mediterranean Network: Obsidian mined from the volcanic island of Melos (modern Greece) was traded across the Aegean Sea into mainland Europe and the Middle East as early as 11,000 BCE.

The Near East Network: High-quality obsidian from the volcanoes of Anatolia (modern Turkey) was systematically traded hundreds of miles south into the Levant (modern Israel, Jordan, and Syria) to supply early Neolithic agricultural settlements.

Lapis lazuli—a deep-blue metamorphic rock prized by ancient elites for jewelry, amulets, and pigments—historically came from a single primary source: the remote mines of Badakhshan in northeastern Afghanistan.

By the 4th millennium BCE, a highly organized commercial trade route connected these isolated mountain mines to the world's earliest major urban civilizations. Afghan lapis lazuli was transported over 2,000 miles across rugged terrain, rivers, and deserts to be sold in the marketplaces of Mesopotamia (Sumerian city-states) and Pre-dynastic Egypt, where it was later buried in royal tombs. Its metaphysical attributes, being associated with the throat and third eye chakras, mean, respectively, clear communication and self-expression, and intuition and insight.

The Indus-Mesopotamia Maritime Trade (c. 2,500 – 1,900 BCE)

This represents the world's first documented intercontinental, state-level commercial trade network, connecting the Indus Valley Civilization (modern Pakistan/Northwest India) with Sumer (modern Iraq) via the Persian Gulf.

The Cargo: The Indus Valley (referred to in cuneiform tablets as Meluhha) exported luxury goods including carnelian beads, ivory, timber, pearls, and gold. In return, Mesopotamia exported textiles, wool, olive oil, and barley.

Carnelian’s metaphysical attributes are physical stamina, boosted metabolic energy, and overcoming lethargy or procrastination. It aligns primarily with the sacral chakra, the center of passion, creativity, and emotional expression, and also with the root chakra; i.e., grounding, stability, and survival instincts.

The Mechanics: This was a highly sophisticated commercial operation. Traders utilized standard weights and measures, contract clay tablets, and distinctive stone cylinder seals to label and secure cargo ships navigating the Arabian Sea coastlines.

The Oldest Known Prehistoric Exchange System in the Americas

The Inland Agricultural Centers (The Cotton Producers)

Inland cities located along river valleys—most notably the sacred city of Caral—developed sophisticated canal irrigation systems. Instead of growing a staple food grain such as maize or wheat, they domesticated the primary industrial crop, cotton (Gossypium barbadense).

The inland populations utilized this cotton to manufacture massive quantities of high-tensile fishing nets and storage bags. However, because they lacked sufficient agricultural land for large-scale food crops, they relied on trade for sustenance.

The International Bronze Age Tin Trade (c. 2,000 – 1,200 BCE)

Methinks it interesting that, for millennia, our species has found a way to survive, to establish habitats, to eat, and, most significantly in terms of changing society, to conduct international trade, starting with early Paleo-Indian tribal trade in relatively rare minerals, metals, and artifacts. This early global trade opened doors to intercultural connections and the eventual evolution of today’s complex network of international components manufacturing, parts, and products distribution.

Trade was originally about fair exchange, as with the early inland tribes of Peru who grew and harvested cotton to weave into clothing, blankets, baskets, and netting for the fishing tribes who lived farther down by the sea. The fishers brought seafood to inland farmers, who in turn provided fishing nets. Satisfying each other’s needs; it sounds like the beginning of a beautiful love story, doesn’t it?

The definitive example of this mutually-respectful, harmonious prehistoric exchange system is the Norte Chico civilization (also known as the Caral-Supe civilization ), which flourished on the north-central coast of Peru between 3500 BCE and 1800 BCE. It is the oldest known civilization in the Americas.

This society operated on a unique, symbiotic economic trade network based entirely on a cotton-for-seafood interdependence between two distinct ecological zones:

The Coastal Settlements (The Seafood Providers)

Coastal fishing villages, such as Aspero and Bandurria, sat adjacent to the incredibly rich marine environment of the Humboldt Current. These coastal populations possessed an endless supply of protein—specifically anchovies, sardines, and shellfish—but lacked the materials to harvest them efficiently at scale.

The transition from the Stone Age to the Bronze Age was entirely dependent on international trade. To manufacture bronze, metallurgists had to alloy 90% copper with 10% tin. While copper was relatively abundant in the Mediterranean (such as on Cyprus), tin was exceedingly rare and geologically localized.

The East-West Corridors: Middle Eastern civilizations secured tin via long-distance trade routes that stretched into Central Asia (modern Uzbekistan and Tajikistan).

The European Routes: Mediterranean empires, including the Mycenaean Greeks and Phoenicians, established maritime trade routes extending through the Straits of Gibraltar to the British Isles (Cornwall), which possessed the largest and richest tin deposits in western Europe. The need to secure this 10% tin component created the first continent-spanning economic dependencies.

The Exchange System

The two groups formed a highly organized, localized trade loop:

The inland cities sent bulk shipments of processed cotton and woven fishing nets down the river valleys to the coast.
The coastal fishermen used these superior nets to dramatically increase their catch yields, drying and salting the anchovies and sardines to preserve them.
The preserved, protein-dense seafood was then transported back up into the interior valleys to feed the large labor forces building Caral’s massive stone pyramids and plazas.

This economic model underpins the Maritime Foundation of Andean Civilization (MFAC) theory, which argues that the complex societal organization, monumental architecture, and urban governance of the Americas' first civilization were fueled by marine protein obtained through the industrialized textile trade rather than by agriculture.

Learning from the Source

Several erudite speakers at a recent conference gave me perspective on what is happening to world trade, not just in the short term but in terms of long-term trend influences. On May 21st, 2026, I attended the 53rd annual World Trade Day Conference , hosted by the World Trade Center Denver, which brought together over 700 thought leaders, policymakers, and international trade professionals at the Hyatt Regency Downtown Denver. As the Rocky Mountain region’s premier international business event, the conference centered on structural shifts in global commerce under the theme: “A New Era in Trade: Globalization in Question.”

Methinks that title was probably convenient as a generalized one to use because there are so many questions about much that pertains to international trade, especially the impact of AI. One thing that seems to always be missing from these types of scientific and technical report-sharing sessions is the essential human element. Hence, I was glad to hear about how imperative that is from Ski Milburn.

Given my professional orientation, I was thrilled to hear his some down-to-earth, practical ideas for how U.S. manufacturers can improve communications and cooperation with trade partners, investors, design engineers, and others. He acknowledged that relationships with customs agents (who hold product tariff classification authority) can be significantly improved based on personal attitudes, intentions, and simple words…as with dealing with anyone, eh?

What have been the major trade changes?

Bear in mind, this is written from the perspective of a largely uninformed outsider, so I can bravely share my ideas in the hope that ‘expert’ readers will correct any misgivings or misunderstandings. As you who know me personally know, I always welcome evaluation. So, here goes…

Heavy tariff implementations – The public has heard enough now to know that the tariff wars have backfired in the worst ways, hurting farmers, manufacturers, and small businesses. However, an impactful takeaway for me is how 24/7-vigilant U.S. manufacturers must be in establishing real-time smart alert systems for changes in trade policies, rulings, and charges. How many U.S. smaller manufacturing exporters actually have AI-enabled information warning systems in place is an unanswered question.

Rapid technological infrastructure demands Predictably, the rapid technological infrastructure demands shaping global trade are driven almost entirely by the scale of the artificial intelligence (AI) buildout. This shift has shifted infrastructure priorities from localized, cost-efficient setups to a race for raw resource availability and access to specialized components.

Defensive supply chain reconfigurations - With the inception of the 2025 U.S. tariff campaign came a rapid redefinition of international trade from a “mutually beneficial practice based on comparative advantages of resources” to “economic leverage power through tariff warfare.”

Tariffs caused trade flows not to dissolve but to shift, as in China, which chose to redirect its intermediate manufacturing components to Southeast Asia, mainly Vietnam and Thailand, Taiwan, India, and Mexico. Underground alliances are being formed.

The U.S.’s previous ‘best’ trading partner, Canada, immediately responded to the tariff announcement with dollar-for-dollar tariffs. Once Washington formally verified that goods compliant with the Canada-United States-Mexico Agreement (CUSMA) were exempt from the broad International Emergency Economic Powers Act (IEEPA) blanket tariffs, Prime Minister Mark Carney’s government rolled back the majority of Canada’s broad counter-tariffs to de-escalate tensions and stabilize supply chains.

The IEEPA is a 1977 United States federal law that grants the President sweeping authority to regulate or block international commerce during a declared national emergency. Canada maintained 25% tariffs on over 300 specific U.S. items—primarily automotive, steel, and aluminum products—after the U.S. refused to offer reciprocal relief.

In brief, the World Trade Day agenda focused on how national policy, changing enforcement, and new technology affect businesses, offering strategies for navigating a fragmented global economy.

Keynote and policy focus discussions opened with a close look at the changing structure of international commerce. Experts analyzed the "New American Trade Policy," evaluating how shifting geopolitical priorities, national security mandates, and tariff structures change traditional supply chains.

The sessions explored the idea of "weaponized interdependence," examining how sovereign states increasingly use global financial networks, information pathways, and trade bottlenecks to achieve strategic goals. Speakers challenged attendees to look beyond traditional open-market assumptions and instead prepare for an era in which economic interconnectedness is often used for political leverage.

A major operational focus of the conference centered on tighter regulatory conditions. Technical tracks addressed the modern realities of customs audits, compliance risk, and the rapid evolution of trade enforcement. Traders and supply chain professionals analyzed strict oversight measures, such as increased scrutiny on country-of-origin labeling and forced labor prevention.

Panels emphasized that as trade rules become more volatile, proactive compliance strategies, strong data tracking, and careful third-party auditing are necessary to reduce severe financial and legal penalties.

Compliance, Enforcement, and Operational Risks

Technology and the "New Trade Underground"

The term "The New Trade Underground" generally refers to the rapidly growing network of informal, parallel, and decentralized economic channels emerging globally. Driven by shifting geopolitical alliances, trade restrictions, and technological shifts, this phenomenon operates alongside traditional global commerce. The World Trade Day event highlighted technological adaptation as a key factor for surviving market instability.

A dedicated track explored artificial intelligence as "the great equalizer" for small and mid-sized enterprises (SMEs) and the value of small language models (SLMs), particularly for trade secrets and IP protection reasons, as well as overall security in our insecure world. Take heed, small business owners.

Presenters demonstrated how local businesses can use AI-driven logistics, predictive analytics, and automated compliance tools to compete with multinational corporations.

Furthermore, sessions on the "New Trade Underground" provided practical methods for tariff mitigation, duty savings, and leveraging frameworks such as the United States-Mexico-Canada Agreement to build resilient, agile supply chains when standard international routes are disrupted.

Although each the highly-proficient speakers delivered unique gems of wisdom, the ‘Trade Trends Track’ was specifically covered by serial clean-tech entrepreneur Ski Muir Milburn, founder of Seditio Energy.

“In times of market turbulence and geopolitical uncertainty, businesses need a clear-eyed framework for navigating risk and a grounded, real-world perspective on how engagement with global markets can serve as an antidote to uncertainty.”

– Ski Muir Milburn

My Key Takeaways

Drawing on decades of experience leading companies through volatility, Milburn and other conference speakers offered these insights:

Prioritize the Business Model Over the Technology: When pitching to international investors or partners, a superior product is secondary to a clear, scalable business model. You must explicitly define who the customers are, how the local market is penetrated, and the exact capital requirements early in the process.

Resist the Temptation to Oversell Development: In global B2B contracting—especially within heavy industry or automotive tech—never claim your technology is further ahead than it is. Transparency about engineering readiness builds long-term institutional trust; overpromising permanently destroys international credibility.

Scale Nationally via Strategic Corporate Alliances: Small exporters hitting a growth ceiling should seek cross-border integration or acquisition with larger, established global system suppliers. Merging local innovation with a partner’s massive global engineering, regulatory, and manufacturing footprint accelerates market penetration beyond what organic scaling can achieve.

Leverage Local and Federal Export Grants: Capitalize heavily on regional infrastructure. Utilizing programs like the Colorado Advanced Industries grants and the Office of Economic Development and International Trade (OEDIT) Export Accelerator grants provides critical early-stage capital for technology compliance and international market entry.

Target Markets Based on Pressing Regional Problems: Tailor your export strategy to regions where macro-pressures demand your solution. For example, target markets like China or urban European centers, when their public policy heavily mandates solutions for local air quality, zero-emissions transit, or industrial fleet electrification.

Protect IP Through Embedded Component Complexity: Rather than relying solely on international legal frameworks to protect intellectual property, design technical complexity directly into the hardware. Manufacturing highly precise, patented, and difficult-to-replicate components makes reverse engineering cost-prohibitive for foreign competitors.

In addition to Ski Milburn, all of the speakers were excellent. Hearing from them calmed my nerves, knowing that although the seas of international trade are currently storming and quite unpredictable, those who are navigating their companies successfully are those who adhere somewhat to the counsel of Milburn, to develop a sincere curiosity about others, a quality most lack, to be a quick study of daily import/export customs policy adjustments, and always remember the human factor.

Summary comment:

By balancing broad economic ideas with concrete compliance tools and operational strategies, the 53rd World Trade Day provided a practical roadmap for Rocky Mountain businesses seeking to secure and optimize their operations within an increasingly defensive global trade ecosystem. Like me, I hope you are also trying to better understand this crazy world of trade.

Just remember Ski’s assertion that, “The world is how you find your way home.”

-Frank DeDominicis

NB: Given the seriousness of the issue, expect to hear more about trade in the July newsletter.

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End Deficit-based Healthcare and Embrace Total Person Wellness

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Employee Healthcare can cost half as much. Just imagine a world without co-pays and high deductibles.

“In the world of employee benefits, a seismic shift is underway, and it's causing tremors of concern for some of America's biggest companies,” says Jed Cohen, cofounder of Fiduciary In A Box . He reports“ Attorneys filed a first-of-its-kind against Johnson & Johnson for its employee health benefits plan.”

Recently I learned from Bob Hilke, an expert in Wellness and Healthcare, about a positive and hopefully healing tsunami of change rolling over our broken health care system. Given the perennial corporate problem of employee retention, finite dollars available for costly employee health insurance benefits programs, and inertia inherent within the current purchasing practices, I am impressed

by the efficiency and effectiveness of the Nuka health system.

Unlocking the Benefits of the Nuka Healthcare System

The Nuka System , pioneered by the Alaska Native Medical Center, revolutionizes healthcare with its patient-centric approach. Emphasizing preventive care, continuity of care, and cultural competence improves health outcomes while respecting community traditions. Medical experts from around the world come to Alaska to study the system. While Nuka is the only healthcare system to receive the Malcolm Baldrige award TWICE and many countries from all over the world come to Alaska to see the Nuka Healthcare System, Alaska rarely receives visits from any of the other USA forty-nine states to see the Nuka system.

Preventive care is prioritized, reducing the need for costly interventions. Integrated care teams provide personalized treatment plans, enhancing patient satisfaction and outcomes. Cultural sensitivity fosters trust and effectiveness in healthcare delivery.

Recent news highlights ERISA violations by significant corporations, underscoring the need for ethical healthcare practices. As advocates for patient welfare, we must prioritize systems like Nuka that prioritize patients over profits.

W. Edward Deming

Demings asks, “Who is the customer?”

W. Edward Demings’ principle of identifying the customer and how to delight them is a foundational key to business success. However, the healthcare industry is broken in some fundamental ways. As my friend Rex asked me, “Where do all the ‘hidden dollars’ go in the healthcare system?” Consider that many HR professionals, stressed by limited budgets, must make the best value purchase decision when shopping for employee health insurance.

However, that tedious, ineffective paradigm is being blown away by Derrell Moon, proponent of the Aspirational Healthcare philosophy that starts with asking the employees what they want, including some non-traditional or Eastern treatments and well-being resources. The bottom-line results for many innovative, perceptive leaders are superlative and multiplicative.

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The Existential Threat and the Secret Solution: Unlocking Corporate Healthcare Destiny

Wed, 19 Nov 2025 05:42:33 GMT

The American business landscape is silently bleeding. For decades, a hidden, metastasizing cost has consumed profits, eroded competitive advantage, and driven employee anxiety: the national healthcare crisis. Often cited as the second-highest expense on a company’s balance sheet, healthcare spending today represents a systemic failure, offering diminishing returns for escalating premiums. It is a cost that CEOs have learned to dread, manage, but never truly solve.

But what if the narrative of inevitable cost escalation was not just wrong, but an artifact of a fundamentally flawed strategy? What if a solution—proven, transformative, and capable of halving medical spending while dramatically improving employee well-being—already existed?

Darrell Moon’s seminal work, Make Healthcare Work for You , doesn’t just propose a fix; it reveals a paradigm shift that reclaims corporate financial destiny from the broken system.

The core of Moon’s argument is an urgent challenge to the C-suite: stop treating healthcare as a fixed cost to be contained and start treating it as a strategic asset to be leveraged. The book lays bare the painful truth: most corporate health plans are designed by misaligned incentives that benefit every stakeholder except the employer and the employee. This results in a paradoxical situation in which companies pay more for less, a vicious cycle that ultimately undercuts productivity and morale.

Moon insists that this is not an insurmountable external force, but rather a solvable, internal design flaw. The first step toward reversing this catastrophic trend, he argues, is understanding that the power to initiate change rests entirely with the CEO.

The most compelling—and initially bewildering—element of Moon’s framework is its foundational blueprint: the internationally acclaimed Nuka System of Care in Alaska. For over two decades, this system has achieved healthcare results deemed impossible by traditional insurance and provider models: patient satisfaction levels that signify significant improvements in population health, and, critically, medical spending at approximately half the national average. Moon reveals that Nuka is not a fluke or a regionally specific anomaly, but a reproducible model built on foundational principles. By adopting this Aspirational Healthcare model, CEOs can stop applying "Band-Aid solutions" to the problem and begin transforming their systems.

Aspirational Healthcare is defined by a shift from transactional, fee-for-service care to a customer-centric, relationship-based approach. Moon details three critical levers for this transformation: Alignment, Choice, and Relationship.

Alignment dictates that all internal and external partners—from brokers to providers—must be incentivized to achieve the employer’s business objectives (cost reduction and health improvement), rather than simply maximize transaction volume. This requires new metrics and an executive-level dashboard to hold the entire ecosystem accountable.

Choice empowers employees with transparency and meaningful, curated options, ensuring they become active, informed consumers rather than passive recipients of confusing services.

Relationships move the focus away from episodic sick care to continuous, proactive wellness, fostering deep connections between employees and their care teams to manage health long before a crisis occurs.

The economic payoff is staggering. By adopting this aspirational model, organizations don’t just save money; they fundamentally alter their financial standing and cultural DNA. Reduced medical spending directly impacts the bottom line, often doubling profits by reallocating wasted healthcare dollars. Furthermore, Moon illustrates how providing demonstrably superior, relationship-based care transforms the employee value proposition. Better health outcomes translate directly into improved productivity, reduced absenteeism, and a powerful tool for attracting and retaining top talent. Healthcare ceases to be a necessary evil and becomes a crucial engine for corporate loyalty and competitive distinction.

Darrell Moon’s book is more than a strategy guide; it is a manifesto for economic and ethical liberation. It delivers a hard-won, field-tested solution to what has long been considered an unsolvable business problem. For the CEO ready to abandon the conventional, costly, and ineffective path, Make Healthcare Work for You provides the comprehensive architecture for a system that genuinely works for the customer, the employee, and the shareholder.

The broken U.S. healthcare system, Moon argues, only persists because leaders accept it. The time has come to challenge that acceptance and discover how a proven system, currently transforming lives and budgets elsewhere, can revolutionize your organization. The question is no longer if it can be done, but why your organization hasn't started yet.

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